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The definiton of Empathy/Empathy

Survey/Video Examples:

Emp. Day 1

N A M E :______________________ PER:_______E m p a t h y U n i t:

1. What is empathy? (it’s not “sympathy")

1) Identify with their feelings ~How do they feel?

2) Put yourself in their shoes ~How would I feel?

3) Respond and show your understanding ~What can I do?

Write on Board - Empathy Survey:

1 - Not at all2 - A little3 - Some of the time (about 1/2 and 1/2)4 - mMost of the time5 - Almost all of the time

Find a blank space of paper and # your paper 1 - 10

Empathy Survey: How much empathy do you have?

1. I feel empathy for people who are less fortunate than me.

2. I find it easy to understand other people’s points of view.

3. I am greatly upset by other people’s hardships and misfortunes. (like a house fire, or parents divorce)

4. If someone needed help in an emergency, I would willingly offer it. (like an asthma attack, or unconscious)

5. There are two sides to every story, I remember this fact and try to look at both sides.

Empathy Survey: How much empathy do you have?

6. I would give money to people in need even if I did not know them well. (like in a disaster, give donation)

7. If I saw a neighbor had a need, I would offer to help without being asked. (like if their groceries were spilling)

8. I would let an elderly or disabled person go ahead of me in line even if I was in a hurry.

9. I would try and stop a friend from hurting someone, even if the person they wanted to hurt was not our friend.

10. When I make decisions I try and think of the rights of everyone involved.

Empathy Survey Results:

10 - 30 : You are not very empathetic :(You are reluctant to help othersYou need to work on your empathy skills!Remember, it’s a choice!

31 - 40: You are average in your empathy :lEmpathy might not come naturallyYou may need to purposely think about it

41 - 50: You are very empathetic! :)Yeh! Keep it up!You never know the difference you might make

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It’s difficult to be around someone who’s selfish because…

File Folder Reflection:

EMPATHY

Pair / Share:

Discuss with your table partner why it's difficult to be around someone who is selfish.

THE OPPOSITE OF EMPATHY IS: selfishness !

E M P A T H Y I S A choice

It’s your #1 relationship skill!

The definition of Empathy/

Empathy Survey/Video

Examples:Emp. Day 1

11-10-14What you need:1. Bellwork2. Note handout

Bellwork:Describe empathy. What is the opposite of empathy.

The opposite of empathy is selfishness. Here's proof:

2. I find it easy to understand other people’s points of view.-If you won't understand other's points of view, whose are you only thinking of?

5. There are two sides to every story, I remember this fact and try to look at both sides.

-If you won't listen to their side, whose are you only hearing?

6. I would give money to people in need even if I did not know them well.

-If you won't give $ to someone in need, who are you probably keeping it for?

The opposite of empathy is selfishness. Here's proof:

8. I would let an elderly or disabled person go ahead of me in line even if I was in a hurry.

-If you won't let a disable person go ahead of you, who are you worried about getting through the line?

10. When I make decisions I try and think of the rights of everyone involved.

-If you won't think of their rights, whose are you only thinking about?

Video - “Empathy”

overcome your

challenges!!!

Resolving Conflicts Day 1:

11-11-14What you need:1. Bellwork2. Note handout3. Piece of paper

Bellwork:What is resolving conflicts? How do you resolve conflicts in your life?

Resolving Conflicts

Assertiveness Survey #210:

Don’t be passive *BE ASSERTIVE* Don’t be aggressive

A’s B’s C’s

Is pushed around

Stands up for self

Forces others

Keep it stuffed down

Problem solves

Lashes out

in angerIs controlled

Is in control Out of control

Resolving ConflictsWhat you need:

1. Bellwork2. Piece of paper

Bellwork:What’s wrong with being passive???What’s wrong with being aggressive???

Discuss with your table partner:

What’s wrong with being passive???

What’s wrong with being aggressive???

Pair / Share:

GROW A THICKER SKIN-There will be a lot of people in life that

make you mad or disrespect you.

(You can’t fight everyone who disrespects you-what if it’s your boss, or spouse, or a cop…???)

AND, in a conflict you often don’t get what you wanted because you lose sight of

the outcome you wanted… (see board)

CONFLICT RESOLUTION SKILLS:

In a conflict you often don’t get what you wanted because you:

1. don't stay calm

or

2. you lose sight of the outcome you wanted…

(see SO QIUC on board)

S O Q U I C (Don’t be so quick to jump to conclusions) S – stay calm: breath, count, relax, think of a peaceful place,

use reminders statements like:

“It’s no big deal” “It’s not worth it”“I can handle it” “Getting mad won’t help”

O – outcome: what outcome do I want? Q – question: question to clarify U – understand: their point of view I – “I” statement: say how I feel C – compromise

-“How come Janis get to go to the dance

and I don’t get to?”-”Because she’s follows the

family rules and you don’t.”

“That’s not fair, you alwayspick on me, you favor her…” Stomp off to room and slam

Door…

“Mom-can I talk with you? There’s a dance I

really want to go to…If I follow the rules

all week until Friday…”

Conflict Resolution Assignment

Wrong Way:1. “…………….”2. “…………….”3. “…………….”4. “…………….”5. “…………….”6. “…………….”7. “…………….”8. “…………….”9. “…………….”10.“…………….”

Right Way:1. “…………….”2. “…………….”3. “…………….”4. “…………….”5. “…………….”6. “…………….”7. “…………….”8. “…………….”9. “…………….”10.“…………….”

Look at back of dialogue sheet

to see differenceToday we will

work on the first and last steps: at staying calm and

compromising/resolving

BELLWORK

What you need: Paper from yesterday for your dialogues. Bellwork

Why is it important to respect and appreciate differences?

#5. Jenny and John just broke up and now John is dating Jenny’s best friend Katelyn. Jenny is now being mean to Katelyn.

Wrong Way:1. Jenny: “Have you seen Katelyn and John. He could do so much better.”2. Katelyn overhears and walks up to Jenny. “What did you just say?”3. Jenny: “You heard me, you homewrecker!”4. Katelyn: “You’re just mad because he likes me better than you.”5. Jenny: “Excuse me?”6. Katelyn: “You need to get over him and move on. He’s moved to

bigger and better things.”7. Jenny: “Yeah, BIGGER for sure!”8. Katelyn: “Oh, you did not just go there!”9. Jenny: “Oh yes I did.”10. Katelyn: “Bring it on!!!!”

You do not have to perform them in front of class!

#5. Jenny and John just broke up and now John is dating Jenny’s best friend Katelyn. Jenny is now being mean to Katelyn..

Right Way:1. Jenny (to a group of people): “Have you seen Katelyn and John.

He could do so much better.”2. Katelyn: “Jenny, you are my best friend and I’m sorry but I don’t

appreciate you saying stuff like that behind my back.”3. Jenny: “You can’t tell me what to do!”4. Katelyn: “No I can’t. But you’re ruining our friendship over some guy.”5. Jenny: “Yeh, I guess, but you knew I still like him so you’re still a

homewrecker.”6. Katelyn: “But you said it was O.K. with you if I dated him.”7. Jenny: “Yeh well I didn’t mean it.”8. Katelyn: “Then why did you say that-can you see why I thought it

was O.K.?”!”9. Jenny: “Yeh, but I have a right to change my mind. 10. Katelyn: “O.K. I respect your opinion. I’m still going to date him,

but I also hope you’ll want to stay my friend.

It can start the same, but then have 1 person stay calm + try to resolve it

Maybe make a compromise??

BELL WORKWhat you need: BellworkMy Life Story Brainstorm handoutHandout to take notes on

Bellwork:

What is the lesson from this quote? “Somebody says, “Well, I can’t be concerned about other people. About the best I can do is to take care of myself.” Well, then you will always be poor.” - Jim Rohn

BELLWORK

What you need:1. Dialogue paper – 3rd period, I have yours2. Bellwork3. Note handout

Describe the SO QUIC model.

Sister: “Josh, will you do the dishes for me tonight?”Bro: “No way-it’s your turn.”Sister: “Please, I have a bunch of homework to do.”Bro: So, my favorite show is on. Mom said it’s your night.”Sister: If you do the dishes tonight, I’ll do yours tomorrow night.” Bro: “Forget it-you’re always trying to get out of your work.”Sister: “Josh, I know that’s your favorite show, so how about when that show is over, you do my dishes, and then I’ll do yours for you tomorrow and the next night.”Bro: “No way…”Sister: “Come on, two for one. Be the nice brother I know you are-please????” And, remember when I did your dishes for you when you spent the night at Justin’s house?”Bro: “O.K., but you’ll owe me two nights.”Sister: “Thanks!”

Sister: “Do the dishes Josh.”Bro: “No, I did them last night. You always try to tell me what to do.”Sister: “If you don’t do them right now I’m going to lock you in your room”Bro: “So what, I’ll tell mom.”Sister: “And I’ll tell mom that you were watching T.V. when you weren’t supposed to be.”Bro: “You can’t do that, you liar.”Sister: “You are such a cry baby. Mom so spoils you.”Bro: “I don’t care.”Sister: “Yeh, well I’m locking you up. She grabs him by the arm and starts pulling him to his room. Josh is kicking and biting, Bro: “Don’t I’ll tell mom.” Sarah shoves Josh into his room and ties a rope to his door handle so he can’t get out.

Names:________________+________________ Per:___

at least 10 lines

at least 10 lines

Aggressive

Assertive

BELL WORKWhat you need: 1. Bellwork2. Sheet of paper

Bellwork: What is an interpersonal conflict? How does your anger affect conflicts?Remember the Titans

BELL WORKWhat you need: 1. Bellwork2. Sheet of paper

Bellwork: What interpersonal conflict have you seen? Has the resolution process began? How?Remember the Titans

BELL WORKWhat you need: BellworkMy Life Story Brainstorm handoutHandout to take notes on

Bellwork:

What is the lesson from this quote? “Somebody says, “Well, I can’t be concerned about other people. About the best I can do is to take care of myself.” Well, then you will always be poor.” - Jim Rohn

ViolenceDay 1:Anger

BELL WORKWhat you need: Bellwork – Pick up a new page on the stool up front.Handout to take notes on

Bellwork:

Tell something you did over Thanksgiving Break that made you feel good about yourself.

Find thisPage

in your packet

BELL WORKWhat you need: Bellwork Handout to take notes on

Bellwork:

What makes you angry or frustrated?

THINK AND WRITE:

Think: At homeAt schoolTeachers, adultsOn busIn trafficFriend Drama

-your breathing

-body clenches

-how do you feel?Sick, hot, dizzy,…

-shaking

-eyes…

Don’t do the bottom 2 boxes yet

Why take this survey? (hand out survey)

Most people who struggle to control their anger know anger is an issue, but this survey may help you identify which areas need the most work:

Physical

Verbal

Pent up anger

Negative attitude

After you take the survey, you can add the front side and

turn to back and see what it meansand then stop!!! Wait for me...and DON'T SET a GOAL yet!!!

1. Does not describe me at all

2. Every once in a while describes me

3. Sometimes describes me 1/2 and 1/2

4.Often describes me

5. Almost always describes me

Take survey:

Your total aggression score - add it up and circle the following:

-Less than 65 - You have a low amount of aggression

-Between 65 and 95 - You have an average amount of aggression

-Between 96 and 120 - Your aggression is fairly high and it would be helpful for you to see a counselor and go to classes and workshops to help you deal with your aggression. At the very least, you should want to change and work on it yourself….

Why might someone not want it change??? (abusive dad + kids end up…)

-Above 120 - you show high aggression. Heavily consider seeking professional counseling to learn to deal with your anger, hostility, and/or your aggression.

1) How physically aggressive are you? Add up: 1, 5, 9, 13, 17, 21, 24, 27, 29.

"x" here: ____less than 25 - low physical aggression __x__Between 25 and 35-physical aggression is about average ____Above 35, you have a high physical aggression

My Score:__25____

2) How verbally aggressive are you? Add up: 2, 6, 10, 14, 18.

"x" here: ____less than 11 - low verbal aggression

__x__Between 11 and 18 - verbal aggression is about average ____Above 18, you have a high verbal aggression

My Score:__17____

3) How much anger do you have? Add up: 3, 7, 11, 15, 19. 22, 25 Score:

"x" here: ____less than 11 - low verbal aggression


My Score:__18____

4) Do you have a suspicious and/or negative attitude? Add up: 4, 8, 12 16, 20, 23,26,28

"x" here: : ____less than 11 - low verbal aggression


My Score:__13____

Anger is an emotion that’s O.K. and sometimes helpful,

but it’s one we need to becareful with…it can get outof control and get us in

T R O U B L E or HURT !!!

Anger

BELL WORKWhat you need: Bellwork –Handout to take notes on

Bellwork:

What are the 4 ways anger can be expressed?

Now we'll fill in

this one

Choose from the sheet

Get to this boxbut before you fill it out, listen...

THE POWER IS IN YOUR MIND!!

Stop and Think…

( Restaurant example…)

Ever say, “They make me so mad” ?

The external trigger is what they said and you can’t control that, but the internal trigger is what you think and it’s your choice to be mad or not!!

DON’T GIVE YOUR POWER TO THEM!!!

Try one of the "Reminder Statements" on this page.

External -vs-internal trigger

Reminder

Statements

Hot talk -vs-

Cool Talk

Anger

Choose from the back page of packet

Get to this boxbut before you fill it out, listen...

To vent or not to vent…

One problem with VENTING (like screaming into a pillow or punching a wall) is that it doesn’t help you problem-solve later…

-Think of the person who is mad at their dad andpunches a wall…

Another problem is that it’s not realistic IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT!!!

-Think of two girls are going to get into a fight…

How do you get to Carnegie Hall?:Practice, practice practice

How do you become a very angry person?

The answer is the same

NEGATIVE VENTING = PRACTICING YOUR ANGER !!

Do NOT include punching things, Throwing things, hitting things or

Saying things you can’t doIN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT

Breathe, walk away, count, shake hands, unclench,

relax your body, think of a happy place, laugh,

control my mouth!, smile, maybe hug?…

THIS SHOULD

BE FILLEDOUT

!

THIS SHOULD

BE FILLEDOUT

!

It’s important to VENT to get out your anger

or stress LATER:

Time out

Work out

Reach out

To finish scoring the anger survey:


__X____-less than 25 - low physical aggression ______-Between 25 and 35 - physical aggression is about average ______-Above 35, you have a high physical aggression


______-less than 11 - low verbal aggression ______-Between 11 and 18 - verbal aggression is about average ___X___-Above 18, you have a high verbal aggression

3) How much anger do you have? Add up: 3, 7, 11, 15, 19, 22, 25.

__X____-Less than 19 - low anger ______-Between 19 and 28 - your anger is about average ______-Above 28 - you have a high score regarding anger

4) Do you have a suspicious and/or negative attitude (hostility)? Add up: 4, 8, 12, 16, 20, 23, 26,28 23, 26, 28.

__X___-Less than 21 - you have low hostility ______-Between 21 and 32 - your hostility is about average ______-Above 32, you have a high score regarding hostility

IF YOU HAD THE "HIGHEST" MARKED, CIRCLE IT:


__X____-less than 25 - low physical aggression ______-Between 25 and 35 - physical aggression is about average ______-Above 35, you have a high physical aggression


______-less than 11 - low verbal aggression __X____-Between 11 and 18 - verbal aggression is about average ______-Above 18, you have a high verbal aggression


______-Less than 19 - low anger __X____-Between 19 and 28 - your anger is about average ______-Above 28 - you have a high score regarding anger

4) Do you have a suspicious and/or negative attitude (hostility)? Add up: 4, 8, 12, 16, 20, 23, 26,28 23, 26, 28.

__X___-Less than 21 - you have low hostility ______-Between 21 and 32 - your hostility is about average ______-Above 32, you have a high score regarding hostility

IF YOU HAVE A TIE, CIRCLE THE ONE CLOSEST TO THE HIGH SCORE

My Score: 17

My Score: 20




4) Do you have a suspicious and/or negative attitude (hostility)?

Add up: 4, 8, 12, 16, 20, 23, 26, 28. 23, 26, 28.

Circle each # on the front of your highest area:

_1__1. Sometimes I can't control the urge to strike another person. _4_2. I tell my friends openly when I disagree with them. _4__3. I flare up quickly but get over it quickly. _1__4. I am sometimes eaten up with jealousy. _1__5. Given enough of a reason, I may hit another person. _3__6. I often find myself disagreeing with people. _3_7. When frustrated, I let my irritation show. _1__8. At times I feel I have gotten a raw deal out of life. _1_9. If somebody hits me, I hit back. _3_10. When people annoy me, I may tell them what I think of them. _2_11. I sometimes feel like a powder keg ready to explode. _1_12. Other people always seem to get the breaks. _1_13. I get into fights a little more than the average person. _4 14. I can't help getting into arguments when people disagree

18. My friends say I am sometimes argumentative.

GOAL: What area of the 4 do you need to work on the most?

(you write your highest)

For your goal, use this prompt”

“When I __________ I will_________”

Example: Write a specific goal for that one area above: When I disagree, I will stop and think before I say something.

Set 1 goal about anger and/or venting

Goal Topic: Goal I set:

Anger / Venting In the heat of the moment…

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Anger Cartoons:Violence

Bellwork: Write down 2 cool talk statements you would use in your life. (Hint – look on the back of your notes.

Anger Cartoons:Hand out example. Cartoons

follow this format

Box 1 Box 2

Box 3

1. My ears poke out.

2. My eyes cross.

3. My tail swings.

Anger Cartoon by: Mrs. T. Period: 4

Ha Ha - You have funny spots!

That’s O.K. My spots will

fill in during puberty! All images from gooleimages.com10/7/09

Ha Ha - You have funny spots!

1. My ears poke out.

2. My eyes cross.

3. My tail swings.

Anger Cartoon by: Mrs. T. Period: 4

That’s O.K. My spots will

fill in during puberty!All images from gooleimages.com10/7/09

real example

Anger Cartoons-Use correct punctuation:

What’s wrong with this sentence?

-Your a cry baby.

-You’re a cry baby.

-i don’t like you.

-I don’t like you.

-Ha ha, you’re short

-Ha ha, you’re short.

***use spell check***

Fights Gone Bad/The Reality

of Prison:

Vio. Day

ANGER: Why should you care?:

A. Because anger gets in the way of good relationships

B. Because if you recognize what it is in human nature/or a person’s character that makes them argue, fight, or turn to violence, these won’t be traits you want to possess!)

-What's it called when someone goes after a kid

who was rude to his brother? He is...-What type of person is a bully?

-A girl who is screaming and calling another girl names at school because that girl was talking to

her boyfriend is called j___.-What type of person flips you off if you're driving

too slow?-What is it inside someone that they can't stand to

be disrespected?-What drives someone to break into your house and

stealthings from you?

B. Because if you recognize what it is in human nature/or a person’s character that makes them argue, fight, or turn to violence? These won’t be traits you want to possess!

- angry - revengeful -EGO/PRIDEFUL - jealous -selfish -hateful

- controlling

REMEMBER- GROW A THICKER SKIN-

There will be a lot of people in life that make you mad or disrespect you.

(You can’t fight everyone who disrespects you-what if it’s your boss, or spouse, or a cop…???)

AND, in a conflict you often don’t get what you wanted because you lose sight of

the outcome you wanted… (see board)

FIGHTS GONE BAD:

Boy dies in school fight:

A schoolyard fight with an older classmate left a 13-year old boy dead.The fight broke out shortly before 2:00 p.m. when the two eighth graders began throwing punches. The one boy fell and hit his headand later died.

FIGHTS GONE BAD:

Guilty verdict in killing at barOct. 2, 2002Everett Herald Vol. 102, No. 229Retold here:

Man Convicted of Manslaughter: An off-duty firefighter went into a bar andsaid some things that made a waitress slap him in the face. The waitress'boyfriend was also at the bar and saw what was happening and wentafter the off-duty firefighter. All was caught on video camera in the bar.Friends of the boyfriend were holding him back by his overall straps and they told the off-duty firefighter to leave. He did leave, but the straps of the overalls broke and the boyfriend raced after him. He was describedlater as a "raging bull." The boyfriend allegedly fatally slugged the man at least twice and left him on the sidewalk. He later died.

FIGHTS GONE BAD:

Man Blinded by Violence offers a peaceful messageEverett HeraldJulie MuhlsteinRetold here:

Two men exchanged words at a bar and it escalated into a fist fight.The fight was over and done and the one man who won, tucked hisshirt in and walked out to his car. The man who lost the fight followedthe first man out to the car, put a gun to his head and pulled the trigger. The bullet entered the left temporal lobe of his brain. It cut thenerves to his left eye and exploded in his right eye. He is now completely blind.

Pair / Share:

Discuss with your table partner what you stand to lose if you lose your temper...

True stories / articles

C. Because you have a lot to lose if you lose your temper: (Think through consequences)

- - -- - -- - -

Because you have a lot to lose if you lose your temper: (Think through consequences)

-$ -body function-family -education -freedom-job -relationships -your life!

Prison video and homework assignment

What’s the big deal about a fight?You:-could get hurt or killed-could hurt or kill someone else-never learn to problem-solve-are out of control

Changeyourthinking…

It’s a pattern that doesn’t stop…

-Spectators have power.

-Spectators could get hurt.

What’s the big deal about a fight?You: -could get hurt or killed-you could hurt or kill someone else-never learn to problem-solve-you are out of control*-it’s a pattern-infant shaking…

-Spectators have power.-Spectators could get __hurt__.

OPTIONAL: READ YOUR "BLIND, PARALYZED, OR IN PRISON FOR LIFE" STORY TO YOUR TABLE PARTNER

Blind

for Life

Stop Bullying: Making Your Voice Count

Vio. Day 4 + 5?

Stop

Bullying:

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(CNN) -- Her YouTube video started out innocently enough. The Canadian teen, her face obscured from the camera, held a stack of cards each filled with messages in black marker. "I've decided to tell you about my never ending story," the card in Amanda Todd's hands read.

http://www.cnn.com/2012/10/12/world/americas/canada-teen-bullying/index.html?hpt=hp_c1

10/12/2012

At this point the viewer may have no idea that they are about to be led on the most agonizing journey, one that pushed the premier of British Columbia to issue a stern warning against bullying, a journey that has birthed a Facebook page with thousands of people commenting and many offering condolences.

In the soundless, black and white video, the teen showed one card after another. Each card painfully sinking the viewer deeper into the anguish too many teens have experienced. "In 7th grade I would go with friends on webcam," the card in the teen's hand read. The next few cards reveal that the teen began to get attention on the Internet from people that she did not know. People who told her she was beautiful, stunning, perfect.

"They wanted me to flash. So I did one year later," the cards said.The teen then got a message on Facebook from a stranger who said she needed to show more of herself or he would publish the topless pictures he had taken of her.

"He knew my address, school, relatives, friends, family, names ..."

She pushed the next card very close to the camera."I then got really sick anxiety major depression and panic disorder. I then moved and got into alcohol and drugs." She says she struggled with anxiety, rarely went out for a year. And then the same man appeared again with a Facebook page that displayed her topless as his profile picture. "Cried every night, lost all my friends and respect people had for me ... again ..."

On Christmas break, the police came to her home to tell her that photos of her were sent to "everyone."

She was teased and felt as if she could never erase that photo. She started cutting, a form of self-injuring act that psychologists say is an impulse-control behavior that sometimes accompanies a variety of mental illnesses.

At school, she ate lunch alone until she moved to another new school.

"Everything was better even though I sat still alone," the next card read. "After a month later I started talking to an old guy friend."

She thought the guy liked her even though she knew he had a girlfriend. One day he asked her to come over because his girlfriend was on vacation."So I did ... huge mistake ... I thought he liked me," she held the cards in one shaky hand now, using the other to brush under her eye as if wiping away a tear.

A week later the guy's girlfriend showed up at her school with a posse of 15 others. A crowd gathered. The girlfriend berated her screaming that nobody liked her.

"A guy than (sic) yelled just punch her already ..." She was punched. Thrown on the ground. "I felt like a joke in this world I thought nobody deserves this," the next card reads. "Teachers ran over but I just went and layed in a ditch and my dad found me."

When she got home she drank bleach.

"It killed me inside and I thought I actually was going to die."

She was rushed to a hospital to flush the chemical out of her.She put the next card almost flush with camera so that the viewer can no longer see her and only sees "After I got home all I saw on Facebook- She deserved it and did you wash the mud out of your hair? I hope she is dead."She moved in with her mother in another city, to another school. But her past followed her. "6 months has gone by ... people are pasting pics of bleach, clorex (sic) and ditches ... Everyday I think why am I still here,"Her struggles with anxiety and cutting had gotten worse and even despite counseling and antidepressants she still was rushed to hospital again after an overdose.

The last cards say simply: "I have nobody. I need someone. My name is Amanda Todd."...

"No one deserves to be bullied. No one earns it. No one asks for it. It is not a rite of passage. Bullying has to stop. Every child has to feel safe at school," ...

Amanda Todd's body was found in her home...

She took her own life.

Amanda was 15.

Our Words Have POWER !!!Is bullying happening at our school?

Are there mean words, cruel intentions,groups of teens who choose to hurt others?

You may never be able to change the bully, butYou CAN change YOU!

the victim can get protective factors in his/her life

and those who know about it can make their voice count!

HELP-get it or give it

HA HA SO in action...

It really works!!

Making Your Voice Count Activity:

HELP: get it

write it

or give it

post it

say itdo it

repeat it

have a friend do it

Making Your Voice Count Activity:

HELP: get it

write it

or give it

post it

say itdo it

repeat it

have a friend do it

ALL QUIETLY READ THEIR STORY, take notes on paper...THEN:

1. Story #1 share (don't read)

2. All quietly write 1 idea someone who was there could have done to help the victim

3. share out ideas

4. Speaker write the 1 BEST IDEA on worksheet 5. Article #2 go...

Why write? so all have a

voice

Making Your Voice Count Activity:Raise your hand if your group wrote or discussed this:

-tell a teacher, parent, or another adult -tell another friend-tell a counselor-tell a cop-anonymously turn it in-support the person being bullied-your voice can matter-say positive things to the victim-post positive messages to the person online-write the victim a letter-tell your friends to also support the victim-ask the victim to join you in something-post flyers around campus to stop the mean words-get community support-speak up by saying something to the person saying it

Making Your Voice Count Activity Wrap Up:

Empathy/Violence Test

Vio. 5

Empathy/Violence Unit Test:

Write this on your paper: (don't answer yet!)

Name:___________ Per:_______ Date: _______

___1. I learned that…___2. I believe that…___3. I think that…___4. I wish that…___5. One example of this is…___6. Your choice to repeat a prompt...___7. Repeat a different one...

Everyone get out a piece of paper and write your name. Then copy these 7 statements with a ___ in front of each. Hand your paper to your table partner.

I will put up a word on the PowerPoint and you will use 1 prompt above to complete the sentence

outloud to your table partner

table partner 1 is on

the right


+ if good answer that proves you get the concept

if tried

To get a " + " your answer must prove that youunderstand the concept of the word.

For instance, if the word was

"I learned about "self-esteem in class"does not show that you know what "self-esteem" means.

Rather, you should say something like, "I learned that self-esteem is how you feel about yourself."


if tried

Self-Esteem


Example: Table Partner 1 go 1st:

then Partner 2 goes

Forgiveness


if tried

Name:__Partner 1_________ Per:_______ 10/15/12 Then copy these 7 statements with a ___ in front of each. Hand your paper to your table partner.

___1. I learned that…___2. I believe that…___3. I think that…___4. I wish that…___5. One example of this is…___6. Your choice of above ___7. A diff. choice of above

+

Name:_Partner 2___________ Per:_______ 10/15/12 Then copy these 7 statements with a ___ in front of each. Hand your paper to your table partner.


+

Now partner 2 does the same word


Example: Table Partner 2 go 1st:

then Partner 1 goes

The Power of Words


if tried

Name:_Partner 2___________ Per:_______ 10/15/12 Then copy these 7 statements with a ___ in front of each. Hand your paper to your table partner.


+

Name:__Partner 1_________ Per:_______ 10/15/12 Then copy these 7 statements with a ___ in front of each. Hand your paper to your table partner.


+

Now partner 1 does the same word

As the person grading, you pretend you have noidea what the word or concept means and then you give them a "+" ONLY IF they make it clear to you.

Students scoring cannot prompt the person. They listen and score.

Any questions?

Table Partner 1 go 1st:then Partner 2 goes EMPATHY


if tried


Stereotypes:


if tried

Table Partner 2 go 1st:then Partner 1 goes


Prejudisms:


if tried



Positive Self-talk:


if tried



Hanging out with people who are violent:


if tried



ANGER


if tried



Being Assertive, not Passive + not Aggressive:


if tried



WORKS CITED:1 "Juveniles laughed after setting 15-year-old on fire." CNN Justice. Oct. 2009. <http://articles.cnn.com/2009-10-13/justice/florida.teen.burned_1_malissa-durkee-suspect-michael-brewer?_s=PM:CRIME> 2. Fantz, Ahsley. "10-year-olds attack, beat homeless man, police say." CNN.US. March 2007. <http://articles.cnn.com/2007-03-29/us/homeless.attack_1_homeless-man-jeremy-woods-brian-hooks?_s=PM:US>

3. Ian Larson. Three Teenagers Admit to shooting at least 50 cats. The Oregonian. June 2011<http://www.oregonlive.com/clark-county/index.ssf/2011/06/three_teenagers_admit_to_shooting_at_least_50_cats_in_battle_ground.html>

4 Buss, Arnold H. and Perry, Mark. "The Aggression Questionnaire" , Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 63, p. 454-455. 1992.

5 Meeks, Linda and Heit, Phillip. "Health and Wellness." Meeks Heit Publishing Co. 1998.

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PRINT THE NEXT 2 SLIDES FOR ABSENT STUDENTS TO MAKE UP THE EMPATHY/VIOLENCE UNIT TEST

Name:_________________ Per:_____ Date:_____Have a parent do this assignment with you and sign this page when it's completed.You will use the 7 prompts in the box below to say what each of the 7 words means. You must start your sentence with a different prompt each time (you can repeat only 2 of them). Your parent will imagaine they don't know what the word means and give you a if you somewhat correctly describe the word, or a "+" if you describe the word very well. (see example on the back)


1.Empathy

2. Stereotypes

3. Anger

4. Prejudisms

5. Positive Self-Talk

6. Hanging out with people who are violent

7. Being assertive, not passive or aggressive Parent Signature:____________________________

To get a " + " your answer must prove that youunderstand the concept of the word.

For instance, "I learned about "self-esteem in class"does not show that you know what "self-esteem" means.

Rather, you should say something like, "I learned that self-esteem is how you feel about yourself."


if tried

WORKS CITED:1 "Juveniles laughed after setting 15-year-old on fire." CNN Justice. Oct. 2009. <http://articles.cnn.com/2009-10-13/justice/florida.teen.burned_1_malissa-durkee-suspect-michael-brewer?_s=PM:CRIME> 2. Fantz, Ahsley. "10-year-olds attack, beat homeless man, police say." CNN.US. March 2007. <http://articles.cnn.com/2007-03-29/us/homeless.attack_1_homeless-man-jeremy-woods-brian-hooks?_s=PM:US>

3. Ian Larson. Three Teenagers Admit to shooting at least 50 cats. The Oregonian. June 2011<http://www.oregonlive.com/clark-county/index.ssf/2011/06/three_teenagers_admit_to_shooting_at_least_50_cats_in_battle_ground.html>

4 Buss, Arnold H. and Perry, Mark. "The Aggression Questionnaire" , Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 63, p. 454-455. 1992.

5 Meeks, Linda and Heit, Phillip. "Health and Wellness." Meeks Heit Publishing Co. 1998.

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