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Family Matters Diane Coffill State Family Program Director dianecoffill2usarmymil (919) 664-6324
SFC Calvin Buchan State Family Program Assistant calvinbuchanusarmymil (919) 664-6124
SSG Ju Autry Budget Analysis juautryusarmymil (919) 664-7583
SGT Daniel Holland HR Assistant danhollandusarmymil (919) 664-6124
PFC Carolyn Stevens HR Assistant carolynstevens1usarmymil (919) 664-6876
Lana Greer State FAC Coordinator lanamgreerusarmymil (828) 271-5029
Renee Brotherton FAC Team Leader reneebrothertonusarmymil (704) 359-5736
Kathleen Flaherty LTC (Ret) Airman amp Family Readiness Program Mgr
kathleenflahertyctrnccharangafmil
(704) 398-4949
Pamela Hughes State FRG Advisor pamelahughes5usarmymil (919) 693-5016 ext 13
Alice Dean State Youth Coordinator alicedeanusarmymil (919) 664-7616
Individual Highlights
Community Cares 2
Upcoming Events 3-4
Fatherrsquos Day Photo Tribute 5
Fatherrsquos Day Card 6
Change Quiz 7
30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon 8-10
Family Retreat Registration 11
CouponsQuick Reference 12
FAC Staff Directory 13
June 2010mdashVolume 2 Issue 6
VIEW EVENTS ONLINE wwwncngbarmymil
Family Programs
Events Calendar
GET WITH THE ldquoPROGRAMrdquo FACEBOOK ~ BECOME A FAN North Carolina National Guard
Family Programs
JOIN JSS
jointservicessupportorg
Get program information events
chat with other military Families and
more You will also receive emails
with lots of great opportunities
~IN THE KNOW~
Be Army Strong North Carolina National Guard Families continue to navigate various phases of the deploy-ment cycle Whether your Service Member is deployed on RampR or recently returned hellip Summer is here And Summer is a time to enjoy life the heat from the Sun and have fun Resolve to make this a great summer for you and your family Inside yoursquoll find a lot of events happening in June that are sure to please We also wanted to let you know about the highlights from the May Yellow Ribbon Event for the 30th HBCT Wersquove learned that North Carolina National Guard Soldiers and Families are all about lsquogetting over itrsquo lsquoworking through itrsquo and lsquotaking advantage of the resourcesrsquo You work hard and you owe yourself a little fun Enjoy your Summer
Exclusive Summer Getaways and
discounts for NCNG military Families
Family Retreat Coming in August Space is
limited Use Registration form on page 9 to
reserve a spot today
2
COMMUNITY CARES |community outreach
Healing the Wounds of War Breath by Breath The Yoga Warrior method is designed to provide ad-
vanced knowledge and practical tools for yoga teach-
ers working with combat veterans diagnosed with Com-
bat and Operational Stress Reaction or Post Traumatic
Stress Disorder (PTSD) The Yoga Warriors Method skillfully
integrates concepts from yoga therapy traditional
yoga philosophy psychology and sensory integration
theory with current scientific knowledge of the mind-
body connection to promote health wellness and
peace of mind from within For information about Yoga
and PTSD visit wwwyogawarriorscom
FREE CLASSES FOR COMBAT VETERANS
ANDOR SPOUSES
Tuesday nights from 630-8pm at the American Red Cross in Raleigh starting June 15 until August 24 2010 Class is free and open to the first 25 students who register by calling Diane Callan at 919-650-1806 or emailing wellnessforwarriorsgmailcom Sunday nights from 530-645pm at Yoga Garden Apex Open to first 10 students who register online at wwwyogagardencom or by calling Margaret Richards at 919- 267-9264 Friday mornings from 10-1130am at Noda Yoga Charlotte NC starting June 4 until August 20 2010 Open to first 10 stu-dents who reserve call Jillian Longsworth 704-560-6144
A Day of Love amp Appreciation
for Military Wives On Saturday May 22 2010 the Raleigh (NC) Chapter
of The Links Inc honored military wives with ldquoA Day of
Love amp Appreciation for Military Spousesrdquo event The
event included a continental breakfast chair mas-
sages fashion tips on how to dress for less beauty tips
and resume-building Participants also had one-on-
one sessions with a financial counselor and life consult-
ant if desired A Chic-Fil-A lunch with trimmings was
provided for the wives The luncheon speaker K975
Radio Host ldquoMary Janerdquo addressed how self-
acceptance and a positive support group are keys to
happiness She said ldquoItrsquos essential to surround yourself
with people that will have your back in the tough
timesrdquo Several door prizes were given away one that
included a $175 Spa Gift Package Each Military Wife
received a tote bag filled with lots of great giveaways
Susan S Taylor with The Links said ldquoI would like the
Guard community to know how much the community
really supported this program All of the food and
many giveaways were donatedrdquo
Thank You
Military
Spouses
UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun
Relationship Enhancement Programs
Single Soldier‟s Retreat
How Not to Date a Jerk or Jerkette August 20-22mdashSmoky Mountains
For more details call 800-621-4136 ext 6124
Marriage Enrichment Weekend Retreats Laughing Your Way to a Better Marriage
Reserve your Slot Now July 9-11 2010 - Beach
July 23-25 2010 - Beach
August 13-15 2010 - Beach
August 27-29 2010 - Beach
For more details call 800-621-4136 ext 6124
Military Appreciation Days
May 30-31 July 4-5
Carowinds will offer FREE admission to any ac-
tive or retired military personnel on May 30-31
and July 4-5 2010 when showing proper identifi-
cation at the Carowinds Front Gate Along with
free admission active and retired members of
the military will also be able to purchase dis-
counted admission tickets at the Carowinds
Front Gate for members of their immediate fam-
ily on these dates The free ticket offer is only
available on the dates above and a valid mili-
tary ID must be presented to receive this special
offer
Throughout 2010 members of the military and as
many as three direct dependents may enter Sea-
World Busch Gardens or Sesame Place parks with a
single-day complimentary admission
Visit httpwwwherosalutecomcavatxindexhtml
Kings Dominion
announces its
Tribute to the
Armed Forces
May 30 amp 31
July 4 amp 5
3
Kings Dominion is pleased to announce that it will offer
FREE admission to active retired and former United
States military personnel on Sunday and Monday of
both the Memorial Day and July 4th weekends as a
part of its Tribute to the Armed Forces program The ex-
act dates are May 30 31 and July 4 5 2010 and in-
clude all branches of the service including National
Guard and Reserves The free ticket offer will be avail-
able on the Sunday and Monday of each weekend
and a valid military ID or discharge papers must be pre-
sented at Kings Dominion on one of the dates of the
program Place your credit card order online at
wwwkingsdominioncom Then simply click on tickets
then corporate partner Your COMPANY ID is AFAD8
Fathers DayService Member Card
Craft Event Family Readiness Groups will be onsite on June 5 at
the Morganton Armory from 1-3pm to make Fatherrsquos
Day Cards and also at the Lincolnton Armory from
10am to 12pm
You can also show your love for your Father or Military
Member at the Lenoir State Family Assistance Center
Walk in and make a card at your convenience Join
us on Friday June 18 2010 at 2-6 pm at the Lenoir
State Family Assistance Center 1535 Beecher Ander-
son Rd Lenoir NC
Music in the Park (Stump Sound Park) Saturday June 12 2010 ~ 6pm-9pm ~ Onslow County
Free Admission moonwalk concessions live entertainment
Bring your lawn chairs Call 9103475332
Danny Desens Jr amp Fallen Heroes Memorial Ride
Sunday June 27 2010 Ride in memory of Danny Desens Jr and all the Service mem-
bers who have made the ultimate sacrifice Registration starts
at 11am Donations are accepted for scholarships Ride be-
gins at 1pm For more info call 9103469997 or email
teacheyccoastalcarolinaedu
4
UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun for KIDS
Operation Kids on Guard
Day Drills
June 19 Kinston Armory
July 10 Raeford Armory
July 24 Winston Salem Armory
August 21 Morrisville Armory
August 28 Asheville Armory
Overnight Weekend Camps
September 24-26 2010 Camp Butner
Spaces fill quickly
To learn more and to register contact
Bridgette Carroll KOG Assistant at
bridgettecarrollusarmymil
or call 9196647664 Registration Forms can
be found at wwwncngbarmymil bdquoFamily
Programs‟ bdquoChild amp Youth Programs‟
THE FIRST TEE
Itrsquos tee time for children from
military Families thanks to The
First Tee Military Affiliate Pro-
gram The program offers free
golf instruction to children from
National Guard and Reserve
Families geographically sepa-
rated from a military base at
The First Teersquos 200 chapters
across the nation School-age
children at all skill levels from
beginner to advanced are in-
vited to hone their golf game
with the help of trained
coaches The program not only
sharpens childrenrsquos skills on golf
course greens and fairways but
it also provides life skills Along
with basic golf instruction The
First Tee coaches teach children
interpersonal communication
managing emotions goal-
setting and overcoming obsta-
cles To sign up parents can visit
a First Tee chapter in their com-
munity or download a coupon
for free instruction by visiting The
First Tee website http
wwwthefirstteeorgmilitary The
site also includes a listing of
chapter locations
HERSHEYS TRACK amp FIELD MEET Tuesday June 1 2010
Rain date is Thursday June 3 2010
White Oak High School Track
1001 Piney Green Rd Jacksonville
Registration 5-530pm
Meet begins 545pm
Open to boys amp girls ages 9-14 on
before Dec 31 2010 Those who turn 15
this year are not eligible No Charge
Come test your skills If you are between
the ages of 9 and 14 years old and you
like to run jump and throw then the
Hersheyrsquos Track amp Field Youth Program is
for you A birth certificate is required to
Child amp Youth Program
2025 National Guard Dr Morrisville 27560
FAX (919) 664-6156
Alice Dean State Youth Coordinator
(919) 664-7616 alicedeanusarmymil
Bridgette Carroll KOG Coordinator
(919) 693-3651 ext 21 bridgettecarrollusarmymil
Kristi Wagner Youth Coordinator (919) 693-3651 ext 23
kristiwagnerusarmymil
5th Annual Step Up For Soldiers Children‟s Fishing Tournament
Saturday June 19 2010
7am-1pm ~ Kure Beach Pier
Enjoy a day of fishing and fun for
military kids and their Families Pier
activities include fishing food and
prizes After the tournament a live
performance by Wilmington Police
Pipe and Drum Band and from 1-
5pm free admission to Splash Inflat-
able Water Park To donate or vol-
unteer call Jim Verdon at
5709710553
Pre-registration Required
httpstepupforsoldiersorg
Contact Tom Russell 9102974981
or email stepup4soldiersaolcom
NC Operation Military Kids Science Day Camps (Middle School Age Youth)
June 21-25 2010mdashWayne Co
Contact Summer E Young or Wallace Sim-
mons at 9197311527
Youngest Heroes Camp
This camp is just for military kids
ages 5-8 Youth will engage in
traditional camp activities
sleep in cabins and gain self-
confidence in learning man-
agement Youth will also cre-
ate a camp craft and partici-
pate in recreational activities This camp is
FREE for military youth Kids will enjoy rock
climbing canoeing kayaking camp fire sto-
ries archery and more See camp options
below
Betsy-Jeff Penn 4-H CentermdashReidsville NC
July 18-21 2010
To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or
contact Stacy Burns at 3363499455
Millstone 4-H CampmdashEllerbe NC
August 1-4 2010 or August 6-8 2010
To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or
contact Gene Shutt Director at
9106525905
Day Camp (ages 9-12)
August 2-5 2010
Contact Wanda Mills at 9104555873
Camp for Youth with
Developmental Disabilities
August 5-8 2010
Eastern 4-H Conference Center
Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800
Family Camp Weekend
September 3-5 2010
Eastern 4-H Conference Center
Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800
Contact Scott Enroughty at 9195158500 or
scott_enroughtyncsuedu
Kids Fishing Derby ~ June 5 9am Jacksonville TrainingAcademy Range
Fishing contest and prizes for
youth up to 16 years of age 12
and under requires an adult to
accompany Call 910347-5332
Visit wwonslowcountyncgovparks
5
We Wish all Dads a Happy Fatherrsquos Day
FATHERS F aithful
A lways there
T rustworthy
H onoring
E ver-loving
R ighteous
S upportive Author Unknown
Print out a Fatherrsquos
Day Card on Page 6
and write a custom
message for your dad
for Fatherrsquos Day (provided by Microsoftcom)
Choose the answer that best describes your gut reaction to change
1 Youre told that a life-changing event is about to occur You
a) Accept it graciously even though you are secretly worried
b) Get angry and berate the bearer of the news
c) Ignore it until youre forced to deal with it
2 After the shock of the change you
a) Make a plan of action
b) Complain about it incessantly to anyone who will listen
c) Turn off your cell phone and take to your bed
3 If the change will affect your financial future you
a) Call a financial adviser or turn on Suze Orman
b) Call your lawyer to sue the people who imposed the
change on you
c) Continue your spending lifestyle so that no one will know
4 To you change signifies
a) Opportunity
b) Adversity
c) Nothing in particular
5 When change occurs your spiritual sense says
a) I dont know what the future holds but I know who holds the
future
b) An eye for an eye
7
Do You Embrace Change Take This Quiz and Find Out
Oliver says ldquoOld-school songs proclaim Everything Must Change and
A Change Is Gonna Come Maybe you know all of the lyrics But do
you also know how to embrace the inevitable changes that happen in
life Unfortunately because change ushers in the unknown most of us
fear suddenly imposed situations Yet embracing and managing what
we cannot control can build character fortify our resolve and make us
stronger Take the quick quiz below--called it the Test of Your Emer-
gency-Response System--to see how well you embrace changerdquo
Stephanie Stokes Oliver about the power
of change
Courtesy of niaonlinecom
Scoring You may have wanted to answer
all of the above for each question That
would be understandable because we all
experience waves of varying emotions in
times of uncertainty However if you an-
swered mostly Cs you are slow to accept
change and may live in a state of denial
longer than most people do Mostly Bs
means you use anger to make yourself feel
empowered when dealing with change If
your answers were mainly As you embrace
change with a positive attitude
Free Counseling No Paperwork
John Alleman
Adult and Family Specialist
johnballemanhealthnetcom
(919) 745-9635
Betty Steelman
Youth and Family Specialist
bettysncmflcgmailcom
(919) 665-9178
Asheville
ngmflclenoirgmailcom
(828) 729-0729
Charlotte
ngmflccharlottegmailcom
(980) 213-6458 or 6459
Greenville
ngmflcgreenvillegmailcom
(252) 295-8558
Morrisville
ngmflcmorrisvillegmailcom
919) 627-4360 or 4361
Wilmington
ngmflcwilmingtongmailcom
(910) 508-6170
If you or someone you know is having trouble experiencing change you can always take advantage of the free counseling
services through the Military Family Life Consultants These counselors donrsquot keep records or paperwork on who they as-
sist so you donrsquot have to worry hellip your privacy is maintained
MILITARY FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANTS
Free Private Call today
YELLOW RIBBON TEAM
800-621-4136 EXT 6054
John Gattis
Program Director
johngattisusarmymil
Staff
David Coffill
davidcoffillusarmymil
Adam Garrity
adamlgarrityusarmymil
Lola Lawson
lolalawsonusarmymil
Ken Martinsen
kennethmartinsenusarmymil
Gerald Murray
geraldmurrayusarmymil
David Nobles
davidnoblesusarmymil
Chris Rosehart
christopherrosehartusarmymil
DON‟T MISS
30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon
60-Day Event
Start Friday June 4 2010 at 4pm
End Sunday June 6 2010 at 9pm
Start Friday June 11 2010 at 4pm
End Sunday June 13 2010 at 9pm
Koury Convention Center
3121 High Point RdGreensboro NC
1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon
30-Day Reintegration Event
Start Saturday June 26 2010 at 4pm
Registration and vendor displays
Sunday June 27 2010 Classes and
Seminars 8am to 3pm
Raleigh Convention Center
500 S Salisbury Street Raleigh NC
POC Lola Lawson 9196646054
YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature
8
Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon
Event that took place last month in May SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret) who leads North Carolinalsquos Yellow Ribbon team said ― Welsquove been planning for this day since the day you left Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings The entire Family Programs staff Yellow Ribbon team uniformed Soldiers Command Lead-ership and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success
The event was held at the Koury Convention Center in Greensboro NC the only facility large-enough to house the Brigadeslsquo massive numbers Major General William E Ingram Jr Adjutant General for the North Carolina
National Guard said ―There wonlsquot be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you Ingram who spoke during the Soldierslsquo dinner said ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program hellip welsquove done several for our returning units hellip but never one of this magnitude A lot of time energy and effort was put into having the right people at the right time hellip to have you here together to understand what is going on The theme for this is that Itlsquos all about youlsquo Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with ―Old Hickory Welcome Home Really hellip Welsquore really glad to have you back Colonel Cohn NCNG J9 also told the crowd during Thursday nightlsquos dinner that though itlsquos been said before ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade Ilsquom glad youlsquore here Additional panel members also addressed participants The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging The events which began on Thursday May 13 2010 included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend After the first night the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard Continued on Page 9
Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon EventmdashRecap By Angelena Dockery NCNG Family Programs
ldquo Wersquove been planning for this
day since the day you leftrdquo
9
CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8
MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA
The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great
CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION
The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported
2 10
Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs
For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-
tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat
Team their Families and friends toughest
challenge is living without one another
for a year Soldiers are learning to live in
a defensive environment much different
than the life they live at home Spouses
learn to be single or single parents mak-
ing all the decisions for the house their
children and themselves They are
stressed daily from worrying about the
safety and wellbeing of their loved one
deployed However one thought is the
same for both soldiers and Families look
forward to the day of being together
again
Once Soldiers return and the celebration
of their homecoming is over Families
and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-
ties of reintegration When Soldiers return
home they may feel like a stranger in their
own home or are faced with decisions and
choices they are not use to Military wife
Kelsey Heiney said When he first came
homehellipit was whoo you know good
times and then it got rough For Mrs
Heiney it was hard sharing what was her
space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had
the apartment all to myself for a year and
so of course its tough trying to just share
the apartment with somebody She said
getting the routines together and getting
use to each other has been something they
have been working through and they are
trying to figure out the best way to com-
promise
Getting things back to normal resounds
heavily in many Families and soldiers
lives Simple things like finding a bowl or
spoon can be frustrating for both the one
at home and the one returning One mili-
tary spouse said It drove me crazy when
my husband was in the kitchen and kept
opening and closing the drawers Finally I
got so irritated I asked him What is it
that you are looking for While she was
frustrated with her spouse for opening
and closing the drawers he was frustrated
that he knew where nothing was During
reintegration frustration reaches multiple
levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon
events are a great place for soldiers and
Families to come together and share ex-
periences and solutions It is a place where
they are not alone
During Yellow Ribbon events Families
and soldiers attend classes and seminars
with other soldiers and Families from the
same deployment Mrs Heiney said I
think it is good from a spouses point of
view because I can meet other womenhellip
and relate to them whereas over the
phone it is different It is kind of hard to
talk to someone over the phone about
stuff During downtime participants had
the opportunity to meet one-on-one with
vendors ranging from support organiza-
tions to potential employers
The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-
diers and Families a support network
SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa
230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-
pany A says it is good to have these
events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-
ployment because problems and issues do
come up before returning to drill and hav-
ing this information now is helpful The
most helpful for her was the Marriage
Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was
deployed to Iraq before but I havent been
an Army wife with my husband de-
ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment
class they know and talked about the
changes couples go through during de-
ployments and coming home It made me
feel better to hear somebody say thisit is
normal She said it helped her and her
husband understand that each of them is
going through different challenges and
they are not harder than what the other is
facing While he is challenged with com-
ing back from a deployment she is chal-
lenged with him being away Kawa says
she was glad she chose to attend the op-
tional Marriage Enrichment class and
hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events
in the future
Participants have the choice to leave the
Yellow Ribbon event with information
and help pertaining to them and if they
dont find anything helpful at least they
were able to get together with their
second family the soldiers and Fami-
lies they shared a year of their life These
events help Families and soldiers pick up
their lives while getting to know each
other again
SPC Cleta Kawa
wife of Sgt Mark
Kawa 230th
Brigade Support
Battalion
Company A
says The most
helpful for her
was the
Marriage
Enrichment
Seminar
A major part of successful reintegration
for Soldiers their Families amp friends is
communication Resolving to openly
discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition
Military Family
Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids
Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon
participants what Operation Military Kids does
and what they offer Like the upcoming summer
camps for kids throughout the state
2 11
Raising a military family is a little more complicated
when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and
Family Programs are bringing military Families training
relevant to the special dynamics of military family life
during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first
Family Retreat
Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home
North Carolina National Guard
Family Retreat
August 20-22
Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010
Make check or money order payable
to NCNG Family Readiness
Mail form and Payment To
NCNG Family Programs
CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road
Raleigh NC 27607
Guard Memberrsquos Name
Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number
Spouse Name (If applicable)
Spouse Social Security Number
Mailing Address
Phone Number (include area code)
Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)
Military Unit
Number of Children
Please List their Names and Ages Below
Please check the appropriate boxes
We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night
We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop
We have included the names and ages of our children
Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee
Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or
carolynstevens1usarmymil
Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee
Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders
Pamela Hughes
State FRG Advisor
105 West Spring Street
Oxford 27565
(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil
Family Readiness
Support Assistants
Charlotte
(704) 359-5707
Clinton
Sarah Strickland
sarahrstricklandusarmymil
(910) 299-5466
Goldsboro
Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil
(919) 739-5319
Jacksonville
Judy Richardson
judyrrichardsonusarmymil
(910) 347-4352line 11
Morrisville
Jim Roberson
jamesrobersonusarmymil
(919) 664-7655
12
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NCNG Family Programs
ldquoGuarding Families on the Homefrontrdquo
QUICK REFERENCE
DEERSID Cards 18005389552
TriCare
18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil
Transition Assistance
Andy Jackson 9196646573
American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg
National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)
Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)
The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment
Locations
Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920
Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616
Asheville Military Family Resource
Center
7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803
Fax (828) 274-8572
David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator
davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Debra Collington FAC Specialist
debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
4240 West Blvd 28208
Fax (704) 359-5759
Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist
racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756
Lynn White FAC Specialist
lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769
Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center
449 East Mountain Dr 28306
Fax na
Amy Wallace FAC Specialist
amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125
Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-
ter
110 Franklin Blvd 27401
Fax (336) 691-7725
Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator
katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712
Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist
sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763
Greenville State Family Assistance Center
1401 N Memorial Dr 27834
Fax (252) 551-6136
Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator
dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669
Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR
6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081
Fax (704) 359-5759
Shane Judd FAC Specialist
shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553
Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist
dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554
Kinston Unit Family Contact Center
2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504
Fax (252) 526-2772
Vacant (252) 526-2711
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Let us help Call or Stop By
Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer
Lenoir State Family Assistance Center
(SFAC)
1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645
Fax (828) 757-4519
Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator
nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Frances Johnson FAC Specialist
francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Raleigh Military Family Resource Center
130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966
Fax (919) 334-9971
Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator
markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966
Earlene Capps FAC Specialist
earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957
Lisa Faison FAC Specialist
lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196
Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center
406 Hospital Rd 27577
Fax (919) 934-2901
Abby Millsap FAC Specialist
abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013
Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center
500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387
Fax (910) 692-3659
David Butler FAC Specialist
davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747
Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center
2412 Infantry Rd 28412
Fax (910) 251-7130
Jim Marley FAC Specialist
jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195
Wilmington Military Family Resource Center
3114 Randall Pkwy 28403
Fax (910) 343-1776
Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator
judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775
Julie Rowe FAC Specialist
BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates
on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina
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2
COMMUNITY CARES |community outreach
Healing the Wounds of War Breath by Breath The Yoga Warrior method is designed to provide ad-
vanced knowledge and practical tools for yoga teach-
ers working with combat veterans diagnosed with Com-
bat and Operational Stress Reaction or Post Traumatic
Stress Disorder (PTSD) The Yoga Warriors Method skillfully
integrates concepts from yoga therapy traditional
yoga philosophy psychology and sensory integration
theory with current scientific knowledge of the mind-
body connection to promote health wellness and
peace of mind from within For information about Yoga
and PTSD visit wwwyogawarriorscom
FREE CLASSES FOR COMBAT VETERANS
ANDOR SPOUSES
Tuesday nights from 630-8pm at the American Red Cross in Raleigh starting June 15 until August 24 2010 Class is free and open to the first 25 students who register by calling Diane Callan at 919-650-1806 or emailing wellnessforwarriorsgmailcom Sunday nights from 530-645pm at Yoga Garden Apex Open to first 10 students who register online at wwwyogagardencom or by calling Margaret Richards at 919- 267-9264 Friday mornings from 10-1130am at Noda Yoga Charlotte NC starting June 4 until August 20 2010 Open to first 10 stu-dents who reserve call Jillian Longsworth 704-560-6144
A Day of Love amp Appreciation
for Military Wives On Saturday May 22 2010 the Raleigh (NC) Chapter
of The Links Inc honored military wives with ldquoA Day of
Love amp Appreciation for Military Spousesrdquo event The
event included a continental breakfast chair mas-
sages fashion tips on how to dress for less beauty tips
and resume-building Participants also had one-on-
one sessions with a financial counselor and life consult-
ant if desired A Chic-Fil-A lunch with trimmings was
provided for the wives The luncheon speaker K975
Radio Host ldquoMary Janerdquo addressed how self-
acceptance and a positive support group are keys to
happiness She said ldquoItrsquos essential to surround yourself
with people that will have your back in the tough
timesrdquo Several door prizes were given away one that
included a $175 Spa Gift Package Each Military Wife
received a tote bag filled with lots of great giveaways
Susan S Taylor with The Links said ldquoI would like the
Guard community to know how much the community
really supported this program All of the food and
many giveaways were donatedrdquo
Thank You
Military
Spouses
UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun
Relationship Enhancement Programs
Single Soldier‟s Retreat
How Not to Date a Jerk or Jerkette August 20-22mdashSmoky Mountains
For more details call 800-621-4136 ext 6124
Marriage Enrichment Weekend Retreats Laughing Your Way to a Better Marriage
Reserve your Slot Now July 9-11 2010 - Beach
July 23-25 2010 - Beach
August 13-15 2010 - Beach
August 27-29 2010 - Beach
For more details call 800-621-4136 ext 6124
Military Appreciation Days
May 30-31 July 4-5
Carowinds will offer FREE admission to any ac-
tive or retired military personnel on May 30-31
and July 4-5 2010 when showing proper identifi-
cation at the Carowinds Front Gate Along with
free admission active and retired members of
the military will also be able to purchase dis-
counted admission tickets at the Carowinds
Front Gate for members of their immediate fam-
ily on these dates The free ticket offer is only
available on the dates above and a valid mili-
tary ID must be presented to receive this special
offer
Throughout 2010 members of the military and as
many as three direct dependents may enter Sea-
World Busch Gardens or Sesame Place parks with a
single-day complimentary admission
Visit httpwwwherosalutecomcavatxindexhtml
Kings Dominion
announces its
Tribute to the
Armed Forces
May 30 amp 31
July 4 amp 5
3
Kings Dominion is pleased to announce that it will offer
FREE admission to active retired and former United
States military personnel on Sunday and Monday of
both the Memorial Day and July 4th weekends as a
part of its Tribute to the Armed Forces program The ex-
act dates are May 30 31 and July 4 5 2010 and in-
clude all branches of the service including National
Guard and Reserves The free ticket offer will be avail-
able on the Sunday and Monday of each weekend
and a valid military ID or discharge papers must be pre-
sented at Kings Dominion on one of the dates of the
program Place your credit card order online at
wwwkingsdominioncom Then simply click on tickets
then corporate partner Your COMPANY ID is AFAD8
Fathers DayService Member Card
Craft Event Family Readiness Groups will be onsite on June 5 at
the Morganton Armory from 1-3pm to make Fatherrsquos
Day Cards and also at the Lincolnton Armory from
10am to 12pm
You can also show your love for your Father or Military
Member at the Lenoir State Family Assistance Center
Walk in and make a card at your convenience Join
us on Friday June 18 2010 at 2-6 pm at the Lenoir
State Family Assistance Center 1535 Beecher Ander-
son Rd Lenoir NC
Music in the Park (Stump Sound Park) Saturday June 12 2010 ~ 6pm-9pm ~ Onslow County
Free Admission moonwalk concessions live entertainment
Bring your lawn chairs Call 9103475332
Danny Desens Jr amp Fallen Heroes Memorial Ride
Sunday June 27 2010 Ride in memory of Danny Desens Jr and all the Service mem-
bers who have made the ultimate sacrifice Registration starts
at 11am Donations are accepted for scholarships Ride be-
gins at 1pm For more info call 9103469997 or email
teacheyccoastalcarolinaedu
4
UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun for KIDS
Operation Kids on Guard
Day Drills
June 19 Kinston Armory
July 10 Raeford Armory
July 24 Winston Salem Armory
August 21 Morrisville Armory
August 28 Asheville Armory
Overnight Weekend Camps
September 24-26 2010 Camp Butner
Spaces fill quickly
To learn more and to register contact
Bridgette Carroll KOG Assistant at
bridgettecarrollusarmymil
or call 9196647664 Registration Forms can
be found at wwwncngbarmymil bdquoFamily
Programs‟ bdquoChild amp Youth Programs‟
THE FIRST TEE
Itrsquos tee time for children from
military Families thanks to The
First Tee Military Affiliate Pro-
gram The program offers free
golf instruction to children from
National Guard and Reserve
Families geographically sepa-
rated from a military base at
The First Teersquos 200 chapters
across the nation School-age
children at all skill levels from
beginner to advanced are in-
vited to hone their golf game
with the help of trained
coaches The program not only
sharpens childrenrsquos skills on golf
course greens and fairways but
it also provides life skills Along
with basic golf instruction The
First Tee coaches teach children
interpersonal communication
managing emotions goal-
setting and overcoming obsta-
cles To sign up parents can visit
a First Tee chapter in their com-
munity or download a coupon
for free instruction by visiting The
First Tee website http
wwwthefirstteeorgmilitary The
site also includes a listing of
chapter locations
HERSHEYS TRACK amp FIELD MEET Tuesday June 1 2010
Rain date is Thursday June 3 2010
White Oak High School Track
1001 Piney Green Rd Jacksonville
Registration 5-530pm
Meet begins 545pm
Open to boys amp girls ages 9-14 on
before Dec 31 2010 Those who turn 15
this year are not eligible No Charge
Come test your skills If you are between
the ages of 9 and 14 years old and you
like to run jump and throw then the
Hersheyrsquos Track amp Field Youth Program is
for you A birth certificate is required to
Child amp Youth Program
2025 National Guard Dr Morrisville 27560
FAX (919) 664-6156
Alice Dean State Youth Coordinator
(919) 664-7616 alicedeanusarmymil
Bridgette Carroll KOG Coordinator
(919) 693-3651 ext 21 bridgettecarrollusarmymil
Kristi Wagner Youth Coordinator (919) 693-3651 ext 23
kristiwagnerusarmymil
5th Annual Step Up For Soldiers Children‟s Fishing Tournament
Saturday June 19 2010
7am-1pm ~ Kure Beach Pier
Enjoy a day of fishing and fun for
military kids and their Families Pier
activities include fishing food and
prizes After the tournament a live
performance by Wilmington Police
Pipe and Drum Band and from 1-
5pm free admission to Splash Inflat-
able Water Park To donate or vol-
unteer call Jim Verdon at
5709710553
Pre-registration Required
httpstepupforsoldiersorg
Contact Tom Russell 9102974981
or email stepup4soldiersaolcom
NC Operation Military Kids Science Day Camps (Middle School Age Youth)
June 21-25 2010mdashWayne Co
Contact Summer E Young or Wallace Sim-
mons at 9197311527
Youngest Heroes Camp
This camp is just for military kids
ages 5-8 Youth will engage in
traditional camp activities
sleep in cabins and gain self-
confidence in learning man-
agement Youth will also cre-
ate a camp craft and partici-
pate in recreational activities This camp is
FREE for military youth Kids will enjoy rock
climbing canoeing kayaking camp fire sto-
ries archery and more See camp options
below
Betsy-Jeff Penn 4-H CentermdashReidsville NC
July 18-21 2010
To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or
contact Stacy Burns at 3363499455
Millstone 4-H CampmdashEllerbe NC
August 1-4 2010 or August 6-8 2010
To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or
contact Gene Shutt Director at
9106525905
Day Camp (ages 9-12)
August 2-5 2010
Contact Wanda Mills at 9104555873
Camp for Youth with
Developmental Disabilities
August 5-8 2010
Eastern 4-H Conference Center
Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800
Family Camp Weekend
September 3-5 2010
Eastern 4-H Conference Center
Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800
Contact Scott Enroughty at 9195158500 or
scott_enroughtyncsuedu
Kids Fishing Derby ~ June 5 9am Jacksonville TrainingAcademy Range
Fishing contest and prizes for
youth up to 16 years of age 12
and under requires an adult to
accompany Call 910347-5332
Visit wwonslowcountyncgovparks
5
We Wish all Dads a Happy Fatherrsquos Day
FATHERS F aithful
A lways there
T rustworthy
H onoring
E ver-loving
R ighteous
S upportive Author Unknown
Print out a Fatherrsquos
Day Card on Page 6
and write a custom
message for your dad
for Fatherrsquos Day (provided by Microsoftcom)
Choose the answer that best describes your gut reaction to change
1 Youre told that a life-changing event is about to occur You
a) Accept it graciously even though you are secretly worried
b) Get angry and berate the bearer of the news
c) Ignore it until youre forced to deal with it
2 After the shock of the change you
a) Make a plan of action
b) Complain about it incessantly to anyone who will listen
c) Turn off your cell phone and take to your bed
3 If the change will affect your financial future you
a) Call a financial adviser or turn on Suze Orman
b) Call your lawyer to sue the people who imposed the
change on you
c) Continue your spending lifestyle so that no one will know
4 To you change signifies
a) Opportunity
b) Adversity
c) Nothing in particular
5 When change occurs your spiritual sense says
a) I dont know what the future holds but I know who holds the
future
b) An eye for an eye
7
Do You Embrace Change Take This Quiz and Find Out
Oliver says ldquoOld-school songs proclaim Everything Must Change and
A Change Is Gonna Come Maybe you know all of the lyrics But do
you also know how to embrace the inevitable changes that happen in
life Unfortunately because change ushers in the unknown most of us
fear suddenly imposed situations Yet embracing and managing what
we cannot control can build character fortify our resolve and make us
stronger Take the quick quiz below--called it the Test of Your Emer-
gency-Response System--to see how well you embrace changerdquo
Stephanie Stokes Oliver about the power
of change
Courtesy of niaonlinecom
Scoring You may have wanted to answer
all of the above for each question That
would be understandable because we all
experience waves of varying emotions in
times of uncertainty However if you an-
swered mostly Cs you are slow to accept
change and may live in a state of denial
longer than most people do Mostly Bs
means you use anger to make yourself feel
empowered when dealing with change If
your answers were mainly As you embrace
change with a positive attitude
Free Counseling No Paperwork
John Alleman
Adult and Family Specialist
johnballemanhealthnetcom
(919) 745-9635
Betty Steelman
Youth and Family Specialist
bettysncmflcgmailcom
(919) 665-9178
Asheville
ngmflclenoirgmailcom
(828) 729-0729
Charlotte
ngmflccharlottegmailcom
(980) 213-6458 or 6459
Greenville
ngmflcgreenvillegmailcom
(252) 295-8558
Morrisville
ngmflcmorrisvillegmailcom
919) 627-4360 or 4361
Wilmington
ngmflcwilmingtongmailcom
(910) 508-6170
If you or someone you know is having trouble experiencing change you can always take advantage of the free counseling
services through the Military Family Life Consultants These counselors donrsquot keep records or paperwork on who they as-
sist so you donrsquot have to worry hellip your privacy is maintained
MILITARY FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANTS
Free Private Call today
YELLOW RIBBON TEAM
800-621-4136 EXT 6054
John Gattis
Program Director
johngattisusarmymil
Staff
David Coffill
davidcoffillusarmymil
Adam Garrity
adamlgarrityusarmymil
Lola Lawson
lolalawsonusarmymil
Ken Martinsen
kennethmartinsenusarmymil
Gerald Murray
geraldmurrayusarmymil
David Nobles
davidnoblesusarmymil
Chris Rosehart
christopherrosehartusarmymil
DON‟T MISS
30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon
60-Day Event
Start Friday June 4 2010 at 4pm
End Sunday June 6 2010 at 9pm
Start Friday June 11 2010 at 4pm
End Sunday June 13 2010 at 9pm
Koury Convention Center
3121 High Point RdGreensboro NC
1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon
30-Day Reintegration Event
Start Saturday June 26 2010 at 4pm
Registration and vendor displays
Sunday June 27 2010 Classes and
Seminars 8am to 3pm
Raleigh Convention Center
500 S Salisbury Street Raleigh NC
POC Lola Lawson 9196646054
YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature
8
Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon
Event that took place last month in May SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret) who leads North Carolinalsquos Yellow Ribbon team said ― Welsquove been planning for this day since the day you left Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings The entire Family Programs staff Yellow Ribbon team uniformed Soldiers Command Lead-ership and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success
The event was held at the Koury Convention Center in Greensboro NC the only facility large-enough to house the Brigadeslsquo massive numbers Major General William E Ingram Jr Adjutant General for the North Carolina
National Guard said ―There wonlsquot be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you Ingram who spoke during the Soldierslsquo dinner said ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program hellip welsquove done several for our returning units hellip but never one of this magnitude A lot of time energy and effort was put into having the right people at the right time hellip to have you here together to understand what is going on The theme for this is that Itlsquos all about youlsquo Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with ―Old Hickory Welcome Home Really hellip Welsquore really glad to have you back Colonel Cohn NCNG J9 also told the crowd during Thursday nightlsquos dinner that though itlsquos been said before ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade Ilsquom glad youlsquore here Additional panel members also addressed participants The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging The events which began on Thursday May 13 2010 included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend After the first night the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard Continued on Page 9
Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon EventmdashRecap By Angelena Dockery NCNG Family Programs
ldquo Wersquove been planning for this
day since the day you leftrdquo
9
CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8
MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA
The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great
CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION
The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported
2 10
Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs
For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-
tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat
Team their Families and friends toughest
challenge is living without one another
for a year Soldiers are learning to live in
a defensive environment much different
than the life they live at home Spouses
learn to be single or single parents mak-
ing all the decisions for the house their
children and themselves They are
stressed daily from worrying about the
safety and wellbeing of their loved one
deployed However one thought is the
same for both soldiers and Families look
forward to the day of being together
again
Once Soldiers return and the celebration
of their homecoming is over Families
and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-
ties of reintegration When Soldiers return
home they may feel like a stranger in their
own home or are faced with decisions and
choices they are not use to Military wife
Kelsey Heiney said When he first came
homehellipit was whoo you know good
times and then it got rough For Mrs
Heiney it was hard sharing what was her
space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had
the apartment all to myself for a year and
so of course its tough trying to just share
the apartment with somebody She said
getting the routines together and getting
use to each other has been something they
have been working through and they are
trying to figure out the best way to com-
promise
Getting things back to normal resounds
heavily in many Families and soldiers
lives Simple things like finding a bowl or
spoon can be frustrating for both the one
at home and the one returning One mili-
tary spouse said It drove me crazy when
my husband was in the kitchen and kept
opening and closing the drawers Finally I
got so irritated I asked him What is it
that you are looking for While she was
frustrated with her spouse for opening
and closing the drawers he was frustrated
that he knew where nothing was During
reintegration frustration reaches multiple
levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon
events are a great place for soldiers and
Families to come together and share ex-
periences and solutions It is a place where
they are not alone
During Yellow Ribbon events Families
and soldiers attend classes and seminars
with other soldiers and Families from the
same deployment Mrs Heiney said I
think it is good from a spouses point of
view because I can meet other womenhellip
and relate to them whereas over the
phone it is different It is kind of hard to
talk to someone over the phone about
stuff During downtime participants had
the opportunity to meet one-on-one with
vendors ranging from support organiza-
tions to potential employers
The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-
diers and Families a support network
SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa
230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-
pany A says it is good to have these
events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-
ployment because problems and issues do
come up before returning to drill and hav-
ing this information now is helpful The
most helpful for her was the Marriage
Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was
deployed to Iraq before but I havent been
an Army wife with my husband de-
ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment
class they know and talked about the
changes couples go through during de-
ployments and coming home It made me
feel better to hear somebody say thisit is
normal She said it helped her and her
husband understand that each of them is
going through different challenges and
they are not harder than what the other is
facing While he is challenged with com-
ing back from a deployment she is chal-
lenged with him being away Kawa says
she was glad she chose to attend the op-
tional Marriage Enrichment class and
hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events
in the future
Participants have the choice to leave the
Yellow Ribbon event with information
and help pertaining to them and if they
dont find anything helpful at least they
were able to get together with their
second family the soldiers and Fami-
lies they shared a year of their life These
events help Families and soldiers pick up
their lives while getting to know each
other again
SPC Cleta Kawa
wife of Sgt Mark
Kawa 230th
Brigade Support
Battalion
Company A
says The most
helpful for her
was the
Marriage
Enrichment
Seminar
A major part of successful reintegration
for Soldiers their Families amp friends is
communication Resolving to openly
discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition
Military Family
Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids
Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon
participants what Operation Military Kids does
and what they offer Like the upcoming summer
camps for kids throughout the state
2 11
Raising a military family is a little more complicated
when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and
Family Programs are bringing military Families training
relevant to the special dynamics of military family life
during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first
Family Retreat
Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home
North Carolina National Guard
Family Retreat
August 20-22
Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010
Make check or money order payable
to NCNG Family Readiness
Mail form and Payment To
NCNG Family Programs
CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road
Raleigh NC 27607
Guard Memberrsquos Name
Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number
Spouse Name (If applicable)
Spouse Social Security Number
Mailing Address
Phone Number (include area code)
Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)
Military Unit
Number of Children
Please List their Names and Ages Below
Please check the appropriate boxes
We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night
We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop
We have included the names and ages of our children
Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee
Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or
carolynstevens1usarmymil
Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee
Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders
Pamela Hughes
State FRG Advisor
105 West Spring Street
Oxford 27565
(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil
Family Readiness
Support Assistants
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(704) 359-5707
Clinton
Sarah Strickland
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Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil
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Judy Richardson
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Jim Roberson
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(919) 664-7655
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ter
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Fax (252) 526-2772
Vacant (252) 526-2711
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1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645
Fax (828) 757-4519
Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator
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Frances Johnson FAC Specialist
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Raleigh Military Family Resource Center
130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966
Fax (919) 334-9971
Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator
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Earlene Capps FAC Specialist
earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957
Lisa Faison FAC Specialist
lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196
Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center
406 Hospital Rd 27577
Fax (919) 934-2901
Abby Millsap FAC Specialist
abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013
Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center
500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387
Fax (910) 692-3659
David Butler FAC Specialist
davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747
Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center
2412 Infantry Rd 28412
Fax (910) 251-7130
Jim Marley FAC Specialist
jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195
Wilmington Military Family Resource Center
3114 Randall Pkwy 28403
Fax (910) 343-1776
Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator
judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775
Julie Rowe FAC Specialist
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UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun
Relationship Enhancement Programs
Single Soldier‟s Retreat
How Not to Date a Jerk or Jerkette August 20-22mdashSmoky Mountains
For more details call 800-621-4136 ext 6124
Marriage Enrichment Weekend Retreats Laughing Your Way to a Better Marriage
Reserve your Slot Now July 9-11 2010 - Beach
July 23-25 2010 - Beach
August 13-15 2010 - Beach
August 27-29 2010 - Beach
For more details call 800-621-4136 ext 6124
Military Appreciation Days
May 30-31 July 4-5
Carowinds will offer FREE admission to any ac-
tive or retired military personnel on May 30-31
and July 4-5 2010 when showing proper identifi-
cation at the Carowinds Front Gate Along with
free admission active and retired members of
the military will also be able to purchase dis-
counted admission tickets at the Carowinds
Front Gate for members of their immediate fam-
ily on these dates The free ticket offer is only
available on the dates above and a valid mili-
tary ID must be presented to receive this special
offer
Throughout 2010 members of the military and as
many as three direct dependents may enter Sea-
World Busch Gardens or Sesame Place parks with a
single-day complimentary admission
Visit httpwwwherosalutecomcavatxindexhtml
Kings Dominion
announces its
Tribute to the
Armed Forces
May 30 amp 31
July 4 amp 5
3
Kings Dominion is pleased to announce that it will offer
FREE admission to active retired and former United
States military personnel on Sunday and Monday of
both the Memorial Day and July 4th weekends as a
part of its Tribute to the Armed Forces program The ex-
act dates are May 30 31 and July 4 5 2010 and in-
clude all branches of the service including National
Guard and Reserves The free ticket offer will be avail-
able on the Sunday and Monday of each weekend
and a valid military ID or discharge papers must be pre-
sented at Kings Dominion on one of the dates of the
program Place your credit card order online at
wwwkingsdominioncom Then simply click on tickets
then corporate partner Your COMPANY ID is AFAD8
Fathers DayService Member Card
Craft Event Family Readiness Groups will be onsite on June 5 at
the Morganton Armory from 1-3pm to make Fatherrsquos
Day Cards and also at the Lincolnton Armory from
10am to 12pm
You can also show your love for your Father or Military
Member at the Lenoir State Family Assistance Center
Walk in and make a card at your convenience Join
us on Friday June 18 2010 at 2-6 pm at the Lenoir
State Family Assistance Center 1535 Beecher Ander-
son Rd Lenoir NC
Music in the Park (Stump Sound Park) Saturday June 12 2010 ~ 6pm-9pm ~ Onslow County
Free Admission moonwalk concessions live entertainment
Bring your lawn chairs Call 9103475332
Danny Desens Jr amp Fallen Heroes Memorial Ride
Sunday June 27 2010 Ride in memory of Danny Desens Jr and all the Service mem-
bers who have made the ultimate sacrifice Registration starts
at 11am Donations are accepted for scholarships Ride be-
gins at 1pm For more info call 9103469997 or email
teacheyccoastalcarolinaedu
4
UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun for KIDS
Operation Kids on Guard
Day Drills
June 19 Kinston Armory
July 10 Raeford Armory
July 24 Winston Salem Armory
August 21 Morrisville Armory
August 28 Asheville Armory
Overnight Weekend Camps
September 24-26 2010 Camp Butner
Spaces fill quickly
To learn more and to register contact
Bridgette Carroll KOG Assistant at
bridgettecarrollusarmymil
or call 9196647664 Registration Forms can
be found at wwwncngbarmymil bdquoFamily
Programs‟ bdquoChild amp Youth Programs‟
THE FIRST TEE
Itrsquos tee time for children from
military Families thanks to The
First Tee Military Affiliate Pro-
gram The program offers free
golf instruction to children from
National Guard and Reserve
Families geographically sepa-
rated from a military base at
The First Teersquos 200 chapters
across the nation School-age
children at all skill levels from
beginner to advanced are in-
vited to hone their golf game
with the help of trained
coaches The program not only
sharpens childrenrsquos skills on golf
course greens and fairways but
it also provides life skills Along
with basic golf instruction The
First Tee coaches teach children
interpersonal communication
managing emotions goal-
setting and overcoming obsta-
cles To sign up parents can visit
a First Tee chapter in their com-
munity or download a coupon
for free instruction by visiting The
First Tee website http
wwwthefirstteeorgmilitary The
site also includes a listing of
chapter locations
HERSHEYS TRACK amp FIELD MEET Tuesday June 1 2010
Rain date is Thursday June 3 2010
White Oak High School Track
1001 Piney Green Rd Jacksonville
Registration 5-530pm
Meet begins 545pm
Open to boys amp girls ages 9-14 on
before Dec 31 2010 Those who turn 15
this year are not eligible No Charge
Come test your skills If you are between
the ages of 9 and 14 years old and you
like to run jump and throw then the
Hersheyrsquos Track amp Field Youth Program is
for you A birth certificate is required to
Child amp Youth Program
2025 National Guard Dr Morrisville 27560
FAX (919) 664-6156
Alice Dean State Youth Coordinator
(919) 664-7616 alicedeanusarmymil
Bridgette Carroll KOG Coordinator
(919) 693-3651 ext 21 bridgettecarrollusarmymil
Kristi Wagner Youth Coordinator (919) 693-3651 ext 23
kristiwagnerusarmymil
5th Annual Step Up For Soldiers Children‟s Fishing Tournament
Saturday June 19 2010
7am-1pm ~ Kure Beach Pier
Enjoy a day of fishing and fun for
military kids and their Families Pier
activities include fishing food and
prizes After the tournament a live
performance by Wilmington Police
Pipe and Drum Band and from 1-
5pm free admission to Splash Inflat-
able Water Park To donate or vol-
unteer call Jim Verdon at
5709710553
Pre-registration Required
httpstepupforsoldiersorg
Contact Tom Russell 9102974981
or email stepup4soldiersaolcom
NC Operation Military Kids Science Day Camps (Middle School Age Youth)
June 21-25 2010mdashWayne Co
Contact Summer E Young or Wallace Sim-
mons at 9197311527
Youngest Heroes Camp
This camp is just for military kids
ages 5-8 Youth will engage in
traditional camp activities
sleep in cabins and gain self-
confidence in learning man-
agement Youth will also cre-
ate a camp craft and partici-
pate in recreational activities This camp is
FREE for military youth Kids will enjoy rock
climbing canoeing kayaking camp fire sto-
ries archery and more See camp options
below
Betsy-Jeff Penn 4-H CentermdashReidsville NC
July 18-21 2010
To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or
contact Stacy Burns at 3363499455
Millstone 4-H CampmdashEllerbe NC
August 1-4 2010 or August 6-8 2010
To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or
contact Gene Shutt Director at
9106525905
Day Camp (ages 9-12)
August 2-5 2010
Contact Wanda Mills at 9104555873
Camp for Youth with
Developmental Disabilities
August 5-8 2010
Eastern 4-H Conference Center
Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800
Family Camp Weekend
September 3-5 2010
Eastern 4-H Conference Center
Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800
Contact Scott Enroughty at 9195158500 or
scott_enroughtyncsuedu
Kids Fishing Derby ~ June 5 9am Jacksonville TrainingAcademy Range
Fishing contest and prizes for
youth up to 16 years of age 12
and under requires an adult to
accompany Call 910347-5332
Visit wwonslowcountyncgovparks
5
We Wish all Dads a Happy Fatherrsquos Day
FATHERS F aithful
A lways there
T rustworthy
H onoring
E ver-loving
R ighteous
S upportive Author Unknown
Print out a Fatherrsquos
Day Card on Page 6
and write a custom
message for your dad
for Fatherrsquos Day (provided by Microsoftcom)
Choose the answer that best describes your gut reaction to change
1 Youre told that a life-changing event is about to occur You
a) Accept it graciously even though you are secretly worried
b) Get angry and berate the bearer of the news
c) Ignore it until youre forced to deal with it
2 After the shock of the change you
a) Make a plan of action
b) Complain about it incessantly to anyone who will listen
c) Turn off your cell phone and take to your bed
3 If the change will affect your financial future you
a) Call a financial adviser or turn on Suze Orman
b) Call your lawyer to sue the people who imposed the
change on you
c) Continue your spending lifestyle so that no one will know
4 To you change signifies
a) Opportunity
b) Adversity
c) Nothing in particular
5 When change occurs your spiritual sense says
a) I dont know what the future holds but I know who holds the
future
b) An eye for an eye
7
Do You Embrace Change Take This Quiz and Find Out
Oliver says ldquoOld-school songs proclaim Everything Must Change and
A Change Is Gonna Come Maybe you know all of the lyrics But do
you also know how to embrace the inevitable changes that happen in
life Unfortunately because change ushers in the unknown most of us
fear suddenly imposed situations Yet embracing and managing what
we cannot control can build character fortify our resolve and make us
stronger Take the quick quiz below--called it the Test of Your Emer-
gency-Response System--to see how well you embrace changerdquo
Stephanie Stokes Oliver about the power
of change
Courtesy of niaonlinecom
Scoring You may have wanted to answer
all of the above for each question That
would be understandable because we all
experience waves of varying emotions in
times of uncertainty However if you an-
swered mostly Cs you are slow to accept
change and may live in a state of denial
longer than most people do Mostly Bs
means you use anger to make yourself feel
empowered when dealing with change If
your answers were mainly As you embrace
change with a positive attitude
Free Counseling No Paperwork
John Alleman
Adult and Family Specialist
johnballemanhealthnetcom
(919) 745-9635
Betty Steelman
Youth and Family Specialist
bettysncmflcgmailcom
(919) 665-9178
Asheville
ngmflclenoirgmailcom
(828) 729-0729
Charlotte
ngmflccharlottegmailcom
(980) 213-6458 or 6459
Greenville
ngmflcgreenvillegmailcom
(252) 295-8558
Morrisville
ngmflcmorrisvillegmailcom
919) 627-4360 or 4361
Wilmington
ngmflcwilmingtongmailcom
(910) 508-6170
If you or someone you know is having trouble experiencing change you can always take advantage of the free counseling
services through the Military Family Life Consultants These counselors donrsquot keep records or paperwork on who they as-
sist so you donrsquot have to worry hellip your privacy is maintained
MILITARY FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANTS
Free Private Call today
YELLOW RIBBON TEAM
800-621-4136 EXT 6054
John Gattis
Program Director
johngattisusarmymil
Staff
David Coffill
davidcoffillusarmymil
Adam Garrity
adamlgarrityusarmymil
Lola Lawson
lolalawsonusarmymil
Ken Martinsen
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Gerald Murray
geraldmurrayusarmymil
David Nobles
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Chris Rosehart
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DON‟T MISS
30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon
60-Day Event
Start Friday June 4 2010 at 4pm
End Sunday June 6 2010 at 9pm
Start Friday June 11 2010 at 4pm
End Sunday June 13 2010 at 9pm
Koury Convention Center
3121 High Point RdGreensboro NC
1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon
30-Day Reintegration Event
Start Saturday June 26 2010 at 4pm
Registration and vendor displays
Sunday June 27 2010 Classes and
Seminars 8am to 3pm
Raleigh Convention Center
500 S Salisbury Street Raleigh NC
POC Lola Lawson 9196646054
YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature
8
Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon
Event that took place last month in May SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret) who leads North Carolinalsquos Yellow Ribbon team said ― Welsquove been planning for this day since the day you left Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings The entire Family Programs staff Yellow Ribbon team uniformed Soldiers Command Lead-ership and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success
The event was held at the Koury Convention Center in Greensboro NC the only facility large-enough to house the Brigadeslsquo massive numbers Major General William E Ingram Jr Adjutant General for the North Carolina
National Guard said ―There wonlsquot be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you Ingram who spoke during the Soldierslsquo dinner said ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program hellip welsquove done several for our returning units hellip but never one of this magnitude A lot of time energy and effort was put into having the right people at the right time hellip to have you here together to understand what is going on The theme for this is that Itlsquos all about youlsquo Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with ―Old Hickory Welcome Home Really hellip Welsquore really glad to have you back Colonel Cohn NCNG J9 also told the crowd during Thursday nightlsquos dinner that though itlsquos been said before ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade Ilsquom glad youlsquore here Additional panel members also addressed participants The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging The events which began on Thursday May 13 2010 included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend After the first night the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard Continued on Page 9
Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon EventmdashRecap By Angelena Dockery NCNG Family Programs
ldquo Wersquove been planning for this
day since the day you leftrdquo
9
CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8
MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA
The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great
CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION
The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported
2 10
Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs
For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-
tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat
Team their Families and friends toughest
challenge is living without one another
for a year Soldiers are learning to live in
a defensive environment much different
than the life they live at home Spouses
learn to be single or single parents mak-
ing all the decisions for the house their
children and themselves They are
stressed daily from worrying about the
safety and wellbeing of their loved one
deployed However one thought is the
same for both soldiers and Families look
forward to the day of being together
again
Once Soldiers return and the celebration
of their homecoming is over Families
and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-
ties of reintegration When Soldiers return
home they may feel like a stranger in their
own home or are faced with decisions and
choices they are not use to Military wife
Kelsey Heiney said When he first came
homehellipit was whoo you know good
times and then it got rough For Mrs
Heiney it was hard sharing what was her
space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had
the apartment all to myself for a year and
so of course its tough trying to just share
the apartment with somebody She said
getting the routines together and getting
use to each other has been something they
have been working through and they are
trying to figure out the best way to com-
promise
Getting things back to normal resounds
heavily in many Families and soldiers
lives Simple things like finding a bowl or
spoon can be frustrating for both the one
at home and the one returning One mili-
tary spouse said It drove me crazy when
my husband was in the kitchen and kept
opening and closing the drawers Finally I
got so irritated I asked him What is it
that you are looking for While she was
frustrated with her spouse for opening
and closing the drawers he was frustrated
that he knew where nothing was During
reintegration frustration reaches multiple
levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon
events are a great place for soldiers and
Families to come together and share ex-
periences and solutions It is a place where
they are not alone
During Yellow Ribbon events Families
and soldiers attend classes and seminars
with other soldiers and Families from the
same deployment Mrs Heiney said I
think it is good from a spouses point of
view because I can meet other womenhellip
and relate to them whereas over the
phone it is different It is kind of hard to
talk to someone over the phone about
stuff During downtime participants had
the opportunity to meet one-on-one with
vendors ranging from support organiza-
tions to potential employers
The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-
diers and Families a support network
SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa
230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-
pany A says it is good to have these
events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-
ployment because problems and issues do
come up before returning to drill and hav-
ing this information now is helpful The
most helpful for her was the Marriage
Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was
deployed to Iraq before but I havent been
an Army wife with my husband de-
ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment
class they know and talked about the
changes couples go through during de-
ployments and coming home It made me
feel better to hear somebody say thisit is
normal She said it helped her and her
husband understand that each of them is
going through different challenges and
they are not harder than what the other is
facing While he is challenged with com-
ing back from a deployment she is chal-
lenged with him being away Kawa says
she was glad she chose to attend the op-
tional Marriage Enrichment class and
hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events
in the future
Participants have the choice to leave the
Yellow Ribbon event with information
and help pertaining to them and if they
dont find anything helpful at least they
were able to get together with their
second family the soldiers and Fami-
lies they shared a year of their life These
events help Families and soldiers pick up
their lives while getting to know each
other again
SPC Cleta Kawa
wife of Sgt Mark
Kawa 230th
Brigade Support
Battalion
Company A
says The most
helpful for her
was the
Marriage
Enrichment
Seminar
A major part of successful reintegration
for Soldiers their Families amp friends is
communication Resolving to openly
discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition
Military Family
Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids
Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon
participants what Operation Military Kids does
and what they offer Like the upcoming summer
camps for kids throughout the state
2 11
Raising a military family is a little more complicated
when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and
Family Programs are bringing military Families training
relevant to the special dynamics of military family life
during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first
Family Retreat
Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home
North Carolina National Guard
Family Retreat
August 20-22
Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010
Make check or money order payable
to NCNG Family Readiness
Mail form and Payment To
NCNG Family Programs
CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road
Raleigh NC 27607
Guard Memberrsquos Name
Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number
Spouse Name (If applicable)
Spouse Social Security Number
Mailing Address
Phone Number (include area code)
Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)
Military Unit
Number of Children
Please List their Names and Ages Below
Please check the appropriate boxes
We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night
We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop
We have included the names and ages of our children
Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee
Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or
carolynstevens1usarmymil
Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee
Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders
Pamela Hughes
State FRG Advisor
105 West Spring Street
Oxford 27565
(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil
Family Readiness
Support Assistants
Charlotte
(704) 359-5707
Clinton
Sarah Strickland
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Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil
(919) 739-5319
Jacksonville
Judy Richardson
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(910) 347-4352line 11
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Jim Roberson
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(919) 664-7655
12
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The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment
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Fax (828) 274-8572
David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator
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Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist
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449 East Mountain Dr 28306
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ter
110 Franklin Blvd 27401
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1401 N Memorial Dr 27834
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6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081
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Shane Judd FAC Specialist
shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553
Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist
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2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504
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Vacant (252) 526-2711
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Frances Johnson FAC Specialist
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Raleigh Military Family Resource Center
130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966
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Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator
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Earlene Capps FAC Specialist
earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957
Lisa Faison FAC Specialist
lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196
Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center
406 Hospital Rd 27577
Fax (919) 934-2901
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Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center
500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387
Fax (910) 692-3659
David Butler FAC Specialist
davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747
Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center
2412 Infantry Rd 28412
Fax (910) 251-7130
Jim Marley FAC Specialist
jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195
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UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun for KIDS
Operation Kids on Guard
Day Drills
June 19 Kinston Armory
July 10 Raeford Armory
July 24 Winston Salem Armory
August 21 Morrisville Armory
August 28 Asheville Armory
Overnight Weekend Camps
September 24-26 2010 Camp Butner
Spaces fill quickly
To learn more and to register contact
Bridgette Carroll KOG Assistant at
bridgettecarrollusarmymil
or call 9196647664 Registration Forms can
be found at wwwncngbarmymil bdquoFamily
Programs‟ bdquoChild amp Youth Programs‟
THE FIRST TEE
Itrsquos tee time for children from
military Families thanks to The
First Tee Military Affiliate Pro-
gram The program offers free
golf instruction to children from
National Guard and Reserve
Families geographically sepa-
rated from a military base at
The First Teersquos 200 chapters
across the nation School-age
children at all skill levels from
beginner to advanced are in-
vited to hone their golf game
with the help of trained
coaches The program not only
sharpens childrenrsquos skills on golf
course greens and fairways but
it also provides life skills Along
with basic golf instruction The
First Tee coaches teach children
interpersonal communication
managing emotions goal-
setting and overcoming obsta-
cles To sign up parents can visit
a First Tee chapter in their com-
munity or download a coupon
for free instruction by visiting The
First Tee website http
wwwthefirstteeorgmilitary The
site also includes a listing of
chapter locations
HERSHEYS TRACK amp FIELD MEET Tuesday June 1 2010
Rain date is Thursday June 3 2010
White Oak High School Track
1001 Piney Green Rd Jacksonville
Registration 5-530pm
Meet begins 545pm
Open to boys amp girls ages 9-14 on
before Dec 31 2010 Those who turn 15
this year are not eligible No Charge
Come test your skills If you are between
the ages of 9 and 14 years old and you
like to run jump and throw then the
Hersheyrsquos Track amp Field Youth Program is
for you A birth certificate is required to
Child amp Youth Program
2025 National Guard Dr Morrisville 27560
FAX (919) 664-6156
Alice Dean State Youth Coordinator
(919) 664-7616 alicedeanusarmymil
Bridgette Carroll KOG Coordinator
(919) 693-3651 ext 21 bridgettecarrollusarmymil
Kristi Wagner Youth Coordinator (919) 693-3651 ext 23
kristiwagnerusarmymil
5th Annual Step Up For Soldiers Children‟s Fishing Tournament
Saturday June 19 2010
7am-1pm ~ Kure Beach Pier
Enjoy a day of fishing and fun for
military kids and their Families Pier
activities include fishing food and
prizes After the tournament a live
performance by Wilmington Police
Pipe and Drum Band and from 1-
5pm free admission to Splash Inflat-
able Water Park To donate or vol-
unteer call Jim Verdon at
5709710553
Pre-registration Required
httpstepupforsoldiersorg
Contact Tom Russell 9102974981
or email stepup4soldiersaolcom
NC Operation Military Kids Science Day Camps (Middle School Age Youth)
June 21-25 2010mdashWayne Co
Contact Summer E Young or Wallace Sim-
mons at 9197311527
Youngest Heroes Camp
This camp is just for military kids
ages 5-8 Youth will engage in
traditional camp activities
sleep in cabins and gain self-
confidence in learning man-
agement Youth will also cre-
ate a camp craft and partici-
pate in recreational activities This camp is
FREE for military youth Kids will enjoy rock
climbing canoeing kayaking camp fire sto-
ries archery and more See camp options
below
Betsy-Jeff Penn 4-H CentermdashReidsville NC
July 18-21 2010
To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or
contact Stacy Burns at 3363499455
Millstone 4-H CampmdashEllerbe NC
August 1-4 2010 or August 6-8 2010
To register go to wwwNC4Horgcenters or
contact Gene Shutt Director at
9106525905
Day Camp (ages 9-12)
August 2-5 2010
Contact Wanda Mills at 9104555873
Camp for Youth with
Developmental Disabilities
August 5-8 2010
Eastern 4-H Conference Center
Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800
Family Camp Weekend
September 3-5 2010
Eastern 4-H Conference Center
Contact Chase Luker at 2527974800
Contact Scott Enroughty at 9195158500 or
scott_enroughtyncsuedu
Kids Fishing Derby ~ June 5 9am Jacksonville TrainingAcademy Range
Fishing contest and prizes for
youth up to 16 years of age 12
and under requires an adult to
accompany Call 910347-5332
Visit wwonslowcountyncgovparks
5
We Wish all Dads a Happy Fatherrsquos Day
FATHERS F aithful
A lways there
T rustworthy
H onoring
E ver-loving
R ighteous
S upportive Author Unknown
Print out a Fatherrsquos
Day Card on Page 6
and write a custom
message for your dad
for Fatherrsquos Day (provided by Microsoftcom)
Choose the answer that best describes your gut reaction to change
1 Youre told that a life-changing event is about to occur You
a) Accept it graciously even though you are secretly worried
b) Get angry and berate the bearer of the news
c) Ignore it until youre forced to deal with it
2 After the shock of the change you
a) Make a plan of action
b) Complain about it incessantly to anyone who will listen
c) Turn off your cell phone and take to your bed
3 If the change will affect your financial future you
a) Call a financial adviser or turn on Suze Orman
b) Call your lawyer to sue the people who imposed the
change on you
c) Continue your spending lifestyle so that no one will know
4 To you change signifies
a) Opportunity
b) Adversity
c) Nothing in particular
5 When change occurs your spiritual sense says
a) I dont know what the future holds but I know who holds the
future
b) An eye for an eye
7
Do You Embrace Change Take This Quiz and Find Out
Oliver says ldquoOld-school songs proclaim Everything Must Change and
A Change Is Gonna Come Maybe you know all of the lyrics But do
you also know how to embrace the inevitable changes that happen in
life Unfortunately because change ushers in the unknown most of us
fear suddenly imposed situations Yet embracing and managing what
we cannot control can build character fortify our resolve and make us
stronger Take the quick quiz below--called it the Test of Your Emer-
gency-Response System--to see how well you embrace changerdquo
Stephanie Stokes Oliver about the power
of change
Courtesy of niaonlinecom
Scoring You may have wanted to answer
all of the above for each question That
would be understandable because we all
experience waves of varying emotions in
times of uncertainty However if you an-
swered mostly Cs you are slow to accept
change and may live in a state of denial
longer than most people do Mostly Bs
means you use anger to make yourself feel
empowered when dealing with change If
your answers were mainly As you embrace
change with a positive attitude
Free Counseling No Paperwork
John Alleman
Adult and Family Specialist
johnballemanhealthnetcom
(919) 745-9635
Betty Steelman
Youth and Family Specialist
bettysncmflcgmailcom
(919) 665-9178
Asheville
ngmflclenoirgmailcom
(828) 729-0729
Charlotte
ngmflccharlottegmailcom
(980) 213-6458 or 6459
Greenville
ngmflcgreenvillegmailcom
(252) 295-8558
Morrisville
ngmflcmorrisvillegmailcom
919) 627-4360 or 4361
Wilmington
ngmflcwilmingtongmailcom
(910) 508-6170
If you or someone you know is having trouble experiencing change you can always take advantage of the free counseling
services through the Military Family Life Consultants These counselors donrsquot keep records or paperwork on who they as-
sist so you donrsquot have to worry hellip your privacy is maintained
MILITARY FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANTS
Free Private Call today
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DON‟T MISS
30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon
60-Day Event
Start Friday June 4 2010 at 4pm
End Sunday June 6 2010 at 9pm
Start Friday June 11 2010 at 4pm
End Sunday June 13 2010 at 9pm
Koury Convention Center
3121 High Point RdGreensboro NC
1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon
30-Day Reintegration Event
Start Saturday June 26 2010 at 4pm
Registration and vendor displays
Sunday June 27 2010 Classes and
Seminars 8am to 3pm
Raleigh Convention Center
500 S Salisbury Street Raleigh NC
POC Lola Lawson 9196646054
YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature
8
Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon
Event that took place last month in May SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret) who leads North Carolinalsquos Yellow Ribbon team said ― Welsquove been planning for this day since the day you left Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings The entire Family Programs staff Yellow Ribbon team uniformed Soldiers Command Lead-ership and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success
The event was held at the Koury Convention Center in Greensboro NC the only facility large-enough to house the Brigadeslsquo massive numbers Major General William E Ingram Jr Adjutant General for the North Carolina
National Guard said ―There wonlsquot be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you Ingram who spoke during the Soldierslsquo dinner said ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program hellip welsquove done several for our returning units hellip but never one of this magnitude A lot of time energy and effort was put into having the right people at the right time hellip to have you here together to understand what is going on The theme for this is that Itlsquos all about youlsquo Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with ―Old Hickory Welcome Home Really hellip Welsquore really glad to have you back Colonel Cohn NCNG J9 also told the crowd during Thursday nightlsquos dinner that though itlsquos been said before ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade Ilsquom glad youlsquore here Additional panel members also addressed participants The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging The events which began on Thursday May 13 2010 included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend After the first night the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard Continued on Page 9
Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon EventmdashRecap By Angelena Dockery NCNG Family Programs
ldquo Wersquove been planning for this
day since the day you leftrdquo
9
CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8
MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA
The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great
CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION
The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported
2 10
Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs
For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-
tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat
Team their Families and friends toughest
challenge is living without one another
for a year Soldiers are learning to live in
a defensive environment much different
than the life they live at home Spouses
learn to be single or single parents mak-
ing all the decisions for the house their
children and themselves They are
stressed daily from worrying about the
safety and wellbeing of their loved one
deployed However one thought is the
same for both soldiers and Families look
forward to the day of being together
again
Once Soldiers return and the celebration
of their homecoming is over Families
and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-
ties of reintegration When Soldiers return
home they may feel like a stranger in their
own home or are faced with decisions and
choices they are not use to Military wife
Kelsey Heiney said When he first came
homehellipit was whoo you know good
times and then it got rough For Mrs
Heiney it was hard sharing what was her
space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had
the apartment all to myself for a year and
so of course its tough trying to just share
the apartment with somebody She said
getting the routines together and getting
use to each other has been something they
have been working through and they are
trying to figure out the best way to com-
promise
Getting things back to normal resounds
heavily in many Families and soldiers
lives Simple things like finding a bowl or
spoon can be frustrating for both the one
at home and the one returning One mili-
tary spouse said It drove me crazy when
my husband was in the kitchen and kept
opening and closing the drawers Finally I
got so irritated I asked him What is it
that you are looking for While she was
frustrated with her spouse for opening
and closing the drawers he was frustrated
that he knew where nothing was During
reintegration frustration reaches multiple
levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon
events are a great place for soldiers and
Families to come together and share ex-
periences and solutions It is a place where
they are not alone
During Yellow Ribbon events Families
and soldiers attend classes and seminars
with other soldiers and Families from the
same deployment Mrs Heiney said I
think it is good from a spouses point of
view because I can meet other womenhellip
and relate to them whereas over the
phone it is different It is kind of hard to
talk to someone over the phone about
stuff During downtime participants had
the opportunity to meet one-on-one with
vendors ranging from support organiza-
tions to potential employers
The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-
diers and Families a support network
SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa
230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-
pany A says it is good to have these
events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-
ployment because problems and issues do
come up before returning to drill and hav-
ing this information now is helpful The
most helpful for her was the Marriage
Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was
deployed to Iraq before but I havent been
an Army wife with my husband de-
ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment
class they know and talked about the
changes couples go through during de-
ployments and coming home It made me
feel better to hear somebody say thisit is
normal She said it helped her and her
husband understand that each of them is
going through different challenges and
they are not harder than what the other is
facing While he is challenged with com-
ing back from a deployment she is chal-
lenged with him being away Kawa says
she was glad she chose to attend the op-
tional Marriage Enrichment class and
hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events
in the future
Participants have the choice to leave the
Yellow Ribbon event with information
and help pertaining to them and if they
dont find anything helpful at least they
were able to get together with their
second family the soldiers and Fami-
lies they shared a year of their life These
events help Families and soldiers pick up
their lives while getting to know each
other again
SPC Cleta Kawa
wife of Sgt Mark
Kawa 230th
Brigade Support
Battalion
Company A
says The most
helpful for her
was the
Marriage
Enrichment
Seminar
A major part of successful reintegration
for Soldiers their Families amp friends is
communication Resolving to openly
discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition
Military Family
Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids
Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon
participants what Operation Military Kids does
and what they offer Like the upcoming summer
camps for kids throughout the state
2 11
Raising a military family is a little more complicated
when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and
Family Programs are bringing military Families training
relevant to the special dynamics of military family life
during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first
Family Retreat
Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home
North Carolina National Guard
Family Retreat
August 20-22
Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010
Make check or money order payable
to NCNG Family Readiness
Mail form and Payment To
NCNG Family Programs
CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road
Raleigh NC 27607
Guard Memberrsquos Name
Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number
Spouse Name (If applicable)
Spouse Social Security Number
Mailing Address
Phone Number (include area code)
Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)
Military Unit
Number of Children
Please List their Names and Ages Below
Please check the appropriate boxes
We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night
We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop
We have included the names and ages of our children
Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee
Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or
carolynstevens1usarmymil
Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee
Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders
Pamela Hughes
State FRG Advisor
105 West Spring Street
Oxford 27565
(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil
Family Readiness
Support Assistants
Charlotte
(704) 359-5707
Clinton
Sarah Strickland
sarahrstricklandusarmymil
(910) 299-5466
Goldsboro
Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil
(919) 739-5319
Jacksonville
Judy Richardson
judyrrichardsonusarmymil
(910) 347-4352line 11
Morrisville
Jim Roberson
jamesrobersonusarmymil
(919) 664-7655
12
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Get program information
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QUICK REFERENCE
DEERSID Cards 18005389552
TriCare
18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil
Transition Assistance
Andy Jackson 9196646573
American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg
National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)
Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)
The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment
Locations
Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920
Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616
Asheville Military Family Resource
Center
7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803
Fax (828) 274-8572
David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator
davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Debra Collington FAC Specialist
debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
4240 West Blvd 28208
Fax (704) 359-5759
Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist
racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756
Lynn White FAC Specialist
lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769
Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center
449 East Mountain Dr 28306
Fax na
Amy Wallace FAC Specialist
amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125
Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-
ter
110 Franklin Blvd 27401
Fax (336) 691-7725
Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator
katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712
Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist
sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763
Greenville State Family Assistance Center
1401 N Memorial Dr 27834
Fax (252) 551-6136
Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator
dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669
Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR
6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081
Fax (704) 359-5759
Shane Judd FAC Specialist
shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553
Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist
dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554
Kinston Unit Family Contact Center
2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504
Fax (252) 526-2772
Vacant (252) 526-2711
13
Fa
mily
Assis
tan
ce
Ce
nte
rs hellip
He
re t
o H
elp
Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable
Let us help Call or Stop By
Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer
Lenoir State Family Assistance Center
(SFAC)
1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645
Fax (828) 757-4519
Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator
nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Frances Johnson FAC Specialist
francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Raleigh Military Family Resource Center
130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966
Fax (919) 334-9971
Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator
markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966
Earlene Capps FAC Specialist
earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957
Lisa Faison FAC Specialist
lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196
Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center
406 Hospital Rd 27577
Fax (919) 934-2901
Abby Millsap FAC Specialist
abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013
Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center
500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387
Fax (910) 692-3659
David Butler FAC Specialist
davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747
Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center
2412 Infantry Rd 28412
Fax (910) 251-7130
Jim Marley FAC Specialist
jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195
Wilmington Military Family Resource Center
3114 Randall Pkwy 28403
Fax (910) 343-1776
Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator
judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775
Julie Rowe FAC Specialist
BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates
on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina
National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo
TELL A FRIEND
5
We Wish all Dads a Happy Fatherrsquos Day
FATHERS F aithful
A lways there
T rustworthy
H onoring
E ver-loving
R ighteous
S upportive Author Unknown
Print out a Fatherrsquos
Day Card on Page 6
and write a custom
message for your dad
for Fatherrsquos Day (provided by Microsoftcom)
Choose the answer that best describes your gut reaction to change
1 Youre told that a life-changing event is about to occur You
a) Accept it graciously even though you are secretly worried
b) Get angry and berate the bearer of the news
c) Ignore it until youre forced to deal with it
2 After the shock of the change you
a) Make a plan of action
b) Complain about it incessantly to anyone who will listen
c) Turn off your cell phone and take to your bed
3 If the change will affect your financial future you
a) Call a financial adviser or turn on Suze Orman
b) Call your lawyer to sue the people who imposed the
change on you
c) Continue your spending lifestyle so that no one will know
4 To you change signifies
a) Opportunity
b) Adversity
c) Nothing in particular
5 When change occurs your spiritual sense says
a) I dont know what the future holds but I know who holds the
future
b) An eye for an eye
7
Do You Embrace Change Take This Quiz and Find Out
Oliver says ldquoOld-school songs proclaim Everything Must Change and
A Change Is Gonna Come Maybe you know all of the lyrics But do
you also know how to embrace the inevitable changes that happen in
life Unfortunately because change ushers in the unknown most of us
fear suddenly imposed situations Yet embracing and managing what
we cannot control can build character fortify our resolve and make us
stronger Take the quick quiz below--called it the Test of Your Emer-
gency-Response System--to see how well you embrace changerdquo
Stephanie Stokes Oliver about the power
of change
Courtesy of niaonlinecom
Scoring You may have wanted to answer
all of the above for each question That
would be understandable because we all
experience waves of varying emotions in
times of uncertainty However if you an-
swered mostly Cs you are slow to accept
change and may live in a state of denial
longer than most people do Mostly Bs
means you use anger to make yourself feel
empowered when dealing with change If
your answers were mainly As you embrace
change with a positive attitude
Free Counseling No Paperwork
John Alleman
Adult and Family Specialist
johnballemanhealthnetcom
(919) 745-9635
Betty Steelman
Youth and Family Specialist
bettysncmflcgmailcom
(919) 665-9178
Asheville
ngmflclenoirgmailcom
(828) 729-0729
Charlotte
ngmflccharlottegmailcom
(980) 213-6458 or 6459
Greenville
ngmflcgreenvillegmailcom
(252) 295-8558
Morrisville
ngmflcmorrisvillegmailcom
919) 627-4360 or 4361
Wilmington
ngmflcwilmingtongmailcom
(910) 508-6170
If you or someone you know is having trouble experiencing change you can always take advantage of the free counseling
services through the Military Family Life Consultants These counselors donrsquot keep records or paperwork on who they as-
sist so you donrsquot have to worry hellip your privacy is maintained
MILITARY FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANTS
Free Private Call today
YELLOW RIBBON TEAM
800-621-4136 EXT 6054
John Gattis
Program Director
johngattisusarmymil
Staff
David Coffill
davidcoffillusarmymil
Adam Garrity
adamlgarrityusarmymil
Lola Lawson
lolalawsonusarmymil
Ken Martinsen
kennethmartinsenusarmymil
Gerald Murray
geraldmurrayusarmymil
David Nobles
davidnoblesusarmymil
Chris Rosehart
christopherrosehartusarmymil
DON‟T MISS
30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon
60-Day Event
Start Friday June 4 2010 at 4pm
End Sunday June 6 2010 at 9pm
Start Friday June 11 2010 at 4pm
End Sunday June 13 2010 at 9pm
Koury Convention Center
3121 High Point RdGreensboro NC
1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon
30-Day Reintegration Event
Start Saturday June 26 2010 at 4pm
Registration and vendor displays
Sunday June 27 2010 Classes and
Seminars 8am to 3pm
Raleigh Convention Center
500 S Salisbury Street Raleigh NC
POC Lola Lawson 9196646054
YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature
8
Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon
Event that took place last month in May SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret) who leads North Carolinalsquos Yellow Ribbon team said ― Welsquove been planning for this day since the day you left Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings The entire Family Programs staff Yellow Ribbon team uniformed Soldiers Command Lead-ership and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success
The event was held at the Koury Convention Center in Greensboro NC the only facility large-enough to house the Brigadeslsquo massive numbers Major General William E Ingram Jr Adjutant General for the North Carolina
National Guard said ―There wonlsquot be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you Ingram who spoke during the Soldierslsquo dinner said ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program hellip welsquove done several for our returning units hellip but never one of this magnitude A lot of time energy and effort was put into having the right people at the right time hellip to have you here together to understand what is going on The theme for this is that Itlsquos all about youlsquo Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with ―Old Hickory Welcome Home Really hellip Welsquore really glad to have you back Colonel Cohn NCNG J9 also told the crowd during Thursday nightlsquos dinner that though itlsquos been said before ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade Ilsquom glad youlsquore here Additional panel members also addressed participants The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging The events which began on Thursday May 13 2010 included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend After the first night the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard Continued on Page 9
Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon EventmdashRecap By Angelena Dockery NCNG Family Programs
ldquo Wersquove been planning for this
day since the day you leftrdquo
9
CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8
MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA
The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great
CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION
The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported
2 10
Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs
For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-
tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat
Team their Families and friends toughest
challenge is living without one another
for a year Soldiers are learning to live in
a defensive environment much different
than the life they live at home Spouses
learn to be single or single parents mak-
ing all the decisions for the house their
children and themselves They are
stressed daily from worrying about the
safety and wellbeing of their loved one
deployed However one thought is the
same for both soldiers and Families look
forward to the day of being together
again
Once Soldiers return and the celebration
of their homecoming is over Families
and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-
ties of reintegration When Soldiers return
home they may feel like a stranger in their
own home or are faced with decisions and
choices they are not use to Military wife
Kelsey Heiney said When he first came
homehellipit was whoo you know good
times and then it got rough For Mrs
Heiney it was hard sharing what was her
space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had
the apartment all to myself for a year and
so of course its tough trying to just share
the apartment with somebody She said
getting the routines together and getting
use to each other has been something they
have been working through and they are
trying to figure out the best way to com-
promise
Getting things back to normal resounds
heavily in many Families and soldiers
lives Simple things like finding a bowl or
spoon can be frustrating for both the one
at home and the one returning One mili-
tary spouse said It drove me crazy when
my husband was in the kitchen and kept
opening and closing the drawers Finally I
got so irritated I asked him What is it
that you are looking for While she was
frustrated with her spouse for opening
and closing the drawers he was frustrated
that he knew where nothing was During
reintegration frustration reaches multiple
levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon
events are a great place for soldiers and
Families to come together and share ex-
periences and solutions It is a place where
they are not alone
During Yellow Ribbon events Families
and soldiers attend classes and seminars
with other soldiers and Families from the
same deployment Mrs Heiney said I
think it is good from a spouses point of
view because I can meet other womenhellip
and relate to them whereas over the
phone it is different It is kind of hard to
talk to someone over the phone about
stuff During downtime participants had
the opportunity to meet one-on-one with
vendors ranging from support organiza-
tions to potential employers
The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-
diers and Families a support network
SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa
230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-
pany A says it is good to have these
events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-
ployment because problems and issues do
come up before returning to drill and hav-
ing this information now is helpful The
most helpful for her was the Marriage
Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was
deployed to Iraq before but I havent been
an Army wife with my husband de-
ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment
class they know and talked about the
changes couples go through during de-
ployments and coming home It made me
feel better to hear somebody say thisit is
normal She said it helped her and her
husband understand that each of them is
going through different challenges and
they are not harder than what the other is
facing While he is challenged with com-
ing back from a deployment she is chal-
lenged with him being away Kawa says
she was glad she chose to attend the op-
tional Marriage Enrichment class and
hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events
in the future
Participants have the choice to leave the
Yellow Ribbon event with information
and help pertaining to them and if they
dont find anything helpful at least they
were able to get together with their
second family the soldiers and Fami-
lies they shared a year of their life These
events help Families and soldiers pick up
their lives while getting to know each
other again
SPC Cleta Kawa
wife of Sgt Mark
Kawa 230th
Brigade Support
Battalion
Company A
says The most
helpful for her
was the
Marriage
Enrichment
Seminar
A major part of successful reintegration
for Soldiers their Families amp friends is
communication Resolving to openly
discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition
Military Family
Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids
Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon
participants what Operation Military Kids does
and what they offer Like the upcoming summer
camps for kids throughout the state
2 11
Raising a military family is a little more complicated
when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and
Family Programs are bringing military Families training
relevant to the special dynamics of military family life
during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first
Family Retreat
Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home
North Carolina National Guard
Family Retreat
August 20-22
Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010
Make check or money order payable
to NCNG Family Readiness
Mail form and Payment To
NCNG Family Programs
CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road
Raleigh NC 27607
Guard Memberrsquos Name
Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number
Spouse Name (If applicable)
Spouse Social Security Number
Mailing Address
Phone Number (include area code)
Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)
Military Unit
Number of Children
Please List their Names and Ages Below
Please check the appropriate boxes
We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night
We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop
We have included the names and ages of our children
Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee
Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or
carolynstevens1usarmymil
Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee
Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders
Pamela Hughes
State FRG Advisor
105 West Spring Street
Oxford 27565
(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil
Family Readiness
Support Assistants
Charlotte
(704) 359-5707
Clinton
Sarah Strickland
sarahrstricklandusarmymil
(910) 299-5466
Goldsboro
Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil
(919) 739-5319
Jacksonville
Judy Richardson
judyrrichardsonusarmymil
(910) 347-4352line 11
Morrisville
Jim Roberson
jamesrobersonusarmymil
(919) 664-7655
12
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Get program information
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more
You will also receive
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ldquoGuarding Families on the Homefrontrdquo
QUICK REFERENCE
DEERSID Cards 18005389552
TriCare
18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil
Transition Assistance
Andy Jackson 9196646573
American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg
National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)
Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)
The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment
Locations
Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920
Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616
Asheville Military Family Resource
Center
7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803
Fax (828) 274-8572
David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator
davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Debra Collington FAC Specialist
debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
4240 West Blvd 28208
Fax (704) 359-5759
Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist
racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756
Lynn White FAC Specialist
lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769
Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center
449 East Mountain Dr 28306
Fax na
Amy Wallace FAC Specialist
amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125
Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-
ter
110 Franklin Blvd 27401
Fax (336) 691-7725
Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator
katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712
Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist
sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763
Greenville State Family Assistance Center
1401 N Memorial Dr 27834
Fax (252) 551-6136
Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator
dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669
Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR
6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081
Fax (704) 359-5759
Shane Judd FAC Specialist
shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553
Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist
dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554
Kinston Unit Family Contact Center
2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504
Fax (252) 526-2772
Vacant (252) 526-2711
13
Fa
mily
Assis
tan
ce
Ce
nte
rs hellip
He
re t
o H
elp
Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable
Let us help Call or Stop By
Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer
Lenoir State Family Assistance Center
(SFAC)
1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645
Fax (828) 757-4519
Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator
nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Frances Johnson FAC Specialist
francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Raleigh Military Family Resource Center
130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966
Fax (919) 334-9971
Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator
markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966
Earlene Capps FAC Specialist
earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957
Lisa Faison FAC Specialist
lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196
Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center
406 Hospital Rd 27577
Fax (919) 934-2901
Abby Millsap FAC Specialist
abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013
Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center
500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387
Fax (910) 692-3659
David Butler FAC Specialist
davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747
Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center
2412 Infantry Rd 28412
Fax (910) 251-7130
Jim Marley FAC Specialist
jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195
Wilmington Military Family Resource Center
3114 Randall Pkwy 28403
Fax (910) 343-1776
Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator
judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775
Julie Rowe FAC Specialist
BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates
on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina
National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo
TELL A FRIEND
Choose the answer that best describes your gut reaction to change
1 Youre told that a life-changing event is about to occur You
a) Accept it graciously even though you are secretly worried
b) Get angry and berate the bearer of the news
c) Ignore it until youre forced to deal with it
2 After the shock of the change you
a) Make a plan of action
b) Complain about it incessantly to anyone who will listen
c) Turn off your cell phone and take to your bed
3 If the change will affect your financial future you
a) Call a financial adviser or turn on Suze Orman
b) Call your lawyer to sue the people who imposed the
change on you
c) Continue your spending lifestyle so that no one will know
4 To you change signifies
a) Opportunity
b) Adversity
c) Nothing in particular
5 When change occurs your spiritual sense says
a) I dont know what the future holds but I know who holds the
future
b) An eye for an eye
7
Do You Embrace Change Take This Quiz and Find Out
Oliver says ldquoOld-school songs proclaim Everything Must Change and
A Change Is Gonna Come Maybe you know all of the lyrics But do
you also know how to embrace the inevitable changes that happen in
life Unfortunately because change ushers in the unknown most of us
fear suddenly imposed situations Yet embracing and managing what
we cannot control can build character fortify our resolve and make us
stronger Take the quick quiz below--called it the Test of Your Emer-
gency-Response System--to see how well you embrace changerdquo
Stephanie Stokes Oliver about the power
of change
Courtesy of niaonlinecom
Scoring You may have wanted to answer
all of the above for each question That
would be understandable because we all
experience waves of varying emotions in
times of uncertainty However if you an-
swered mostly Cs you are slow to accept
change and may live in a state of denial
longer than most people do Mostly Bs
means you use anger to make yourself feel
empowered when dealing with change If
your answers were mainly As you embrace
change with a positive attitude
Free Counseling No Paperwork
John Alleman
Adult and Family Specialist
johnballemanhealthnetcom
(919) 745-9635
Betty Steelman
Youth and Family Specialist
bettysncmflcgmailcom
(919) 665-9178
Asheville
ngmflclenoirgmailcom
(828) 729-0729
Charlotte
ngmflccharlottegmailcom
(980) 213-6458 or 6459
Greenville
ngmflcgreenvillegmailcom
(252) 295-8558
Morrisville
ngmflcmorrisvillegmailcom
919) 627-4360 or 4361
Wilmington
ngmflcwilmingtongmailcom
(910) 508-6170
If you or someone you know is having trouble experiencing change you can always take advantage of the free counseling
services through the Military Family Life Consultants These counselors donrsquot keep records or paperwork on who they as-
sist so you donrsquot have to worry hellip your privacy is maintained
MILITARY FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANTS
Free Private Call today
YELLOW RIBBON TEAM
800-621-4136 EXT 6054
John Gattis
Program Director
johngattisusarmymil
Staff
David Coffill
davidcoffillusarmymil
Adam Garrity
adamlgarrityusarmymil
Lola Lawson
lolalawsonusarmymil
Ken Martinsen
kennethmartinsenusarmymil
Gerald Murray
geraldmurrayusarmymil
David Nobles
davidnoblesusarmymil
Chris Rosehart
christopherrosehartusarmymil
DON‟T MISS
30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon
60-Day Event
Start Friday June 4 2010 at 4pm
End Sunday June 6 2010 at 9pm
Start Friday June 11 2010 at 4pm
End Sunday June 13 2010 at 9pm
Koury Convention Center
3121 High Point RdGreensboro NC
1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon
30-Day Reintegration Event
Start Saturday June 26 2010 at 4pm
Registration and vendor displays
Sunday June 27 2010 Classes and
Seminars 8am to 3pm
Raleigh Convention Center
500 S Salisbury Street Raleigh NC
POC Lola Lawson 9196646054
YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature
8
Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon
Event that took place last month in May SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret) who leads North Carolinalsquos Yellow Ribbon team said ― Welsquove been planning for this day since the day you left Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings The entire Family Programs staff Yellow Ribbon team uniformed Soldiers Command Lead-ership and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success
The event was held at the Koury Convention Center in Greensboro NC the only facility large-enough to house the Brigadeslsquo massive numbers Major General William E Ingram Jr Adjutant General for the North Carolina
National Guard said ―There wonlsquot be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you Ingram who spoke during the Soldierslsquo dinner said ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program hellip welsquove done several for our returning units hellip but never one of this magnitude A lot of time energy and effort was put into having the right people at the right time hellip to have you here together to understand what is going on The theme for this is that Itlsquos all about youlsquo Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with ―Old Hickory Welcome Home Really hellip Welsquore really glad to have you back Colonel Cohn NCNG J9 also told the crowd during Thursday nightlsquos dinner that though itlsquos been said before ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade Ilsquom glad youlsquore here Additional panel members also addressed participants The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging The events which began on Thursday May 13 2010 included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend After the first night the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard Continued on Page 9
Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon EventmdashRecap By Angelena Dockery NCNG Family Programs
ldquo Wersquove been planning for this
day since the day you leftrdquo
9
CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8
MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA
The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great
CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION
The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported
2 10
Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs
For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-
tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat
Team their Families and friends toughest
challenge is living without one another
for a year Soldiers are learning to live in
a defensive environment much different
than the life they live at home Spouses
learn to be single or single parents mak-
ing all the decisions for the house their
children and themselves They are
stressed daily from worrying about the
safety and wellbeing of their loved one
deployed However one thought is the
same for both soldiers and Families look
forward to the day of being together
again
Once Soldiers return and the celebration
of their homecoming is over Families
and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-
ties of reintegration When Soldiers return
home they may feel like a stranger in their
own home or are faced with decisions and
choices they are not use to Military wife
Kelsey Heiney said When he first came
homehellipit was whoo you know good
times and then it got rough For Mrs
Heiney it was hard sharing what was her
space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had
the apartment all to myself for a year and
so of course its tough trying to just share
the apartment with somebody She said
getting the routines together and getting
use to each other has been something they
have been working through and they are
trying to figure out the best way to com-
promise
Getting things back to normal resounds
heavily in many Families and soldiers
lives Simple things like finding a bowl or
spoon can be frustrating for both the one
at home and the one returning One mili-
tary spouse said It drove me crazy when
my husband was in the kitchen and kept
opening and closing the drawers Finally I
got so irritated I asked him What is it
that you are looking for While she was
frustrated with her spouse for opening
and closing the drawers he was frustrated
that he knew where nothing was During
reintegration frustration reaches multiple
levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon
events are a great place for soldiers and
Families to come together and share ex-
periences and solutions It is a place where
they are not alone
During Yellow Ribbon events Families
and soldiers attend classes and seminars
with other soldiers and Families from the
same deployment Mrs Heiney said I
think it is good from a spouses point of
view because I can meet other womenhellip
and relate to them whereas over the
phone it is different It is kind of hard to
talk to someone over the phone about
stuff During downtime participants had
the opportunity to meet one-on-one with
vendors ranging from support organiza-
tions to potential employers
The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-
diers and Families a support network
SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa
230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-
pany A says it is good to have these
events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-
ployment because problems and issues do
come up before returning to drill and hav-
ing this information now is helpful The
most helpful for her was the Marriage
Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was
deployed to Iraq before but I havent been
an Army wife with my husband de-
ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment
class they know and talked about the
changes couples go through during de-
ployments and coming home It made me
feel better to hear somebody say thisit is
normal She said it helped her and her
husband understand that each of them is
going through different challenges and
they are not harder than what the other is
facing While he is challenged with com-
ing back from a deployment she is chal-
lenged with him being away Kawa says
she was glad she chose to attend the op-
tional Marriage Enrichment class and
hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events
in the future
Participants have the choice to leave the
Yellow Ribbon event with information
and help pertaining to them and if they
dont find anything helpful at least they
were able to get together with their
second family the soldiers and Fami-
lies they shared a year of their life These
events help Families and soldiers pick up
their lives while getting to know each
other again
SPC Cleta Kawa
wife of Sgt Mark
Kawa 230th
Brigade Support
Battalion
Company A
says The most
helpful for her
was the
Marriage
Enrichment
Seminar
A major part of successful reintegration
for Soldiers their Families amp friends is
communication Resolving to openly
discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition
Military Family
Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids
Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon
participants what Operation Military Kids does
and what they offer Like the upcoming summer
camps for kids throughout the state
2 11
Raising a military family is a little more complicated
when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and
Family Programs are bringing military Families training
relevant to the special dynamics of military family life
during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first
Family Retreat
Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home
North Carolina National Guard
Family Retreat
August 20-22
Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010
Make check or money order payable
to NCNG Family Readiness
Mail form and Payment To
NCNG Family Programs
CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road
Raleigh NC 27607
Guard Memberrsquos Name
Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number
Spouse Name (If applicable)
Spouse Social Security Number
Mailing Address
Phone Number (include area code)
Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)
Military Unit
Number of Children
Please List their Names and Ages Below
Please check the appropriate boxes
We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night
We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop
We have included the names and ages of our children
Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee
Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or
carolynstevens1usarmymil
Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee
Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders
Pamela Hughes
State FRG Advisor
105 West Spring Street
Oxford 27565
(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil
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DON‟T MISS
30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon
60-Day Event
Start Friday June 4 2010 at 4pm
End Sunday June 6 2010 at 9pm
Start Friday June 11 2010 at 4pm
End Sunday June 13 2010 at 9pm
Koury Convention Center
3121 High Point RdGreensboro NC
1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon
30-Day Reintegration Event
Start Saturday June 26 2010 at 4pm
Registration and vendor displays
Sunday June 27 2010 Classes and
Seminars 8am to 3pm
Raleigh Convention Center
500 S Salisbury Street Raleigh NC
POC Lola Lawson 9196646054
YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature
8
Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon
Event that took place last month in May SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret) who leads North Carolinalsquos Yellow Ribbon team said ― Welsquove been planning for this day since the day you left Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings The entire Family Programs staff Yellow Ribbon team uniformed Soldiers Command Lead-ership and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success
The event was held at the Koury Convention Center in Greensboro NC the only facility large-enough to house the Brigadeslsquo massive numbers Major General William E Ingram Jr Adjutant General for the North Carolina
National Guard said ―There wonlsquot be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you Ingram who spoke during the Soldierslsquo dinner said ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program hellip welsquove done several for our returning units hellip but never one of this magnitude A lot of time energy and effort was put into having the right people at the right time hellip to have you here together to understand what is going on The theme for this is that Itlsquos all about youlsquo Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with ―Old Hickory Welcome Home Really hellip Welsquore really glad to have you back Colonel Cohn NCNG J9 also told the crowd during Thursday nightlsquos dinner that though itlsquos been said before ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade Ilsquom glad youlsquore here Additional panel members also addressed participants The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging The events which began on Thursday May 13 2010 included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend After the first night the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard Continued on Page 9
Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon EventmdashRecap By Angelena Dockery NCNG Family Programs
ldquo Wersquove been planning for this
day since the day you leftrdquo
9
CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8
MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA
The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great
CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION
The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported
2 10
Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs
For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-
tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat
Team their Families and friends toughest
challenge is living without one another
for a year Soldiers are learning to live in
a defensive environment much different
than the life they live at home Spouses
learn to be single or single parents mak-
ing all the decisions for the house their
children and themselves They are
stressed daily from worrying about the
safety and wellbeing of their loved one
deployed However one thought is the
same for both soldiers and Families look
forward to the day of being together
again
Once Soldiers return and the celebration
of their homecoming is over Families
and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-
ties of reintegration When Soldiers return
home they may feel like a stranger in their
own home or are faced with decisions and
choices they are not use to Military wife
Kelsey Heiney said When he first came
homehellipit was whoo you know good
times and then it got rough For Mrs
Heiney it was hard sharing what was her
space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had
the apartment all to myself for a year and
so of course its tough trying to just share
the apartment with somebody She said
getting the routines together and getting
use to each other has been something they
have been working through and they are
trying to figure out the best way to com-
promise
Getting things back to normal resounds
heavily in many Families and soldiers
lives Simple things like finding a bowl or
spoon can be frustrating for both the one
at home and the one returning One mili-
tary spouse said It drove me crazy when
my husband was in the kitchen and kept
opening and closing the drawers Finally I
got so irritated I asked him What is it
that you are looking for While she was
frustrated with her spouse for opening
and closing the drawers he was frustrated
that he knew where nothing was During
reintegration frustration reaches multiple
levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon
events are a great place for soldiers and
Families to come together and share ex-
periences and solutions It is a place where
they are not alone
During Yellow Ribbon events Families
and soldiers attend classes and seminars
with other soldiers and Families from the
same deployment Mrs Heiney said I
think it is good from a spouses point of
view because I can meet other womenhellip
and relate to them whereas over the
phone it is different It is kind of hard to
talk to someone over the phone about
stuff During downtime participants had
the opportunity to meet one-on-one with
vendors ranging from support organiza-
tions to potential employers
The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-
diers and Families a support network
SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa
230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-
pany A says it is good to have these
events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-
ployment because problems and issues do
come up before returning to drill and hav-
ing this information now is helpful The
most helpful for her was the Marriage
Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was
deployed to Iraq before but I havent been
an Army wife with my husband de-
ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment
class they know and talked about the
changes couples go through during de-
ployments and coming home It made me
feel better to hear somebody say thisit is
normal She said it helped her and her
husband understand that each of them is
going through different challenges and
they are not harder than what the other is
facing While he is challenged with com-
ing back from a deployment she is chal-
lenged with him being away Kawa says
she was glad she chose to attend the op-
tional Marriage Enrichment class and
hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events
in the future
Participants have the choice to leave the
Yellow Ribbon event with information
and help pertaining to them and if they
dont find anything helpful at least they
were able to get together with their
second family the soldiers and Fami-
lies they shared a year of their life These
events help Families and soldiers pick up
their lives while getting to know each
other again
SPC Cleta Kawa
wife of Sgt Mark
Kawa 230th
Brigade Support
Battalion
Company A
says The most
helpful for her
was the
Marriage
Enrichment
Seminar
A major part of successful reintegration
for Soldiers their Families amp friends is
communication Resolving to openly
discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition
Military Family
Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids
Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon
participants what Operation Military Kids does
and what they offer Like the upcoming summer
camps for kids throughout the state
2 11
Raising a military family is a little more complicated
when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and
Family Programs are bringing military Families training
relevant to the special dynamics of military family life
during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first
Family Retreat
Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home
North Carolina National Guard
Family Retreat
August 20-22
Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010
Make check or money order payable
to NCNG Family Readiness
Mail form and Payment To
NCNG Family Programs
CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road
Raleigh NC 27607
Guard Memberrsquos Name
Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number
Spouse Name (If applicable)
Spouse Social Security Number
Mailing Address
Phone Number (include area code)
Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)
Military Unit
Number of Children
Please List their Names and Ages Below
Please check the appropriate boxes
We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night
We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop
We have included the names and ages of our children
Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee
Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or
carolynstevens1usarmymil
Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee
Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders
Pamela Hughes
State FRG Advisor
105 West Spring Street
Oxford 27565
(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil
Family Readiness
Support Assistants
Charlotte
(704) 359-5707
Clinton
Sarah Strickland
sarahrstricklandusarmymil
(910) 299-5466
Goldsboro
Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil
(919) 739-5319
Jacksonville
Judy Richardson
judyrrichardsonusarmymil
(910) 347-4352line 11
Morrisville
Jim Roberson
jamesrobersonusarmymil
(919) 664-7655
12
$$$$$$$$Cut Outs$$$$$$$
JOIN JSS jointservicessupportorg
Get program information
events chat with other
military Families and
more
You will also receive
emails with lots of great
opportunities
NCNG Family Programs
ldquoGuarding Families on the Homefrontrdquo
QUICK REFERENCE
DEERSID Cards 18005389552
TriCare
18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil
Transition Assistance
Andy Jackson 9196646573
American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg
National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)
Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)
The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment
Locations
Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920
Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616
Asheville Military Family Resource
Center
7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803
Fax (828) 274-8572
David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator
davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Debra Collington FAC Specialist
debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
4240 West Blvd 28208
Fax (704) 359-5759
Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist
racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756
Lynn White FAC Specialist
lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769
Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center
449 East Mountain Dr 28306
Fax na
Amy Wallace FAC Specialist
amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125
Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-
ter
110 Franklin Blvd 27401
Fax (336) 691-7725
Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator
katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712
Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist
sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763
Greenville State Family Assistance Center
1401 N Memorial Dr 27834
Fax (252) 551-6136
Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator
dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669
Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR
6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081
Fax (704) 359-5759
Shane Judd FAC Specialist
shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553
Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist
dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554
Kinston Unit Family Contact Center
2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504
Fax (252) 526-2772
Vacant (252) 526-2711
13
Fa
mily
Assis
tan
ce
Ce
nte
rs hellip
He
re t
o H
elp
Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable
Let us help Call or Stop By
Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer
Lenoir State Family Assistance Center
(SFAC)
1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645
Fax (828) 757-4519
Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator
nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Frances Johnson FAC Specialist
francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Raleigh Military Family Resource Center
130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966
Fax (919) 334-9971
Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator
markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966
Earlene Capps FAC Specialist
earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957
Lisa Faison FAC Specialist
lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196
Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center
406 Hospital Rd 27577
Fax (919) 934-2901
Abby Millsap FAC Specialist
abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013
Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center
500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387
Fax (910) 692-3659
David Butler FAC Specialist
davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747
Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center
2412 Infantry Rd 28412
Fax (910) 251-7130
Jim Marley FAC Specialist
jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195
Wilmington Military Family Resource Center
3114 Randall Pkwy 28403
Fax (910) 343-1776
Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator
judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775
Julie Rowe FAC Specialist
BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates
on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina
National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo
TELL A FRIEND
9
CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8
MAJ Robert Kemp 30th HHC said ―I thought good information was passed out It was good to see friends It was easy to find Soldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres-ence then get their hotel information and childcare registration (if they had children) Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance Abby Mill-sap Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist said ―Itlsquos a wonder-ful opportunity and thatlsquos why welsquore here Soldiers were set up at various points as well to help get the 30th HBCT Soldiers and Families processed efficiently YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA
The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family Life Consultants and Family Programs To make the content as relevant as possible Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser-vice members requesting their top concerns and as such the MFLCs tailored their presentations to address those matters As well medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE Dental VA and the Vet Center took place Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured participants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assis-tance ―The VA hired people within the program that know what itlsquos like to serve because they are veterans Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors said Gloria For the first-time-ever this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops The detail-oriented event equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs also contained a finely woven extensive Vendorlsquos List Grouped according to medical employment various organizations universities and static stations (such as Tricare Yellow Ribbon Family Programs Vet Centers etc) Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information MAJ Kemp noted that ―The vendors were great
CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION
The military children participated in structured activities according to age group Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job as well as volunteersmdashteachers from Guilford Countyshymdash who signed on to provide assistance Family Programs staff members assisted as well Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security Also in place were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the childrenlsquos areas to provide gatekeep-ing ndash one of which was a Medic Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent hellip where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff Kelly Harrington wife of SGT Avery Harrington Co C 1120th said ―Itlsquos my first time leaving Emily with anyone I called before I was so stressed When I found out the credentials of the staff I was at ease Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right in without crying or hesitation they were okay As for the Yellow Rib-bon event the first for Mrs Harrington the couple said ―It was great They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daugh-ter The Harringtons said ―She had a blast She was the last to leave and she didnlsquot want to go Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Carolina State Employeeslsquo Credit Union Volunteers from 4-H gave the kids hands-on learning activities and arts amp crafts Kristi Wagner Assistant Youth Coordinator said ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum thatlsquos taught The agenda Wagnerlsquos referring to is one created by Fam-ily Programlsquos Child amp Youth division It brings to life partnerships between 4Hlsquos Operation Military Kids and even Americore During a presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by Diane Cof-fill State Family Program Director said ―We could not take care of all of our Families without partnerships because thatlsquos what we thrive on AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton said ―We do different projects And we voted this year on this one Itlsquos about making a difference Welsquore here to help the children feel comfortable And they do While the statelsquos Yellow Ribbon is fairly new North Carolinalsquos military and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citi-zen Soldiers and their Families are supported
2 10
Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs
For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-
tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat
Team their Families and friends toughest
challenge is living without one another
for a year Soldiers are learning to live in
a defensive environment much different
than the life they live at home Spouses
learn to be single or single parents mak-
ing all the decisions for the house their
children and themselves They are
stressed daily from worrying about the
safety and wellbeing of their loved one
deployed However one thought is the
same for both soldiers and Families look
forward to the day of being together
again
Once Soldiers return and the celebration
of their homecoming is over Families
and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-
ties of reintegration When Soldiers return
home they may feel like a stranger in their
own home or are faced with decisions and
choices they are not use to Military wife
Kelsey Heiney said When he first came
homehellipit was whoo you know good
times and then it got rough For Mrs
Heiney it was hard sharing what was her
space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had
the apartment all to myself for a year and
so of course its tough trying to just share
the apartment with somebody She said
getting the routines together and getting
use to each other has been something they
have been working through and they are
trying to figure out the best way to com-
promise
Getting things back to normal resounds
heavily in many Families and soldiers
lives Simple things like finding a bowl or
spoon can be frustrating for both the one
at home and the one returning One mili-
tary spouse said It drove me crazy when
my husband was in the kitchen and kept
opening and closing the drawers Finally I
got so irritated I asked him What is it
that you are looking for While she was
frustrated with her spouse for opening
and closing the drawers he was frustrated
that he knew where nothing was During
reintegration frustration reaches multiple
levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon
events are a great place for soldiers and
Families to come together and share ex-
periences and solutions It is a place where
they are not alone
During Yellow Ribbon events Families
and soldiers attend classes and seminars
with other soldiers and Families from the
same deployment Mrs Heiney said I
think it is good from a spouses point of
view because I can meet other womenhellip
and relate to them whereas over the
phone it is different It is kind of hard to
talk to someone over the phone about
stuff During downtime participants had
the opportunity to meet one-on-one with
vendors ranging from support organiza-
tions to potential employers
The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-
diers and Families a support network
SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa
230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-
pany A says it is good to have these
events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-
ployment because problems and issues do
come up before returning to drill and hav-
ing this information now is helpful The
most helpful for her was the Marriage
Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was
deployed to Iraq before but I havent been
an Army wife with my husband de-
ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment
class they know and talked about the
changes couples go through during de-
ployments and coming home It made me
feel better to hear somebody say thisit is
normal She said it helped her and her
husband understand that each of them is
going through different challenges and
they are not harder than what the other is
facing While he is challenged with com-
ing back from a deployment she is chal-
lenged with him being away Kawa says
she was glad she chose to attend the op-
tional Marriage Enrichment class and
hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events
in the future
Participants have the choice to leave the
Yellow Ribbon event with information
and help pertaining to them and if they
dont find anything helpful at least they
were able to get together with their
second family the soldiers and Fami-
lies they shared a year of their life These
events help Families and soldiers pick up
their lives while getting to know each
other again
SPC Cleta Kawa
wife of Sgt Mark
Kawa 230th
Brigade Support
Battalion
Company A
says The most
helpful for her
was the
Marriage
Enrichment
Seminar
A major part of successful reintegration
for Soldiers their Families amp friends is
communication Resolving to openly
discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition
Military Family
Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids
Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon
participants what Operation Military Kids does
and what they offer Like the upcoming summer
camps for kids throughout the state
2 11
Raising a military family is a little more complicated
when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and
Family Programs are bringing military Families training
relevant to the special dynamics of military family life
during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first
Family Retreat
Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home
North Carolina National Guard
Family Retreat
August 20-22
Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010
Make check or money order payable
to NCNG Family Readiness
Mail form and Payment To
NCNG Family Programs
CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road
Raleigh NC 27607
Guard Memberrsquos Name
Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number
Spouse Name (If applicable)
Spouse Social Security Number
Mailing Address
Phone Number (include area code)
Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)
Military Unit
Number of Children
Please List their Names and Ages Below
Please check the appropriate boxes
We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night
We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop
We have included the names and ages of our children
Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee
Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or
carolynstevens1usarmymil
Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee
Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders
Pamela Hughes
State FRG Advisor
105 West Spring Street
Oxford 27565
(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil
Family Readiness
Support Assistants
Charlotte
(704) 359-5707
Clinton
Sarah Strickland
sarahrstricklandusarmymil
(910) 299-5466
Goldsboro
Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil
(919) 739-5319
Jacksonville
Judy Richardson
judyrrichardsonusarmymil
(910) 347-4352line 11
Morrisville
Jim Roberson
jamesrobersonusarmymil
(919) 664-7655
12
$$$$$$$$Cut Outs$$$$$$$
JOIN JSS jointservicessupportorg
Get program information
events chat with other
military Families and
more
You will also receive
emails with lots of great
opportunities
NCNG Family Programs
ldquoGuarding Families on the Homefrontrdquo
QUICK REFERENCE
DEERSID Cards 18005389552
TriCare
18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil
Transition Assistance
Andy Jackson 9196646573
American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg
National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)
Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)
The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment
Locations
Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920
Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616
Asheville Military Family Resource
Center
7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803
Fax (828) 274-8572
David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator
davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Debra Collington FAC Specialist
debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
4240 West Blvd 28208
Fax (704) 359-5759
Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist
racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756
Lynn White FAC Specialist
lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769
Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center
449 East Mountain Dr 28306
Fax na
Amy Wallace FAC Specialist
amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125
Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-
ter
110 Franklin Blvd 27401
Fax (336) 691-7725
Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator
katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712
Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist
sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763
Greenville State Family Assistance Center
1401 N Memorial Dr 27834
Fax (252) 551-6136
Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator
dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669
Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR
6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081
Fax (704) 359-5759
Shane Judd FAC Specialist
shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553
Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist
dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554
Kinston Unit Family Contact Center
2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504
Fax (252) 526-2772
Vacant (252) 526-2711
13
Fa
mily
Assis
tan
ce
Ce
nte
rs hellip
He
re t
o H
elp
Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable
Let us help Call or Stop By
Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer
Lenoir State Family Assistance Center
(SFAC)
1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645
Fax (828) 757-4519
Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator
nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Frances Johnson FAC Specialist
francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Raleigh Military Family Resource Center
130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966
Fax (919) 334-9971
Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator
markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966
Earlene Capps FAC Specialist
earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957
Lisa Faison FAC Specialist
lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196
Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center
406 Hospital Rd 27577
Fax (919) 934-2901
Abby Millsap FAC Specialist
abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013
Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center
500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387
Fax (910) 692-3659
David Butler FAC Specialist
davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747
Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center
2412 Infantry Rd 28412
Fax (910) 251-7130
Jim Marley FAC Specialist
jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195
Wilmington Military Family Resource Center
3114 Randall Pkwy 28403
Fax (910) 343-1776
Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator
judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775
Julie Rowe FAC Specialist
BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates
on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina
National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo
TELL A FRIEND
2 10
Feature Reintegration |30th HBCT Reality Set In By Kathryn Jarvis NCNG Family Programs
For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na-
tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat
Team their Families and friends toughest
challenge is living without one another
for a year Soldiers are learning to live in
a defensive environment much different
than the life they live at home Spouses
learn to be single or single parents mak-
ing all the decisions for the house their
children and themselves They are
stressed daily from worrying about the
safety and wellbeing of their loved one
deployed However one thought is the
same for both soldiers and Families look
forward to the day of being together
again
Once Soldiers return and the celebration
of their homecoming is over Families
and Soldiers are faced with the true reali-
ties of reintegration When Soldiers return
home they may feel like a stranger in their
own home or are faced with decisions and
choices they are not use to Military wife
Kelsey Heiney said When he first came
homehellipit was whoo you know good
times and then it got rough For Mrs
Heiney it was hard sharing what was her
space for a year Mrs Heiney said I had
the apartment all to myself for a year and
so of course its tough trying to just share
the apartment with somebody She said
getting the routines together and getting
use to each other has been something they
have been working through and they are
trying to figure out the best way to com-
promise
Getting things back to normal resounds
heavily in many Families and soldiers
lives Simple things like finding a bowl or
spoon can be frustrating for both the one
at home and the one returning One mili-
tary spouse said It drove me crazy when
my husband was in the kitchen and kept
opening and closing the drawers Finally I
got so irritated I asked him What is it
that you are looking for While she was
frustrated with her spouse for opening
and closing the drawers he was frustrated
that he knew where nothing was During
reintegration frustration reaches multiple
levels on both sides Yellow Ribbon
events are a great place for soldiers and
Families to come together and share ex-
periences and solutions It is a place where
they are not alone
During Yellow Ribbon events Families
and soldiers attend classes and seminars
with other soldiers and Families from the
same deployment Mrs Heiney said I
think it is good from a spouses point of
view because I can meet other womenhellip
and relate to them whereas over the
phone it is different It is kind of hard to
talk to someone over the phone about
stuff During downtime participants had
the opportunity to meet one-on-one with
vendors ranging from support organiza-
tions to potential employers
The Yellow Ribbon event brought sol-
diers and Families a support network
SPC Cleta Kawa wife of Sgt Mark Kawa
230th Brigade Support Battalion Com-
pany A says it is good to have these
events 30 60 and 90 days after the de-
ployment because problems and issues do
come up before returning to drill and hav-
ing this information now is helpful The
most helpful for her was the Marriage
Enrichment Seminar Kawa said I was
deployed to Iraq before but I havent been
an Army wife with my husband de-
ployedhellipIn the Marriage Enrichment
class they know and talked about the
changes couples go through during de-
ployments and coming home It made me
feel better to hear somebody say thisit is
normal She said it helped her and her
husband understand that each of them is
going through different challenges and
they are not harder than what the other is
facing While he is challenged with com-
ing back from a deployment she is chal-
lenged with him being away Kawa says
she was glad she chose to attend the op-
tional Marriage Enrichment class and
hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events
in the future
Participants have the choice to leave the
Yellow Ribbon event with information
and help pertaining to them and if they
dont find anything helpful at least they
were able to get together with their
second family the soldiers and Fami-
lies they shared a year of their life These
events help Families and soldiers pick up
their lives while getting to know each
other again
SPC Cleta Kawa
wife of Sgt Mark
Kawa 230th
Brigade Support
Battalion
Company A
says The most
helpful for her
was the
Marriage
Enrichment
Seminar
A major part of successful reintegration
for Soldiers their Families amp friends is
communication Resolving to openly
discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition
Military Family
Scott Enroughty 4-H Operation Military Kids
Project Manager shared with Yellow Ribbon
participants what Operation Military Kids does
and what they offer Like the upcoming summer
camps for kids throughout the state
2 11
Raising a military family is a little more complicated
when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and
Family Programs are bringing military Families training
relevant to the special dynamics of military family life
during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first
Family Retreat
Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home
North Carolina National Guard
Family Retreat
August 20-22
Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010
Make check or money order payable
to NCNG Family Readiness
Mail form and Payment To
NCNG Family Programs
CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road
Raleigh NC 27607
Guard Memberrsquos Name
Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number
Spouse Name (If applicable)
Spouse Social Security Number
Mailing Address
Phone Number (include area code)
Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)
Military Unit
Number of Children
Please List their Names and Ages Below
Please check the appropriate boxes
We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night
We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop
We have included the names and ages of our children
Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee
Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or
carolynstevens1usarmymil
Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee
Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders
Pamela Hughes
State FRG Advisor
105 West Spring Street
Oxford 27565
(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil
Family Readiness
Support Assistants
Charlotte
(704) 359-5707
Clinton
Sarah Strickland
sarahrstricklandusarmymil
(910) 299-5466
Goldsboro
Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil
(919) 739-5319
Jacksonville
Judy Richardson
judyrrichardsonusarmymil
(910) 347-4352line 11
Morrisville
Jim Roberson
jamesrobersonusarmymil
(919) 664-7655
12
$$$$$$$$Cut Outs$$$$$$$
JOIN JSS jointservicessupportorg
Get program information
events chat with other
military Families and
more
You will also receive
emails with lots of great
opportunities
NCNG Family Programs
ldquoGuarding Families on the Homefrontrdquo
QUICK REFERENCE
DEERSID Cards 18005389552
TriCare
18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil
Transition Assistance
Andy Jackson 9196646573
American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg
National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)
Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)
The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment
Locations
Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920
Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616
Asheville Military Family Resource
Center
7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803
Fax (828) 274-8572
David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator
davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Debra Collington FAC Specialist
debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
4240 West Blvd 28208
Fax (704) 359-5759
Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist
racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756
Lynn White FAC Specialist
lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769
Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center
449 East Mountain Dr 28306
Fax na
Amy Wallace FAC Specialist
amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125
Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-
ter
110 Franklin Blvd 27401
Fax (336) 691-7725
Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator
katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712
Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist
sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763
Greenville State Family Assistance Center
1401 N Memorial Dr 27834
Fax (252) 551-6136
Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator
dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669
Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR
6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081
Fax (704) 359-5759
Shane Judd FAC Specialist
shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553
Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist
dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554
Kinston Unit Family Contact Center
2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504
Fax (252) 526-2772
Vacant (252) 526-2711
13
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Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable
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Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer
Lenoir State Family Assistance Center
(SFAC)
1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645
Fax (828) 757-4519
Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator
nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Frances Johnson FAC Specialist
francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Raleigh Military Family Resource Center
130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966
Fax (919) 334-9971
Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator
markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966
Earlene Capps FAC Specialist
earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957
Lisa Faison FAC Specialist
lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196
Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center
406 Hospital Rd 27577
Fax (919) 934-2901
Abby Millsap FAC Specialist
abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013
Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center
500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387
Fax (910) 692-3659
David Butler FAC Specialist
davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747
Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center
2412 Infantry Rd 28412
Fax (910) 251-7130
Jim Marley FAC Specialist
jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195
Wilmington Military Family Resource Center
3114 Randall Pkwy 28403
Fax (910) 343-1776
Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator
judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775
Julie Rowe FAC Specialist
BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates
on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina
National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo
TELL A FRIEND
2 11
Raising a military family is a little more complicated
when challenged with family life changes Chaplains and
Family Programs are bringing military Families training
relevant to the special dynamics of military family life
during the North Carolina National Guardlsquos first
Family Retreat
Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to ldquoresetrdquo their life at home
North Carolina National Guard
Family Retreat
August 20-22
Registration Form Registration Deadline July 20 2010
Make check or money order payable
to NCNG Family Readiness
Mail form and Payment To
NCNG Family Programs
CO PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road
Raleigh NC 27607
Guard Memberrsquos Name
Guard Memberrsquos Social Security Number
Spouse Name (If applicable)
Spouse Social Security Number
Mailing Address
Phone Number (include area code)
Email (Please indicate an email address Your regis-tration will be confirmed via email)
Military Unit
Number of Children
Please List their Names and Ages Below
Please check the appropriate boxes
We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday amp Saturday night
We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop
We have included the names and ages of our children
Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee
Registration will begin Friday at 4 pm and last until 7 pm Following Registration at 730 pm family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights Child-care will be provided Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group Please direct questions about this retreat to PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext 6124 or
carolynstevens1usarmymil
Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 202010 to NCNG Family Program co PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd Raleigh NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting - Number of Children and their ages - Include your $2000 per Family non-refundable registration fee
Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders
Pamela Hughes
State FRG Advisor
105 West Spring Street
Oxford 27565
(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil
Family Readiness
Support Assistants
Charlotte
(704) 359-5707
Clinton
Sarah Strickland
sarahrstricklandusarmymil
(910) 299-5466
Goldsboro
Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil
(919) 739-5319
Jacksonville
Judy Richardson
judyrrichardsonusarmymil
(910) 347-4352line 11
Morrisville
Jim Roberson
jamesrobersonusarmymil
(919) 664-7655
12
$$$$$$$$Cut Outs$$$$$$$
JOIN JSS jointservicessupportorg
Get program information
events chat with other
military Families and
more
You will also receive
emails with lots of great
opportunities
NCNG Family Programs
ldquoGuarding Families on the Homefrontrdquo
QUICK REFERENCE
DEERSID Cards 18005389552
TriCare
18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil
Transition Assistance
Andy Jackson 9196646573
American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg
National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)
Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)
The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment
Locations
Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920
Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616
Asheville Military Family Resource
Center
7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803
Fax (828) 274-8572
David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator
davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Debra Collington FAC Specialist
debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
4240 West Blvd 28208
Fax (704) 359-5759
Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist
racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756
Lynn White FAC Specialist
lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769
Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center
449 East Mountain Dr 28306
Fax na
Amy Wallace FAC Specialist
amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125
Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-
ter
110 Franklin Blvd 27401
Fax (336) 691-7725
Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator
katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712
Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist
sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763
Greenville State Family Assistance Center
1401 N Memorial Dr 27834
Fax (252) 551-6136
Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator
dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669
Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR
6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081
Fax (704) 359-5759
Shane Judd FAC Specialist
shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553
Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist
dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554
Kinston Unit Family Contact Center
2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504
Fax (252) 526-2772
Vacant (252) 526-2711
13
Fa
mily
Assis
tan
ce
Ce
nte
rs hellip
He
re t
o H
elp
Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable
Let us help Call or Stop By
Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer
Lenoir State Family Assistance Center
(SFAC)
1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645
Fax (828) 757-4519
Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator
nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Frances Johnson FAC Specialist
francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Raleigh Military Family Resource Center
130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966
Fax (919) 334-9971
Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator
markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966
Earlene Capps FAC Specialist
earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957
Lisa Faison FAC Specialist
lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196
Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center
406 Hospital Rd 27577
Fax (919) 934-2901
Abby Millsap FAC Specialist
abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013
Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center
500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387
Fax (910) 692-3659
David Butler FAC Specialist
davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747
Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center
2412 Infantry Rd 28412
Fax (910) 251-7130
Jim Marley FAC Specialist
jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195
Wilmington Military Family Resource Center
3114 Randall Pkwy 28403
Fax (910) 343-1776
Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator
judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775
Julie Rowe FAC Specialist
BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates
on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina
National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo
TELL A FRIEND
Pamela Hughes
State FRG Advisor
105 West Spring Street
Oxford 27565
(919) 693-5016 ext 11 pamelahughes5usarmymil
Family Readiness
Support Assistants
Charlotte
(704) 359-5707
Clinton
Sarah Strickland
sarahrstricklandusarmymil
(910) 299-5466
Goldsboro
Greg Smith gregorypaulsmithusarmymil
(919) 739-5319
Jacksonville
Judy Richardson
judyrrichardsonusarmymil
(910) 347-4352line 11
Morrisville
Jim Roberson
jamesrobersonusarmymil
(919) 664-7655
12
$$$$$$$$Cut Outs$$$$$$$
JOIN JSS jointservicessupportorg
Get program information
events chat with other
military Families and
more
You will also receive
emails with lots of great
opportunities
NCNG Family Programs
ldquoGuarding Families on the Homefrontrdquo
QUICK REFERENCE
DEERSID Cards 18005389552
TriCare
18883632273 wwwtricareosdmil
Transition Assistance
Andy Jackson 9196646573
American Red Cross 8772727337 wwwredcrossorg
National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1800273TALK (8255)
Veteranrsquos Affairs (VA)
The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment
Locations
Charlotte Vet Center 7043336107 Fayetteville Vet Center 9104886252 Greensboro Vet Center 3363335366 Greenville Vet Center 2523557920
Raleigh Vet Center 9198564616
Asheville Military Family Resource
Center
7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803
Fax (828) 274-8572
David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator
davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Debra Collington FAC Specialist
debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
4240 West Blvd 28208
Fax (704) 359-5759
Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist
racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756
Lynn White FAC Specialist
lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769
Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center
449 East Mountain Dr 28306
Fax na
Amy Wallace FAC Specialist
amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125
Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-
ter
110 Franklin Blvd 27401
Fax (336) 691-7725
Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator
katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712
Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist
sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763
Greenville State Family Assistance Center
1401 N Memorial Dr 27834
Fax (252) 551-6136
Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator
dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669
Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR
6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081
Fax (704) 359-5759
Shane Judd FAC Specialist
shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553
Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist
dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554
Kinston Unit Family Contact Center
2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504
Fax (252) 526-2772
Vacant (252) 526-2711
13
Fa
mily
Assis
tan
ce
Ce
nte
rs hellip
He
re t
o H
elp
Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable
Let us help Call or Stop By
Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer
Lenoir State Family Assistance Center
(SFAC)
1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645
Fax (828) 757-4519
Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator
nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Frances Johnson FAC Specialist
francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Raleigh Military Family Resource Center
130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966
Fax (919) 334-9971
Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator
markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966
Earlene Capps FAC Specialist
earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957
Lisa Faison FAC Specialist
lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196
Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center
406 Hospital Rd 27577
Fax (919) 934-2901
Abby Millsap FAC Specialist
abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013
Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center
500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387
Fax (910) 692-3659
David Butler FAC Specialist
davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747
Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center
2412 Infantry Rd 28412
Fax (910) 251-7130
Jim Marley FAC Specialist
jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195
Wilmington Military Family Resource Center
3114 Randall Pkwy 28403
Fax (910) 343-1776
Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator
judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775
Julie Rowe FAC Specialist
BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates
on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina
National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo
TELL A FRIEND
Asheville Military Family Resource
Center
7 Yorkshire St Suite C 28803
Fax (828) 274-8572
David Ponder FAC Network Coordinator
davidponderusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Debra Collington FAC Specialist
debraacollingtonctrusarmymil (828) 274-8571
Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
4240 West Blvd 28208
Fax (704) 359-5759
Rachel Talbott FAC Specialist
racheltalbottusarmymil (704) 359-5756
Lynn White FAC Specialist
lynnwhite2usarmymil (704) 359-5769
Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center
449 East Mountain Dr 28306
Fax na
Amy Wallace FAC Specialist
amywallace3usarmymil (910) 672-5125
Greensboro State Family Assistance Cen-
ter
110 Franklin Blvd 27401
Fax (336) 691-7725
Katy Jones FAC Network Coordinator
katymjonesusarmymil (336) 691-7712
Sandy Harrison FAC Specialist
sandyharrison1usarmymil (336) 691-7763
Greenville State Family Assistance Center
1401 N Memorial Dr 27834
Fax (252) 551-6136
Dawn White FAC Network Coordinator
dawnwhiteusarmymil (252) 551-5669
Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR
6001 Gateway Ctr Dr Suite 109 28081
Fax (704) 359-5759
Shane Judd FAC Specialist
shanejuddusarmymil (704) 788-4553
Doretha McLaughlin FAC Specialist
dorethamclaughlin1usarmymil (704) 788-4554
Kinston Unit Family Contact Center
2875 Dobbs Farm Rd 28504
Fax (252) 526-2772
Vacant (252) 526-2711
13
Fa
mily
Assis
tan
ce
Ce
nte
rs hellip
He
re t
o H
elp
Dedicated Willing Knowledgeable
Let us help Call or Stop By
Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer
Lenoir State Family Assistance Center
(SFAC)
1535 Beecher Anderson Rd Lenoir 28645
Fax (828) 757-4519
Nancy Davis FAC Network Coordinator
nancydavis3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Frances Johnson FAC Specialist
francesjohnson3usarmymil (828) 757-4365
Raleigh Military Family Resource Center
130 Penmarc Dr Suite 110 27603(919) 334-9966
Fax (919) 334-9971
Mark Woolbright FAC Network Coordinator
markwoolbrightusarmymil (919) 334-9966
Earlene Capps FAC Specialist
earlenecappsusarmymil (919) 334-9957
Lisa Faison FAC Specialist
lisafaisonusarmymil (919) 334-0196
Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center
406 Hospital Rd 27577
Fax (919) 934-2901
Abby Millsap FAC Specialist
abbyemillsapusarmymil (919) 934-2013
Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center
500 Morganton Rd PO Box 1317 28387
Fax (910) 692-3659
David Butler FAC Specialist
davidearlbutlerusarmymil (910) 692-8747
Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center
2412 Infantry Rd 28412
Fax (910) 251-7130
Jim Marley FAC Specialist
jamesmarleyusarmymil (910) 251-7195
Wilmington Military Family Resource Center
3114 Randall Pkwy 28403
Fax (910) 343-1776
Judy Howard FAC Network Coordinator
judymhowardusarmymil (910) 343-1775
Julie Rowe FAC Specialist
BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates
on Facebook Search ldquoNorth Carolina
National Guard Family Pro-gramsrdquo
TELL A FRIEND