fromm the theory of love

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THE ART OF LOVINGErich Fromm

Mr. Roland Lorenzo M. Ruben
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What is love? Many have attempted to define it with words,pictures, music, but unfortunately its never truly been

described successfully these ways. Can it be described theseways? I dont think so. Love is not meant to be described.

Its meant to be felt. Shared. Love Untitled is this idea in thepicture form. Love in its untitled or indescribable form. The

mystery of love.

Love Untitled


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"Our main task is to give birth to ourselves." ~ Erich Fromm

Erich Pinchas Fromm (March 23, 1900 March 18, 1980)

was an internationallyrenowned German-American socialpsychologist, psychoanalyst, andhumanistic philosopher. He was associatedwith what became known as the FrankfurtSchool of critical theory.1900born in Frankfurt, Germany His father was a

business man and, according to Erich, rathermoody. His mother was frequently depressed. Inother words, like quite a few of the people we'velooked at, his childhood wasn't very happy.
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"Only the person who has faith in himself is able to be faithful to others."

1918 started his studies in at the University of Frankfurt am Main wittwo semesters of jurisprudence.

1919 studied at the University of Heidelberg, where he switched fromstudying jurisprudence to studying sociology under Alfred Web(brother of Max Weber), Karl Jaspers, and Heinrich Rickert.

1922 received his Ph.D. in sociology from Heidelberg and was trainebecome a psychoanalyst.

1927 began his own clinical practice1930 joined the Frankfurt Institute for Social Research and complete

his psychoanalytical training. After the Nazi takeover of power Germany, the Jewish Fromm moved to Geneva
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1934 moved to Columbia University inNew York. Karen Horney's long-terminfatuation with Fromm is the subjectof her bookSelf nalysis and it isreasonable to believe that each had alasting influence on the other'sthought.

1943After leaving Columbia, he helpedform the New York Branch of theWashington School of Psychiatry

1945 formed the William Alanson White

Institute of Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis,and Psychology.


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"In love the paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain t wo ."

1950moved to Mexico City, he became a professor at theUNAM (Universidad Nacional Autnoma de Mexicand established a psychoanalytic section at the medschool there. He taught at the UNAM until hisretirement in 1965.

1957 to 1961 taught as a professor of psychology at MichigState University

1962 taught as an adjunct professor of psychology at thegraduate division of Arts and Sciences at New YorkUniversity

1974 moved to Muralto, Switzerland1980 died at his home, five days before his eightieth

birthday.


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THE ANSWER TO THE PROBLEM OF

HUMANEXISTENCE
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Definition Man is gifted with reason; he is life being aware of

itself Aware of himself as a separate entity, short life span

helplessness before the forces of nature and of socie The experience of separateness arouses anxiety The deepest need of man is the need to overcome hi

separateness, to leave the prison of his aloneness HOW??Overcome separateness, achieve unionfind at-onement


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Attempts to answer the

problem


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2. Union based in Conformity (customs,beliefs, practices)

a union in which theindividual self disappears to a large extent, and where the aim is tobelong to the herd

By trying desperately toconform, we sometimes willeven give up our lives in order to remain a part of ourgroup. But this is only pretend identity, an identity wetake from others.


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When we need to hide, wehide in our mass culture instead. When I get dressed in the morning, there are so

many decisions But I only need to look at what you arewearing, and my frustrations disappear. Or I can look at television, which, like a horoscope, will tell me quickly aeffectively what to do. If I look like, talk like, think like, like... everyone else in my society, thenI disappear into thecrowd, and I don't need to acknowledge myfreedom or takeresponsibility.

When people are free to do as they please, they usually imitate each other.


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The person is like asocial chameleon: He takes onthe coloring of his surroundings. Since he looks like a

million other people, he no longer feels alone. Heisn't alone, perhaps, but he's not himself either. Heexperiences a split between his genuine feelings andthe colors he shows the world.

When conformity to the herd is the norm, it takesoutstanding bravery to remain an individual


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3. Creative Activity person unites himself with his material, which

represents the world outside of himself. in all types of creative work the worker and hisobject become one, man unites himself with theworld in the process of creation; however, suchunity is not interpersonal.


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The unity achieved inproductive work is not

interpersonal;the unity achieved in orgiastic fusion is transitory;the unity achieved by conformity is only pseudo-unity.Hence, they are only partialanswers.The full answer lies in the

achievement ofinterpersonal union , offusion with another person,inLOVE.
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4. Love interpersonal union, of fusion with another

person problem: fusion can be achieved in different ways


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Immature formI.Symbiotic union (biological & psychic)

Symbiosis is the relationship two organisms have whocannot live without each other. example is the case whethe parent "swallows" the child, so that the child'spersonality is merely a reflection of the parent's wishes
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II.Psychic symbiotic union a. passive form =masochism: One is to submit to thepower of others, becoming passive and compliant b. active form =sadism: Others look to eliminate theirisolation by dominating others

Either way, these are not satisfying: Yourseparateness is not overcome.

Immature form

from the movie Basic Instinct


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Mature form Love isunion under the condition of preservingones integrity, ones individuality. Love is anactive power in man; a power that

breaks through the walls which separate manfrom his fellowmen, which unites him withothers

Love makes himovercome the sense of isolation andseparateness, yet it permits him to behimself, to retain his integrity


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Paradox: Two beings become one andyet remain twoLove is an activity = a standing in not afalling for; giving, not receiving
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Elements of Love


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1. Knowledge it does not stay at theperiphery, but penetrates to the core the only way of full knowledge lies in the act

of love: this act transcends thought, ittranscends words = it is the daring plunge intothe experience of union with the other

only if I know a human being objectively, canI know him in his ultimate essence, in the actof love


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2. Respect (respicere = to look at) the abilityto see a person as he is, to be aware of his uniqindividuality

the concern that the other person should grow and

unfold as he is; absence of exploitation respect exists only on the basis of freedom: l mour

est lenf nt de l libert love is the child offreedom)


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3. Responsibility a voluntary act; myresponse to the needs, expressed orunexpressed, of another human being

to be responsible means to be able and readyto respond


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4. Care love is the active concern for thelife and the growth of that which we love the essence of love is to labor for something

and to make something grow

e.g. mothers love for her child


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Care, responsibility, respect and knowledge aremutually interdependent. They are a syndrome of

attitudes which are to be found in the mature person

"We are only capable ofknowing, and caring forthe other if we are also

capable of understanding,caring, and knowing

ourselves"


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"What matters in relationto love is the faith inone's own love; in its

ability to produce love inothers."
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In the morning of my lifeI shall look to the sunriseAt the moment in my life when the world is newAnd the Blessing I shall ask is that God shall grant meTo be Brave and Strong and TrueAnd to fill the world with love my whole life through.

Chorus: And to fill the world with love (x3)My whole life through.

At the noontime of my lifeI shall look at the sunshineAt the moment in my life when the sky is blueAnd the Blessing I shall ask shall remain unchangingTo be Brave and Strong and TrueAnd to fill the world with love my whole life through. (rep chorus)

In the evening of my lifeI shall look to the sunsetAt the moment in my life when my days are fewAnd the Question I shall ask only you can answerWas I Brave and Strong and True?Did I fill the world with love my whole life through? (rep chorus)
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THE THEORY OF LOVEErich Fromm

Mr Roland Lorenzo M Ruben

End of presentation

Thank you for yourtime. I love you.
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