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I Miss YouA Hol iday Gr ie f Surv iva l K i t
by Gary Roe
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THANK YOU for downloading I Miss You. Nothing will quite be the same now,
especially holidays. I’m so sorry.
I hope this simple little volume is an encouragement to you in the days ahead.
Here we go…
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The holidays are coming
“The holidays are coming...
I don’t know how I’m going to do this.
I don’t know how to feel.
I don’t know how to be.”
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“Everything hurts, because everything reminds me of you.
I want to see your face, hold your hand, and hear your voice.
If I could have just one more hug…
I miss you.”
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“Nothing is the same, and the world goes on like nothing happened.
No, this can’t be real.
You’re not here. I can’t get to you.
And the holidays are coming.”
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“How am I going to do this?
I don’t want to.
I miss you.”
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The holidays are stressful
Holidays can be the toughest time of the year. The pressure is immense.
Expectations and memories swirl around us. And perhaps more than anything,
we’re keenly aware of who’s missing.
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Happy Holidays?
Merry Christmas?
It doesn’t feel like it.
How are you going to do this?
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One Key Thing
Here’s one key thing to keep in mind:
These holidays will be different,
but they can still be good.
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Three Suggestions
Here are three suggestions to help make these holidays the best they can be:
1. Feel the grief.
I am worn out from my groaning. All night long I flood my bed
with weeping and drench my couch with tears.
- Psalms 6:6
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Don’t try to put your feelings aside for the holidays.
You won’t be able to.
Don’t attempt to stuff your emotions and be strong for others.
It won’t work.
True strength is found in being real.
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“Business as usual” doesn’t honor your loved one.
It doesn’t align with what’s happening in your life or in your heart.
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Be who you are where you are.
Go ahead... grieve.
Feel your emotions.
Your life has changed forever. These holidays will be different.
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2. Take care of you.
Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the well-spring of your life.
- Proverbs 4:23
Your heart has been wounded.
It needs time to heal.
Please take yourself seriously.
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What do you need to do for you?
Do what you can to take care of yourself...
Eat well.
Exercise.
Watch your health.
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Get the alone time you need,
but be careful not to isolate.
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Put your focus and energy into grieving well.
Your loved one is worth it, and so are you.
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3. Be proactive about the holidays.
Careful planning puts you ahead in the long run;
hurry and scurry put you further behind.
- Proverbs 21:5
You don’t have to sit back and dread the holidays.
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You don’t have to allow others’ expectations to set the agenda.
There are some things you can control.
You have choices. You can decide what you want to do, how, and with whom.
These holidays will be different,
but they can still be good.
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If you’re wondering how to...
• deal with the unspoken yet powerful expectations (others’ and your own)
swirling around the holidays
• handle the continual onslaught of memories and reminders of your loved one
• face feeling lonely, misunderstood, and isolated
• process seemingly random, unpredictable emotions
• take yourself, your health, and your own heart seriously
• make the best choices about what to do, how, and with whom
• honor your loved one and make these holidays meaningful
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Resources that can help
Consider getting a copy of
Surviving the Holidays Without You:
Navigating Grief During Special Seasons.
This easy-to-read, practical resource
is available in print and as an e-book.
Amazon — Paperback / Kindle
Barnes & Noble — Nook
Smashwords — e-book
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Another resource is the Good Grief Mini-Course.
This free, confidential email course is
designed to walk you through the various
stages of grief. In Good Grief, you’ll find
practical assignments that will assist you as
you walk through this valley.
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Please, feel free to contact me directly.
You can email me at [email protected]
or simply respond to any email you receive from me.
I read and respond to every email.
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These holidays will be different
“These holidays will be different,
But I believe they can still be good.
I’ll find ways to honor you, my loved one,
and care for my own heart too.
I’ll grieve well, and make the best choices I can.
I miss you.”
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Acknowledgments
Thanks to Jen Roe, Kelli Levey, and Angie Kasper
for their help and input in proofing and editing.
Special thanks to Sheila Flickinger of SFcreative
for all her work in designing and formatting I Miss You.
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25About Gary
Gary Roe has been a campus minister, church-
planter in Japan, and pastor in Texas and
Washington. He currently serves as a hospice
chaplain, author, and speaker.
He is the author of Surviving the Holidays Without You: Navigating Grief During
Special Seasons (2013), and the co-author (with New York Times Bestseller
Cecil Murphey) of Saying Goodbye: Facing the Loss of a Loved One (2013) and
Not Quite Healed (2013, Finalist for the Lime Award for Excellence in Non-
Fiction and honored on the Top 50 Non-Fiction Book List). Gary also writes
inspirational columns for several Texas newspapers.
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SHARE THIS!
You are welcome to share this e-book with anyone and everyone.
I only ask that you do not sell or change it in any way.
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These holidays will be different, but they can still be good.
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I am an author, speaker, and chaplain. I am not a licensed professional counselor and
none of my content is meant to diagnose or treat any disease or disorder.