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How to Win Friends and Influence People SPLASH Class H4197 November 20, 2010 Christopher Luna Literature by Dale Carnegie

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Page 1: How to Win Friends and Influence People SPLASH Class H4197 November 20, 2010 Christopher Luna Literature by Dale Carnegie

How to Win Friends and Influence People

SPLASH Class H4197November 20, 2010

Christopher LunaLiterature by Dale Carnegie

Page 2: How to Win Friends and Influence People SPLASH Class H4197 November 20, 2010 Christopher Luna Literature by Dale Carnegie

6 Human Needs

Perspective provided by Anthony Robbins, human needs psychologist in the context of happiness and well-being:

1.certainty– uncertainty– significance– connection/love– growth– contribution

Page 3: How to Win Friends and Influence People SPLASH Class H4197 November 20, 2010 Christopher Luna Literature by Dale Carnegie

Winning Friends

1.Don't criticize, condemn or complain.2.Give honest and sincere appreciation.3.Arouse in the other person an eager want.

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Winning Friends

• Charles Schwab - "I am hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise."

• … one can win the attention and time and cooperation of even the most sought-after people by becoming genuinely interested in them.

• Arouse in the other person an eager want.

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Ways to Make People Like You

1.Become genuinely interested in other people.2.Smile.3.Remember that a person's name is to that person

the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

4.Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

5.Talk in terms of the other person's interests.6.Make the other person feel important - and do it

sincerely.

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Ways to Make People Like You

• You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

• Always make the other person feel important

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Influencing People

1.The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

2.Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."

3.If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.4.Begin in a friendly way.5.Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.6.Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.

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Influencing People

1.Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.2.Try honestly to see things from the other person's

point of view.3.Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and

desires.4.Appeal to the nobler motives.5.Dramatize your ideas.6.Throw down a challenge.

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Influencing People

• Ralph Waldo Emerson, "In every work of genius we recognize our own rejected thoughts; they come back to us with a certain alienated mystery."

•  "I would rather walk the sidewalk in front of a person's office for two hours before an interview than step into that office without a perfectly clear idea of what I was going to say and what that person - from my knowledge of his or her interests and motives - was likely to answer."