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Dream Your Life Amazing

Part OneDream Your Life Amazing

© 2016 Bill Ebert ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

1st Edition Published June 1 2016 v1.03

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Table of ContentsChapter 1 - Welcome to Your Dream Life………………. 7

Life Without Dreams

Dream-Based Living

Statistics

Only Six Things Required

Success Defined

Really Happy

Chapter 2 - Begin By Dreaming…………………………. 21

Brainstorming - Dream Casting

Remove “Dis”The Push

If They Can, So Can You

Chapter 3 - Define and Refine…………………………… 33

Brainstorming Refined

How to Eat an Elephant

Write the Vision

Draw your Dreams

Map Before you Begin

Revisit the List

Voice Yourself to Success

Chapter 4 - Working With Others………………………… 51

Influence

Listening Mastery

Hearing is not agreement

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The Power of Roles

Personality

Layers

Become Un-layered

Chapter 5 - Time Your Greatest Commodity ……..…… 75

Habits

Winning your Days

Prioritize Everything

Change Your Mind About Time Management

Don’t Be Blinded by Yesterday's Dream

Ping Pongs

Never Forget the Big Stuff

Monkey Buttons

Delayed Reply - The Pause

Chapter 6 - Principle Centered Relationships…...…… 93

People First Paradigm

Cooperation

Evaluating RelationshipsChapter 7 - The Heart of a Leader…………..…………. 105

Leading yourself or 3,000

Influence as a Life Principle

Teachability

Don’t Be Afraid Of The Truth

Chapter 8 - Success Hacks…………………………….... 115

White board

Failure is the Foundation of the Win

Mentors and Focus

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Mistakes Are Magical

Win by Leaving a Legacy

Everyone is a Salesman

Emotional Bank Accounts

Chapter 9 - Purify Your Purpose……………………….. 133

Life Mastery

The Rich-Man Lie

Every Action Feeds The Dream

IQ-EQ-SQ

Genius Begins in Wonder

Spiritual Quotient

Chapter 10 - Guidance to Stay The Course…………... 147

BELIEF IS A TOOL

The Systems of Enslavement

Reading to be a Success

Master Conflict Resolution

Stop This

Never Stop Evaluating your ProgressI Wish I Was 39 Again

Celebrate Victories

The DUH Principle

Teach your Way to Power

Role Relationships

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Introduction

I was born in that world where poverty and ignorance cause

great pain and suffering. There is hardly anyone able to

climb free from the darkness and cultural despair. The

journey to freedom and the bridge seems to be uncrossable

from the other side.

My life's desire was to find my way free of the destiny my

impoverished life had for me. Immediately after leaving that world, a strong desire was born in me to help people caught

in the traps and snares of life.

Though I know poverty is a great snare, it’s only one of life’s

pains. You see, even those who live free from financial

impoverishment, still have emotional and spiritual crisis and

struggles.

The things commonly being presented as solutions are far

too often not making men free, but instead, enslaving them

to a life of servitude. Few are fully alive nor fully able to

dream. I desire to help you find the fullness of freedom. If

you will let me, I will also teach you how to help others find

joy also.

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Accompanying Material

I mention in this book the accompanying video training and

the Dream Planner workbook. You will find free versions on

my website as well as the ability to buy a printed copy of the

Dream Planner workbook.

www.DreamPlanner.info

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Chapter 1

Welcome to Your Dream Life

Life Without Dreams

My life is dedicated to helping you find your

dreams and achieve great things. This is one of my

main motivations in life because I was destined for

failure and death.

As a highschool dropout, fatherless since the age

of two, without hope, without culture, training or

direction, my life was set for a desperate end.

During my highschool years, I was voted, “Most

likely to die of a drug overdose.” I so lacked the

tools and direction in life that by the time I was 18, I

was sleeping in a friend’s closet, hiding there while

her mom was home and only coming out when she

went to work.

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In that closet, I had my first epiphany. While sitting

in the dark waiting for my next bologna sandwich to be passed under the door, I realized for the first

time that I could figure out what other people did to

become successful and just do that.

The first story of success I told myself was this,

“The guy who owns this two story house that I am

hiding in, was just six years earlier a Cuban

refugee and had escaped imprisonment after his

family was murdered by his government.” This man arrived to the USA not knowing the English

language, had no American education and no

connections. But six years later, he was a surgeon

working for a top hospital in New Jersey and

making 150,000 a year. For 1977, that was huge

money.

This is the first premise of success: If someone

can, so can you. You would think that growing up

in the USA, I had all the right foundations. Instead,

here I was 18 years old, with twelve years of an

American education, and living in a closet.

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I have spent many, many years learning what it takes to not live in someone else's closet and have

gotten so good at it, that I now have dedicated my

life to helping others get free from theirs.

Dream-Based Living

This book is a culmination of 30 years of reading,

teaching and learning from those who are

achieving success. I have coached thousands of

entrepreneurs and families on these principles of

life and success.

Any book to help you change, will require three

things.

Number one is MINDSET. If you have stinking

thinking, you will fail no matter how much you

learn.

Number two is SKILL SET, or what I like to call the

HACKS. These are the things people do to win in

life, gain friendships, get rich, live happy.

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Number three is HABIT. I added to this book what I think is the missing piece in most self-help books:

the tools and techniques to make habit of the

things you learn and build your life around what is

truly important.

Statistics

I refuse to bore you with statistics, but I think it is

important for us to know how prevalent sadness is

within today’s society and how a book like this can

add so much to our human experiences. As you

read these pages, I’d like you to consider and learn

these skills for more than one reason: not just how

you can be better or more productive or find your

dreams, but also how to take these lessons as a

future guide into your community and help others

find fulfillment.

Many studies have been done with varying results.

But the numbers I am about to show you are

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probably not far off from your experiences and of

people you know.

Studies show that 85% of the people who work,

dislike or hate their job. With couples, 50% of all

marriages end in divorce and many of those who

do remain married, are not excited about their

marriage and current relationships. I mention these

two examples since they are probably the most

studied and the most obvious. The point of these

examples is: almost 100% of these same people entered into the new job or the marriage with very

high hopes and excitement. But something went

wrong and in some cases so wrong they will never

be truly happy again. Let’s fix this.

Only Six Things Required

With all the studies and all the self-help focus for

the last 100 years, there has emerged a list of the

top six things a person looks for to be happy and

fulfilled.

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The point of this list is not to argue its accuracy or

whether it is complete, or even redundant. The point of the list is to get you to take stock of your

life and help others to find where they might be

stuck. The list simply helps identify the top areas

for focus.

Here is the list:

1) Certainty

2) Uncertainty

3) Significance4) Connection

5) Growth

6) Contribution

Certainty: Most people get pretty stressed out if

there isn’t a level of consistency in their life. Most

people need things to have a common feel or

familiarity for comfort. A life that does not have a

certain amount of order can cause chaos. Every

person is different in how much certainty they need

but we all need it.

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Uncertainty: the opposite of certainty, but very much needed to keep the soul alive and

wondering. The man who has the same job for 30

years, driving the same route, and turning the

same knobs at work, seems to lose his soul.

The wonderfully interesting thing about certainty

and uncertainty is how each person responds so

differently; what is perfectly comfortable and

exciting for one person, will cause great distress for another. My wife and I are almost opposites in

these as I love diversity and change and would

love to live on the road or move every six months.

She on the other hand, loves consistency and was

raised living in the same neighborhood, with the

same friends for 21 years of her life. We both love

diversity and stability, but at such different levels

it's amazing how this one thing is so personal.

Significance: To matter, to be heard, or to make a

difference in this life. How rewarding life is when

you matter, when people credit you for their

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success or salvation. The person who has strong

significance in their life, can suffer many obstacles and many disappointments because the reward of

significance empowers their soul.

Connection: The defining difference between the

introvert and the extrovert is the way many people

define connection. Some are content and satisfied

with a small group of very intimate friends and

others require a feeling of popularity and social

feedback. Either way, once you find which one you are, you are more able to design this life and not

be distracted by the environment and your current

circumstances.

Growth:

The life of one who does not strive for

personal growth is lost to become someone else's

image or someone else's picture of reality. See my

chapter on the PUSH.

Contribution: Can be similar to significance, but

has more of an anonymity and does not require

that you have recognition, but rather, a personal

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feeling of value. This trait is found more as we

become older and those in the grandparent mindset, where the sense of fulfillment comes from

just becoming a contributor.

For the brave of heart, I would add fearlessness to

the list. Much of the motivations in modern day

society is fear-based or from a lack-based mindset.

I want to propose to you that once you remove fear

from your life, you will see more clearly and find life

to be founded on more joyous principles.

Success Defined

Many of the examples and charts used in this book

can be found in my companion workbook called

the Dream Planner . You can buy a printed copy

from us or you can download some of the free

charts and samples here:

www.billebert.com/planner/

One of the crisis with success teaching and

promoting success is the trap that success has to

look a certain way. That you have to live in a

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certain side of town or drive a certain type of car or

have the kinds of friends defined by some other person's standards. We need to begin by defining

what makes a person satisfied, capable and a

value to others.

A person's dreams that are

layered or hidden by others’

expectations or agendas, will

be lacking in fulfillment and

joy.~Bill Ebert

Helping a person find and fulfill their dreams is one

of the greatest of goals, but it can be a bit tricky.

Let me help you avoid some of the obstacles and

give you an example in the following story.

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Andrea is a mom of 4, she’s a beautiful woman,

whose husband and children adore her. She gets to stay at home because her husband provides

enough money for her to not have to work outside

the home and she has chosen to homeschool her

children.

Everyone likes Andrea except Andrea. Her life is

full of service and she’s immaculate and takes

detailed care of every area of life, she’s a

superwoman of women and a gold medalist if there was such a thing in mommyhood.

All of her conversations revolve around her tasks

and the affairs of her kids. She avoids spending

money on anything for herself and never talks

about her needs or feelings. Now this would all be

well and good if Andrea’s life choices were hers

and not built on others’ expectations. With just a

few conversations, it was apparent to me that

Andrea was not happy and was a slave to fear.

Fear of not doing enough or not measuring up or

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that she would make some grave mistake and hurt

someone or offend someone.

In talking to her about her dreams, Andrea would

begin to cry and re-tell stories of her childhood

where others forced their expectations on her and

never let her find what she truly wanted to do or

become.

Now please, don’t get me wrong, a life of service

and the care for others is, in my opinion, the highest of occupations, and a person who

dedicates their life to the happiness of others is a

grand person indeed. But if that person is doing

those things out of a broken spirit or a feeling of

slavery, obligation or codependence, then the life

is not full and will more than likely echo the same

codependency in those they are hoping to

influence.

The scope of this book does not allow me to

address all the nuances and solutions for

codependency, but I would recommend a great

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book called, Love is a Choice, written by Dr.

Robert Hemfelt, Dr. Frank Minirth, and Dr. Paul Meier.

Really Happy

In coaching people and families, I find a very

common story even with the apparently successful,

DIS-contentment . Finding you have climbed the

ladder of success only to discover it was leaning

against the wrong wall is devastating. We see it

manifest in “midlife crisis” and “the 7-year itch” and

many other terms society uses to explain the

symptoms of an unfulfilled life.

The remedy is to define and purify your purpose as

early as possible and as often as possible.

A life lived from a state of vision or dream is filled

with purpose and inspiration. We are able to suffer

the mundane tasks of life if we know that we are

doing it for a greater purpose or calling.

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Chapter 2

Begin By Dreaming

Brainstorming - Dream Casting

It is interesting that the best way to brainstorm is to

turn off your brain. The technique found in this

chapter is pivotal and should weave through all the

months of your dreaming, your projects, and life's

adventures. The keys found here, if implemented

regularly, will keep you on track and help you stay

in the passion zone.

As important as this chapter will be, some will find it easy to complete while others will have

challenges brainstorming. So, whether you have

an easy time with brainstorming or a hard time, I

will help you traverse the dream and come out with

visionary resolve.

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Below you will see a page from my dream planner

workbook:

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Brainstorming is the first knock on your dreaming.

It gives you the ability to clarify what you really desire to do with your life and gives you permission

to dream.

The brainstorming stage begins by writing anything

that comes to mind without rationalizing how, why,

or what it will look like.

The three primary categories as illustrated on the

Brainstorming page:

SKILLS, ACCOMPLISHMENTS, LEGACY, and

one subcategory, will help you jog your ideas and

help with writing your dreams. For example, there

may be SKILLS you may want to develop, maybe

you want to read 700 WPM or run seven miles per

day or speak on stage. ACCOMPLISHMENTS:

Write the things you want to see done like plant a

garden, get a raise, or travel the world. LEGACY:

Write the things you want to leave behind when

you are gone. Examples for legacy could be

building six orphanages, or writing a book to

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improve children's outlook on life, or building a

home for wounded veterans.

These titles or examples are not to restrict you in

anyway, but rather give you points to jog your

ideas. It is perfectly okay if you list a skill under the

accomplishments section or a legacy under the

skills section. Thinking is not important here, only

dreaming.

I find there are two issues when a person attempts the brainstorming exercise. The first, they have

too many items to write down--this is a good thing.

Second, they have too few things to write down

and have trouble dreaming. Before we talk about

both scenarios, let’s first talk about the fourth

category on the page, WHO AM I?

Who am I?

The WHO AM I section, though it’s not directly

connected to your dreaming, is very important to

consider as you go through your life. This section

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is to help you define the picture you leave behind

when you leave a room.

Do you know that when you leave a room, people

talk about you? You know this is true because you

talk about people when they leave the room. I want

you to consider that you have control over the story

that most people have about you. Think about it

like your personal brand or the essence you leave

when people meet you.

When I was a very young man, my greatest desire

was that whenever I entered or left the room, I

wanted people to take me seriously. Here I was a

very smart kid, but people looked at me as

insignificant and ignored most of what I said. I was

determined to be heard and wanted to be thought

of as the smart guy in the room. This is a fairly

typical young guy desire, to be looked upon as

being smart. But as I got older and learned many

tricks of communication and building a story as the

“smart guy,” I realized that it was not as valuable to

be the smart guy. It was way more valuable to be

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the guy who cared. This is the power of continually

revisiting the brainstorming page as often as you can because what you think is your best dream

can actually be a distraction and consume the time

you would be using to reach a higher purpose,

which we will address in the REFINE AND DEFINE

section.

Remove “Dis”

The prefix “DIS-” in Roman mythology actually

means “God of the Underworld.” We see this prefix

in many of our English words. For example,

whenever we put the prefix “Dis” in front of certain

words, it becomes a negative attribute such as,

dissuading, disease, discouragement, or

distraction. “DIS” stops us from moving forward

and from finding our divinity, our calling and our

destiny.

Master the skill and challenge yourself today to see

if there are any areas in your life where you may

be able to remove the “DIS” from your life. This is

something that you can use for yourself, for your

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children, for your spouse or employees. As you

become more and more of a leader, you will learn “Dis” is one of the things that’s keeping people

back. If you become a master of defining and

killing it, you become a master of destiny not only

for you, but for the people you lead.

The Push

The man who does not war

against decay, has subjected

his circumstances to lies and

death.~Bill Ebert

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Everything in life requires a push. To do anything

great in life, requires a push. If you are going to have baby guess what you have to do?

Life requires push. A blade of grass has to push,

the mountains push up, the rivers push down.

There's something always moving and pushing.

Like being an athlete, you're pushing against the

weights--something opposing you. In life, there is

always something opposing you. If you stop

pushing in your marriage, you will have a dysfunctional marriage. If you stop pushing on the

job, you are not going to get the raise.

If we stop pushing in relationships, if we don’t

continue improving, fixing or making relationships

better, they are going to decay--this is an

inescapable nature of life. Leave something alone,

like the most beautiful garden in the world, the

garden dies. The nature of growth, change or

mastery, is the nature of life, it is called the push.

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What I would like to do is reverse what's happening

in our culture: People don't want to push. They don’t speak in public, they don’t better themselves

nor offend those who are not pushing or striving for

excellence.

Our current culture has made it culturally

unacceptable to push….

It has become frowned upon to push others to

become better as it’s now called, “Judging” or “Don't make waves or have an opinion on what

might be right or wrong.” More and more of the

world is taking on a non-push ideology. This leaves

only the option for the things we value most to be

left to decay. Decay morally, decay intellectually,

and decay of the culture of individual excitement to

be the best or the smartest or to excel.

There are so many reasons not to push, but you

must even push against the reasons. Push IS the

human experience, don't apologize. The winners in

all arenas push.

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If They Can, So Can YouThe most inspirational start I see in individuals is

when they get that “POP moment” or when they

see someone doing something they would love to

do and realize for themselves, “If they can do that,

then so can I.” That was my first pop moment while

hiding in my friend’s closet and throughout my

youth; I saw over and over again that the people

who were doing amazing things, were not that

special, they were not superman nor wonder

woman. Many times, we make excuses saying to

ourselves, “I'm not as smart as him, or as pretty as

her or my personality is not.…”

I can tell you for a certainty that, with only a few

exceptions, all the successful people I know are

not any better equipped than the rest of the world.

They are not smarter or more confident or more

beautiful. What they do have is a work ethic or a

knowledge that helps them gain success, but you

need to start telling yourself that you can do

anything. If someone has, then so can you.

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Hang around people and events that are training success and you will see that within a very short

amount of time, you will find someone you can

relate to with a story that will help you find this

place of I CAN DO THIS.

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