Naviga'ngMinefieldsandSurvivingTorren'alWatersonthe

Servant’sJourneyLeadingthroughTransforma2onofHeartand

SoulintoRela2onshipandCommunity

IndianaAnnualRecoveryMonthSymposium(INARMS)

Indianapolis,IndianaSeptember12-13,2017

The Art and Science of Life – a Taxonomy and Perspective

• Naviga'ngMinefields•  SurvivingTorren'alWaters•  LeadingaServant’sJourney•  Transforma'onofMind-BodyandHeart-Soul

•  Rela'onshipandCommunity

Historical Overview

•  WhyWeAreorHowWeGotHere?

• Wherearewegoingfromhereorwhowillwebewhenweleave?

• Whatarewegoingtodo/behere?

TheStoryI’mMakingUp...•  “LifeHack”-‘thestoryI’mmakingup,'"Brene’Brown•  “Tellingyourreadingofthesitua'on.”•  Admission:“itcan'tbe100%accurate."•  “honest,it'stransparent,andit'svulnerable.”•  Vulnerability:“bandwidthforpeopletorelateandtrustoneanother.”

•  Whenyousay"thestoryI'mmakingup,"Brownsaysthatitconveys"Iwantyoutoseemeandunderstandmeandhearme,andknowingwhatyoureallymeanismoreimportanttomethanbeingrightorself-protec@ng.“(Being“right”vs.being“happy”.)

IndividualIssuesandInternalForces

•  IssuesandDysfunc'on•  Pre-Occupa'onalHazards•  Co-Dependency•  BaggageWePack/Carry/Share

Health,Stress,andAddic'on

• Obsessionandcompulsion• “Powerlessnessandunmanageability”• ComplexityofAddic'on:braindisorder,bio-psycho-social–spiritualmalady

• Dis-easeconcept(coreastotalself-centeredness)• Educa'on/Treatment–peersupportcommuni'es• Connec'on:health,mentalhealth,andaddic'ons• StressandDistress/StretchandPanicZones

AnEmergingParadigm

•  GreatDepression:theIndividual•  The“isms”:alcohol&otherdrugs•  HumanDoingvs.HumanBeing•  Avoidance/EscapeMechanisms•  “Socialacceptability”doesnotequalstability.

EightDimensionsofWellness•  Emotional-effective life coping life, create satisfying relationships •  Environmental—Good health and occupying pleasant, stimulating

environments that support well-being •  Financial—Satisfaction w/ current and future financial situations •  Intellectual—Recognize creative abilities and find ways to expand

knowledge and skill •  Occupational—Personal satisfaction & work enrichment •  Physical—Recognize needs, active physically, nutrition, sleep •  Social—Developing a sense of connection, belonging, and a well-

developed support system •  Spiritual—Expanding a sense of purpose and meaning in life •  Integrative-Functional-Whole Health & Wellness/Medicine Focus

SelfCare:WordstoPonder

•  “BiologyisBiography“•  “IssuesareintheTissues”•  Valuingandaffirming(usandothers)•  Avoidingburnout:enhanceself-caretothrive•  Intercept&Redirect,theElevatorMetaphor•  BalancingtheWheelMetaphor(VanEpp)•  OtherWaystoDetoxifyandStayHealthy?

“TheBasics”:TricksoftheTrade

•  Mind-Body-SoulWork•  “Spiritualand/or/notReligious”-somethingforeveryoneornothing,whateverworks.

•  Readingsacredorhelpfulliterature•  IndividualAccountabilityandSupport•  CommunityIden'fica'on/GroupBelonging•  ServiceWork:servingsomeonebesidesself

HowWe“GetThere”

•  Commitment–priori'zingac'on•  ReligiouslyajendingtoSpiritual/Other•  DailyDisciplineandMaintenance•  Wishes,Hopes,andDreams–MaintainingtheVisionswithFeetontheGround

•  AppropriateAc'vity,Outlets&Behaviors

IssuesofConcerntoHoldatForefront

•  TheImperfec'onofProgress&Prac'ce•  Balance,Normalcy,andModera'on•  ObstaclesandDistrac'ons:SelfandOther•  DailyReprieve:temporarydetoursinevitable•  Aktudeofgra'tudeandthanksgiving•  “Holdingthetension”andspace,spirit,orpresence.

OutreachandMission:Philosophy,Mo'va'on,&Applica'on

•  BodyofCommunity:connectedness,wearethem,andtheyareus?•  “GivingGekngorTaking”leadstomeaning,purpose,andserving

somethinglargerthanourselvesorothers.•  Trea'ngpeoplewithdignity&respect•  “Ajrac'onRatherThanPromo'on?”and/orCoercion•  Treatmentand/orPunishment:“both/and,noteither/or•  “Carryingthemessage”nottheperson•  Workingharderthantheyare,scaffolding,realis'cexpecta'ons•  Playingthegame:don’tfeedinto/startit./“Choosebajles

(wisely)”•  Meetthemwheretheyareandtakethemwheretheyneedtobe•  Cul'va'ngopportuni'es&crea'ngdesireforintrinsicmo'va'on

Limits&Boundaries,Separa'on&Detachment•  SekngHealthyLimitsandBoundaries

•  Canweseparatepersonal&professionallives?yes&no•  “Givingup”vs.“detachw/love”(Al-Anon)•  Givingupvs.surrenderandthepeaceofleknggo•  Liabili'es&thechallengeoftakingrisksonpeople.•  Don’t“knockyourselfout,”literally.•  Lovingthem(andus)todeath,literally•  It’snotaboutus,notpersonal,we’renotthatimportant.•  Everybodyhasaprocess,oursisnotnecessarilytheirs,

butwes'llhavetheauthorityandinfluence.•  Don’tloseyourownsoul/familywhile“saving”world.•  “Youcanonlydosomuch”

ExternalForces/Occupa'onalHazardsØ Ins'tu'onalBarriers&ResistanceØ Cri'calSystemandOutsideIssuesØ SeeminglyInsurmountableObstaclesØ Occupa'onalHazards:challengingortoxicpeopleand/orenvironments

Ins@tu@onalBarriersandResistance

Ø Whataretheyforyou/group&system?•  ManagementPhilosophy•  LanguageandApplica'on•  Use/abusepower&authority&response

Cri'calSystemandOutsideIssues

•  Organiza'ons&IndividualElements•  Complexi'esandVariables•  Staffingandresources•  Safety&securityamidvola'lity/hos'lity

SeeminglyInsurmountableObstacles•  Uncertainty&“nega'vecapability”

•  “Truthuncompromisingly/raggededges”• Wheredowedrawtheline?•  ObstaclesandCatalysts•  Losingourbaggageonthisflightisanecessity!

•  Proac've,reac'vevs.goingofforballis'c

Occupa'onalHazards•  Challengingandtoxicpeopleand/orenvironments

•  Turfissuesandpowerstruggles•  Officeandpartypoli'cs•  Bureaucracy&Budgets/People&Paper•  Compe''onvs.collabora'on&compromise

Seeing the Beauty and Changing the Beast

•  “TheSystem”•  Genera'onalCycles:SocioeconomicFactorsandConstraints

•  Overlappingandgapingsystems•  Howallofthisaffectsourabilitytostayhealthyandstableandhelpothersdothesame.

Cul'va'ngLifeintheGarden

• CareoftheSelf• CareoftheFamily• CaringforOthers• CaringinCommunity

RealorTrueCollabora'on•  “Collabora2onisamutuallybeneficialandwell-definedrela2onshipenteredintobytwoormoreorganiza2onstoachievecommongoals.

•  Therela2onshipincludesacommitmentto:adefini2onofmutualrela2onshipsandgoals;ajointlydevelopedstructureandsharedresponsibility;mutualauthorityandaccountabilityforsuccess;andthesharingofresourcesandreward.”

--TheWilderFounda'on(Griffith,2000)

Implementing EBP in CC, NIC/C&J Institute

TrueCommunity•  Spinningourwheels:it’shardenoughtomakeadifferencewhenweworktogether

•  Don’tcarrythewholeloadyourself.•  Goingitalonevs.teamwork&collabora'on-rela'onships

•  Standingindifferentpartsofsamefield.•  Uni'ngandBecomingOne:mergers,acquisi'ons,andhos'letakeovers

ThinkingBig&WorkingintheTrenches:Incorpora'ngRealis'cExpecta'ons

•  Whatisourdefini'onofexpecta'on?•  High-low,unrealis'cexpecta'onsisasetup.•  Movingtowardrealis'cexpecta'ons•  Mostpeoplewillrisetotheoccasion•  Whatismypart?Takingownershipandauthority–empoweringthepowerless

Needfor“Greatness”inLeadingandServingwithHeartandSoul

•  ThePowerofLeadinginServanthood

•  “Servant-Leader”Characteris'cs

•  RhetoricalStyleinCompetentAc'on

•  FullyHuman&Func'onallySuperior

•  GivingAssent,BuyingIn,Ownership,Authen'city–trustandcommitment

“ThePowerofServantLeadership”

“Theservant-leaderisservantfirst.Itbeginswiththenaturalfeelingthatonewantstoserve.Thenconsciouschoicebringsonetoaspiretolead.Thebesttestis:dothoseservedgrowaspersons;dothey,whilebeingserved,becomehealthier,wiser,freer,moreautonomous,morelikelythemselvestobecomeservants?” RobertK.Greenleaf,ServantasLeader,1970

Characteris'csof“Servant-Leader”

•  Listening(issomucheasier)•  EmpathyandUnderstanding•  MoralityandEthics•  HealingandWholeness•  Awareness&Persuasion•  ForesightandConceptualiza'on•  CommitmenttotheGrowthofPeople•  BuildingCommunity•  TrusteesandStewardship

“Theservant,bydefini'on,isfullyhuman.Theservant-leaderisfunc'onallysuperiorbecause(they)areclosertotheground---(they)hearthings,seethings,knowthings,and(their)intui'veinsightisexcep'onal”(32).

TheObliga'on:“Ableservantswithpoten'altoleadmustleadand,whereappropriate,theymustfollowonlyservant-leaders”(35).

Oncewebecomemoreatpeacewithembracingtheinevitable,and

hopefullycometotermswiththeoccasionalorregularchaos,insteadofbecomingunhealthilydependenton,orrelishing,somefalseneedforabsoluteorderandcertainty,wecandogoodthingsthroughthefaithwebuildinourselvesandothersandthestrengthwearegivenfromoutside

us.

“Enchantmentisaspellthatcomesoverus,anauraoffantasyandemo'on(andecstasy)thatcansejleontheheartandeitherdisturbitorsenditintoraptureandreverie...Thesoulhasanabsolute,unforgivingneedforregularexcursionsintoenchantment...Likethebodyneedsfoodandthemindneedsthought.”(ix)

“Re-EnchantmentofEverydayLife.”ThomasMoore

“Enchantmentencouragesthear'sttoworkwiththescien'st,thepoli'cianwiththepriest.Aphilosophyofenchantmentassumesthatpoli'calstrifeandstreetcrimeresultfromananxiouslossofhomeandhomeland,oradryingupofimagina'onandthespiritthatoffershope.Enchantmentinspiresadeepanduncondi'onalcompassion...”(381)

“Forthoseofyouinvolvedintheprofessionofassis'ng(familiesandchildren),thoughthedemandsyoufaceappearlimitless,theimpactyouhavenotonlytranscendsbeyondanypar'cularageorgenera'on,butalsototheindividuals,familiesandcommuni'eshereandnow.Youaretobecommendedformakingsuchaposi'vedifferenceinthelivesofsomany.”(Unknown)

•  “Enrichmentofiden'ty”.•  “Causalthinkingtostory&character”•  WhatistheSenseofUrgency•  “Notaprojectofself-improvement.”•  Not“problemsolving”but“fosteringdepth,interiority,andqualitytoflourish.

•  “Soulisitsownpurposeandend.”•  “Inspiresdeepanduncondi'onalcompassion.”

“CareoftheSoul”-ThomasMoore

•  “GiwsofDepression”(seefootnotes-H/O’s)•  “TheHealingPowersofDepression”•  Embracing&movingthrumelancholyvs.“wallowinginthe(insanityor)symptom”

•  “Learningfromdepressionwhatquali'esthesoulneeds”

•  Howcomfortabledowebecomeinour“dysfunc'on”?Orisitdysfunc'on?

•  TheSpiritual-Emo'onalSolu'on

“CareoftheSoul”-ThomasMoore

“Weknowwearewellonourwaytowardsoulwhenwefeelajachmenttotheworldandthepeoplearoundusandwhenweliveasmuchfromtheheartasfromthehead.Weknowsoulisbeingcaredforwhenourpleasuresfeeldeeperthanusual,whenwecanletgooftheneedtobefreeofcomplexityandconfusion,andwhencompassiontakestheplaceofdistrustandfear.Soulisinterestedindifferencesamongculturesandindividuals,andwithinourselvesitwantstobeexpressedinuniquenessifnotinoutrighteccentricity.”

“Therefore,wheninthemidstofmyconfusionandmystumblingajemptstoliveatransparentlife,Iamthefool,andnoteveryonearoundme,thenIknowIamdiscoveringthepowerofthesoultomakealifeinteres'ng.Ul'mately,careofthesoulresultsinanindividual“I”Ineverwouldhaveplannedforormaybeevenwanted.Bycaringforthesoulfaithfully,everyday,westepoutofthewayandletourfullgeniusemerge.Soulcoalescesintothemysteriousphilosopher’sstone,thatrich,solidcoreofpersonalitythealchemistssought,oritopensintothepeacocks’stail—arevela'onofthesoul’scolorandadisplayofitsdappledbrilliance”(Moore,304-5).

“Careofthesoulisnotaprojectofself-improvementnorawayofbeingreleasedfromthetroubleandpainsofhumanexistence.Itisnotatallconcernedwithlivingproperlyorwithemo'onalhealth....”

WhatistheSenseofUrgency?

“Careofthesoultouchesanotherdimension,innowayseparatefromlife,butnotiden'caltotheproblemsolvingthatoccupiessomuchofourconsciousness.Wecareforthesoulbygivingit'meandopportunitytorevealitself,andbylivinglifeinawaythatfostersdepth,interiority,andqualityinwhichitflourishes.Soulisitsownpurposeandend.”

GuidedMedita'on:“TheRiver”•  “Peaceisnotexternalortobesoughtaweror

ajained.Livingmindfully,slowingdownandenjoyingeachstepandeachbreath,isenough.”

•  “Mouth(neck)yoga,”smiling,flexingthefacialmuscles,walking,andbreathing

•  “Dirtydishes,redlights,andtrafficjamsarespiritualfriendsuponthepathofmindfulness.Themostprofoundsa'sfac'ons,thedeepestfeelingsofjoyandcompletenesslieascloseathandasournextawarebreathandthesmilewecanformrightnow...“(KotlerinPeace)

Thankyouforallowingmetosharethisjourney,peacebewithyouall!

Mark Funkhouser Evansville, IN Phone: (812) 449-4343 Email: mark.funkhouser30@gmail.com