intimacy involves including another in your self concept
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Intimate Relationships a person’s desire for a warm, close relationship. The sharing of that which is inmost with others (could we get any cheesier?). Intimacy Involves Including Another in Your Self Concept. Attribution process -less of a distinction between themselves and others - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
Intimate RelationshipsIntimate Relationshipsa person’s desire for a warm, close a person’s desire for a warm, close relationship. The sharing of that which is relationship. The sharing of that which is inmost with others (could we get any inmost with others (could we get any cheesier?)cheesier?)
Intimacy Involves Including Intimacy Involves Including Another in Your Self ConceptAnother in Your Self Concept
Attribution processAttribution process-less of a distinction between -less of a distinction between
themselves and othersthemselves and others-costs and rewards are not as important-costs and rewards are not as important-Partner’s self schema is part of our -Partner’s self schema is part of our
ownown-shared memory-shared memory
Parent-Child Attachments
• Ainsworth: three types of attachment styles in infancy– Secure– Avoidant– Anxious-ambivalent
• Hazan, Shaver, and Bradshaw (1988)
Hazan, Shaver, and Bradshaw Infants Secure
62% Avoidant
23% A-A
15%
Adults 56% 24% 20%
Childhood Attachment and Romantic Relationships seeking or avoiding
intimacy in adulthood has roots in childhood experience
Securely attached people learn how to foster intimacy
Couples with securely attached people are happiest
Friendship Superficial
based on the exchange principle. Developed
Based on exchange AND mutual concern
Self-Disclosure Revealing of personal information about
oneself Social Penetration Theory
Development of a relationship moves from discussion of superficial topics to more intimate topics
Cultural Differences between North Americans and Eastern cultures
Romantic Romantic RelationshipsRelationships• Initial Romantic encounters are often Initial Romantic encounters are often
ambiguousambiguous• Pick up linesPick up lines• Unrequited LoveUnrequited Lovegrieve, assign blame, grieve, assign blame,
accept failure, move onaccept failure, move on• Emphasis on PersistenceEmphasis on Persistence
Sternberg’s Theory of Love
Men in Love Men appear to be more
eager to fall in love than women do
More likely to believe in love at first sight
More likely to be idealistic
Fall in love faster and out of love more slowly
Sex and Relationship IssuesSex and Relationship Issues
Dating relationships Dating relationships with sex last longer…with sex last longer…why?why?The Coolidge effectThe Coolidge effect
Ending Relationships Women more
likely to initiate break ups
Initiator suffers the least
Men and women deal in different ways