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So…You believe you’ve found Your Knight in Shining Armor. Read

on!

Every time I ask a woman what are the qualities she looks for in a man, I can

almost always predict what the response would be. Some of their most

popular qualities include, concern, honesty, a sense of humor, generosity,patience, and loyalty. The problem with all of those attributes is that they are

not always easy to verify in the early stages of a relationship since most men

will obviously try to portray their best “self”; and by the time the man’s true

colors are revealed, both individuals are already so deeply in love that

there’s no turning back.

 There are three qualities, however, that I believe should be at the top of 

every woman’s list. While I agree that it would require a sharpening of one’s

inductive and deductive reasoning skills in order to identify those three traits

in a man, with a little practice, women ought to be able to cut through thesuperficial layers of a man into the core of his being. The top three, crucial

qualities to look for, in my opinion, are:

1. A man who believes in personal growth and spiritual

development. By spiritual development I don’t necessarily mean a

church-goer, but rather one who believes that there is a much greater

purpose to life than the acquisition of material things and the

satisfaction of carnal pleasures. A man who believes in striving for self-

actualization. This quality is important because:

• Such a man will better be able to recognize weaknesses in

himself, in you, and in the relationship, and be willing to do

whatever it takes to help both of you, and the relationship

improve.

• He is more likely to be monogamous and to resist cheating,

because he would have learnt from his past mistakes and

reached a point in his life where casual sex has lost its appeal.

• He is also more likely to come with a wealth of relationship

experience and a manual which he would have compiled through

the years entitled, “How to Treat a Woman”, or “How to Make aWoman Happy”. It is obvious, that not everyone seems to grow

or learn from their mistakes. But some people are indeed

capable of change and it is usually those who are spiritually-

minded, who reflect on their own lives and care about becoming

better human beings who do.

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1. A man with a healthy self esteem or self image. An unhealthy

self-image usually comes with unhealthy attitudes and behaviours.  I

have found that one of the best ways to spot someone with self 

esteem issues is to look for extremes. Most people tend to compensate

for their deficiencies by hiding behind other dominant traits. Is your

potential mate overly  protective or possessive? Is he too nice, too

unaffectionate, or too macho? Be careful as to what you tolerate

because if he is not the kind of guy described in no. 1 above, what you

might consider a mole hill at the beginning of the relationship might

turn out to be Mount Everest later on! In other words, the guy who

“innocently” asks you where you came from, or who it was you were

talking to on the phone, could turn out to be your worst nightmare.

2. His interactions with other human beings; that includes friends,

family members, children, the elderly and total strangers. An alert

should be sounded somewhere in your head if your man treats you likean angel yet kicks a vagrant at the side of the road for no apparent

reason; or he quarrels with his mother using the most sophisticated

obscenities and derogatory language. A man who genuinely respects

you will also respect any other human being. Also, there are certain

things he will never  say to you, no matter how angry he may be. I

believe this third quality is important because the way your partner

treats others might just be the same way you get treated after the

chemistry and novelty of love has settled. In fact, familiarity can be

such a dangerous thing that some people even treat strangers much

better than their own partners and family members! Hm…