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Journey Through Grief

Special gifts, memorials, and tributes for those grieving the death of a loved one to murder.

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National Organization of

Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. For the families and friends of those

who have died by violence.

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Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. (POMC) is the only nationwide self-help organization dedicated solely to the aftermath and prevention of murder.

MISSION POMC makes the difference through on-going emotional support, education, prevention, advocacy and awareness.

ORIGIN AND GROWTH POMC was founded in 1978 by Charlotte and Robert Hullinger in Cincinnati, Ohio, after the murder of their daughter, Lisa. Father Ken Czillinger, a Roman Catholic priest active in leading support groups for the bereaved, directed the Hullingers to others whose

children had been murdered. What was once a small group is now a national organization with Chapters and Contact Persons throughout the United States.

FINANCES POMC relies mostly on donations to support its outreach to those who have experienced the ultimate loss — the murder of a loved one.

MEMBERSHIP FEES There are no membership fees to belong to POMC. The organization is open to any survivor over 18 of a homicide victim, as well as professionals who work with survivors.

PROGRAMS AND SERVICES

Parole Block Program Murder Is Not Entertainment Big Turn-Off Second Opinion Services Silenced Voices Chapters/Contact Persons Advocacy Court Accompaniment Crisis Intervention Remembrance Program Specialized Grief Retreats Education/Training Annual National Conference Speaker’s Bureau National Website www.pomc.org Consultation Murder Wall...Honoring Their Memories National Day of Remembrance for Murder Victims

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Table of Contents

Thank you for your order. All monies received from sale items are used to provide programs and services to survivors of

homicide victims.

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To Order Call Toll-free: (888) 818-POMC (7662)

Books …………….……………………………………………………………4 Bumper Stickers………………………………………………………….7 License Plate Holder………………………………………………….8 Brochures…………………………………………………………………...9 Clothing…………………………………………………………………... 10 Survivors - National Newsletter………………………………12 Memorials………………………………………………………………….13 Music………………………………………………………………………… 15 National Day of Remembrance ……………………………..16 Pamphlets………………………………………………………………….17 Miscellaneous Merchandise……………………………………18

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Books - $15.00 each


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The Journey Learning to Live with Violent Death

By Connie Saindon This workbook is designed to assist survivors and the professionals who facilitate grief support groups. Connie encourages readers to write about their experiences as they journey through this grieving and healing process.

Donation: $15.00

Murder Survivor’s Handbook Real-Life Stories, Tips &

Resources

By Connie Saindon This book provides survivors with information to help them cope with the traumatic grief of the loss of a loved one while preserving their memory.

Donation: $15.00

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Books—$10.00 each

What To Do When The Police Leave By Bill Jenkins “A needed and invaluable source of practical, insightful information for both survivors of homicide victims and the professionals who work with them.” -Jean Lewis, Past President, POMC

Donation: $10.00

Aftermath: In The Wake Of Murder By Carrie M. Freitag

“Aftermath provides an insightful view and much needed validation of the feelings and torments of survivor grief after murder. All the thorny issues of rage, failure, guilt, forgiveness, and despair are can-didly discussed, as well as flaws of our criminal justice system.” Jean Lewis, Past President, POMC

Donation: $10.00

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Books - $10.00 each


Stabbed in the Heart Three Murdered Children Two Resilient Mothers

By Lynn Shiner & Nancy Chavez with Nancy Eshelman This book follows two women surviving the murder of their children through domestic violence. How they moved forward despite the hardships and found a way to help other survivors. Donation: $10.00

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Inside The Criminal Mind By Stanton E. Samenow “Based on the results of more than a decade of study of criminal behavior and the extensive experience of clinical psychologist Dr. Stanton E. Samenow, Inside the Criminal Minds redefines what motivates criminals and explains what must be done to deal with them effectively.”

Donation: $10.00

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Bumper Stickers- $1.00 each or 6 for $5.00


Murder Is Not Entertainment

Donation: $1.00

Parole Block Donation: $1.00

Someone I Love Was Murdered Donation: $1.00

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License Plate Holders

Murder Is Not Entertainment

Donation: $1.00 ea. Or 6 for $5.00

Someone I Love Was Murdered


Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc.


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Brochures ($0.15/each or $10.00 for 100)


* Also Available In Spanish

POMC’s original bro-chure — Covers: Why We Are Here, Local Chapters, Thoughts on Coping, etc.

Parole Block Program Keep a murderer in prison for minimum sentence.

Courage to Grieve Information on POMC’s grief retreats.

Murder Wall Place your loved one’s name on the murder wall to honor their memories.

Making The Difference Describes all POMC programs and services.

Sibling Grief Written by siblings for siblings.

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Clothing

Parole Block Program T-shirts

Size: 2X only

Donation: $4.00 Each

Sweatshirts

Size: L/XL/3X/4X

Donation: $8.00 Each

Parole Block Program

The goal of the Parole Block Program is to help prevent the early release/parole of those convicted of murder or homicide. It is not the objective of the program to judge or reevaluate the circumstances surrounding the crime. A judge and/or jury has heard the facts, determined the degree of guilt, and imposed a sentence — PBP helps to ensure that the minimum side of that sentence is served.

Murder Is Not Entertainment Program

In November 1993, the National Organization of Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc.® (POMC), launched the Mur-der Is Not Entertainment (MINE) Program. MINE wants to eliminate the playing and marketing of violence and mur-der as forms of entertainment for both children and adults. The program strives to instill the same empathy and re-spect for victims of murder that society affords victims of other tragedies. Through education, crime prevention, and promoting an overall change of attitude, the MINE Pro-gram drives home the message - Murder Is Not Entertain-ment.

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MINE T-Shirts Size: 2X/ 3X /4X

Donation: $2.00

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Clothing

ANGEL T-SHIRTS

The Angel T-Shirt is Navy Blue with white lettering. It has the words, “Some People only dream of angels * * * I held one in my arms”.

Size: S, M, L, XL, 2X, 3X, 4X

Donation: $15.00 or (2 for $25)

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Survivors Newsletter

The Survivors newsletter is dedicated to the interests and concerns of survi-vors.

Survivors is published three (3) times a year in Spring, Summer and Fall.

This newsletter makes a wonderful gift for survivors, family members, friends, co-workers, those in the criminal justice fields, and professionals who work with survivors. Survivors is available through email only. Please send your email address to [email protected], if you would like to subscribe to our newsletter. See special order form …..

Donation: $10.00

POMC National Newsletter - Survivors

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Memorials

POMC National Memorial Ribbon The red and black ribbons are made by survivors across the country in memory of their loved ones. The red represents the violence in society and the black symbolizes death and mourning. The angel pins worn with the ribbons symbolize the victims. Donation with Angel pin: $8.00 Donation without Angel: $2.00

Murder Wall...Honoring Their Memories

Not only is the Murder Wall...Honoring Their Memories a tribute to the memory of your loved one, it is a tribute that will guarantee that the memory of those we miss so deeply will survive forever. The Wall is a powerful statement of the vio-lence in our society and of the numbers of loved ones senselessly killed by oth-ers. Not only does it give comfort, but also hope, because every name on it cries out silently for awareness, prevention, and justice. The Wall is made up of solid walnut plaques. Each plaque holds 120 names with dates of birth and dates of death engraved on brass plates measuring 2-1/2” x 1”. The Wall continues to be displayed at the National Conference. Donation: $75.00 - per inscribed plate See special order form……...

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Individual Murder Wall Photos Photos of the individual panel on which your loved one’s name ap-pears. Contact POMC for details. Donation: $10.00

Super-imposed Wall Photos Have your loved one’s photo super-imposed on the panel on which his/her name appears. Contact POMC for details. Donation: $80.00 Additional copies: $39.50 each

POMC Website Pop-up Memorial - www.pomc.org

POMC invites you to dedicate the POMC National Website to your loved one, or to honor a special person in your life, such as a friend or family member, fellow POMC member, etc.

Have that special person’s photo, name and age, or just name and age, pop-up on the front page of the Website.

NOTE: There may be more than one person memorialized or honored on any particular day. Individual dedications are not available on September 25th, POMC’s National Day of Remembrance. Contact POMC for details. Donation: $10.00

In Remembrance/In Sympathy Give a donation to remember a loved one during the holidays, on

their date of birth/date of death, any special occasion, or just because. Donations sent in “memory of ” will appear in the next issue of the Survivors newsletter.

Choose POMC as the charity of choice in lieu of flowers. POMC will notify the family of your donation (amount not disclosed), when making “in sympathy” donations, be sure to include the fami-ly’s name and mailing address.

Murder Wall...Honoring Their Memories

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POMC Theme Song: We Are The Survivors

Written by Richard Wright and sung by Rich-ard Wright and Kimberly Tewksbury. Back side of tape is music and back-up singing for use in memorials, etc.

Cassette Donation: : $1.00

National Day of Remembrance—Sept. 25th

POMC Theme Song: We Are The Survivors CD

New version of We Are The Survivors song. Back side of CD is music and back-up singing for use in memorials , etc. CD

Donation: : $5.00

Music

National Day of Remembrance Flag To be flown from flagpoles on Sep-tember 25th (3 ‘ x 5’). Donation: $ 40.00

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Remembrance Ribbons 18” x 7/8” - to be tied on car antennas for National Day of Remembrance (September 25th each year). Donation: 100 for $1.00

National Day of Remembrance—Sept. 25th

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Day of Remembrance T-shirts

S/L/XL Donation: $12.00 2X /5X Donation: $15.00

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Pamphlets

Path Through The Criminal

Justice System POMC Covers varied aspects of the criminal justice system, including the roles of various professionals within the system. Donation: $1.00

Available in Spanish

Inner Grief of Men… Dealing

With The Pain By Hyman Eisenberg, father of a murdered son.

Donation: $1.00

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Miscellaneous Merchandise

9” Red Balloon with POMC logo and the words: “Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. For the families and friends of those who have died by violence.” Great for any POMC event Donation: $0.50 per balloon

POMC Chip Clip The Chip Clip is black and red with POMC’s name, logo and website listed. Donation: $2.00

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Heart Photo Magnet Heart pops out to make two magnets and you can place your loved one’s picture in the heart- shaped opening. Donation: $0.50 Or 3 for $1.00

M.I.N.E. Button Murder Is Not Entertainment


POMC Car Magnets Red and black ribbon magnets with POMC’s toll free number. Donation: $5.00

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Someone I Love Was Murdered Bracelet This bracelet is red with embossed lettering “Someone I Love Was Murdered”. The bracelet is similar to the Lance Armstrong expandable silicone bracelet. Donation: $2.00 One Size Only

POMC Band-Aid

The box has POMC’s name and logo on it. Donation: $.50

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POMC Cooler Bag

The Cooler Bag is black and red with POMC’s name and logo. Donation: $8.00

POMC Key Light This Key Light is black and red with POMC’s name, logo and website listed.

Donation: $2.00

POMC Pen This pen is white and red with POMC’s name, logo and website listed.

Donation: $1.00

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POMC Clothing Patches

The patch can be iron on or sewn on clothing. It has POMC’s name and logo on it. Donation: $5.00

M.I.N.E. Murder Is Not Entertainment DVD

The M.I.N.E. program was launched in November of 1993 to edu-cate and eliminate the playing and marketing of violence and mur-der as forms of entertainment for both children and adults. This 11 minute DVD can be used by the presenter as an accompaniment to their presentation to show the many examples of books, games and merchandise. We hope through education we can change the atti-tude that Murder Is Not Entertainment. Donation: $10.00

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POMC ORDER FORM

FOR SHIPPING & HANDLING CHARGES CONTACT NATIONAL POMC FOR AMOUNT

RETURN FORM TO: POMC, INC.

635 West 7th Street, Suite 104

Cincinnati, Ohio 45203

Item Description Size Qty. Price Total

Sub-Total $

Plus S&H $

Total Due $

NAME: ________________________________________________________________________________

ADDRESS: _____________________________________________________________________________

CITY/STATE/ZIP: ________________________________________________________________________

DAYTIME PHONE: _______________________________________________________________________

ENCLOSED IS MY: CHECK MONEY ORDER IN THE AMOUNT OF: $______________

CHARGE MY: VISA M/C DISCOVER AMX IN THE AMOUNT OF: $______________

SIGNATURE: _________________________

CARD NUMBER:___________________________ SEC. CODE #:__________ EXP. DATE:_______________

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Murder Wall...Honoring Their Memories Order Form

Anyone interested in having their loved one’s name inscribed and permanently mounted on the Wall should fill out the order

form below. Make checks payable to “POMC Murder Wall” or for your convenience, Visa, MasterCard, Discover & American

Express are accepted. Send to: Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc., 635 West 7th Street, Suite 104


Please accept my donation in loving memory of:

Loved One’s Name (please print clearly): ____________________________________________________________

______________________________________ _______________________________________ Date of Birth Date of Death

Choice of payment (check one): □ PAY IN FULL ($75.00) □ 5 payments of $15.00 each

Type of payment (check one): □ Check □ Money Order Credit Card: □ Visa □ MasterCard □ Discover □ AMX

Name: _____________________________________________________________________________________________

Address: ___________________________________________________________________________________________

City, State, Zip: ______________________________________________________________________________________

Phone No: _________________________________________________________________________________________

Relationship to Victim: ________________________________________________________________________________

Card Number: __________________________________ Sec. Code #:____________ Exp. Date: ___________________

Signature: _________________________________________________________________________________________

The name will be added to the panel upon payment in full. Once your plate has been permanently mounted on the panel, you will be notified. New panels join the Wall as they are completed.

SURVIVORS NEWSLETTER SUBSCRIPTION

Please find enclosed $10.00 for my annual subscription (three issues) for the Survivors Newsletter ($25.00 outside the United States). Please consider adding an extra subscription fee to help defray the cost for someone who cannot afford it.

Name:______________________________________________

Address:____________________________________________

City:________________________________________________

State/Zip:____________________________________________

Phone w/Area Code:___________________________________

Mail to: POMC, Inc. 635 West 7th Street, Suite 104


Fax: (513) 345-4489

Enclosed is my: □Check □Money Order

In the amount of $_______________ for a _______

year subscription.

Please charge $________________ for a _______ year subscription to my:

□Visa □MasterCard □Discover □AMX

Card #:___________________________________

Sec. Code #:_______________________________

Expiration Date: ____________________________

Signature: ________________________________

______ I have enclosed an extra subscription fee to defray the cost for someone who cannot afford a Survivors Newsletter subscription.

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Phone: (888) 818-POMC

Fax: (513) 345-4489

E-mail: [email protected]

Website: www.pomc.org

National Organization of

Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. For the families and friends of those

who have died by violence.

(Rev. 3/9/18)

POMC

635 West 7th Street, Suite 104


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