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Innovating with Conflict in times of Rapid Change
APA Indiana Chapter Presented by
Karen Valencic
Spiral Impact The Power to Get It Done With Grace
The Primary Elements:
Support
Intention
Focused Energy
Knowledge
Results are achieved Quadrant Shifting through the spiral elements.
©2004, Karen Valencic
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What statements are you currently making about this situation?
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Stand Still
Push out of way
Sneak Around
Deal with & Go Around
Spiral Impact
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“For every action there is an equal and
opposite reaction.”
Sir Isaac Newton
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Conflict =
Strike together
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Destructive Conflict: Pushes too hard, too long, or both
Intention is to control, dominate, make wrong, or destroy
Creative Conflict: Pushes ‘just right’ for people involved
Intention is to engage for positive outcome
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Aikido The way of life through the blending of energy.
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Nurture or protect your attacker as well as yourself.
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1st Check Physical Position, then 2nd Turn your statements into questions, acknowledgements, or both
Avoid ‘why?’
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Key Learning Points
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Refer to the conflict or challenge you wrote out earlier Change those statements into questions, acknowledgements, or both. Write them here:
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Resolving conflict is rarely about who is right.
It is about acknowledgment and appreciation of differences.
Thomas F. Crum
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Summary
Destructive Creative Focus on issue or position Focus on source of issue or vision Strongest usually prevails Everyone wins
Shuts down solutions Opens up possibilities
Tremendous energy spent Requires less effort
Hammer Spiral Impact
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Spiral Impact: 5 Short Steps
First recognize: Tension or Conflict
Then:
• Turn your statements into questions, acknowledgements, or both, avoid ‘Why?’
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Knowledge is Power.
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Applied Knowledge is Power.
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Focused Energy
Center Supply Rest
Focused Energy
Choose to be Centered
►Allows you to operate from your strength with focus, clarity, and grace
►Builds trust in relationships; fosters influence
►Balances your nonverbal communication
►Enables you to stay calm in chaos
►Increases perspective
►Strengthened through practice, practice, practice
Focused Energy
Choose to be Centered
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Moderate your desire of victory over your adversary, and
be pleased with the one over yourself.
B. Franklin
Write 5 things you intend to do to increase your level of focused energy and practice centering:
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Reflection
5 Short Steps
First recognize: Tension or Conflict
Then:
• Turn your statements into questions, acknowledgements, or both, avoid ‘Why?’
• Center
Spiral Impact The Power to Get It Done with Grace
Support
Intention
Focused Energy
Knowledge
©2004, Karen Valencic
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Vision Values Language
Center Supply Rest
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Intention
Vision Values Language
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Immediate (now!)
Levels of Intention Intention
Bigger Picture (longer and broader range)
Deeper Personal (value, purposed based)
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Immediate (to do now)
Levels of Intention Intention
Bigger Picture (goal/vision)
A sustainable safe community
Deeper Personal (your values, purpose, internal motivation)
Honor myself and others always
Actions consistent with other 2 levels
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Values Credo Or Intention
Intention
4 Questions
1.Can I trust you?
2.Are you committed to excellence?
3.Do you care about and respect me?
4.Do we bring out the best in each other?
5 Short Steps
First recognize: Tension or Conflict
Then:
• Turn your statements into questions, acknowledgements, or both, avoid ‘Why?’
• Center
• Identify all Levels of Intention
Spiral Impact The Power to Get It Done with Grace
Support
Intention
Focused Energy
Knowledge
©2004, Karen Valencic
317-257-0684
Vision Values Language
Center Supply Rest
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Support
Techniques
People
Tools
5 Short Steps
First recognize: Tension or Conflict
Then:
• Turn your statements into questions, acknowledgements, or both, avoid ‘Why?’
• Center
• Identify all Levels of Intention
• Choose your support
Spiral Impact The Power to Get It Done with Grace
Support
Intention
Focused Energy
Knowledge
©2004, Karen Valencic
317-257-0684
Vision Values Language
Center Supply Rest
Me
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ou/It
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S Techniques People Tools