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Self Esteem and Your Athletes
By Joe Richer, CAA
WIAA Coaches School
Yakima, Wa.
2010
Listen
Listening
“Being listened to is so close to
being loved that some people
cannot tell the difference”.
David Oxford
Amelia Lorinda Richer!?
• “Coaching is a profession
of love. You can’t coach
people unless you love
them.”
• Eddie Robinson
• Grambling University
• 400+ Wins
Coach/Role Model
“Who you are speaks
so loudly, I can’t hear
what you are saying.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
• “We are what we repeatedly
do. Excellence, then, is not an
act but a habit.”
• Aristotle
Nathaniel Branden
• “How we feel about ourselves crucially affects
virtually every aspect of our experience, from
the way we function at work, in love, in sex, to
the way we operate as parents, to how high in
life we are likely to rise.”
• “I cannot think of a single psychological
problem that is not traceable to a poor self-
concept.”
Nathaniel Braden
• Six Pillars of Self Esteem
•“The Man in the Glass!!”
Self Esteem
• What it’s not!
– It’s not a sometime thing, it’s all the time.
– It’s not bragging (Today’s peacock, curl in the tail)
– It’s not getting a pat on the back for EVERYTHING
done.
• 1900 – 90% of grandchildren lived with or in the neighborhood of grandparents
• 1940 – 70%
• Today – Less than 10%
• The “Gran Torino” granddaughter.
SELF ESTEEMWhat is it?
80% 1st Grade
20% 5th Grade
5% Seniors
Self Concept and Self Esteem
SELF CONCEPT
• Coach
• Teacher
• Parent
• Church member
• Relationships
• Athlete
SELF ESTEEM
• Global definition
of all self
concepts
DEFINITION
• “the disposition to experience oneself as competent to cope with life’s challenges and being worthy of happiness.”
• Nathaniel Branden
The thrill of
victory!
You lose.
The camaraderie of teamwork.
•Poker Chip Theory• Relationships
• Classroom
• Athletic Venue
Holistic Model of Self Esteem
• Thought
• Intuition
• Imagination
• Body
• Emotions
• The Will
• Higher Self
Thoughts• 50,000 Thoughts a Day
• Do you talk to yourself?
• Negative thought patterns must be changed
• Affirmations
• Don’t
• Burying “Can’t”
The Body
• Self Acceptance
• Mirror Exercise
• “Whatever my defects or imperfections, I
accept myself unreservedly and completely.”
• (Accepting does not mean liking-a fact is a
fact).
• “As a man thinketh, so is he.”• Bible
• “Whether you think you
can or think you can’t,
you’re right.”• Henry Ford
•Kineseology
Exercise
•False
•Experiences
•Appearing
•Real
E + R = O• Lemons/Lemonade
• Martha Stewart
• Amputees
• Jesse Owens
GOAL SETTING• Conceivable
• Believable
• Achievable
• Controlable
• Measureable
• Desirable
• Stated with No Alternative
• Growth Facilitating
• Guided Imagery (Skyscraper
• Visualization
Thank You