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Say“I do” by the sea…Atlantic Oceanside Hotel & Conference Center offers full reception facilities, guest

and honeymoon lodging and local activity planning to make your wedding a very special event for

you, your family and friends. Our full-time event manager will assist you with your planning and

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Cover Model: Bailee Sulham wed

Ethan Burnes in Portland on October 9,

2011, at Grace Restaurant in Portland’s

Old Port. With less than fi ve months

to plan a wedding, they came back to

the city that brought them together:

Portland. The rest is history.

Get the full scoop about their

Big Day by visiting our website:

www.marrymemagazine.com

Bridal Gown: Bailee is rocking an

Essense of Australia mermaid satin

dress with an organza skirt. The

dress, found at Madeleine’s Daughter

in Portsmouth, N.H., cost her $1,600,

but Bailee said it was completely

worth it: “It is absolutely beautiful

and was so fun to wear!”

Veil: Bailee’s birdcage veil has a topper

from David’s Bridal. It cost $100.

Jewelry: Sparkling with bling, Bailee is

wearing Swarovski jewelry purchased

at the Swarovski store at the Maine

Mall. Her earrings and necklace cost

a total of $150.

Shoes: Bailee’s “something blue” is in

the form of amazing Jonathan Kayne

Women’s Peacock Platform shoes.

Accented with peacock feathers and a

brilliant blue hue, Bailee found them

at Shoes.com for $125.

Hair and Makeup: Bailee’s outfi t is

accented by soft curls styled by Emily

Ventura of Salon Haute Couture in

Yarmouth. Makeup was done by

Stacia Tetrault of Stacia Tetrault

Makeup.

Location: While the ceremony and

reception both were held at Grace

Restaurant in Portland’s Old Port,

Bailee, Ethan and the wedding party

ventured into the Old Port for some

quirky, urban photos.

Photographer: Vermont natives

Bailee and Ethan chose Burlington,

Vermont-based photographer Ilke

Van Genechten for their Big Day

photography coverage.

On the cover

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What inspires you?

PHOTO: Rene Minnis Photography

Here at Marry ME Magazine we’ve been thinking a lot about

wedding inspiration. From the small details to the big picture,

weddings are all about love and inspiration.

As we were going through this issue’s love story nominations,

we discovered that there were so many weddings with inspira-

tional touches. In fact, we really wanted to showcase a broad

array of weddings, so we are pleased to announce four web

exclusive love stories (check out www.MarryMEMagazine.com)

in addition to our in magazine love stories.

Thanks to the crazy beautiful photos submitted by some of

Maine’s best photographers, we’re able to provide you with

ideas, inspiration, and tips on how to make your wedding

unique.

Why unique? Because you are unique. Your groom is unique.

Your ideas and style are unique. You deserve to celebrate

that uniqueness.

We’ve provided tips on how to include everyone in the Big

Day, choosing the gown to enhance your unique shape, hair tips

and trends, and reception decor ideas that reflect a different

view. Learn about contracts with our resident wedding and event

planner, as well as how to be a good host with our ettiquette

expert.

And guys, we haven’t forgotten you, either. Why have a

traditional wedding band? Choose something a bit different by

following the ideas laid out in the Guy’s Corner. Want to wear

something less traditional? Check out our attire article aimed at

suave choices for guys that don’t include black.

Keep in touch by letting us know about your pending nuptials

(or a really cool engagement story). We might choose your story

to feature on the site or in the next issue.

Remember how unique you are. It will show on your Big Day.

Happy planning!

Marry ME Magazine Assignment Editor

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IN THIS ISSUE:

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ADVICE & RELATIONSHIPSEtiquette corner: Making guests feel honored ......12Ask the Expert: Contracts ....................................22

GUY’S CORNERAlternatives to the Penguin Suit ...........................19Custom rings .......................................................20

YOUR WEDDINGHair “Do’s” .....................................................32-33Choose a gown for your body type ..................34-35Great music for your party ...................................39

Wedding party responsibilities .............................40

ALL THE RESTEngaging portraits ...............................................41Registry 101 ........................................................50Big Day travel tips ...............................................57Advertiser directory .............................................63

INSPIRATIONIdeas ..................................................................8-9City Mouse vs. Country Mouse ........................24-25Reception ideas ..............................................36-37Ideas ..............................................................48-49A Marry ME Magazine styled shoot .................64-65

PLANNER: Vendor contacts ...................................................59Big Day timeline ..................................................60Your wedding soundtrack .....................................61Emergency kit ......................................................62

14 Sarah & Mark

26 Megan & Adam

38 Web Exclusives

42 Abby & Jason

52 Lindsey & Chris

love stories

PHOTO: Debra Bell for MarryME Magazine

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1. Andree Kehn PhotographyNon-traditional wedding photographer specializing in outdoor

weddings, tented receptions and couples with a little quirky something-

something. Just like you! andreekehn.comPhotos, pages: 9, 19, 25, 48. Featured wedding: Adam and Megan (pages 26-30)

2. Bell Imaging & Design, Debra Bell

Debra Bell was bit by the wedding photography bug after her own

wedding in 2002. Using an observant eye, she specializes in capturing

“unplanned” moments and fi nessing the planned ones. In addition to

weddings, Debra specializes in pet portraiture and adores combining

weddings and pets. bellphotostudio.comPhotos, pages: 8-9, 19-20, 24, 32, 37, 59

3. Darling Photography, Jennifer Storer

Jenn, of Darling Photography, is a Maine-based boutique photographer

providing both beautiful images and an amazing experience for her

clients. With her unique style she creates the perfect engagement &

couples sessions. Jenn's wedding schedule is currently booked until

2013. darlingphoto.net | Photos, pages: 48-49

4. Eager Eye Photography, Rogier van Bakel

European-born Rogier van Bakel brings the famous Dutch sense of

light, order, and whimsy to wedding and portrait photography. His work

has appeared in the New York Times, Rolling Stone, Wired, and other

national publications. eagereyeweddings.com | Photos, pages: 37, 40

5. Emily Delamater PhotographyEmily Delamater is a fi ne art wedding and portrait photographer in

Maine and New England, with a strong focus on details and emotion.

She believes it is truly an honor to document your love, your family &

your life. emilydelamaterphotography.com | Photos, pages: 24,37, 39; Featured wedding: Chris and Lindsey (pages 52-56)

6. Emily McIntosh Photography"My life revolves around weddings between owning and operating

a photography business and working full time at the Henry's Bridal

Boutique. I love being behind the scenes, capturing the emotions and

traditions of each different story." emilymcintoshphoto.comPhotos, pages: 9

7. Hailey Tash Photography, Hailey Tash

Hailey got her start in photography at age 10. She decided to take on

photography professionally in 2010. Hailey works with natural light and

loves the beautiful backdrop that New England provides.

haileytashphotography.com | Photo, page 49

8. Ilke VG Photography, Ilke Van Genechten and John Sappo

Ilke VG Photography is out of Burlington, Vermont, and consists of

photographers Ilke Van Genechten and John Sappo. We are a couple

team specializing in weddings, family portraits and babies. As wedding

photographers we see how unique and special each wedding is and

we work together to capture all of those special details and special

moments in time. When we are not shooting weddings you can fi nd

us working out hard together doing crossfi t, mountain biking, skiing,

playing hockey and cooking. Ilkevgphotography.com & johnsappo.com | Photos, pages: Cover, 4, 8, 24

9. Jameson Brown Photography, Jameson Brown &

Ashley Carlow

We are a team of photographers. Though we have distinctively

different styles we work together to give you great shots and most of

all a great experience. jamesonbrownphotography.com | Photos, pages: 20, 36, 41, 58

10. Jen Dean Photography, Jen Dean

Jen Dean is an award winning and nationally published portrait

and wedding photographer, but most importantly she is passionate

about capturing the memories of your own beautiful life.

jendeanphotography.com | Photos, pages: 36, 49

11. Joanna Thyer Photography, Joanna Thyer

Joanna has been photographing weddings for over 10 years and loves

every minute of her job. She lives in Bangor with her husband and

three children. thyerphotography.com | Photos, pages: 9, 21, 49, 62

12. Kevin Couture Photography A graduate of the University of Maine, Maine Photographic Workshop and

Rochester Institute of Technology, Kevin brings his unique style

and perceptive eye to capture all those priceless moments on your wedding

day. kevincouturephotography.com | Photos, pages: 25, 37

13. Kountry Photography, Brandi Cullen

An onsite photographer with fi ve years’ experience captures

memorable moments with a natural, artistic approach. Her childhood

hobby, strengthened by numerous photography classes, offers the

ability to capture memories at affordable prices!

kountryphotography.wordpress.com | Photos, pages: 60

14. Kristina O’Brien Photographykristinaobrien.com | Photos, pages: 37, 49, 62. Featured wedding: Abby and Jason (pages 42-46)

15. MemoryMaker Photography, Soubahn Phanthay

Portrait and wedding photographer making connections through

images. facebook.com/MemorymakerPhotography | Photo, pages: 24

16. René Minnis PhotographyRené Minnis fi rst picked up a camera in college and hasn’t stopped

capturing the world through a lens since. Driven by creating

photographs that bring people happiness, René is known to do

whatever it takes to “get that shot”. Quirky and fun, she can be seen

drinking coffee, knitting, or singing loudly to 80s music when not

behind the lens. reneminnisphoto.com | Photos, pages: 5, 8, 24, 36, 48

17. Samantha Marie PhotographySamantha White is a self taught Aroostook based photographer who is

fun loving, offbeat, a fi ancee, world traveler and loves photographing

people in love. www.samanthamariephotographymaine.com |

Photo page 20

18. Sha~Lam Photography, Becky Shea and Ken Lam

Becky and Ken joined forces establishing Sha~Lam Photography

making their clients' needs their number one priority. They take pride

in capturing those special moments while making it an enjoyable

adventure. beckysheaphoto.com (also on facebook under Sha-lam

Photography) | Photos, pages: 48

19. Shane’s Wedding Photography, Shane Corcoran

Shane Corcoran is an artist with a uniquely creative eye. His focus is

not only for the bride and groom but all intricate details and guests. He

begins before the dress goes on and ends with the last dance. If you’re

looking for a new approach, look into Shane.

ShanesWeddingPhotography.com | Photos, pages: 48

20. Stacey Hedman PhotographyBased out of Cape Cod and southern Vermont, Stacey embraces all

of New England as home. She captures weddings, dogs and editorial

photos with her fresh perspective and in an authentic fi lm medium.

Stacey's favorite thing about weddings is the connection between

loved ones — whether a secret glance between newlyweds, the pride

among parents, or the laughter across old friends — and how it tells a

unique story to be captured forever. staceyhedman.com | Photos, pages: 8-9, 25, 36. Featured wedding: Sarah and Mark (pages 14-18)

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IDEAS shoes

fl owers

food

accessories

activities

PHOTOS:

Clockwise from top René Minnis | Ilke VG Photography

Bell Imaging & Design | Debra Bell for Marry ME Magazine

Stacey Hedman

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props

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PHOTOS:

Clockwise from top Samantha Marie Photography | René Minnis | Kountry Photography

| René Minnis | Emily McIntosh

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PublisherRICHARD J. WARREN

Marry ME Magazine EditorBRIAN F. SWARTZ

Marry ME Magazine Assignment EditorDEBRA L. BELL

Marry ME Magazine Graphics EditorsSHELLEY L. SUND

BRIDGIT CAYER

Advertising DirectorTOWLE TOMPKINS

Advertising ConsultantSTEVE MARTIN

Advertising SalesDORAIN FOSTER

Creative ServicesFAITH BURGOS

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Writers & PhotographersBangor Daily News

DEBRA L. BELL, DAVID M. FITZPATRICK,

BRIAN F. SWARTZ

Contributing WritersSheila Grant, Evan Kanarakis,

Greg Westritch

Contributing ExpertsMackie Hill, Simply Unforgettable Events by MackiePaula Paradis, Paradis & Foster Event Management

Contributing Photographers(for more information, see page 7)

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etiquette corner

Honored GuestsMaking your guests feel honored

You know the line that appears in many wedding invitations: “the honour of your presence is requested at the mar-riage of Jane and John.” This is exactly how your guests should feel at your wed-ding: like the honoured guests that they are. This simple, but important, idea can get lost in the common focus of “It’s MY day!"

To make sure that your guests enjoy your wedding as much as you do, keep these hints in mind.

Extend warm welcomes. Every event planner knows that “the event begins in the parking lot.” Many guests travel dis-tances to attend a loved one’s wedding. Ensure they “get there” by including driving directions both with the invitation and on your personal wedding website. Make sure that there is adequate park-ing and security available for all. Assign an usher or your wedding coordinator to cover the entrance of the ceremony site and reception venue to welcome and direct your guests. Ensure that guests with special needs, such as the elderly or the physically challenged, or those with young children have assistance.

Be mindful of time. Unless you are an international celebrity, there’s really no reason why your photoshoot or change of clothing should last two hours while your guests are waiting for you. Brief your photographer in advance with a prepared list of shots you would like and quickly assemble your bridal party and family at the site.

While photos are happening, make sure your reception's Master of Ceremo-nies keeps your guests entertained and up-to-date.

Be punctual. Brides and grooms: contrary to popular opinion, being late is not fashionable. It is quite rude to your guests who have made the effort to make it to your ceremony on time. Develop your wedding day timeline and distribute

to the entire wedding party and vendors who are servicing your wedding. You will be surprised how stress-free and on-time your wedding will be if a pre-planned timeline is used.

Be good hosts. Meet and greet dur-ing the reception by moving around the venue. Every guest wants to see you up close, share some chit-chat, and have an opportunity to have a photo taken with you.

Always keep your guest list in mind when coming up with your menu and drink list. If most of your friends and family are health-conscious, include some options to meet their dietary choic-es and restrictions. Always ask your ca-terer to cater for a few more people than the fi nal RSVP count. It is not unusual for surprise guests to arrive fully thinking that they had responded.

Weddings, by and large, are whole-day affairs, and whilst guests should not ex-pect a restaurant-like smorgasbord, a fair portion of decent-tasting food is defi nitely in order for them.

If your wedding is held in an unusual locale, always keep guests’ comfort in your mind. For example, the time of year: Will it be too rainy or too hot? Is your site prone to mosquitoes or fl ies? Is the venue spacious enough to accommodate your guests?

Good hospitality planning resolves these issues before they become a guest issue. The solutions can be as simple as having cold bottled water available for hot weather, hot chocolate/cider for cold weather, umbrellas for rain and too much sun, and bug spray for pesky mosqui-toes.

These small, easy, thoughtful touches all add up to one thing: being a good host. Your guests will appreciate them and will fondly remember your wedding day when they were truly treated as “honored guests.”

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sarah & mark megan & adam

abby & jason lindsay & chris

Four couples chose Maine as the backdropfor their 2011 weddings. Read their

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From the capital to saying, “I Do,”

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Sarah Wellman &Mark AllegriniSeptember 10, 2011 | Winterport

A ride “on the good old school bus,”

a reception held in a transformed

barn, and a missing suit replaced

via Maine and New Jersey:

Of such memories are a Maine

wedding made.

Sarah Wellman and Mark Allegrini

held their wedding in Winterport on

Saturday, Sept. 10, 2011. She hails from

Winterport, he from Guilford, Conn., and

they might never have met except for the

expert matchmaking of a dear friend.

Sarah’s co-worker at the Retail

Industry Leaders Association in

Washington, D.C., Georgia, informed

Sarah that “I’ve got the perfect guy for

you” and later “asked if she could set us

up on a blind date,” Sarah recalled.

The date went well. “On our way home

in the Metro, we exchanged [phone]

numbers,” Mark said.

They dated almost for two years, and

Mark proposed on New Year’s Eve 2010.

He presented Sarah with an exquisite

emerald-cut sapphire ring with two

princess-cut diamonds inset on the side.

Sarah and Mark immediately started

planning a Maine wedding. Because

“September is one of the most beautiful

months in Maine,” and 9-10-11 fell on a

Saturday, “we picked that date,” Sarah

said.

Story Brian Swartz | Photography Stacey Hedman

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They wanted their wedding “to be more

relaxed, low key,” with their guests feeling

comfortable and having “a good time,” she

said. Many guests had never been to Maine.

“We wanted to make sure they had a good

Maine experience,” Sarah said. “We tried to

incorporate ‘Maine’ into our wedding.”

Sarah never doubted where the ceremony

would take place. “I had always wanted to get

married in the [Union] Meetinghouse on Main

Street” in Winterport, she said.

Sarah’s father, Galen, owns Streamside

Golf Course on Route 139 in Winterport. As

Sarah and Mark discussed reception sites,

he told them, “It’s probably a crazy idea, but

what about the barn?” The circa 1800s barn

needed a lot of work, but Galen spent the

summer putting up new siding and even hung

a chandelier Sarah purchased at Marden's.

“I think most people thought we were a little

crazy, but with a lot of hard work and a little

creativity, the result was amazing,” Sarah

said.

Sarah and Mark planned their wedding

“with a lot of help from our families,” she

recalled. While Galen wove his magic inside

the Streamside barn, Sarah’s mom, Debbie,

and aunt, Evelyn, picked raspberries and

strawberries and made jam that fi lled “50

little jars apiece of each fl avor,” Sarah said.

Wedding guests received the jam jars as gifts

from the newlyweds. Sarah designed beer

koozies with the phrase, “She said Ayuh” as a

nod to her Maine roots.

And Sarah and Mark received a big assist

from the West Coast. When Mark and his

sister, Christine, were growing up, Christine

had a good friend, Jacin Fitzgerald, who now

owns Lovely Little Details in San Francisco.

Many guests had never been to Maine. “We wanted to make sure they had a good Maine experience,” Sarah said. “We tried to incorporate ‘Maine’ into our wedding.”

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Jacin offered “to help set up on the day of

the wedding and organized the [reception]

decorating,” Mark said. “She did an incredible

job.”

The sun rose to perfect weather on Sept.

10. The bridal party stayed Friday night at

the Winterport Inn and ordered lunch from

the Winterport House of Pizza on Saturday.

Behind the scenes, however, Mark scrambled

to avert a disaster.

“I forgot my suit in Washington,” he

explained, adding that he discovered the

oversight on Friday night before the rehearsal

dinner. He hurried to Macy’s in Bangor and

found “my size pants,” but no matching jacket.

Help lay only a short distance away.

“One of my groomsmen, Benoit, his

girlfriend, Anna, was fl ying up from New York

City,” Mark said. “She got a jacket that was

the right size at a Macy’s in New Jersey and

brought it with her” to Bangor International

Airport.

The bridal party walked to the Union

Meetinghouse for the 3:30 p.m. wedding,

Wedding guests received the jam jars as gifts from the newlyweds. Sarah designed beer koozies with the phrase, "She said Ayuh" as a nod to her Maine roots.

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which was offi ciated by Mark’s friend, Bryan Blake. Five

attendants apiece waited on Sarah and Mark; among her

bridesmaids were Mark's sister Christine, and Sarah’s

sister, Kelly Anderson.

The ceremony lasted about 20 minutes before the

newlyweds ventured onto the meetinghouse’s terraced lawn

to greet guests and take photos. Then many guests boarded

a rented yellow-and-black school bus that took them to

Streamside Golf Course and later that night back to their

motels. “Everyone went on the good old school bus,” Sarah

said. “We were really concerned with all our guests from out

of town … that everyone got home safely.”

Even the bridal party took the bus to Streamside, where

the newlyweds “took more pictures out on the golf course,”

Sarah recalled. Before Galen offi cially opened the barn

at 6 p.m., the newlyweds walked through it fi rst. “The

transformation was incredible,” Sarah recalled. “My dad and

Jacin had worked incredibly hard at getting it all together.

“I just started crying, it was more beautiful than I had

even imagined,” she said. “Having all your friends and family

work so hard to make this day a reality was a wonderful gift.

It all hit me at that moment.”

The buffet included steak and lobster and Dysarts pies

(apple, blueberry, pecan, raspberry, tollhouse) and whoopie

pies. The bride and groom cut a coconut cake made by

Sarah's grandmother, Dottie “Mammie” Havey. The caterer

served Maine-brewed beers and a signature cocktail named

Blueberry Buck made from fresh Maine blueberries. The

bridal party and many guests played lawn games before

dancing the night away — at least until 11:30 p.m., when

“we cut it off,” Sarah said. “We could have gone all night.”

After honeymooning in Bermuda for two weeks, Sarah

and Mark returned to Washington, D.C. They moved to

Boston in April 2012.

The detailsEvent design, day-of coordination, reception fl owers and

centerpieces and reception paper design: Jacin Fitzgerald, Lovely

Little Details

Ceremony venue: Winterport Union Meeting House

Reception venue: Streamside Golf Course, Winterport

Bride’s Gown: Paloma Blanca

Bridesmaids' dresses: j.crew

Grooms/groomsmen attire: Tommy Hilfi ger purchased at Macy's

Rings: Harstans Jewelers, Guilford, CT

Bridal Party Bouquets, Boutonnieres and Ceremony Florals: Island

Flowers, Verona Island

Catering: Maine Coast Catering, Rockport

Cake: Coconut cake cut by bride and groom made by bride's

grandmother. Pies and whoopie pies by Dysarts, Bangor

Rentals: Wallace Tent and Event Rentals, Ellsworth

Dance fl oor: Granville Rental, Holden

Invitations: Designed and printed by bride, supplies purchased at

Paper Source, Save the date vintage look postcards by Beyond Design

on Etsy

Hair and Makeup: The L Factor Salon, Brewer

Photographer: Stacey Hedman, Fresh Photography

Transportation: Luce Transportation, Union

Rentals: Wallace Tent & Party Rental

Favors: Homemade raspberry and strawberry jam made by bride's

mom and aunt

Honeymoon: Bermuda, private residence courtesy of grooms uncle

Bridal party accommodations: Winterport Inn

Hotel: Comfort Inn Oceans Edge, Belfast

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Handsome alternatives to the penguin suit

IDEAS avoid black

go casual

think shoes... and socks

add props

personalize your look

PHOTOS:Clockwise from top Andree Kehn | Jen Dean Photography | Stacey Hedman | Darling Photography

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guy's corner

It wasn’t really until the middle of the 20th century that the custom became more entrenched of men choosing to wear a wedding ring. Even so, up until recently the process of selecting the groom’s ring was a fairly basic task for an engaged couple. The simple, timeless elegance of a plain yellow gold band made the selection process easy, and even for men who hadn’t worn a ring before, it popularly stood as a pure symbol of marriage and of a lifelong commitment to one’s wife.

Today it is more common for a groom to wear a wedding band, but options now abound for what particular ring you might choose. From the outset, it’s important to get a sense of exactly what choices you have. The classic yellow gold ring is still common; however, white gold has become more popular recently as styles have changed. A precious metal like platinum will make for an extremely durable wedding ring (that is also hyper allergenic), but at an added cost. Options like titanium or stainless steel and tungsten or cobalt might lack the value of gold and platinum, but provide durability with a lower price tag. Given that some rings have been cut directly from larger blocks of metal, they may not always be able to be re-sized.

Once you have a sense of what your choices are when shopping for a wedding ring, you can more easily fi nd something that matches your budget, whether you want a band that sells for as little as one hundred dollars or a ring costing into the thousands. Selecting a ring that suits your lifestyle as well as your personality will now come more prominently into play.

While some may just opt for a plain wedding band, you can choose from more elaborate and, of course, pricier options that feature different polished or textured fi nishes and can include anything from braiding or engraved features to rings that have been decorated with precious gemstones and diamonds.

Even more unconventional ring options

have emerged on the market that will suit those looking to stand apart from tradition. A quick search online reveals countless talented craftspeople adept at applying old blacksmithing techniques to create elaborate designs, or featuring working gears, fi ngerprints from the couple that have been imprinted into the metal, and rings in unusual square or hexagonal shapes, placing a strong emphasis on style over comfort.

Many of these jewelry makers are willing to create custom bands with sculpted images or words that have been worked into the ring design. Even more unique are eco-conscious wood rings that demand more care over time, but are a defi nite contrast from the norm.

At the end of the day, take your time, stick to a budget and be sure to fi nd a ring that suits your lifestyle and is comfortable and feels right. Share the experience with your fi ancée and celebrate the entire process. After all, it’s an item you’ll be wearing for the rest of your life.

Choosing A Wedding Ring For HimStory Evan Kanarakis

PHOTOS:Top Bell Imaging & DesignMiddle Jameson BrownBottom Samantha White

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Congratulations! It is time to plan your wedding! So where do you start? The answer: Meet with vendors, interview them, choose ones that match your taste, temperament, and schedule. Once you have decided on the perfect vendors, get a contract from each and every one of them.

What? Did I say “contract”? Yes. Al-though your wedding may be a fairy tale in your head, it is also a very important business deal. As business people, each vendor is promising you a product. By signing a contract they are held account-able for that promise. You wouldn’t buy a house without a contract. You don’t buy a car without a contract. Even when you buy that fancy pair of shoes with your credit card and you sign the little receipt, that is a contract. So why shouldn’t you have a contract to ensure that one of the most important occasions in your life is guaranteed and secure?

I know it is almost painful to think of a bad side to your perfect day, but without contracts you are leaving your wedding open to irreparable damage, whether purposeful or an act of God.

Here are a few tips to guide you through this process:

1. Always get a vendor contract.Some vendors may have never used

a contract. This does not mean that you cannot work with him/her. There are many generic contracts that can be purchased and altered to fi t the service your vendor is providing you. If you are using a generic contract, try and compare yours to contracts online from other similar local reputable wedding vendors to ensure correct wording and legality. If you come across a vendor who refuses to sign a contract, move on. There is a reason they won’t sign, and you do not want to be the victim of whatever is hindering them from entering into a binding agreement regarding their services.

2. Make sure the contract clearly states what services the vendor is providing and your expectations of those services.

This means specifi c duties of the vendor, when the provision of their service will begin, and when the provision of their service will end.

3. Your contract must also clearly state what is expected of you as the client.

This is your timeline, the provision of other vendors, and most importantly your method of payment and how and when that payment is to be distributed.

4. Make sure that your contract is specifi c about repercussions regarding cancellations, no-shows, damages, etc.

Sadly, it does happen. Weather, family issues, a vendor "no show": These are all things that can cause a wedding to be postponed or cancelled. In the event that this happens, you want your investment protected. Make sure your vendor contracts clearly state what happens in the event of a cancellation.

5. Last and most importantly, do not sign a contract that requires you to pay the entire fee up front.

It is perfectly reasonable for a vendor to want you to pay a deposit, even up to 50% of the total payment. However, by no means should you pay in full well before the service is provided. Many vendors will require payment in full before the wedding, so read your contract and ask questions. Remember, you are paying your vendors to do a job; you should not pay in full until the job is done.

A vendor’s job is to take care of you and make your wedding blissful. Your job is to ensure that they do that. Protect yourself so your fairy tale does not turn into a horror story.

Mackie Hill is the owner of Simply Unforgettable Events by Mackie, a wedding planning business based in Bangor, Maine.

Advice about managing contracts with vendorsStory Mackie Hill

PHOTO: Joanna Thyer

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Inspiration for your city wedding

Photos: clockwise starting from top: Ilke VG Photography | Emily Delamater Photography | Bell Imaging & Design | MemoryMaker Photography | Rene Minnis Photography

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Inspiration for your country wedding

Photos: clockwise starting from top: Andree Kehn Photography | Kevin Couture Photography | Stacey Hedman | Kevin Couture Photography | Kevin Couture Photography

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Love is Primaryin Andover

love stories

Megan Brunmier &Adam LordSeptember 4, 2011 | Andover

Everything about Megan Brunmier and

Adam Lord’s wedding was uniquely

quirky, even down to what brought

them together: bowling.

He was a Director of IT at Bowdoin

College, and she was fi rst a student, then

an event planner for Bowdoin and for her

own company, Pencil Events. But they

didn’t meet face-to-face for years until

they started attending bowling outings to

Yankee Lanes with other Bowdoin singles.

“We bowled there for about a year before

it even occurred to me that ‘we’ were a

possibility,” Megan said. “I remember

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a couple months went by, and we got together at

the Fourth of July. I was making a mess in the

kitchen, making macaroons, and that’s when he

thought I was the right one.”

The couple spent the next year and a half dating

before Adam popped the question in a unique

way: an elaborate scavenger hunt involving rings

made from various found materials including

glass, paper, and metal. It was the “hunt to fi nd

the perfect ring,” she said. Clues came on buttons

made from an industrial political button machine

(later used for their wedding) and were hidden at

their home. The fi nal ring — with a beautiful yellow

diamond — cost Megan a quarter.

“He had found an exact replica of a gumball

machine I was in love with when I was a kid... and

he rigged it so I found it in our garden in mid-

December,” she said. “I put a quarter in and

out came the ring.”

That December in 2010

started a journey.

The fi nal ring — with a beautiful yellow diamond — cost Megan a quarter.

“We felt it would be so representative of his side

and our willingness to work hard to build the

front face of a house wall.”

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Megan let her experience as a Bowdoin

event planner and their combined creativity

take it from there.

Step one: create a concept.

“We decided on ‘Love is primary,’” she

said. “We wanted something playful, but

we also wanted something casual. We are

both pretty artistic, so we

developed our wedding

branding together.”

That branding included a

website, a gumball machine

logo, and a primary color

palette.

“We had a lot of people

from out-of-town, so we

knew one barrier would be

the cost of travel,” Megan said. “We looked

very hard for a venue that feasibly could offer

a place to stay.” Then they found the Merrill

House in Andover, and everything clicked.

Prior to meeting Megan, Adam had built

a home in Bowdoinham. Using that skill, he

and his father built an open-faced frame that

would serve as the “entry” to their ceremony.

“We felt it would be so representative of

his side and our willingness to work hard to

build the front face of a house wall,” Megan

said. “We wanted to make the most of the

Merrill House.”

To do that, they created bunting garland.

Megan’s parents, who live in Colorado, took

on the task of creating 1,000 feet of pennants

by “converting the basement into a factory.”

The task provided her parents with a way to

contribute despite distance. “It became their

major Saturday project,” Megan said. “They

were so proud.”

Instead of a wedding party, the couple

created a “wedding league.”

“We chose 20 people that either had

hugely invested in us as a couple or as

individuals,” Megan said. “We sent them

packages with treats, mini-gumball

machines, and an invitation to join the

marriage league.”

Their responsibility: “to come, keep the

excitement up, keep the theme going, play

games, and rest when it was needed.”

And there would be no “matchy” outfi ts.

Instead there was plaid.

“We came up with plaid because the vibe

was already like taking a fi eld trip to the

fair,” Megan said. Add to that Adam’s strong

Maine roots, and it was a no brainer. “It’s

pretty Maine to have fl annel or plaid,” she

said. “Even our California relatives were

asked to try on the idea of wearing plaid. We

wanted them to be comfortable.”

Megan’s dress, however, was not plaid.

Instead it was custom made. Primary

colors in the form of a brilliant blue vintage

hat — found on a vintage website for $20

— complete with vintage hat pin, red shoes,

and a playful yellow petticoat accented her

dress.

Adam wore a decidedly non-traditional

outfi t: A newly-released Red LL Bean

Signature plaid shirt, dark blue Banana

Republic jeans, and new boots.

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Megan’s bouquet was created from local fl ora: thistle from the

Merrill House’s garden, rabbit tail from the couple’s garden, and

Billy Ball fl owers secured with another vintage pin and antique

fabric tape that Megan purchased in Maine. Family and friends

chipped in throughout the week prior to make centerpieces and

fi nal touches to the decor.

On the day of the wedding, guests were greeted to the sunny

Merrill House and its grounds. Vintage-inspired tin lunch boxes

— a lucky fi nd at Old Navy — were fi lled with treats, a wedding

newspaper program called “The Hitching Post” created by

Megan and Adam, as well as a factoid button personalized as a

conversation starter for each guest.

“The day ended up hot and humid,” Megan said. “One of my

favorite things about the wedding was looking over and seeing one

of my friend’s girlfriends napping under the tree with a hat on her

face.”

The couple planned lawn games to entertain guests after the

ceremony. The reception, which included frivolity and dancing, also

featured Maine-made foods.

“We really thought everything through, and it couldn’t have been

a truer representation of us,” Megan said. “We didn’t take ourselves

too seriously, but we put a lot of hard work into it.”

Event Design + Planning: Pencil EventsPhotographer: Andree Kehn Wedding PhotographyCeremony + Reception Venue: Merrill HouseBridal Gown Design + Vintage Pillbox Hat: Blue Velvet VintageGown Alterations (criss-cross straps; pockets; hemming): Golden Apple Clothing Bride’s Petticoat: Dream Spun KidsBride’s Pumps: Vigotti ‘Ursulina’ via Zappos.comBouquet + Floral Arrangements: Pencil EventsEngagement Ring: Yellow Diamond in a Tacori ‘Dantella’ setting via Springers Jewelers Wedding Bands: DIY by the groom--soldered nails left over from building their house....Groom’s Shirt: L.L.Bean SignatureGroom’s Jeans: Banana RepublicWedding Party: Various plaids of their choice.Invitation Suite + Programs + Signage: Pencil EventsHair + Makeup + Nails: I Do SpasOffi ciant: Bree CandlandEvent Day Coordinators: Antonio Watson; Ruiqi Li (Student-Associates of Pencil Events)Reception BBQ: Smokin’ Good BBQ + The Good Food Store Dessert: Guest pie baking contest (in lieu of gifts)Event Rentals: New England Tent & Awning Lunchboxes: Old NavyPie Baking Contest Prizes: Piebirds By Sharon Bethel Area Airport Shuttle: Stagecoach Shuttles

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Brides want to look marvelous, and hair is a major part of looking lovely. That’s why we reached out to several Maine salons for suggestions on what to do for Big Day hair.

2012-2013 season styles. In the 2012-2013 season, hairstylists expect to see lots of braids and messy buns intertwined within each other. Brides are requesting the same classic looks, but with a twist to personalize them, said Cassie McGinnity of Fringe Hair Art.

Get inspired. McGinnity noted that social media sites such as Facebook and Pinterest display the demand for bridal hairstyles that refl ect the bride’s personality and a “punch” of creativity.

Bride: Know thy hair. McGinnity said that every bride’s hair is different: from thick and heavy to thin and limp, and anywhere in between.

Considerations for thick hair: When

hair is thicker and heavy, brides should have a hairstyle that holds up all night long. With that in mind, consider side pony tails, half up and half down looks, or an up-do with many dimensions, if the hair is long enough.

Considerations for fi ne and limp hair: Volume is key. The bride may want to create more volume for her special day. There are plenty of products that increase the volume of hair and make it last throughout the night. Some brides even opt to use extensions, which are harmless and help when adding those creative “punches” like braids and curls.

Create a cohesive look. Your hair should be the crowning accessory to your wedding look. According to Anthony John’s Salon and Day Spa stylists Danielle Lane and Tess Brier-Broussard, brides should choose a hairstyle that accents the dress. “If you have a dress that shows off your shoulders and chest,

wear your hair up,” Lane said. Know your venue. Having an outdoor

wedding in the summer months? Humidity can cause frizziness in hair, Tess said. To control frizziness and keep it looking picture perfect, consider an updo. Likewise, for an outdoor wedding, bouncy curls won’t last the entire day.

“The windblown, natural look is really in right now,” Lane said. “[As are] hidden braids and waterfall braids. The look is romantic, easy, and doesn’t look too ‘done’.”

Veils. Don’t just plop the veil comb on your head, Brier-Broussard said. Instead, talk with your stylist about how to work it into the hairstyle. “When there’s nothing to adhere the comb to, the look can be spoiled,” she said. “Also know who is taking the veil out and show them how to do it.”

The two-fer hairstyle. Many brides are not only having two dresses, but

Story Debra Bell

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one way for the ceremony with a veil and then pin it up and put in a fl ower for the reception,” Lane said. “This is something your stylist can show you [or an attendant].”

For the guys. Get your Big Day grooming done one to two weeks before the wedding, Brier-Broussard said. “A little scruff the day of is OK and kind of cute,” she said. “That way you also have time to play.”

Trial run. According to Lane and Brier-Broussard, it’s best for the bride and her ladies to head to the salon at least a

month prior to the wedding in order to try out hairstyles for the Big Day. This prevents last minute surprises. Your stylist can take notes about what the style looks like and how it works with your hair. “Remember, this is a run-through, so try not to do it perfectly,” Brier-Broussard said. “Hairstyles never come out the same way twice.”

Bring the stylist to you. Want to reduce your stress level on the Big Day? Have the stylist come to you. Most salons, including Anthony John’s Day Spa, can relocate to your hotel room or home the

“day of” to allow you to relax.“When you’re having your hair done,

this is usually the time when you say ‘OK, this is the moment,” Lane said. “It’s fun for us to be able to come out to where the bridal party is. You don’t ever have to leave and worry about time.”

DID YOU KNOW: Brides should wash their hair the day before the wedding, not the day of. Why? Hair makes its own natural oil when not newly washed. That oil helps the hairstyle remain in place and styled throughout the day and night.

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You’re beautiful, but your waist is undefi ned, forming a straight line from shoulder to hip. Try: An Empire-waist wedding dress (where the “waist” is near your bust) will give you the illusion of a longer, streamlined look. Avoid: Princess or basque waist (dropped V waist) dresses will bring attention to your waist.

Body shapeChoosing a gown for your

Illustrations by Sam Wood

Girl, you have curves in all the right places: chest, hips and a thin waist. Try: A-line wedding dress with dropped waist to emphasize your fi gure. Find a dress with a sweetheart neckline and emphasize your bust. Mermaid or trumpet style gown to show off those curves. Avoid: Ball gown, Empire waist (just under the bust)

You have beautiful proportions, but they’re just a bit off when it comes to the space from your ribs to hips. Embrace them by choosing a great silhouette. Try: Princess-line silhouette featuring a fi tted bodice and ending in a full skirt (think Cinderella) This will give the illusion of a longer torso. Gown with a slight dropped waist.Avoid: A sheath-style dress.

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If you’re pear shaped, you’re smaller up top and heavier on the bottom. Try: A basque waist (read: dropped V waist) Think Victorian-era styles when you think of “basque” waist. A strapless ball gown will focus attention on your beautiful bust, not your butt. Empire-waist dresses hug your bust while camoufl aging your lower half.Avoid: A sheath which will just be unfl attering. A trumpet- or mermaid-style gown will hug lovely curves while hiding unfl attering areas.

Full fi gure gals have it all going on: bust, butt, well-formed hips, and a bit of a tummy. Try: Ball gown, A-line silhouette Avoid: Sheath gowns which don’t accentuate your curves. Gowns with spaghetti straps.

You have the stature of a ballerina or model. But highlighting your fi gure can be a challenge

also. In some ways, the thin bride is lucky. Most styles of gown will fl atter. Try: A ball gown. A sheath gown will show off your slender form.Avoid: Be aware of your stature. If your shoulders or collarbone are prevalent, avoid styles that show off your back or chest. Or choose a dress with an illusion panel.

Who doesn’t love a petite girl? However, there are additional challenges when you’re vertically-challenged. So keep it simple! Try: A sheath will show off a small, slender bride. An A-line dress. Avoid: Big ball gowns. You should wear the gown. It should not wear you.

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ReceptionIdeas for your

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Weddings by the sea

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The music you use for your wedding is as important as the colors you choose, the attendants you surround yourselves with, and the food you serve your guests. Your music will set the scene for each part of your wedding.

So: live, canned, DJ, or a mix? Only you and your budget can decide what will encapsulate your wedding vibe. Here are some tips for getting the most from your musicians.

1. Know what you want (and don’t want) fi rst. Do you want the beautiful sounds of a string trio or a harpist fl oating on the air for your outdoor wedding? Or do you want more popular tunes to usher you to the ceremony? Or, are you looking for the whimsy of a boombox held overhead a la John Cusack in “Say Anything”? Make sure your musical selections represent the feel of your wedding.

2. Know the capabilities, and limitations, of your music of choice. If your wedding will happen in the middle of a fi eld or overlooking the water, be aware that extension cords might not be available for your DJ to use. Likewise, the serene sounds of a string trio may get muffl ed in the wide open air.

Did you know that there can be limitations to what a live music group can do? Very popular music might not be appropriate (or attainable) from a live group. So if you love that Karmin song “Brokenhearted,” don’t assume it’ll sound the same on solo guitar without vocals. Save that song for the reception.

3. Care for your musicians or musical

attendant. Be considerate and provide cover for them and their instruments or sound boards and speakers. Read your contract and talk with them about your vision. Lastly, ensure that all provisions have been made to accommodate their needs by communicating their needs to your venue.

4. Take the time to time your musical selections. If you choose not to use live musicians for your wedding and are going for a DJ or canned music, time out how long the walk down the aisle will take. Speedy attendants can take a song from slow and steady to a race, and then you’ll have dead time. A good DJ will be able to seamlessly transition, while a CD won't. If you choose to use your DJ for ceremony music, make sure they’re experienced.

So, live music, DJ, or neither?Live music: Live musicians can

adapt quickly and can make speeding bridesmaids or a reluctant ring bearer seem planned. When carefully chosen, live musicians add ambiance and showcase cultures. String musicians, harpists, and classical guitarists rarely need cords or speakers and can set a classy mood instantly.

DJ advantages: DJs have a wider array of pieces that they can play, including popular selections. The DJ can also help with microphones and speaker systems to ensure your guests will hear every word of your vows.

DJs also provide you with a person responsible for keeping folks entertained and having fun during your reception. If

you want lots of “wedding games” look for a DJ who will do this for you. However, if you want fun and great dancing, make that known to the DJ while you’re interviewing.

Canned music: Canned music is an economical option; however, it is contingent on a knowledgeable person running it at your ceremony or reception. It is not as fl exible as either the live music or DJ alternative and relies on the in-house sound system or a portable stereo system.

Set the stage with great music

The musical rundownBefore the CeremonyPrelude: The music your guests will listen to while

they wait.

Procession: Music your bridal party will walk in to.

Sometimes there is a separate song for the seating

of the mothers, the procession of the groom and the

groom’s attendants, the procession of the brides-

maids, and the bride’s entrance.

CeremonyDuring the ceremony: Meditations, unity candle or

sand ceremony, and other ceremony accents.

Recession: The music your guests will listen (and

cheer) to as you and your attendants head off.

Cocktail hour

The music your guests will relax to while you have

your photographs taken.

ReceptionPopular moments for individual songs include:

Introductions, fi rst dance, mother-son dance,

father-daughter dance, cake cutting, bouquet toss,

garter toss, and any other special “events” you have

planned.

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BrideThe leading lady.

Prior to the Big Day: She’s the gal with the plan

and the honored attendee of many parties.

On the Big Day: She should be tasked only with

being the lovely leading lady. No more, no less.

Maid (or matron) of Honor:Support goddess.

Prior to the Big Day: The Maid/Matron of

honor (MOH) will be the bride’s confi dante, her

shoulder to cry on, her conscience, and her biggest

cheerleader. In cahoots with the bridesmaids, she’ll

help plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party.

On the Big Day: MOH is Captain on the wedding

day. Her role is to ensure smooth sailing right up to

the altar and through the reception. MOH will also

oversee the bridesmaids and make sure the bride

EATS and doesn’t stress out. She’ll also sign the

wedding license.

Bridesmaid(s): The bride’s best gal pals

and conspirators.

Prior to the Big Day: Bridesmaids are called upon

pre-wedding to attend parties, help plan showers

and ladies night out, as well as help the bride in

any way possible (including stuffi ng invitation

packages or making favors).

On the Big Day: The day of, bridesmaids help

the MOH keep the bride on time and stress-free.

As a bridesmaid, they also stand up with the bride

and her MOH at the ceremony and play hostess to

guests at the reception.

Flower Girl(s): Cuties with a fl oral mission

On the Big Day: Drop petals, leaves, or whatever

the bride has selected on the aisle for the bride’s

entry. They’ll sit with mom and dad during the

ceremony. Typically, these are children ages 3-8.

Junior Bridesmaid(s) andJunior Groomsmen:

Attendants in training

Prior to the Big Day: These younger attendants,

ages 9-16, will attend pre-wedding parties, and

help out however they can.

On the Big Day: The day of the ceremony their

responsibilities will be limited to helping out when

asked, and lending support to the key players of

the day.

Groom: The leading man.

Prior to the Big Day: He pops the question,

helps the bride plan the wedding, offers advice,

provides insight and suggestions where needed,

and helps the bride keep sane during wedding

planning. Traditionally the groom plans

the honeymoon.

On the Big Day: Be on time. Eat. Don’t imbibe

(much) before the ceremony. Stay focused on the

reason for the event. Send your bride a love note

or present prior to the ceremony (delivered by a

groomsman). Relax and enjoy the day.

Best Man: The groom’s right hand.

Prior to the Big Day: Is the groom’s best buddy

and confi dant. Plans the bachelor party with help

from the groomsmen. Ensures that the groom is

grounded and helps out wherever he is needed.

On the Big Day: Keeps the groom on track and

on time. Wrangles up the groomsmen and family.

Ensures that all fi nal bills are paid in full before the

end of the night and distributes tips. Will also sign

the marriage license.

Groomsmen: The wingmen.

Prior to the Big Day: They are the buddy squad. Plan on these guys

keeping it cool while the craziness of wedding

planning ensues. Attend the bachelor party and

keep the groom happy.

On the Big Day: These guys will help keep the

groom happy, relaxed, and provide backup to him

at the altar. At the reception, they’ll mingle with

guests and keep the party going.

Ring Bearer(s): Little men charged with

“the rings” of honor.

On the Big Day: Little dudes ages 3-8 will carry

the “rings” down the aisle to the groom. Then

they’ll sit with mom and dad during the ceremony.

Most of the time the “rings” are decoys,

just in case.

Ushers:Guys and gals ready to help.

On the Big Day: The ushers will help seat guests

and answer questions that may arise.

By Debra BellThe WHO'S WHO of wedding attendants

Other wedding day helpers

You can pull other family and friends into your celebration by allowing them to read a poem, play a song, manage the guest

book, circulate with food or beverage. Whatever will bring you joy. If you’re not using a wedding planner or if your venue doesn’t have someone in charge, ensure

that things stay on track by hiring a “day of” coordinator. They’ll

handle all the less glamorous parts of the wedding day.

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Engagement photos may be part of a package negotiated with the photographer who will be covering the wedding day. Some couples enlist the help of a friend or a budding photographer to capture an engagement shot. The average cost of engagement photos can range from $200 to $500. Some couples opt to use a photographer who might specialize in other areas (i.e. fashion models) but may want to break into the wedding biz because of how lucrative it can be. Costs may be negotiated as a result.

When shopping around for a photographer, there are certain things couples should keep in mind. The fi rst and most important is selecting a photographer you can relate to. If you don't feel a connection with the photographer, he or she will have trouble coaxing the shots that will produce the best results. He or she should also be a professional and have some experience working with posing couples. This way the photos don't look stiff or contrived. Here are some other tips that can lead to great photos.

• Find a photographer who fi ts your style. If you're a quirky couple,

go with a quirky photographer. If you're reserved and a follow-the-book type of couple, then select a more traditional photographer. Some photographers out there forget that this is your moment and want to impart their idea of what you want. Make sure he or she takes your ideas into consideration.

• Select one who is open to different shoot locations and brainstorming. Some of the best photos occur in natural settings, where things aren't entirely planned. If a photographer simply works out of a studio, you may want to select one who has more free reign with different locales.

• Choose your location wisely. Certain locations will stand out in your minds because they are visually stunning or are special places where you have spent moments as a couple. By choosing a place that offers a personal connection, there's a good chance you'll appreciate the photos in the long run. Also, be open to the fact that unplanned stops may offer a great background for the image. Be open to the unexpected.

• Try random poses and some candid shots. Although you might have a vision of the perfect photo in your mind,

experimenting with different ideas can sometimes lead to a great photo you really love. Expect to take your share of kissing, nose-touching and portrait shots. But some fun poses, such as running or jumping (or rolling around on a beach full of waves) can produce candid shots that are truly masterpieces. Remember, sometimes photographers will pose you in positions that seem a bit awkward, but this is to get the best lines of the body and fl attering images.

• Choose clothing that fi ts the mood. If time and budget allows, have several different wardrobe changes so that you can see which outfi ts work and which ones don't. A formal outfi t, comfortable street clothes, something beachy or clothing that fi ts with your interests (such as polo or baseball) can make for interesting engagement photos. Avoid clothing that is too trendy or busy, which may take away from the actual images in the long run. Plus, you don't want to look back at these photos in the future and say, "What was I thinking?" Avoid matchy-matchy, though. If you are dressed alike, you may appear to be trying too hard. It's the individual personalities you want to shine through.

Story Creative Service

Engaging: Simple tips for your engagement photos

Newly engaged couples choose to capture the occasion in

photos that they can cherish. Often, one of these photos is

used as an announcement to family and friends and might

even be published in the newspaper.

PHOTO: Jameson Brown Photography

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Abby Gross & Jason MarkhamAugust 6, 2011 | Deer Isle

Small townwedding hospitality

in Deer Isle

Boston, mutual friends, and a Red

Sox game were the prescription

that Deer Isle native Abby Gross

needed for a sweet romance.

Story Debra BellPhotography Kristina O’Brien

Abby, a middle school science teacher, met IT Engineer Jason (Jay) while enjoying the excitement of city life in Boston.

“We had a lot of things in common,” Abby said. “We started hanging out together while studying. We both enjoyed day trips out of the city to hike and kayak, but we both also enjoyed the hustle and bustle of city life.”

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As they studied for their respective graduate school entrance exams — the MCAT entrance exam for medical school for Abby and the GMAT exam for Jay, who intended to get a MBA — they found their friendship grow as well.

“We had our fi rst date at a Red Sox game,” Abby said. “After that we spent a lot of sunny afternoons at Fenway Park together. We were comfortable together and enjoyed each other’s company.”

Jay, a native of the Berkshires in western Massachusetts, fell as hard for the small island town of Deer Isle as he did for Abby.

And on a beautiful spring day, the couple hiked Blue Hill Mountain for a very important reason.

“We hiked to the top of the mountain and we were all

by ourselves,” she said. “He pulled a beautiful ring out of his pocket as we overlooked the panoramic view of Penobscot Bay. That’s when he proposed. He told me later that he had put the ring in his pocket and he was so afraid of losing it on the hike up the mountain.”

Coming down from being on top of the world, the couple enjoyed a long engagement. Both planned to fi nish graduate school before tying the knot, so they planned on making their wedding be a perfect refl ection of their dedication to family and friends.

“We’re both from small families, but we have a large group of friends,” Abby said. “We wanted to make things fun with everything that we did.”

Fun, relaxation, fl ip fl ops, and family permeated every wedding detail. And let’s get

“We hiked to the top of the mountain, and we were all by ourselves,” she said. “He pulled a beautiful ring out of his pocket as we overlooked the panoramic view of Penobscot Bay. That’s when he proposed.”

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this straight: Island folks know how to do it up.

Friends and family gathered to hand-make the wedding invitations. Island neighbors came together to delight guests and provide much needed transportation from the mainland to the island. Bouquets were hand made using fl owers from the island. The couple even tried their hand at making a special wedding wine, setting aside 10 bottles for their fi rst 10 anniversaries, Abby’s mother, Patricia, said. Together, they also created a coloring book with their own love story that they handed out to all the young guests at the wedding.

“I defi nitely think that to have the type of wedding that we had, you have to work together,” Abby said. “Instead of a three-hour event, we had a whole week of fun, including a boat ride aboard the F/V

Jarsulan for the out-of-town guests the night before the wedding to see the local lighthouses.”

On the day of the wedding, Abby and her maid of honor were delivered to the ceremony site by her brother in her

father’s bright red 1969 VW Beetle.

“The large fi eld opened up into the Deer Isle thoroughfare in front of us, and in typical fashion, I was late,” she said. “[When we arrived] I could see everyone gathered, and Jay

was standing just beyond the crowd at the edge of the water. As we drove down the long driveway, everyone cheered. So many people were there, but when our eyes met, it felt like just the two of us.”

In fact, according to

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The detailsBride's Gown: J Crew

Engagement Ring: Long's Jewlery, BostonWedding Band: Pete Kilpatrick Band

Offi ciant: Stephen YorkWedding Coordinator: Brandi Lawrence Event Design

photographer Kristina O’Brien, the bride was greeted by cheers and approximately 150 red solo cups fi lled with a refreshing cocktail that the couple had re-created from their vacations in the Caribbean.

The couple exchanged personal vows they wrote, and during the recessional, guests tossed birdseed from

homemade mini clam hods.The reception, held under a

tent overlooking the water, was an extension of the celebration. To keep the party hopping, the couple hired the Pete Kilpatrick Band, a decision they’re happy they made. Very few things were not done by the family, Abby said, and photography and live music were the most

important vendors to hire.From lobsters caught by the

maid-of honor's father and a pig roast tended by a close family friend, to freshly caught and picked crabmeat and blueberry cobbler baked by the groom's family using blueberries from GM Allen, the wedding was a culinary tribute to Maine and the couple’s family and friends.

“We’re both outdoorsy people who like to get away,” she said. “We made sure wedding planning wasn’t the center of our life, but that our relationship was. Both sides of our families were extremely supportive and were very grounding, which made planning the wedding fun and a lot less stressful.”

“We’re both outdoorsy people

who like to get away. We made

sure wedding planning wasn’t

the center of our life, but that our

relationship was.”

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IDEAS

PHOTOS:Clockwise starting from top Ken Lamb | Darling Photog-

raphy | Rene Minnis Photography | Andree Kehn | Rene Minnis Photography | Shane's Wedding Photography

adornment

presentation

photography

something old

more shoes!

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Clockwise starting from top Darling Photography | Jen Dean | Joanna

Thyer | Joanna Thyer | Hailey Tash

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gifts

Register together and earlyinto your engagement.

At the same time your cousin Betty is asking about how he popped the question, she’ll also want to know where you’re registered.

Think about “shopping.” Choose stores that guests can easily

fi nd either in person or online. Great Aunt Gertrude might not be willing (or able) to go online to buy you a gift, but she’d probably be able to go to Bed, Bath and Beyond or WalMart. Consider also stores where guests can order online, in person, via email or via fax. Make it easy on your guests, and they’ll be grateful.

Be mindful of budgets.

From $20 to $500, if you give your guests a range of items within a range of prices, you’re more likely to get the things you want than if you register for all big ticket items. Be aware that some guests may price shop as well, so

by giving a clear idea of what you like (and don’t like), you’ll make their gift-buying experience a breeze.

Take stock of what you actually need.

If you’re already living together, chances are you don’t need a toaster or bedding, although you can register for that. But don’t discount the power of electronics, power tools, and gift cards.

Choose items that are truly you. The crystal punch bowl and cocktail set

may be shiny, but if you rarely entertain, many might not be the best items to register for. If you love to camp, consider adding those items to your registry. After all, these are gifts to celebrate your union.

Gifts. They’re synonymous with weddings. But for smart couples, a carefully planned registry will make you (and your guests) happy.

HERE ARE FIVE THINGS YOU SHOULDDO WHEN YOU’RE PREPARING TO REGISTER:

Registry 101

PHOTOS: Bedding, hearts, wine glass and toaster: iStockphoto/Thinkstock | Towels: Creatas/Thinkstock | Cutlery: Hemera/Thinkstock

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love stories

Personalizingtradition

in Portland

A late-season snowstorm and

some clever mutual friends were

responsible for creating a match

between Chris Norton and

Lindsey Stephenson

Chris Norton & Lindsey StephensonNovember 2, 2011 | Falmouth and Portland

Story Greg WestrichPhotography Emily Delamater

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A late-season snowstorm and

some clever mutual friends were

responsible for creating a match

between Chris Norton and Lind-

sey Stephenson.

Chris was supposed to head

to New Jersey for the weekend,

but when the storm prevented

his departure, he went to his

friend’s house for dinner. Little

did he know that there was a

conspiracy afoot. This friend and

his girlfriend had invited another

friend, Lindsey, to dinner.

Lindsey was nonplussed by

the whole thing. While Chris

was a moose hunter, and she a

vegetarian, the two were “very

different.” But her friends knew

better, and the two hit it off right

away and began dating.

Their long-distance relation-

ship continued over several

states and a study-abroad trip to

Italy. Then in 2011, the couple

moved to a home in Freeport.

Chris had been a fi nancial

advisor since 2007, and Lindsey

started her career as a teacher

shortly after moving to Freeport.

After six years of dating, Chris

planned a special Friday night

dinner to pop the question.

He ordered takeout from their

favorite restaurant and deco-

rated the table with bouquets of

fl owers. When she came home

from work and saw the roman-

tic, candlelit table, she teared

up, she said.

During dinner, Chris seized

the moment and proposed. She

immediately accepted, and Chris

turned to the living room and

asked her to tell “everyone” how

she felt. Thinking he had set up

a live Internet feed, she red-

dened, embarrassed. Quickly, he

explained he had only taped the

event.

Wedding planning began with

lists of the fi ve most important

things to include. They both

wanted something unique that

“fi t our personality,” included

family, and refl ected their Catho-

lic faith. The couple also placed

value in a venue that would be

convenient for guests and would

allow them to add personal

touches.

Lindsey had always wanted a

fall wedding, so they settled on

November. While their wedding

was planned for 139 guests, they

started planning a wedding that

felt small and intimate.

“It was challenging to fi nd a

place we wanted for the fall,”

Lindsey said, but Grace Res-

taurant in Portland had all the

characteristics they desired.

“Aside from the gorgeous and

unique interior of Grace, it was

clear after meeting with [Sabin

Beckwith, head of events at

Grace], that the service and food

at their wedding would be amaz-

ing,” Lindsey said.

Taking cues from Grace’s

architectural features, includ-

ing tall windows and rich wood

Wedding planning

began with lists

of the fi ve most

important things to

include. They both

wanted something

unique that “fi t

our personality,”

included family,

and refl ected their

Catholic faith.

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tones, planning focused around

creating a look to accent the

venue. The color palette was

decidedly organic and cozy: dark

purple, ivory, and chocolate

brown. The colors captured the

fall season without being trite.

The understated table arrange-

ments included garden favorites

like hydrangea, anemone, stock,

seeded Eucalyptus, and English

garden roses to bring “the out-

doors inside.”

Personal touches included

boutonnieres made by the bride

from tweed fabric in the shape

of a leaf with acorns on it. She

carried a “rustic” bouquet of

English garden roses, hydran-

gea, and freesia created by the

same fl orist that supplied Chris

with the fl owers for the engage-

ment dinner. The couple opted

to make many of the Big Day

decorations.

When planning the ceremony,

the couple choose the readings

for the mass and had fun choos-

ing music with the organist.

The menu of “comfort foods

... refl ected the season,” while

being unique. Wedding guests

dined on salmon with fennel,

goat cheese gnocchi, and steak

with fall vegetables, all locally

produced.

Lindsey and Chris wanted the

reception to be fun for all their

guests and made sure to choose

a DJ and music that would

get everyone dancing. Like the

dinner, they, “wanted it to be

a small party of good friends.”

According to Lindsey, “Everyone

was dancing and laughing all

night.”

All the planning paid off, es-

pecially after reading wishes left

by guests on their “wish tree.”

The tree bough painted gold and

placed in a vase was Lindsey's

alternative to the traditional

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The detailsCeremony venue: Holy Martyrs church, Falmouth, Maine

Reception venue: Grace Restaurant

Bride’s gown: Allure couture gown from Madeline's Daughter

Bridesmaids gowns: J. Crew Arabelle dress

Groom’s tux/suit/attire: J.C Penney suit, Bass shoes

Groomsman boutonnieres: Handmade by bride

Flowers: Wildfl ower, Freeport

guest book. The couple plans to

mount and frame a collection of

the wishes from the tree.

The wedding brought out the

importance of family for the

couple. After the wedding, they

hosted family Thanksgiving and

Christmas for the fi rst time,

and they keep “fi nding times

throughout the year to bring

family together,” she said.

Lindsey has started her own

wedding and event design busi-

ness, inspired by their wedding

journey. “I got so much positive

feedback from our guests,” she

said. “It gave me the courage to

start my business.”

Currently, she’s still teaching

at the Collaborative School in

New Gloucester, but the creativ-

ity of event and wedding plan-

ning is her passion. She doubts

she would have made that leap

without their experience.

The couple opted to postpone

their Aruba honeymoon until

April 2012 — during school va-

cation — to enjoy warm weather

and beaches without the crowds.

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You could stuff the bride and her billowy dress into a compact car, with the groom’s tuxedo tails dangling out of the closed door, and the wedding party could follow in a convoy of mismatched vehicles. Functional, but hardly romantic, and often messy. But there are other ways.

Limos. A stretch limo is always the favored standby. To transport the entire wedding party, consider custom stretch Hummers or SUVs like those at Atlantic Limousine of Maine. No word on custom stretch Mini Coopers.

Coaches. For big parties, try a coach or bus. They aren’t as expensive as you might think and provide ample room for large parties and their gear. Cyr Northstar Tours, the largest tour-bus operator in Maine, is no stranger to wedding-coach service. They’ll probably even rent out their 1950s bus if you prefer old-school style.

Trolleys. These days, they don’t need

tracks; these wheeled trolleys can go anywhere, make transporting the wedding party convenient and fun, and offer great sightseeing opportunities before your rehearsal dinner. Look for York Trolley Company in southern Maine and Oli’s Trolley on Mount Desert Island. Mister Rogers would approve.

Carriages. Nothing is classier than a groom arriving on a white horse, sweeping his bride up, and galloping off into the sunset. Unless he’s supposed to gallop toward the church. But if that’s a bit too acrobatic for you, a horse-drawn carriage might do nicely. It’s a beautiful way for the bride to arrive and for the newly wed Lord and Lady to ride off to the reception and then the honeymoon. (Mud-season wedding? Might want to skip this one.) Check out Rockin’ Horse Carriages in Kennebunkport for some truly fairy-tale rides.

Helicopters. What could be cooler than climbing into a helicopter with JUST MARRIED signs on the skids and aluminum cans dangling behind it? You can fi nd helicopter tours all over Maine, particularly in the MDI and Casco Bay areas. Don’t toss the bouquet into that spinning rotor.

Boats. You could arrive by water, or even get married afl oat! Just ask the schooner captains of Maine Windjammer Association or Maine Adventure Sails. If you’d prefer to stay inland, you can’t do better than a wedding on the steamer Katahdin, which sails the expansive Moosehead Lake. Canoes could work, but are riskier.

Do you have an interesting story about wedding transportation? Email editor@marrymemagazine.com

Story David M. Fitzpatrick

There and Back Again: Tips for Big Day Travel

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vendor contacts

Wedding plannerMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

Reception venueMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

RentalsMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

BeveragesMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

CakeMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

FlowersMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

Women’s Attire Main contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

Men’s AttireMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

Ceremony locationMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

Offi ciantMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

Musicians (ceremony)Main contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

Music (reception)Main contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

PhotographerMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

VideographerMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

Stationery/PrinterMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

Wedding bandsMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

TransportationMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

Wedding Night lodgingMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

Guest accommodationsMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

CatererMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

AlterationsMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

Insurance companyMain contact name: _________________

Phone: _____________________________

Website: ____________________________

Address: ____________________________

Keeping track of your vendors will help keep your wedding planning on task. Use this handy sheet of contact information to help you fi nd vendor information quickly.

PHOTO: Debra Bell for Marry ME Magazine

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timeline

Use this timeline to help you plan your wedding day!

General time lengths to consider for each part of the Big Day: 2-3 hours: Bride and bridesmaids hair and makeup:

30 minutes: Groom and Groomsmen get dressed

15-30 minutes: Bride gets into her gown

1-2 hours: Bridal party, couple, and family formal _

portraits NOTE: Allow 2-3 minutes per

grouping for each portrait. If family or

bridal party members are not present

during this time, it will take longer. Ask your

photographer to start with the largest group

and then whittle it down to just the two

of you.

30-45 minutes: Traditional Christian or non-denominational

ceremony

60-90 minutes: Full Catholic Mass

30 minutes: Greeting guests and receiving line.

1 hour: Cocktail Hour

1-2 hours: Reception meal and Toasts. This may take

longer if you have a large guest list and a

buffet meal.

2-4 hours: Dancing, reception activities

Transportation: Varies based on the distance

between your ceremony and reception.

Sample timeline for a traditional 1 p.m. wedding where the ceremony and reception on are onsite and all photos are done post-ceremony: 8 a.m.: Bride gets up for the day and eats light

breakfast with her ladies.

9 a.m.: Bride, bridesmaids and ladies are off to hair,

makeup and nails. Appointment booked well

in advance

10 a.m.: Groom and his guys get together for light

breakfast or brunch

Noon: Bride heads off to preparation room with

gown, bag, and additional preparation items.

TIME SAVER: Save time by booking a room

onsite (if a hotel) the night before so all your

stuff is in the preparation room.

12:15 p.m.: Groom and his guys get dressed.

12:30 p.m.: Bride begins prepping to get into her gown.

All bridesmaids, mothers, and flower girls

are in their formal attire.

12:30 p.m.: Ceremony musicians begin prelude while

guests arrive.

12:45 p.m.: Groom and the guys meet officiant and head

to ceremony site.

12:55 p.m.: Bride and attendants head to meeting

location to begin procession

1 p.m.: Procession begins

1:30 p.m.: Bride and Groom recess as Mr. and Mrs.!

1:30-2 p.m.: Receiving line finishes and couple as well

as all attendants and family head off for

photographs while guests head off to

cocktail hour.

3 p.m.-4 p.m.: Based on the number of photographs you

want taken, this is when the reception should

be slated to start.

4:15 p.m.: Introductions, toasts, and the meal

TIME SAVER: Consider doing your first dance

right after introductions and before the

toasts.

6:15 p.m.: Reception starts with first dance, father-

daughter dance, mother-son dance. Schedule

the other “reception events” such as the cake

cutting, bouquet toss and garter toss. But,

schedule them relatively quickly after dinner

as guests will be expecting cake! Then...

dance the night away!

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soundtrackThe music you use for your wedding is as important as the colors you choose, the attendants who surround you, and the food you serve your guests. Your music will set the scene for each part of your wedding.

Ceremony musicians:Contact person: _______________________________________

Address: ______________________________________________

Special needs: ________________________________________

Cocktail hour musicians:Contact person: _______________________________________

Address: ______________________________________________

Special needs: ________________________________________

Reception musicians:Contact person: _______________________________________

Address: ______________________________________________

Special needs: ________________________________________

Prelude and Ceremony Music soundtrack:Prelude: ______________________________________________

Procession: ___________________________________________

Seating of the mothers: _______________________________

Procession of the groom and his guys: _________________

Procession of the bridesmaids and flower girl: __________

Bride’s entrance: ______________________________________

Ceremony meditation: _________________________________

Ceremony meditation: _________________________________

Special ceremonies: ___________________________________

Other: ________________________________________________

Recessional: __________________________________________

Cocktail hour soundtrack:What should the feel of the music be? __________________

Reception soundtrack:Introductions: _________________________________________

First dance: ___________________________________________

Mother-son dance: ____________________________________

Father-daughter dance: ________________________________

Cake cutting: _________________________________________

Bouquet toss: _________________________________________

Garter toss: ___________________________________________

Special requests: ______________________________________

Special requests: ______________________________________

Special requests: ______________________________________

Special requests: ______________________________________

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emergency kit

Pack an emergency wedding day kit

Brides- and grooms-to-be hope and pray their wedding day will go off without a hitch. After a year or more of planning and writing checks for so many things, couples hope that it all comes together in the end. For most it does. Others may need a little help keeping things on track.

Although the idea is to hope for the best, being prepared for a few obstacles along the way can ensure the day goes smoothly. Many couples fi nd it wise to pack an emergency kit, stocked with items to make repairs or handle tie ups with ease.

Brides and grooms can use this checklist to compile a wedding day kit that meets their needs and customize with any speciality items.

__ needle and thread in white, black and the

color of bridesmaid gowns

__ extra pairs of pantyhose

__ pain reliever pills

__ antacid

__ quick-clean detergent stick

__ bandages

__ powder

__ deodorant

__ double-sided tape

__ black buttons

__ sanitary pads or tampons

__ mints/gum

__ makeup for touch-ups

__ extra cash

__ slippers or a change of shoes

__ umbrellas

__ hairspray

__ hair pins

__ names and phone numbers of all wedding vendors

__ static cling spray

__ hair dryer

__ contact lens solution/eye drops

__ nail file

__ nail clipper

__ straws (to sip drinks without ruining lipstick)

__ safety pins

__ black socks

__ earring backs

PHOTOS: Top Joanna Thyer Photography | Bottom Kristina O’Brien Photography

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Fall/Winter 2012 Marry ME Magazine Advertiser Directory

ACCOMMODATION

Atlantic Oceanside119 Eden St., Bar Harbor207-288-5801www.barharbormainehotel.com

Bar Harbor InnNewport Dr., Bar Harbor207-288-3351www.barharborinn.com

Marriott Portland200 Sable Oask Dr., South Portland207-871-8000www.marriottsouthportland.com

Nonantum Resort95 Ocean Ave., Kennebunkport207-967-4050www.nonantumresort.com

Portland Regency20 Milk St., Portland207-774-4200www.theregency.com

Point Lookout Resort67 Atlantic Hwy., Northport1-800-515-3611www.visitpointlookout.com

Ramada Inn357 Odlin Rd., Bangor207-947-6961www.bangorramada.com

Ramada Inn Ellsworth215 High St., Ellsworth207-667-9341www.ramada.com

Stage Neck Inn8 Stage Neck Rd., York Harbor207-363-3850www.stageneck.com

York Harbor Inn480 York St., York Harbor207-351-1865www.yorkharborinn.com

ATTIRE

Henry’s Bridal Boutique & Formal Wear31 Washington St., Bangor207-947-0701www.bangorbridal.com

Willey’s Formal Wear248 State St., Suite 19, Ellsworth207-664-2525www.mainegunshops.com/formal-wear-default.asp

CATERING/RESTAURANT

Thistles Restaurant175 Exchange St., Bangor207-945-5480

DANCE LESSONS

Back Door Dance Studio34 Lois Lane, Eddington207-356-1454www.backdoordance.com

DJ

Dana Lavertu DJ90 Ridgeview Dr., Veazie207-947-5114 or 800-571-5114www.danalavertu.com

EVENT PLANNER

Paradis & Foster Events, LLCBangor, Maine207-852-0872 & 207-852-3747www.paradisfoster.com

FLORISTS

Fleurishes Design27 Thels Way, Bar Harbor207-479-7210www.chelceydunhamfleurishes.com

Island FlowersEast Side Dr., Verona207-469-7967www.veronaislandflowers.com

Lougee & Fredericks364 State St., Bangor800-879-5996www.lougeefrederick.net

HONEYMOON

Atlantic Oceanside119 Eden St., Bar Harbor207-288-5801www.barharbormainehotel.com

Bar Harbor InnNewport Dr., Bar Harbor207-288-3351www.barharborinn.com

Black Bear Inn4 Godfrey Dr., Orono207-866-7120www.blackbearinnorono.com

Nonantum Resort95 Ocean Ave, Kennebunkport207-967-4050www.nonantumresort.com

Portland Regency20 Milk St., Portland207-774-4200www.theregency.com

Ramada Inn357 Odlin Rd., Bangor207-947-6961www.bangorramada.com

Ramada Inn Ellsworth215 High St., Ellsworth207-667-9341www.ramada.com

Stage Neck Inn8 Stage Neck Rd., York Harbor207-363-3850www.stageneck.com

York Harbor Inn480 York St., York Harbor207-351-1865

HEALTH & BEAUTY

Anthony Johns Day Spa1010 Stillwater Ave., Bangor207-907-4263www.anthonyjohnsdayspa.com

Bar Harbor Inn and SpaNewport Dr., Bar Harbor207-288-8455 or 800-350-3352www.barharborinn.com/spa.html

INVITATIONS

Bell Imaging & Design890 Coldbrook Rd., Hermon207-356-2353www.bellphotostudio.com

PHOTOGRAPHY

Bell Imaging & Design890 Coldbrook Rd., Hermon207-356-2353www.bellphotostudio.com

Kristina O’Brien Photography149 Melissa Drive, Yarmouth207-272-6872www.kristinaobrien.com

Shane’s Wedding PhotographyPO Box 813, York207-337-1894www.shanesweddingphotography.com

RECEPTION/REHEARSAL DINNER/BRIDAL SHOWER

Atlantic Oceanside119 Eden St., Bar Harbor207-288-5801www.barharbormainehotel.com

Bar Harbor InnNewport Dr., Bar Harbor207-288-3351www.barharborinn.com

Black Bear Inn4 Godfrey Dr., Orono207-866-7120www.blackbearinnorono.com

Meadowbrook Reception Hall34 Lois Lane, Eddington207-356-1454www.backdoordance.com/rental.html

Nonantum Resort95 Ocean Ave., Kennebunkport207-967-4050www.nonantumresort.com

Peakes Hill Lodge40 Peaks Hill Rd., Dedham207-944-8319www.peakeshilllodge.com

Portland Regency20 Milk St., Portland207-774-4200www.theregency.com

Point Lookout Resort67 Atlantic Hwy., Northport1-800-515-3611www.visitpointlookout.com

Ramada Inn357 Odlin Rd., Bangor207-947-6961www.bangorramada.com

Ramada Inn Ellsworth215 High St., Ellsworth207-667-9341www.ramada.com

Stage Neck Inn8 Stage Neck Rd., York Harbor207-363-3850www.stageneck.com

York Harbor Inn480 York St., York Harbor207-351-1865www.yorkharborinn.com

RENTALS

Wallace Tent36 Commerce Park, Ellsworth207-667-6000 or 207-593-7643www.wallacetent.com

SALONS & SPAS

Anthony Johns Day Spa1010 Stillwater Ave., Bangor207-907-4263www.anthonyjohnsdayspa.com

Bar Harbor Inn and SpaNewport Dr., Bar Harbor207-288-8455 or 800-350-3352www.barharborinn.com/spa.html

TRANSPORTATION

Oli’s Trolley1 West St., Bar Harbor207-288-9899www.olistrolley.com

TUXEDOS

Henry’s Bridal Boutique & Formal Wear31 Washington St., Bangor207-947-0701www.bangorbridal.com

Willey’s Formal Wear248 State St., Suite 19, Ellsworth207-664-2525www.mainegunshops.com/formal-wear-default.asp

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A Marry ME MagazineStyled Shoot

PHOTOS: Debra Bell for Marry ME Magazine

Model: Ashley (Soucie) Tucci is originally from Aroostook County, but now lives with her husband Dave and their daughter in Portland. She was married on September 19, 2009.Location: We travelled to Bar Harbor’s West Street to do our photography shoot. Starting out at the Harborside Hotel’s spa for hair and makeup and some beach shots, we travelled up West Street to the Bar Harbor Inn to include the brilliant foliage. Gown: Ashley looks stunning in Lizette Royale, a Maggie Sottero gown provided by House of Brides in Bangor, Maine. This style of gown has an optional fl orette strap to create an asymmetrical look. This gown fulfi lled a dream of Ashley’s to wear a ballroom style gown. (Retail: $1,529)Flowers: We asked Gail Royal, owner of Westside Florist in Southwest Harbor, to create a fl oral look that would match our outdoor photo session and Ashley’s gown. She created an presentation bouquet of white phalaenopsis orchids with lemon leaf and lily grass foliage. The fl owers in the bouquet are a perfect compliment to Ashley’s dress.Hair and Makeup: Anthony John’s Day Spa loaned the talents of Cosmetologist Danielle Lane and Esthetician Danielle Dumont who handled Ashley’s hair and makeup. With shorter hair, we opted not to use a veil. Instead, Ashley’s hair was styled in soft curls. Her makeup was done to refl ect the natural setting of Bar Harbor’s West Street.Jewelry: We used diamonds from G.M. Pollack and Sons in Bangor, to accent Ashley’s look. Ashley wore a 14K white gold 1 d carat diamond bypass necklace ($5999.95), 14K white gold 1 carat bypass diamond bracelet ($4999.95), a 14K white gold ladies 1 carat diamond halo earrings ($4,699.99), and 14K white gold 1 carat diamond ring with 3 carat diamonds surrounding the center stone ($11,999.95).

The Ring The Necklace The Bracelet

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“If you have only one smile in you, give it to the people you love.” ~Maya Angelou

PHOTO: Debra Bell for Marry ME Magazine

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