marriage conference 2012 part 6

7/31/2019 Marriage Conference 2012 Part 6

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Three Areas

FinancesIn-Laws

Parenting

Potential Thunderclouds


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Finances

Attitudes: Your trust

Prov. 23.5:Do no overwork to berich. Will you set your eyes on thatwhich is not, for richesmakeswingsthey fly away

Insight: Set your eyes are on theLord for provisions (CF. Prov. 3.5;

Jer. 17.7)



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Finances

Attitudes: Your trust

I Tim. 6.17:Command those whoare rich in this present age not tobe haughty nor TRUST in theuncertainty of riches, BUT in theliving God

Insight: It really does matter to God

where that heart goes when in need



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Finances

Attitudes: 1 Tim. 6.6-10

godliness with contentment isgreat gain

having food & clothing with these

we shall be content contentment=state of having what

is adequate; happy with you have &

happy with what others have



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Finances

Attitudes: 1 Tim. 6.6-10

those who desire to be rich fall

intotemptation and a snare

into foolishlusts which drown

pierced themselveswithmanysorrows

Insight: This is a very dangerousstorm: It seems beautiful but deadly



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Finances

Actions: 1 Tim. 6.17-19 (Cf. 1 Tim. 5.8;Acts 20.33-35)

who gives us richly all things to enjoy.Let them do goodrich in goodworksready to give, willing to share

Insight: At first glance, it looks like wehave what we have for our enjoyment

Insight: Actually, we have what we have

for good worksgiving & sharing



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Finances

Practical Approaches

1. Plan budget together (remember

Prices rule)2. Dont spend it all

3. Look for needs

4. Prayerfully met needs

5. Give without expectations

6. Receive with grace



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In-Laws

Attitude:

Eph. 6.2:honor your father &

motherwhich is the first

Pr. 30.11:There is a generationthat curses its father & does notbless its mother

Lev. 19.3:Every one of you shall

revere his mother & his father



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In-Laws

Action:

1 Tim 5.4-8:if anychildren or

grandchildren, let them first learn toshowrepayacceptable to Goddoesnot provide for his owndenied the

(Cf. Mt. 15.4-6) Insight: Provide for your parents

financially, physicallyit testifies of the

faith we have in Christ



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In-Laws

Approach:

Teach the children to honor:

grandchildrento repayacceptableto God(1 Tim. 5.4-8)

Differences:

Unsaved parents (still honor, not re-peat with discretion)

Saved parents (still honor, may re-

peat with discretion)



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In-Laws

Approach:

Influence: In your marriage

Take your stand with the Scripturesi.e. if parentalcounsel/influence/advice is contrary to

Scripturestand with the Word Distance: Sometimes distance is a

good thing to allow your own marital

identity to mature



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In-Laws

Approach:

Influence: On your children:

Take your stand with the Word withhonor

Dont be overly reactive

Communicate your limits respectfully;give alternatives (e.g. sugar free gum;movie options; etc.)

Detoxwont kill you nor the kids



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Parenting

Children: When, how many, how oftentalk about it

Parenting: Mutual parent support: Back each other

up; disagree privately

Dads role; honor each other publicly Communicate with one another

Consistency: Say what you mean & do

what you say



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Parenting

Parenting:

Train for obedience: Immediately, tho-

roughly, consistently and cheerfully Aim for the heart: Gradual switch from

obedience from fear of consequence to

obedience from a spontaneously willingheart

Cultivate the concept of trust: The

main fiber of all relationships



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Marriage

is what

broughtus

together

today


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