getting unstuck: is divorce coaching for you?

Getting Unstuck:Is Divorce Coaching Right for You?

PresenterAdina T. Laver, M.Ed., MBACertified Professional Coach

Main Line Family Law Center

www.MyHealthyDivorce.com Main Line Family Law Center


The distance of the road to success becomes shorter as soon

as you take the first step.

~ Greg Philips

What is Divorce Coaching?

Confidential and unbiased conversations designed to:

Gain clarity about what is most important and how to act accordingly,

Increase ability to communicate and self-advocate effectively,

Support and enable clear decision-making, andReduce the experience of stress, overwhelm,

and even paralysis that often accompanies relationship challenges


Who is a Divorce Coach?Confidant (better than a friend)PartnerCheerleaderMagic Looking Glass

Each person's life represents a road toward

him or herself ~ Herman Hesse



The role and importance of Clear Thinking …

and how to access it?

www.MyHealthyDivorce.com

What is Clear Thinking?

What it’s not!

How does it affect us?



Amygdala Hijack:

Emotional responses

which are immediate

and overwhelming, and

out of measure with the

actual stimulus, because

it has triggered a much

more significant

emotional threat.

What Triggers Your Amygdala?


To Activate Clear Thinking

Acknowledge the fact that you will get hijacked

Become a student of yourself …learn WHAT triggers your hijack and HOW the hijack manifests in you

Retrain the amygdala and reduce the frequency, intensity and consequences of the hijack


Tips for ActivatingClear Thinking

Activating Clear Thinking begins with a three step mindful-awareness process:1. Set the intention to make choices and take

actions in every moment that will create the greatest net value.

2. Recognize and acknowledge what triggers can arise / have arisen and that they are there for a reason.

3. Activate a core value / place of personal strength using centering questions.


How Does it Work?


Set the intention What choices can I make and actions can I take in this

moment to create the greatest net value?Recognize, acknowledge and validate the trigger

Begin to get sweaty, back stiffens up, stomach is unsettled, clench jaws etc… Interaction is making me feel… Because of ____, it makes sense that I feel and want to______.

Activate core value or strengthCentering question(s): “If I truly valued myself, what

would I do here?” “If this person’s __________ is really stemming from fear, what are they really experiencing right now?”


Getting to Know your Strengths and Triggers

The Path Forward 1. Create a vision for who you want to be and

what is most important to you2. Pay attention to when you are at your best3. Pay attention to when you get triggered4. Use the 3-step process as often as possible

before difficult situations arise5. When your amygdala gets hijacked, STOP,

DROP and ROLL 6. When the hijack ends, activate your best self7. Celebrate often


Is Coaching Right for You?


Divorce / Life Coaching may be right for you if you:

• Struggle with decision making and/or communication

• Feel small and unable to self-advocate effectively

• Become consumed by your emotions• Do not feel good about who you are

right now and believe you can have a happier life

• Believe that this change is an opportunity for transformation

Learn More Take 15 minutes to complete an online

exercise and receive a FREE 10-page report highlighting 2 areas that trigger your amygdala into hijack and one strength area – who you are at your best: www.vqprofile.com/alaver.

Sign-up for a COMPLIMENTARY 60-min consultation about your report and learn how to begin using the 3-step immediately.

Contact me with questions at [email protected]

om Main Line Family Law Center

http://www.vqprofile.com/alaver


The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are

not going to stay where you are .

~ Anonymous



THANK YOU

Main Line Family Law Center www.MyHealthyDivorce.com

(610)764-7144

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