Inner HealingInner Healing

Ministering to the Inner Family Ministering to the Inner Family MPD/DIDMPD/DID

Our Commission:Our Commission:Isaiah 61:1-3 “The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon Isaiah 61:1-3 “The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon

Me, Because the LORD has anointed Me To Me, Because the LORD has anointed Me To preach good tidings to the poor; He has sent Me preach good tidings to the poor; He has sent Me to heal the broken hearted, To proclaim liberty to heal the broken hearted, To proclaim liberty to the captives, And the opening of the prison to the captives, And the opening of the prison to those who are bound; To proclaim the to those who are bound; To proclaim the acceptable year of the LORD, And the day of acceptable year of the LORD, And the day of vengeance of our God; To comfort all who vengeance of our God; To comfort all who mourn, To console those who mourn in Zion, To mourn, To console those who mourn in Zion, To give them beauty for ashes, The oil of joy for give them beauty for ashes, The oil of joy for mourning, The garment of praise for the spirit mourning, The garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; That they may be called trees of of heaviness; That they may be called trees of righteousness, The planting of the LORD, that righteousness, The planting of the LORD, that He may be glorified.”He may be glorified.”

Inner Healing Part One OutlineInner Healing Part One Outline

• Symptoms of a wounded self imageSymptoms of a wounded self image• Captivity to negative emotionsCaptivity to negative emotions• Two types of people that need inner healingTwo types of people that need inner healing• Jesus example of healingJesus example of healing• Spiritual roots of deep level problemsSpiritual roots of deep level problems• What to look forWhat to look for• Recalling the events of the pastRecalling the events of the past• Bring Christ into the memoryBring Christ into the memory• Dealing with unforgivenessDealing with unforgiveness• Dealing with angerDealing with anger• The inner family and MPD/DIDThe inner family and MPD/DID• What to do after an inner healing sessionWhat to do after an inner healing session• This is available on videoThis is available on video

Dealing with memoriesDealing with memories

• When dealing with memories When dealing with memories realize that God has given us realize that God has given us the ability to repress them. the ability to repress them. This is a gift from God.This is a gift from God.

• With God’s help we can face With God’s help we can face these memories and be these memories and be healed of the deep wounds.healed of the deep wounds.

The Inner Family:The Inner Family:• We all have a sub-personalities that We all have a sub-personalities that

are part of us. There is the one that are part of us. There is the one that deals with work issues, another that deals with work issues, another that plays with a young child, one that plays with a young child, one that ministers, one that plays sports and ministers, one that plays sports and even one that worships.even one that worships.

• This complexity is God-givenThis complexity is God-given• Dissociation can be mild, such as Dissociation can be mild, such as

having an “inner child” or it can be a having an “inner child” or it can be a complete separate identity that the complete separate identity that the core person may or may not be co-core person may or may not be co-conscious with.conscious with.

MPDMPD• Christian psychologist James Friesen Christian psychologist James Friesen

states, states, “ “MPD usually begins in childhood in MPD usually begins in childhood in

response to stress and abuse. The child response to stress and abuse. The child encapsulates and organizes each part of encapsulates and organizes each part of herself. The resultant splits becoming herself. The resultant splits becoming personalities, each with it’s own life, personalities, each with it’s own life, history, feelings, and behaviors. Their history, feelings, and behaviors. Their various personalities may also have various personalities may also have verifiable differences in physiology, verifiable differences in physiology, neurology, and immune system neurology, and immune system characteristics, which can be proven characteristics, which can be proven when the multiple switches.”when the multiple switches.”

MPDMPD““Dissociation is the most Dissociation is the most

wonderful protection against wonderful protection against pain that any child could ever pain that any child could ever develop, There could be no develop, There could be no more effective defense-the child more effective defense-the child pretends the traumatic event pretends the traumatic event happened to somebody else, and happened to somebody else, and then…poof! ...COMPLETELY then…poof! ...COMPLETELY forgets about . It is gone.”forgets about . It is gone.”

MPDMPD

1.1. The existence of two or more The existence of two or more distinct personalities, each of distinct personalities, each of which is dominant a particular which is dominant a particular timetime

2.2. The personality that is dominant The personality that is dominant at any particular time determines at any particular time determines the individual’s behavior at that the individual’s behavior at that timetime

3.3. Each individual personality is Each individual personality is complex and integrated with it’s complex and integrated with it’s own unique behavior patterns own unique behavior patterns and social relationshipsand social relationships

MPD has three components:

The Inner FamilyThe Inner Family• The sub-selves often remain The sub-selves often remain

hidden, out of shame, anger, hidden, out of shame, anger, fear, guilt or other negative fear, guilt or other negative emotions. They may have emotions. They may have been badly hurt and are been badly hurt and are unwilling to trust easilyunwilling to trust easily

• They need to be assured that They need to be assured that they will be accepted no they will be accepted no matter what has happened to matter what has happened to them or wheat they may have them or wheat they may have done.done.

MPDMPD

• It is important to recognize that It is important to recognize that each alter has been created out of each alter has been created out of a specific needa specific need

• In communicating love and In communicating love and acceptance to the inner child (or acceptance to the inner child (or alter) it can be helpful to have the alter) it can be helpful to have the adult self to apologize for not adult self to apologize for not acknowledging the existence of acknowledging the existence of this inner part earlier onthis inner part earlier on

MPDMPD

1.1. To know they are believedTo know they are believed2.2. To know they are safe and To know they are safe and

supportedsupported3.3. To be gently helped toward the To be gently helped toward the

truth that the abuse was the fault of truth that the abuse was the fault of the abusers, not something they the abusers, not something they deserveddeserved

4.4. To affirm that it is all right to feel To affirm that it is all right to feel as they do about the abuse. Once as they do about the abuse. Once their right to feel angry is affirmed, their right to feel angry is affirmed, then we need to carefully and then we need to carefully and lovingly lead them to forgive.lovingly lead them to forgive.

Multiple need…

Definition of SwitchingDefinition of Switching““Changing from one personality state Changing from one personality state

to another. Sometimes to another. Sometimes accompanied by changes in physical accompanied by changes in physical appearance, vocal patterns, mood or appearance, vocal patterns, mood or level cognitive functioning. Many level cognitive functioning. Many individuals reports experiencing individuals reports experiencing severe headaches in conjunction severe headaches in conjunction with switching.”with switching.”

From The Dissociative Identity From The Dissociative Identity Disorder Source book by Deborah Disorder Source book by Deborah Bray HaddockBray Haddock

Why switching occurs:Why switching occurs:• Body becomes stiff or stiffBody becomes stiff or stiff• Person is slow to respond to Person is slow to respond to

othersothers• Things seem to move in slow-Things seem to move in slow-

motion or fast-forwardmotion or fast-forward• Emotions become flat, numb; no Emotions become flat, numb; no

feelingsfeelings• Not feeling expected painNot feeling expected pain• Out of touch with surroundingsOut of touch with surroundings• Drifts off, goes away, spaces out Drifts off, goes away, spaces out

(gets spacey), blanks out, loses (gets spacey), blanks out, loses track of what’s happeningtrack of what’s happening

Symptoms of switching:Symptoms of switching:• Stares off into space, blank stareStares off into space, blank stare• Downward stareDownward stare• Eyes dart anxiously from side to side Eyes dart anxiously from side to side

or roll upwardor roll upward• Faraway or dazed lookFaraway or dazed look• Tunes outTunes out• Not involved in presentNot involved in present• Feels like an observer of the present Feels like an observer of the present

situation, rather than a participantsituation, rather than a participant

Symptoms of switching:Symptoms of switching:

• Inattentive Inattentive • Memory lapsesMemory lapses• Fantasies, excessive daydreamingFantasies, excessive daydreaming• Over activity or withdrawalOver activity or withdrawal• Is on autopilot, feels like a robotIs on autopilot, feels like a robot• Falls asleepFalls asleep• DisorientedDisoriented

Symptoms of switching:Symptoms of switching:

• De-realization (people or the De-realization (people or the world do not seem real)world do not seem real)

• Feels as if watching things from Feels as if watching things from outside one’s bodyoutside one’s body

• Life split before and after (I’m a Life split before and after (I’m a different person since the different person since the trauma)trauma)

• Twitches or grimacesTwitches or grimaces

Symptoms of switching:Symptoms of switching:• Foggy feelings (if you're suppressing Foggy feelings (if you're suppressing

traumas, you can’t focus your traumas, you can’t focus your thoughts, your mind goes blank)thoughts, your mind goes blank)

• Unusual, inexplicable behavior (hits Unusual, inexplicable behavior (hits the ground when a car backfires)the ground when a car backfires)

• Self soothing (rocks back and forth)Self soothing (rocks back and forth)• Things look or sound different: colors Things look or sound different: colors

are faded or brighter, tunnel vision, are faded or brighter, tunnel vision, wide angel view, sounds are more wide angel view, sounds are more louder than expected, things seem far louder than expected, things seem far away or unclear and foggedaway or unclear and fogged

Dealing with AltersDealing with Alters

• These are not demons and they These are not demons and they do not “come up and go down”do not “come up and go down”

• Using the sword on an alter can Using the sword on an alter can frighten them or cause them to frighten them or cause them to never surface againnever surface again

• Never be judgmental towards Never be judgmental towards their attitude or what they say to their attitude or what they say to you, this is who they areyou, this is who they are

What NOT to do:

Confronting the demonic Confronting the demonic and an alter pops upand an alter pops up

• Oftentimes when dealing with the Oftentimes when dealing with the demonic they will push an alter demonic they will push an alter forward, this is for the purposes of forward, this is for the purposes of bringing further trauma to the bringing further trauma to the alter.alter.

• This will keep the alter from getting This will keep the alter from getting the inner healing needed because the inner healing needed because then they will not come forward then they will not come forward again.again.

• It’s also how demons try to hideIt’s also how demons try to hide• If you suspect an alter has popped If you suspect an alter has popped

up: change your facial expressions up: change your facial expressions and your voice.and your voice.

How to bring an alter upHow to bring an alter up

• ““I want to talk to the part that is I want to talk to the part that is carrying the anger, or the pain.”carrying the anger, or the pain.”

• ““Thank you for being there, without Thank you for being there, without you _____ would not have been able to you _____ would not have been able to go on.”go on.”

• As you look into their eyes you can As you look into their eyes you can often see the pain they are carrying. often see the pain they are carrying. Acknowledge their pain and tell them Acknowledge their pain and tell them how much you appreciate them. “I how much you appreciate them. “I can see your pain, you’ve been can see your pain, you’ve been carrying that for a long time that carrying that for a long time that must be really hard.”must be really hard.”

Talking with an alterTalking with an alter

• Introduce yourself to the alter Introduce yourself to the alter and tell them you want to be their and tell them you want to be their friend and that they are in a safe friend and that they are in a safe place and there is no one here place and there is no one here that will harm them (Don’t get that will harm them (Don’t get hung up on being their friend, hung up on being their friend, just offer it)just offer it)

• Your first goal is to get them to Your first goal is to get them to talk with you, this can take time talk with you, this can take time as often they need to build that as often they need to build that level of trustlevel of trust

Talking with an alterTalking with an alter

• Often times the alter may cry. Be Often times the alter may cry. Be careful not to hand them a tissue too careful not to hand them a tissue too quickly because often it will bring the quickly because often it will bring the core person back and you can lose the core person back and you can lose the alter. By giving them a tissue can alter. By giving them a tissue can also cause them to stuff the emotions also cause them to stuff the emotions back down. If the alter looks for or back down. If the alter looks for or reaches for a tissue then you can give reaches for a tissue then you can give it to them. Tell the alter it is okay to it to them. Tell the alter it is okay to cry. Reassure them that they are in a cry. Reassure them that they are in a safe place.safe place.

Turning on the lightTurning on the light

• Ask the alter if it is dark where Ask the alter if it is dark where they are. Tell them, “I am going they are. Tell them, “I am going to turn on the light where you to turn on the light where you are, watch this, I turned on the are, watch this, I turned on the light. (Snap your fingers)” light. (Snap your fingers)” Often the alter will blink or it Often the alter will blink or it seems too bright for them, ask seems too bright for them, ask the Lord to adjust their eyes so the Lord to adjust their eyes so they can see.they can see.

Going to the point of the painGoing to the point of the pain

• It is important that as a memory It is important that as a memory is being experienced that the is being experienced that the alter feel the emotion. (Going to alter feel the emotion. (Going to the point of the pain)the point of the pain)

• This can be difficult since the This can be difficult since the person’s coping mechanism has person’s coping mechanism has been to repress the memory.been to repress the memory.

ProtectorsProtectors• There are alters in the system who are There are alters in the system who are

there to protect others (often younger there to protect others (often younger alters)alters)

• You may need to address the protector You may need to address the protector alter before getting permission to talk to alter before getting permission to talk to other alters in the systemother alters in the system

• Thank and praise the protector for doing Thank and praise the protector for doing such an excellent job and that you are such an excellent job and that you are there to help them (you are not going to there to help them (you are not going to take their job away)take their job away)

• The protector alter can also give you The protector alter can also give you vital information; vital information; such as how many such as how many others are there.others are there.

Dealing with young altersDealing with young alters

• Be very gentle with young onesBe very gentle with young ones• You may have to play with them to gain You may have to play with them to gain

their trusttheir trust• Explain to young ones (actually all the Explain to young ones (actually all the

alters) that when you get a mean or alters) that when you get a mean or angry face it’s because you are made at angry face it’s because you are made at the devil and not at them, you don’t the devil and not at them, you don’t want to frighten themwant to frighten them

Types of altersTypes of alters

• ProtectorsProtectors• Alters that solely carry the painAlters that solely carry the pain• Alters that are designed to keep the Alters that are designed to keep the

other alters from committing suicide other alters from committing suicide or harming themselves (Example: a or harming themselves (Example: a cutter that releases the pain so that cutter that releases the pain so that the others do not go through with the others do not go through with killing themselves)killing themselves)

• Alters that have no emotions but are Alters that have no emotions but are there to record the eventsthere to record the events

• Alters that soothe, help the othersAlters that soothe, help the others

Talking with the alterTalking with the alter

• What happened? (Be patient at What happened? (Be patient at this point, often they are reliving this point, often they are reliving the trauma)the trauma)

• It’s okay, you are in a safe place. It’s okay, you are in a safe place. What’s happening? You can tell What’s happening? You can tell me. Did somebody hurt you?me. Did somebody hurt you?

Talking with the alterTalking with the alter• Find out their story, but do not push Find out their story, but do not push

them for more than what they want to them for more than what they want to share, it may take time for them to share, it may take time for them to build trust, they need to be listened build trust, they need to be listened to, comforted and befriendedto, comforted and befriended

• Allow them to express their emotionsAllow them to express their emotions• You will need to encourage them and You will need to encourage them and

ask questions about how they felt ask questions about how they felt about:about:– ThemselvesThemselves– OthersOthers– GodGod

• This will direct you where healing This will direct you where healing needs to occurneeds to occur

Bring comfort to the alterBring comfort to the alter

• Help the alter to understand that Help the alter to understand that Christ was there and He Christ was there and He protected them from even greater protected them from even greater harm.harm.

• Philippians 1:6b says, Philippians 1:6b says, He who has He who has begun a good work in you will begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus complete it until the day of Jesus ChristChrist

Bring Christ into the memoryBring Christ into the memory

• Sometimes it is hard for the alter to see Sometimes it is hard for the alter to see Jesus in the situation due to the shame Jesus in the situation due to the shame and anger they may be feelingand anger they may be feeling

• Guide them to understand that Jesus Guide them to understand that Jesus never blames people for their condition never blames people for their condition or what happened to themor what happened to them

• Jesus was hurt by it too and Jesus wants Jesus was hurt by it too and Jesus wants to take the painful feelings awayto take the painful feelings away

ForgivenessForgiveness

• The alter needs to forgive or be The alter needs to forgive or be forgiven for what they’ve doneforgiven for what they’ve done

• As Jesus forgives them they are As Jesus forgives them they are also to forgivealso to forgive

• It can be very difficult for an alter It can be very difficult for an alter to forgive, explain to them that it to forgive, explain to them that it is not about feelings…is not about feelings…

Jesus was thereJesus was there

• Jesus was present during every Jesus was present during every moment of a person’s life.moment of a person’s life.

• He is in our present, our past and our He is in our present, our past and our future.future.

• He is intimately involved in every He is intimately involved in every detail of our life whether we detail of our life whether we recognize and respond to Him.recognize and respond to Him.

• Hebrews 13:8Hebrews 13:8• John 1:1-3John 1:1-3• Colossians 1:16-17Colossians 1:16-17

Leading the alter to ChristLeading the alter to Christ

• If possible lead each alter to Christ. If possible lead each alter to Christ. This may take time as you build the This may take time as you build the relationship. They will be more willing relationship. They will be more willing to listen to what you have to say if they to listen to what you have to say if they get to know you.get to know you.

• Ask them, “Do you know who Jesus is?” Ask them, “Do you know who Jesus is?” Explain to them that Jesus is the one Explain to them that Jesus is the one who will heal all their hurts and pain.who will heal all their hurts and pain.

Leading the alter to ChristLeading the alter to Christ

• All you have to do is to say “Jesus” and All you have to do is to say “Jesus” and He will bring you an angel of love, an He will bring you an angel of love, an angel of peace and an angel of joy that angel of peace and an angel of joy that will never ever leave you. Would you will never ever leave you. Would you like that?like that?

• Once the alter says, “Jesus” then Once the alter says, “Jesus” then describe each angel as them come to describe each angel as them come to surround the altersurround the alter

Jesus takes the hurts and pain awayJesus takes the hurts and pain away

• At this point you want to introduce the At this point you want to introduce the alter to Jesus. “Jesus is here and He alter to Jesus. “Jesus is here and He wants to take your hurt and pain away wants to take your hurt and pain away from you. All you have to do is give from you. All you have to do is give them to Jesus. Jesus is holding out His them to Jesus. Jesus is holding out His hands. As you give Him your pain, I hands. As you give Him your pain, I want you to name them as you give them want you to name them as you give them to Jesus. Encourage the alter, “You are to Jesus. Encourage the alter, “You are doing a good job, is there any other doing a good job, is there any other pain? What about _____?” Sometimes pain? What about _____?” Sometimes they need a little prompting, just to be they need a little prompting, just to be sure they then say it as they give it to sure they then say it as they give it to Jesus.Jesus.

Jesus removes the hurts and painJesus removes the hurts and pain

• Once they have placed all their hurt and Once they have placed all their hurt and pain in Jesus’ hands say, “Watch this, pain in Jesus’ hands say, “Watch this, Jesus takes all of your hurts and pain Jesus takes all of your hurts and pain and throws them over His shoulder into and throws them over His shoulder into the sea of forgetfulness and you no the sea of forgetfulness and you no longer have to carry them. They are all longer have to carry them. They are all gone.”gone.”

Jesus ministers to the alterJesus ministers to the alter

• Jesus wants to talk to you. Do see Him? Jesus wants to talk to you. Do see Him? (some alters can visualize readily others (some alters can visualize readily others it is more difficult; if they don’t then tell it is more difficult; if they don’t then tell them “Jesus is standing next to you and them “Jesus is standing next to you and He wants to tell you something, listen to He wants to tell you something, listen to what He has to say.” When He is done what He has to say.” When He is done let me know.let me know.

• As they are listening, be thanking Jesus.As they are listening, be thanking Jesus.• Check in from time to time, ask them if Check in from time to time, ask them if

Jesus is still talking.Jesus is still talking.• Once they are done ask them, “What did Once they are done ask them, “What did

Jesus say?”Jesus say?”

Equip the alterEquip the alter• After Jesus speaks to the alter then After Jesus speaks to the alter then

allow Jesus to give the alter a gift. You allow Jesus to give the alter a gift. You can allow the Lord to choose the gift can allow the Lord to choose the gift He gives. If the alter is young or has a He gives. If the alter is young or has a hard time seeing the gift that the Lord hard time seeing the gift that the Lord has you can help.has you can help.

• Give the alter a little baby lamb to Give the alter a little baby lamb to hold and take care of. (It can be their hold and take care of. (It can be their favorite animal too)favorite animal too)

• Other gifts that the Lord can give:Other gifts that the Lord can give:– Necklaces (with words on them telling them Necklaces (with words on them telling them

they will never be alone, no fear, etc)they will never be alone, no fear, etc)– Medals (of love, peace…)Medals (of love, peace…)– Buckets (filled with joy, faith, etc)Buckets (filled with joy, faith, etc)– Flowers (example: roses for the love Jesus Flowers (example: roses for the love Jesus

has for them)has for them)

Jesus is the supplyJesus is the supply

• Jesus can supply comfort in distressJesus can supply comfort in distress• Jesus will always be there in the place of Jesus will always be there in the place of

lonelinessloneliness• Jesus give them love and acceptance in Jesus give them love and acceptance in

place of rejectionplace of rejection• Jesus give them the freedom to cry or Jesus give them the freedom to cry or

grievegrieve• Jesus will give them attention to remedy Jesus will give them attention to remedy

neglectneglect• Jesus gives hope and forgiveness in place Jesus gives hope and forgiveness in place

of hopelessness and self-condemnation.of hopelessness and self-condemnation.• Its all about Jesus!Its all about Jesus!

Create a Safe PlaceCreate a Safe Place

• Due to the trauma and pain that Due to the trauma and pain that the alter has gone through it is the alter has gone through it is important to create a safe place important to create a safe place for them to go to (often this did for them to go to (often this did not exist in their life)not exist in their life)

• This is where the alters can go if This is where the alters can go if they feel threatened or unsafethey feel threatened or unsafe

Building the safe placeBuilding the safe place• Build the safe place, start with two Build the safe place, start with two

walls in the front and the back, add walls in the front and the back, add the two sides. Put a roof on, put in a the two sides. Put a roof on, put in a door, add windows.door, add windows.

• Inside there is green grass, blue sky, Inside there is green grass, blue sky, white fluffy clouds, a stream, a table white fluffy clouds, a stream, a table with dome snacks, crayons, etc. for the with dome snacks, crayons, etc. for the young alters.young alters.

• Give the alter the keys to the door to Give the alter the keys to the door to keep. Often a protector alter will hold keep. Often a protector alter will hold the keys.the keys.

• They can be with Jesus in this place, They can be with Jesus in this place, all they have to do is call His name.all they have to do is call His name.

• Nothing Nothing can hurt them while they are can hurt them while they are therethere

Invite other alters to accept JesusInvite other alters to accept Jesus

• Ask the alter if there are any others in Ask the alter if there are any others in the system that want to come into the the system that want to come into the safe place. “All they have to say is safe place. “All they have to say is Jesus.” Then wait and see if anyone says Jesus.” Then wait and see if anyone says Jesus. Allow time for any alters to come Jesus. Allow time for any alters to come forward.forward.

• This will let you know that there are This will let you know that there are others that will need to be ministered to.others that will need to be ministered to.

The SystemThe System

• The system will be very unique to each The system will be very unique to each individualindividual

• You are going to want to have the core You are going to want to have the core person start mapping out their system, person start mapping out their system, use circles, squares, colors, etc.use circles, squares, colors, etc.

• Include the name, the trauma, the age Include the name, the trauma, the age of the alter, any assignments and gifts of the alter, any assignments and gifts received, you can include a list of the received, you can include a list of the demonicdemonic

The SystemThe System

• Once inner healing begins then you will Once inner healing begins then you will want to encourage the alters to get to want to encourage the alters to get to know each other in the system as well as know each other in the system as well as having the core get to know each alterhaving the core get to know each alter

• You will want to have the core person You will want to have the core person thank each alter for being there and thank each alter for being there and have the core begin a relationship with have the core begin a relationship with each one, the core may even need to each one, the core may even need to apologize for not appreciating or for not apologize for not appreciating or for not knowing that the alter was even there in knowing that the alter was even there in the first placethe first place

Revival a.k.a Rival 10 year old

Elizabeth 2 year old

Cutter

Rape/Abuse Self Hate 6 year old 16 year old 19 year old 20 year old

22 year old 29 year old 33 year old 36 year

old

The Watcher 29 year old Car accident

cc

The Boss 8 year old

Anger Protector

Little Karen 5 year old

a.k.a. Holly Fear

cc

Non-verbal young one Rejection 6 months

Abby

Kimberly 2 year old

Sweet Pea 3 year old

Cindy 4 year old

Karen Core

46 year old

Forgotten Name

Faith a.k.a Denial

Recorder

Remedy Pours Peace Carried the

pain

Preservation Protector

13 year old Heather Raped by

counselor at horse camp

Hannah 13 year old Attempted

rape Sonbeam

(horse)Christina Grief

13 year old cc

Sarah Generational Alter 16 year old Grief death

of own child cc

Joseph Generational

Alter False Idol

Worship cc

Sandy 16 year old Anorexia

cc

K.C. Keeper of

Chastity 21 year old

cutterJoy

a.k.a. Sad 8 year old

SARA

Rachel 9 year old

SARA

Crystal 7 year old

SARA

Jenny 9 year old

SARA

Pamela 9 ½ year old

SARA

26 year old Mary

Rape by a “John”

21 year old raped by

Pastor

Self care and coping strategiesSelf care and coping strategies• Increase internal communication among parts by Increase internal communication among parts by

writing a journal, mapping your internal system, writing a journal, mapping your internal system, holding internal family meetings regularlyholding internal family meetings regularly

• Develop a basic safety plan and put it in writingDevelop a basic safety plan and put it in writing• Create note cards to sue when feeling Create note cards to sue when feeling

overwhelmed or in need of encouragementoverwhelmed or in need of encouragement• Practice nurturing, respecting, and expressing Practice nurturing, respecting, and expressing

gratitude to internal partsgratitude to internal parts• Collect objects that are soothing and empowering Collect objects that are soothing and empowering

and carry them with youand carry them with you• Let support people know what is helpful for youLet support people know what is helpful for you• Use prayer imagery for managing feelingsUse prayer imagery for managing feelings• Read the bible and other inspirational books for Read the bible and other inspirational books for

encouragement and groundingencouragement and grounding• Exercise to improve mood and overall sense of Exercise to improve mood and overall sense of

well-beingwell-being

Support NetworkSupport Network

• TherapistTherapist• FriendsFriends• FamilyFamily• DWJD Team memberDWJD Team member• Members from a support groupMembers from a support group• A crisis line if your therapist A crisis line if your therapist

knows of a good oneknows of a good one

QuestionsQuestions

• Collect index cardsCollect index cards• Please include future topics Please include future topics

on inner healing you would on inner healing you would like coveredlike covered