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Liliana MeloProfessor Carlos HiraldoEnglish 102.8417January 22, 2007Essay #1, raf! #2

etween Cold and Roughness Love Is Given

"hrough !ie, fa!hers ha$e %layed any roles in edu&a!ing !heir &hildren. 'oe of !he are

in$ol$ed in e$ery %ar! of !heir &hildren(s li$es )hile o!hers fo&us on one or !)o as%e&!s of raising !heir

&hildren. *n fa&!, !he e+%erien&es of fa!herhood ha$e fo&used on !he !radi!ional role of finan&ial %ro$ider.

"he )ay !o !he e!!er e+%resses and &ouni&a!es his feelings !o his &hild is ased on !he -ind of fa!her

role. "hus, !he %oes My Pa%a(s /al! y "heodore oe!h-e and "hose /in!er 'undays y oer!

Hayden des&rie !he rela!ionshi% a fa!her and son and !he )ay !hey &ouni&a!e. Ho)e$er, !hese !)o

rela!ionshi%s &ould no! e ore differen!. *n !he oe!h-e(s %oe, !he s%ea-er had a s!rong and %osi!i$e

rela!ionshi% )i!h his fa!her !ha! &ouldn3! e e+%ressed as )ell as Hayden3s rela!ionshi% )i!h his fa!her. *n

fa&!, !he fa!hers( aili!y !o &ouni&a!e )i!h !heir sons )as %hysi&ally, ra!her !han $erally. lso, o!h

%oes use nega!i$e as%e&!s, fa!herly lo$e, and unders!anding for !heir fa!her. *n "heodore oe!h-e(s My

Pa%a(s /al! loo-s des&ries !he e+%erien&es of a young oy )i!h his effusi$e fa!her. oer! Hayden(s

"hose /in!er 'undays is a siilar %oe fro !he $ie)%oin! of a young adul! )ho is refle&!ing a&- on !he

&hildhood rela!ionshi% )i!h his fa!her and his dis!an! &ouni&a!ion.

"he %oe My Pa%a(s /al!, y "heodore oe!h-e des&ries !he s&ene of dan&e e!)een a

fa!her and his son. "his %oe deals )i!h affe&!iona!e eories of !he narra!or and his fa!her. "he narra!or

des&ries a &elera!ion of !he fa!her )i!h his &hild y dan&ing a&ross !he -i!&hen floor. *n !he line 1, !he

)ord 5/his-ey5 &ould gi$e us soe &hara&!eris!i&s of !he fa!her as a rough, unedu&a!ed, lue6&ollar )or-er.

Li-e)ise, !he signs of roughness are his hand, 5a!!ered on one -nu&-le511, and 5a %al &a-ed hard y

dir!514. "his is a an )ho has %roaly )or-ed )i!h his hands $ery hard during !he day. His fe) es&a%es

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li-ely &onsis! of a drin- )hen he ge!s hoe fro a rough day. His issed s!e%s in9ure !he &hild3s ear, )hile

!he fa!her and son3s 5ro%ing5 &auses !he %ans !o slide 5fro !he -i!&hen shelf5:. s he 5ea!;s< !ie51=

on !he &hild3s head )e see $ery &learly !ha! he is >ui!e &areless )i!h !he &hild. ll !hese fa&!ors a-e !he

oy3s o!her $ery un&ofor!ale. /e &an see !he disa%%ro$al in her &oun!enan&e, )hi&h 5&ould no!

unfro)n i!self58. 'he is o$iously u%se!, u! she does no! do any!hing !o s!o% !he gae. 'o, !his

sugges!s !ha! !he )al! is en9oyale for fa!her and son. "his fa!her ay no! e !he os! sensi!i$e an

around, u! he s!ill sees !o e a hero in !he eyes of his son. ?inally, !he las! line of !he %oe, 5)al!ed e

off !o ed s!ill &linging !o your shir!5 assues !ha! !he oy is $ery u&h de%enden! on his fa!her and sho)s

a fa!her6son rela!ionshi% ased, a! leas! in %ar! on lo$e.

'iilarly, !he %oe 5"hose /in!er 'undays5 y oer! Hayden uses an adul! s%ea-er !o des&rie

!he eory of !he &hild !o)ards his dis!an! fa!her. "he fa!her used !o )a-e u% early e$ery 'unday !o e

ready for &hur&h ser$i&es. *n !his %oe, !he fa!her is no! friendly and affe&!iona!e, u! he ade sure !ha!

e$ery!hing s!ays in order for his faily. "he son is o$er)heled y guil! for all !he years he !oo- his fa!her

as a %ro$ider. *n !he lines 1 and 2 'undays !oo y fa!her go! u% early @ and %u! his &lo!hes on in !he

luela&- &old des&rie a an )ho has !o ge! u% in order !o fulfill !he asi& needs of his faily. ll of his

a&!ions are !o a-e life ore %leasan! for his faily. "ha! iage is ore !ou&hing )hen you &onsider !he

idea !ha! 5no one e$er !han-ed hi5A, his son 5s%o-e indifferen!ly !o hi510, and des%i!e his es! effor!s

his hoe )as s!ill o$er)heled y 5&hroni& angers5B. Perha%s his faily la&-s &loseness e&ause of !he

&hao!i& )or- life !ha! he leads. "his ay e !he reason !ha! !he son is!rea!s and isunders!ands hi so

u&h. o), !he s%ea-er feels !ha! all !ha! insensi!i$i!y and ingra!i!ude !o)ards his fa!her &oe a&- !o

dis!ur hi. *n fa&!, !he s%ea-er re&ognies !he enorous du!y !ha! raising a faily is. lso, he sees ho)

hard i! is !o a-e life )or-, and is ale !o feel !he res%e&! and adira!ion for his fa!her !ha! he should ha$e.

Many %aren!s suffer silen!ly. "hey fulfill !heir du!ies >uie!ly, doing !he !hings for !he %eo%le !ha! !hey lo$e.

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?inally, !he s%ea-er realies his is!a-e saying, 5/ha! did * -no) of lo$e3s lonely and aus!ere offi&es5 1=6

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"o!al and un&ondi!ional lo$e e!)een !he fa!her and his son )ill ne$er disa%%ear. *n !he %oe My

Pa%a(s /al! y "heodore oe!h-e, !he s%ea-er des&ries his %ain !ha! he feels )hen his fa!her s%ins hi

around !he roo, u! he is '!ill &linging !o your shir! oe!h-e 1: sho)ing his de$o!ed lo$e. *n !he sae

)ay, oer! Hayden(s "hose /in!er 'undays sho)s !he lo$e e!)een fa!her and son. *n !his %oe, !he

s%ea-er loo-s a&- on his &hildhood re&ogniing all of !he )or- !ha! his fa!her did in order !o su%%or! !he

faily and ho) he ne$er !han-ed hi for !his. "he fa!her sho)s his lo$e e$eryday as e$en af!er a long day

of lue6&ollar )or- he had dri$en ou! !he &old and %olished y good shoes as )ell Hayden 10611.

*n &on&lusion, %oe!ry is ade !o e+%ress !he feelings, !hough!s, and eo!ions of !he %oe!. "he

readers &an in!er%re! !he %oe ho)e$er !hey see fi!. "he %oes My Pa%a(s /al! and "hose /in!er

'undays a-e !he reader unders!and !he lo$e e!)een fa!her and sonD in addi!ion, !he reader &an %ro$e

!ha! !he s%ea-ers in fa&! lo$e !heir fa!her in s%i!e of isunders!anding !heir fa!hers. "hrough !hese %oes,

)e &an find o%%or!uni!ies !o learn fro our e+%erien&es, )or- differen&es, and %ass in order !o ase our

lega&ies. lso, * !hin- !ha! oe!h-e and Hayden are !)o s-illed %oe!s !ha! ha$e &on!rol o$er !heir )ri!ing

)ay and &ouni&a!ion of eaning of !heir feelings.