Which Type Are You?Determining your starting point can help to determine the obstacles you’re likely to face and the strategies that will be most effective to enhance your communication style. Keep in mind that you may exhibit multiple communication styles, depending on the situation or your state of mind.

Find your type:

1. Passive. Those that are passive do not freely share their opinions, wants, or needs. This is done to avoid any conflict, regardless of the cost. You’ll often find that passive people frequently avoid eye contact and are exceptionally reserved. They also tend to act in a way that doesn't offend people.

← Characteristics of passive individuals:

• Often give in to unreasonable demands.

• Tend to mimic the opinions of others.

• Loathe providing criticism to anyone.

• Avoid standing out in any way. They avoid doing or saying anything that might attract attention or disapproval.

← The major problem with being passive is that you are not in control of your life. You ultimately give much of the control of your life over to others, their desires, their wants.

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← Because you're needs and wants aren't addressed you’re more likely to suffer from depression and feelings of hopelessness than those who are not passive.

← The result is feeling powerless. You might begin withdrawing more from the world each day rather than interacting with it.

2. Aggressive. An aggressive individual seeks to fulfill personal wants and needs without awareness of or interest in the wants and needs of others. In many ways, the aggressive person is the opposite of the passive. He wants to make the other person submit, rather than submitting himself.

← Characteristics of aggressive individuals:

• A need to control the situation.

• Runs over people without even thinking.

• Lacks awareness their behavior is contributing to relationship problems they are having.

← There are several advantages to aggressive behavior. Acting aggressively can be an effective way to get others to do what you want. Those that are dominated tend to make fewer demands. Acting aggressively can also assist you feeling powerful and in control over your life.

← There are major disadvantages to being aggressive. Gaining and keeping loyalty from others can be a challenge. People don’t like being treated in an

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