Worksheets

The Philosophy and Practices of Nurturing Parenting

Rating Your Nurturing Parenting Skills Worksheet #1

Nurturing Parenting Areas Rating

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Rating Your Nurturing Parenting Skills

Attachment: having unconditional love for your child(ren).

Nurturing Oneself: finding time for yourself and taking care ofyourself.

Gentle Touch: holding, rocking, touching and massaging yourchild(ren).

Discipline: using techniques other than spanking to each and guidechildren.

Express Feelings: recognizing and expressing feelings in positiveways.

Empathy: helping children meet their basic needs.

Expectations: having appropriate expectations for yourself andyour child(ren).

Rating Scale

1 I need a lot of improvement.2 I need some improvement.3 My skills are okay in this

area.4 My skills are good in this

area.5 I have really good skills in

this area.

Review your ratings with the group. What are your strengths? What are the group’s strengths?

List 3 ways you can work on improving yournurturing skills.

1._____________________________________

2._____________________________________

3._____________________________________

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My Four Personality Traits

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Everyone has the potential to care or to hurt. This potential is fueled, in large part, by theexperiences we have had during our lifetime. Inside everyone are four distinct traits of ourpersonality that define who we are and the way we are capable of treating ourselves andothers.

How do Victim and Nurtured parts of your personality differ? How about the Perpetratorand the Nurturer? When do these traits appear? How can you control who you want to be?

The Nurturer

The VictimThe Perpetrator

The Nurtured

Home Practice: Personality Traits Worksheet #3

Home Practice: Personality Traits

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• Take time to review your Perpetrator (the person inside you that can and does purpose-fully hurt yourself or others).

What do you notice?How do you feel looking at this trait?

List times your Perpetrator comes out.________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Notice any patterns?

• Now do the same with your Nurturer (the person inside you who can and does purpose-fully care for others and for yourself).

Review your drawing. Anything come to your attention?Compare your Nurturer and your Perpetrator. What do you notice?

Make a list of when you are apt to be the Nurturer.________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Compare it with the list you made of the times you can act as a Perpetrator.

• Review the Victim and Nurtured traits of your personality in the same way you didyour Perpetrator and Nurturer.

_______________________________ _________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________ __________________________________

• Keep the drawings and lists handy. When necessary, add or subtract from the lists.Change your drawings as time goes on and notice how you’re changing.

• If appropriate, ask your children or partner to draw their traits. Share your pictures.

Closing Activity: Nurturing Hands Worksheet #4

Closing Activity:Nurturing Hands

• Grab a marker and a pair of scissors.• On each hand write a nurturing behavior you would like to do with your family. • When you are finished, cut out your hands to share with the group.

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