It Takes Two To Fight And Two To Make It Work

None of us ever think in the beginning of a

relationship that it will end.

It’s just the opposite. You are certain the love will

last a lifetime.

Sometimes relationships end because we forget

that

it takes two to fight and two to make it work.

What you need to keep in mind is that just because

you have disagreements it doesn’t mean you don’t

love each other.

Things might be different, but it doesn’t mean that

the love is gone.

In my opinion, fighting can be about many different

things.

There could be underlying insecurities coming to the

surface,

or maybe the two of you just don’t agree on what a relationship is ‘supposed’

to be like.

You don’t have to be velcro’d to your partner

24/7 to show that you are a couple.

Some people seem to think that you should do

everything together.

Oh, lordy, that would drive me insane!

If the two of you are together all the time, it

won’t take long

before you have nothing to talk about.

Wow, that’s some kind of a stale and boring

relationship!

You might find yourselves fighting more just to have

something to do!

Each of you should have hobbies or interests that you pursue separately.

You will feel more fulfilled as a person

and you will have some new experiences to share

with your partner.

The flip side of the coin is where one partner is

constantly gone.

Whether they are working or just hanging out with

friends doesn’t really matter,

the partner left behind feels neglected and

unloved.

Neglecting your partner is a good way to cause a

breakup.

Another sore spot in relationships is money.

Fights often start over how the money is saved or

spent.

These issues can take a while to resolve, especially

so

if one of you is a saver and the other a spender.

This is where a compromise is going to

have to be reached.

If you are pooling your money, you will have to

make some decisions and stick to them.

There needs to be some money allocated for

savings and some for spending.

This way each of you is comfortable.

Relationships that last over the long haul are the

ones

where the partners have learned the art of

compromise.

Compromise isn’t about winning or losing,

it’s about being mature enough to make things work for both of you.

Being in love and learning to live in harmony with

one another is a wonderful thing.

If it weren’t, you wouldn’t see couples that are

married for 40 years or more.

Making a relationship work starts with sitting down

and discussing things that could cause fights before

it becomes an issue.

You need to work things out before they become

problems,

agree on how to handle the situation

then you won’t need to worry too much about

fighting.