the relationship continuum - don't throw away your 30+ love
DESCRIPTION
I am an advertising Account Planner/Creative Strategist so researching, recognising patterns, seeing insights and using my informed intuition all come natural to me. This is a personal project of mine that I had stored in my head for ages as thoughts, insights, and intuition and I finally put pen to napkin on a plane in March 2013. After many years of talking to friends, over-hearing conversations, reading articles and experiencing life myself I thought that I would collect my thoughts and observations and turn it into a theory/guide. I have never read, heard, or seen anything like this before. It started off as a helpful tool for older guys (no longer under 26) to understand how to evaluate relationships later in life and make wise choices for their future. However I feel that it can be applied to both men and women no matter how old. The Continuum can also be applied to married couples - it just helps to explain some of the changes you may have gone through in your marriage so far but have not been able to understand what or why was happening or prepare you for the changes ahead. No matter single, dating or married - male or female I hope this can be something positive to understand yourself and relationships a little better.TRANSCRIPT
THE Relationship CONTINUUM
What is love?
Do you ever question your love for someone if your chemistry or intensity is not what you have previously experienced?
Compare new or potential partners to past relationships?
Is it right to evaluate your past relationships and feelings against new ones?
Is love at 30+ different?
Relationship/love continuum
My theory
30 -39*
40+16 -29
*Best time to choose a life
partner
You change.
life
experiences
obligations
familywork
expectations
16 – 25 years
26 – 29 years
30 – 39 years
40+years
Relationship/Love Continuum Framework
Know what you don’t want
Primary instincts Know what you do want
Change in mindset and approach to life
& relationships
16 – 25 years
Relationship/Love Continuum Framework
Focus on
physical
do you stimulate
me?• Exploration• Sexuality• Curiosity• Visceral
• In the moment• Experiencing
firsts
16 – 25 years
26 – 29 years
Focus on
physical
do you stimulate
me?
Focus on individua
l
What can you do for
me?
Relationship/Love Continuum Framework
• Exploration• Sexuality• Curiosity• Visceral
• In the moment• Experiencing
firsts
• Self-exploration
• Evaluation• Expectations• Intrigue• Common
interests
16 – 25 years
26 – 29 years
30 – 39 years
40+years
Relationship/Love Continuum Framework
Focus on the couple
Are we good
together?
• Pragmatic• Respect
• Partnership• Day to day
living• Common goals• Shared beliefs
and values• Long-term compatibility
Focus on
physical
do you stimulate
me?
Focus on individua
l
What can you do for
me?• Exploration• Sexuality• Curiosity• Visceral
• In the moment• Experiencing
firsts
• Self-exploration
• Evaluation• Expectations• Intrigue• Common
interests
Summary• Be smart – don’t throw away your 30+ love thinking it
should be and feel the same as your first love or your 16-29 year old relationships
• Love at 30+ is a different love because● You are different● You have different expectations● You are looking for something long-term
The End
Hopefully the beginning to a
better love mindset