Begin at the EndDr. Dawn-Elise Snipes PhD, LPC, CRC, NCC

Review Last Week0For each of the following identify

1. How will you know when you have achieved your goal2. What do you need to learn, and how are you going to do

it?3. What do you need to do---specifically?4. 1 way you can maintain your motivation?

0 To get in shape0 To stay clean0 To improve your social circle0 To improve your parenting skills

Objectives

0Self-discover0Clarify your deeply important character values and

life goals. 0Envision the ideal characteristics for each of your

various roles and relationships in life.

Self-Discovery

0Many addicts have forgotten who they are (if they ever knew)

0Addiction encourages people to be chameleons in order to get acceptance

0Growing up in an addicted household teaches people not to trust, feel or speak

Activity0 Identify the 10 people who you spent the most time

with or who were most influential in your life.Can include family, friends, neighbors, coaches, ministers, teachers, bosses etc.

0 For each of those people, identify what they taught you about…

0 Yourself0 What is important in life0 What you do not want to be like or do

0What did the media (television, music, magazines) teach you about…

0Yourself0What is important in life0What you do not want to be like or do

Activity

0Who Says….0 In the previous activity, you identified what values and

messages you got from other people. Review each of those messages0Do you agree with them? Why or why not?0 If your child or best friend did not have one of these

qualities, would you care about them less?

Activity

0Think back and list who your mentors or idols were at each of the following ages:0 Middle School0 High School0 Early 20s0 Now

0What was it about them that you admired?

Activity0Break up into small groups0Review several magazines such as People, Oprah,

Redbook, Family Circle, GQ, Sports Illustrated0 Look at the articles and advertisments.

0What are they telling you about?0Why is this important/Why do you (or the average person)

care?0What values and ideas are they communicating to you?0How would the people in the magazine define success?

Success0 People define success differently.0 Did you agree with mainstream media’s portrayal of

what success means?0 On your paper, make 4 columns (landscape)0 On the left side of your paper, list what success means to

you0 In the 2nd column, define that characteristic in

observable terms (What would that look like)0 In the third column, identify how your current behaviors

prevent you from achieving each of the characteristics0 The 4th column is your homework

Homework

0 Review your vision of success0 Identify one thing you can start doing to achieve each

characteristic listed0 Example:

0 Success means being happy. 0 I will know I am happy when I am able to notice and

appreciate the little things every day.0 I am preventing that right now by using too much energy being

angry and resentful and trying to control things over which I have no control

0To achieve this goal, I can start saying the serenity prayer to remind me to let go of the things I cannot control