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The Psychology of Retirement. Practical career planning through a spiritual lens.TRANSCRIPT
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Rabbi Elliot SchoenbergDirector of Career Services
And International Placement2012
Preparation for Retirement for the Rabbi
EXERCISE
WHAT WILL THE FIRST DAY OF MY RETIREMENT LOOK LIKE?
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Old Pschology
Development Productivity Leisure
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New Psychology
Development Productivity Development, ProductivityLeisure
Leisure
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TimeLine
What is the right time for you to retire?
Time Certain? Phased in?
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The Decision
YOURS YOUR BOARD’S
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The Decision
PARTICULAR AGE INCOME LEVEL
65?
68?
72?
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Time LineHOW ARE YOU SPENDING YOUR TIME NOW?
HOW DO YOU WANT TO BE SPENDING YOUR TIME IN RETIREMENT?
Work
Learning
Volunteering
Leisure
Work
Learning
Volunteer-ing
Leisure
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Enjoyment/Pleasure/Leisure
•Message from society, retirement equals fun
•Look for fun based on your interests.
Myth: Unstructured life is ideal
•In less that a year, most retirees seek structure more than leisure
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Engagement
Involvement. Flow. Lose yourself
Challenging Demanding
Not Purchased
Match our strengths
Strengths are used across all contexts. Copyright 2012 by
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MEANING
Find meaning or seek purpose. Third level up. Using your abilities in the service of
something larger than yourself.
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Retirement Pyramid
Meaning
Engagement
Leisure
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Mattering
The need to feel noticed, appreciated and depended upon.
Important for people to believe that they count in others’ lives and that they make a difference to them.
Once I retire, how will I continue to hear the applause
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Consequences of Mattering
Lifecycle events trickiest issues – only special personal relations always with permission
Myth: Thinking you will not need an
audience in retirement – why rabbis continue to do life cycle events
Why it is hard to let go of a calling
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Rabbinic Identity
Who am I without my job? The sum of the roles you play and
behavioral characteristics you display “Identity is the bridge between who we
feel ourselves internally to be and who we are recognized as being by our social role.” Ruthellen Josselson
The greater the work commitment-the greater the loss of the work role will be
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Myth
Thinking you will not need an audience in retirement
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Identity
You need to be able to step out of your role - How do you go off duty?
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Identity
What will you do for the high holidays? Do you need to be officiating somewhere?
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Planning
Are you retiring from or retiring to something?
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Towards Something
Do another degree – MSW Continue the part of the rabbinate you
enjoy the most, e.g. pulpit, hospital chaplain
Take an avocation make it more intense, e.g. book collector
Part-time pulpit – once a month unlikely Just let it develop – see what happens
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Buy a life style or design a life
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Employment
Rabbis wish to continue working because they are still competent despite the growing age gap with congregants
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Be flexible in retirement. Retirement is not a straight line.
There will be surprises for sure.
Always have a Plan B
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Eitzah Tovah: Talk
Consultations with spouse and other family members - it is a joint decision
Do you children know your plans?
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Eitzah Tovah: Action
Start your retirement career - while still able
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Eitzah Tovah: Respect
Learn how will your institution be showing you respect? How important is it to you?
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Spirtuality
How will you renew your spiritual life?
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Eitzah Tovah: Plan
Need to plan retirement- with intention and with forethought
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Planning
We are responsible for our own retirement
Myth: We took care of others now they will take care of us.
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Why people do not plan
Makes them anxious Can not predict the future Because in denial Energy is in the present-not the future.
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Planning Tips
Think in terms of chapters. Take advantage of planned
happenstance .Importance of being open to change as a result of chance occurrence.
Be open to invitations Modify your ambitions. Ratchet them down. Construct a personal narrative using narrative
psychology
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Planning Tips Con’t
Use appreciative inquiry. Build on your positives.
Rehearse your new purpose. Try it on for 2 months.
Read about the future Use a surrogate. Do an informational interview
with someone already doing your new role or purpose.
Identify roadblocks
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Exercise
When you hear the word retirement what images, phrases come to mind?
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Rabbi Elliot SchoenbergDirector of Career Services
And International Placement2012
Preparation for Retirement for the Rabbi