THE Relationship CONTINUUM
What is love?
Do you ever question your love for someone if your chemistry or intensity is not what you have previously experienced?
Compare new or potential partners to past relationships?
Is it right to evaluate your past relationships and feelings against new ones?
Is love at 30+ different?
Relationship/love continuum
My theory
30 -39*
40+16 -29
*Best time to choose a life
partner
You change.
life
experiences
obligations
familywork
expectations
16 – 25 years
26 – 29 years
30 – 39 years
40+years
Relationship/Love Continuum Framework
Know what you don’t want
Primary instincts Know what you do want
Change in mindset and approach to life
& relationships
16 – 25 years
Relationship/Love Continuum Framework
Focus on
physical
do you stimulate
me?• Exploration• Sexuality• Curiosity• Visceral
• In the moment• Experiencing
firsts
16 – 25 years
26 – 29 years
Focus on
physical
do you stimulate
me?
Focus on individua
l
What can you do for
me?
Relationship/Love Continuum Framework
• Exploration• Sexuality• Curiosity• Visceral
• In the moment• Experiencing
firsts
• Self-exploration
• Evaluation• Expectations• Intrigue• Common
interests
16 – 25 years
26 – 29 years
30 – 39 years
40+years
Relationship/Love Continuum Framework
Focus on the couple
Are we good
together?
• Pragmatic• Respect
• Partnership• Day to day
living• Common goals• Shared beliefs
and values• Long-term compatibility
Focus on
physical
do you stimulate
me?
Focus on individua
l
What can you do for
me?• Exploration• Sexuality• Curiosity• Visceral
• In the moment• Experiencing
firsts
• Self-exploration
• Evaluation• Expectations• Intrigue• Common
interests
Summary• Be smart – don’t throw away your 30+ love thinking it
should be and feel the same as your first love or your 16-29 year old relationships
• Love at 30+ is a different love because● You are different● You have different expectations● You are looking for something long-term
The End
Hopefully the beginning to a
better love mindset
