everything the bible says about parenting & children
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Contents
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1. Wt G Ext F Pt 9
2. Hw Pt Aft Ti Cil 19
3. Wt G Ext F Cil 33
4. Hw Cil Bi Aft Ti Pt . . .
Ti Ow Futu 43
5. S Dut i Ptiul 53
6. Cil Mil 67
7. Cil Fit 87
8. G, t Pt Ft 97
9. Ju, t Pt S 109
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ntroduction
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INTRODUCTION
w itti wi i, t -
tu, thee i e whe wim i illile: the Bile.
Wit it ii witi, t Bibl i wi
abu pag a h sagh m h Amghy
il.
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1Wht god Expects
From Prents
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H w tik it y t bi u ily
i w. A t w ti il it
b wi t Sl, i tu ut l.
Cl H Su3
T Bibl i t lit ti t t ,ut it pge cetily cti plety cmm p-
ibiti ki i l i u i
tiul. T til ituti it, ki,
t, iil, ub, wi, t w. But
h pags Spu as u may a a m-
ituti t.
Thughu hsy, h s Spu
t b llw by i by t.
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Yt it ki qut ilu t llw t Bibl
til wi t, G ituti x-
tti t ut til yti
tt yu will t ubjt.
`Th Esau a h wm a h a as,
Wh a hs pp wh yu? Ths a h h
G h gciuly gie t me, yu et, Jc eplie.(GENESIS 33:5 nlt)
As a husband and a ather, the Old estament patriarch Jacob
was a deeply awed man, but even he was able to recognize that
children are a gi to parents rom God.
A tht yu my tell i the heig yu , yu, w I ky t Eyti w
I My i t, tt yu y kw tt
I t Lord. (EXODUS 10:2 nasb)
Tis command, given by God through Moses to the Israelites who
were in slavery in Egypt, coincided with the eighth of ten plagues that
God sent to punish the Egyptians, which caused Pharaoh to releasethem rom slavery. Tis eighth plague consisted o massive swarms
o locusts that destroyed much o the Egyptians crops and trees.
Jus ma su yu say a. Kp s wah yu-
ss. D g ayhg wha yu s. D
yu ha wa . Say ga as g as yu .
Tech wht yue ee he t yu chile g-
il. (DEUTERONOMY 4:9 The Message)
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Te role o a parent is one that requires constant vigilance, over
both the child and the lie o the parent. Not only must parents
teach Gods Word and ways to their children and grandchildren,
but they must also ollow them.
Fix t w i i yu t i; ti t
ybl yu bi t yu .
T t t yu il, tlki but t w yu
it t w yu wlk l t , w yu liw whe yu get up. Wite them the me
yu hue yu gte, tht yu y the y
yu il y b y i t l t LORD w
t i yu t, y t y tt t
b t t. (DEUTERONOMY 11:1821 niv)
Te book o Deuteronomy is a collection o Moses fnal instruc-tions to the nation of Israel before they would enter the Promised
Land. Te parents of ancient Israel were instructed to consistently
and intentionally teach Gods Word to their children, keeping
those words always beore them.
Mss am a a h ws hs sg h
hag h pp, h a Jshua s Nu. WhM i yi ll t w t ll Il,
sa, Ta ha a hs ws whh I g w-
ss ay a ugy mma yu h pu
hm pa, y sg w hs Ra.
Y. Ti i ll tt yu; it yu li. I k-
i ti w yull l li i ti l
tt yu i t J t (DEUTERONOMY
32:4447 The Message).
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Moses words here were some o his last words to the nation o
Israel, which he led or several decades. Te pattern that he set
forth for the nation of Israel here is for parents to act as com-
manded by the Word of God, and for children to follow suit acting
as directed by the Word o God.
L, il it t Lord: t uit t
wb i i w (PSALM 127:3 kjv)
Te Hebrew wordNachalah, which is translated heritage here,
was also used of a piece of property or land that was given by
one person to a succeeding generation.
Oly t lii i yu I ty. E ti
tll yu itul t t xt. (ISAIAH 38:19 nlt)
When King Hezekiah was healed o a terminal illness by God,
he sang a song of thanksgiving to God for healing him. In the
midst o this song, he proclaimed that athers are to teach their
children Gods truth.
Lit, i, t G tut, b yu t wt
I yu. Im hwg h ms a pb; I yu h sw uhs, Ss w ha m u
t, ul w l t u t k. W t
ki ti t ul, w i it l t t xt
tiG tu, t lu ti
. (PSALM 78:14 The Message)
Jut t i i il, S t Lord
i t w Hi. (PSALM 103:13 nasb)
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Parents are to be the frst examples to their children o the char-
acter and qualities of God. Parents, and particularly fathers,
are to exhibit compassion to their children and not harshness.
H wh whhs hs has hs s, Bu h wh s
i iili i ilitly. (PROVERBS 13:24 nasb)
Diili yu , t i ; t t yu t
utti i t t. (PROVERBS 19:18 esv)
Children must be disciplined while there is opportunity, for there
will come a day when it is too late or a parents discipline to do
any good. For a parent not to discipline their child is to allow
them to continue in ways o olly, which puts them on a path to
their eventual death.
D t witl iili il; i yu ui t
with the , they will t ie. Puih them with the
t t. (PROVERBS 23:1314 niv)
O all the verses in the Bible regarding parents, children, and
the dispensing o discipline, this verse in Proverbs is probably
the most controversial and disconcerting to students of the
Scriptures. Much o the consternation stems rom the original
King James Versions translation opunish as beat. Modern
versions, such as the NIV seen here, translate the wordnakah
as punish to clariy that this verse teaches discipline, but no-
where in the Bible do its pages encourage, or even allow, for
discipline that crosses the line into abuse. Here, King Solomon
again asserts that children who are allowed to grow up with-
out discipline will face a treacherous life for which they are
unprepared.
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T i wi, but il lt t ilbi t i t. . . . Diili yu ,
will i yu t; will i lit t yu t. (PROV-
ERBS 29:15, 17 esv)
Te purpose of disciplining a child as given in this verse is to
instill and build wisdom. When that kind of wise discipline is
given, that child will be a delight to their parents; but if that kind
o discipline is lacking, there will instead be shame at that childs
discipline-lacking words and actions.
Ti up chil i the wy he hul g [ i eepig with
hs ua g b], a wh h s h w
t it. (PROVERBS 22:6 amp)
Oen this verse has been viewed as suggesting that i a child
is trained, disciplined, and discipled properly as a child, they
will not stray rom their aith. Tis has led many honest and
sincere parents to feel guilty when their children make poor
choices as adults. Scholars, however, generally view the verse
as having one of two meanings. First, children are to be trained
as the habit or nature o the child (such as the age and mannero child) dictate. Second, children are to be trained according
to the habit or nature that each individual child displays dur-
ing their youth.
Tll yu il but it i t y t , lt yu
chile tell thei chile. P the ty w m gee-
ti t ti. (JOEL 1:3 nlt)
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Fahs, p yu h ag, bu bg
them up i the iciplie itucti the Lord. (EPHE-
SIANS 6:4 esv)
Te Greek wordparorgizo, which is translated provoke,
speaks of someones actions angering another to the point of
exasperation. Oen the word is used to speak o the extent to
which mankinds sin provokes God. At issue here is not that
fathers are never to anger their children, but that their style
of parenting and relating to their children is not one that is
adversarial and that leaves their children constantly exas-
perated and with a broken spirit. Instead of operating as an
adversary to their children, athers are to ocus on motivating
them and nurturing them to be disciplined and knowledgeable
ollowers o Christ.
Ft, t k yu il, lt ty b i-
u. (COLOSSIANS 3:21 nkjv)
Te books of Colossians and Ephesians are very similar New
estament epistles. Both books were written by the apostle Paul,
and many scholars believe that they were written around the
same time, while Paul was in prison in Rome. Because o this,
the two books share many common themes, and in fact many
o the verses in the two letters are very similar. Just as he did in
Ephesians, here in Colossians, Paul urges fathers in particular
not to provoke their children, because if they do, they could cause
their children to lose heart and become discouraged. Discipline
that is enacted too harshly or too severely will be almost as ine-
ective as no discipline. A child that is constantly provoked will
be discouraged and broken.
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Pl w t tk ti lti, illy
ti w ili, i u ti it. Ty w
ha sm wh s ha ah h Lord. (1 TIM-
OTHY 5:8 cev)
As incredible as it may seem, not every parent adequately takes
care of their children. It is the role and purpose of parents to
take care o their childrens spiritual, mental, and physical well-
being. o ail to take care o your amily is to live a lie without
aith in God.
O wm ws a b h bha,
t liiu i l t u wi, ti
wt i , tt ty y u t yu w
t le thei hu, t le thei chile. (TITUS 2:34 nasb)
Just as it can seem incredible that some parents need to be told to
take care of their childrens needs, it is somewhat more incredible
that the command needs to be given for mothers to love their
children. Yet the love o a child requires a type o sacrifce that
is contrary to the nature o allen human beings, which is why
it is so important that parents look to older examples of love
and emulate it.
Yu mus subm a u [] sp;
G i li wit yu wit . F wt i t
w i t t [tu] ti t ii-
li? (HEBREWS 12:7 amp)
Te pattern o consistently and diligently instilling discipline in
children is not one that God simply expects from parents; it is
one aer which he exemplifes and patterns his own atherhood.
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Bl, t ti ti I y t t yu; I will
t e ueme t yu: I ee t yu ut yu: the
il ut t t ly u t t, but t t
t il. (2 CORINTHIANS 12:14 kjv)
Te apostle Paul says that his pattern of supporting himself rather
than relying on support from his spiritual children was based
upon the principle that parents are to provide or and support
their children.