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Avoiding the Power Struggle
Presented by the Behavior Support Team
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Norms○ Minimize distractions
(phones, conversations, etc.)○ Collaborate & Communicate○ Take care of your needs
Agenda
❖ Intro❖ What is a Power Struggle?❖ Relationships❖ Nonverbal & Paraverbal Communication❖ Verbal De-escalation❖ Setting Limits❖ Wrap-Up
That kid...
Today we will learn how to control our
responses to behavior in order to decrease power
struggles
ObjectiveWhat is a
power struggle?
Defending one’s authority or credibility
Types of Power Struggles
Personal button pushing
Bringing up the past history or irrelevant issues
Making empty threats and issuing ultimatums
Why is this important?
● It is a quick method to de-escalate a student● It keeps you in control● Prevents students from feeding off of the attention
of the class or others● Breaks the cycle of escalation, tension, intensity, etc● Reduces the likelihood of further physical, verbal,
and other conflict● Helps teach students that engaging in power
struggles is futile and will not get them what/where they want
● Helps you, the adult, remain calm, clear headed, and more able to make good decisions and actions
Adapted from PBISWorld.com
Watch for the signs… Catch it early!
● When a student is trying to verbally engage you in an argument● When a student becomes agitated, aggressive or threatening● When the issue the student is arguing about is not essential, important, or
crucial (choose your battles wisely)● When a student can’t seem to drop it● When a student just wants to be correct, right, or win● When a student seems to be taking it personally and cannot handle the
issue, topic, etc● When giving directives, directions, corrections, or reprimands
Relationships
Precipitating Factors Can you pass the birthday test?
Nonverbal & Paraverbal
Communication
Nonverbal Communication● Proxemics
○ Personal Space
● Kinesics○ Body Language
● Haptics○ Communication
through touch
● Position○ Where you are in relation to others
● Posture○ How you hold and move your body
● Proximity○ Distance between individuals
Supportive Stance
Communicates respect - Nonthreatening - Maintains safety
Tone Volume Cadence
Paraverbal Communication
Verbal De-escalation
● Use empathic listening: ○ Be nonjudgmental ○ Give undivided attention○ Allow silence○ Use restatement to clarify○ Listen for underlying messages
Empathy & Understanding
Pivot!
● This is the ability to say yes instead of no, but still mean the same thing.
● Instead of “No, you can’t take a break right now,” say “Yes, you may take a break after you finish those two problems.”
Reframe● Using a child’s imagination and play to
encourage a desired behavior.
● Ex. clean up song, pretending to be a mouse in the hallway, etc.
What activities are usually met with resistance?
How could you reframe them?
Shared Control
● Offer choices wherever possible
○ I need my child to get dressed for school, but the choice of shirt is up to him.
○ I need the students to start working, but where they sit is up to them.
Love & Logic
● Enforceable Statements / Words of gold
● One liners
● Bookmark handout
“I can see that you really want to wear your sandals today even though it’s raining outside (empathy). I think if you do that, your feet will get cold and wet so I don’t recommend it(preview), but it’s up to you (power sharing). Please decide and let’s get ready to go.”
Let’s Practice!
Setting Limits
Offer Choices & Consequences
● Simple & Clear● Reasonable● Enforceable
Types of Limits
● Interrupt & Redirect● When & Then● If & Then
Walk away!
Wrap up
Handouts
* 2 x 10*Practice Academies*One liners/power struggles*PBISworld.com*Enforceable Statements
ResourcesWebsiteQuestions?
Behavior Support Team Website
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