Dahina A. Cayabas

Psycholinguistics

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How parents and teachers talk tells a child how they feel about him. Their statements affect his

self-esteem and self-worth. To a large extent, their language determines his destiny.

How to talk so kids will learn

1. Dealing with feeling that interfere with learning

2. Engaging cooperation3. Helpful praise and constructive responses4. Reconstructing a child with label

1. Dealing with feelings that interfere with learning:

Acknowledge the student’s feeling:Gain the trust and respect of the childLet students reflect on what they did

They will listen and learn

SuggestionYou sound very disappointed. It can

be upsetting if you know the answer and lose points for careless mistakes.

You are mad at each other

Maybe you two need time apart before you can be friends again.

I see

So you are hurt?

And then?

Red lightDon’t worry. You’ll do better next time

Why are you fighting!?

You sit here, and you! Sit there.

Is that true?

That is just a little bump it don’t hurt.

That is not big enough to make you angry

2. Engaging Cooperation• Describe the problemI see papers scattered on the floor.• Give informationThis room will look pleasant when

this papers are removed

• Offer a choiceYou can get the broom and sweep

or pick the scattered papers

• Say it with a word or gestureOh my! These papers flew to the

ceiling and landed on the floor

• Blaming and accusingLook at your rudeness you turned

this room into a garbage.( I know I know we are always wrong

and teacher is always right )• Calling namesHey naughty boy stop flying

airplanes( You know me already I am naughty

so what is your problem )• ThreateningIf you don’t clean up, I will bring all

of you to the principal’s office( I don’t believe you will do that )

• Giving ordersPick up those papers( that is not my mess)• Lecturing and moralizingIt is not nice to make this room

dirty because you came in clean. What will you feel if you are in my place?

( Blah blah blah you always say the same thing everyday )

• Warning This is your last warning, next

time I will let all of you stand with no chairs.

( oho I am afraid or I better not make a move I might be wrong again )

•Describe what you feelI feel angry coming to class and find it messy.

•Put in writing

Kindly restore the classroom’s cleanliness and

orderliness. Thank you The management

•Be playfulHere in this room you see papers on the floor

• Playing the martyrI go home everyday with headache

because of you kids, this ray hairs are all your doing.

( That’s easy I will buy you a bottle of hair die. )

• ComparingWhy is this room messy? The other

classroom is always clean.( Kids there are morons I hate them. ) • SarcasticThis place deserves the coolest

classroom award.( Go to hell! )• ProphesyingThis class will never go anywhere.( It’s better to drop.)

• Describe what you see or hear

“you got the rhyme”• Describe what you feel“Your poem makes me

feel I’m in love”• Point out what is

needed to be done“Now you’re done with

your paragraph it is time to check for any misspelled words.””

• Evaluating“ Beautiful”“Very good”

• Criticizing“Look at these words they

are wrong spelling.”

3. HELPFUL PRAISE AND CONSTRUCTIVE RESPONSES

4. Reconstructing children with labels

You must have been paying attention. You

followed the directions exactly

You see, if you listen you will know!

Look for opportunities to show the child a new picture of herself/himself

Poor listener

Dawdler

I see you didn’t waste a minute. As soon as

you got back from recess, you went to

work on your project

That is what you should do.

You are lucky to have Joey in your class.

He is a hard worker

Joey learns fast but you need to say it

many times.

Slow learner

He was so interested in

respiratory system, now he is working

with digestive system

Speak positive about the child in his presence

Teacher’s Language:

Effect on students

• “I ended up dropping out of high school. I'm a high school dropout, which I'm not proud to say, ... I had some teachers that I still think of fondly and were amazing to me. But I had other teachers who said, 'You know what? This dream of yours is a hobby. When are you going to give it up?' I had teachers who I could tell didn't want to be there. And I just couldn't get inspired by someone who didn't want to be there” ― Hilary Swank – award winning actress

• I am discouraged with my teacher’s comment on my IM so I just do my projects for compliance. She said “ I don’t like this! It has no sense of arts. Next time be creative. ” She is a teacher who says she don’t like if she don’t like.- A graduating CTE

student

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