Moon Parenting
By: Dr. Swati Lodha
Moon Parenting
• MOON means Patience Discipline and Balance. MOON PARENTS mean Patient Parents Disciplined Parents and Balanced Parents.
What is Moon Parenting?
Moon Parenting is
crescendo presence
Moon Parenting is a
responsibility, a gift
Moon Parenting is
perennial
Moon Parenting is
an emotion
Know your
children…
Joyful Copycat Phase(0-4 years)
See saw Phase(8-12 years)
Snake and Ladder Phase(16 years and up)
Blotting Paper Phase(4-8 years)
Tug Of War Phase(12-16 years)
The World of Children
Child
INTERNAL
EXTERNAL
Temperament
Psyche
Parents
Peers, Technology, Lifestyle
NATUR
URTURE
Temperament of childrenTemperament is formed by the characteristic traits that a child is born with.
Temperament
Activity Trait
Regularity Tr
ait
Withdrawal Tr
ait
Intensity Tr
ait
Effort control
Mood Trait
Attention Trait
Adaptability Trait
Persistence Tra
it
What do children teach us?
Children teach us…
To love, to feel secure
Curiosity and spontaneous application of learning
Enthusiasm for
everything
The power of N
OW To forget and to forgive
To be natural and
to be transparent
Know your parenting style
Disciplined, persistent children.
Insensitive, conceited children.
Are you a SUPER parent ?
Mantra – Achievement matters Failure is unacceptable.
Know your parenting style
Are you a DESIGNER parent?
Mantra – We buy all that is best –Expensive and Exclusive – for our kids.
Experienced children, exclusive credentials Shallow children, superficial perfection
Know your parenting style
Are you a BULLETPROOF parent?
Mantra – We will protect and support the child all the way, come what may.
Secure children, deeply attached to parents. Risk averse and indecisive children
Know your parenting style
Are you a YES parent?
Mantra – I want to be a nice parent, not nasty.
Happy and loving children Impulsive Children, Unrealistic expectations.
Know your parenting style
Are you a POLORISED parent?
Mantra – Mother and father, the twain shall never meet.
Adaptable children
Insecure, Emotionally alienated children.
Know your parenting styleAre you an ISLAND parent?
Mantra – Sorry, children are not on our agenda.
• None• Children raise themselves up.
Ten principles of ParentAbility1. Ask yourself: Why do/did I want children?2. Prepare yourself to have a crescendo presence in the lives of
your children.3. Develop your ability to disambiguate your childhood
memories.4. Improve the ability to strike a balance.
Parents
Emotional Imbalance
Lifestyle Imbalance
Family Imbalance
Moral Imbalance
Financial Imbalance
ParentAbility Continued…
5. Improve your ability to admit your mistakes and to take yourself lightly.6. Develop a liking for consistent learning and consistent up gradation. 7. Show. Exemplify.8. Master the ability to have a clear, crisp and concrete communication with your child.9. Love yourself the way you are.10. Develop the attitude to show Gratitude.
Five Disciplines
Five Foundations
Five RightsFive Truths
Five C
omm
itmen
ts
The POWER Of
How to be a MOON PARENT….
What is Parenting?
Parenting is: • Loving children without any condition.• Observing children without any prejudice.• Encouraging children without any comparison.• Empathizing with children without any
suggestion.• Guiding children without any expectation.
Parenting is perennial
• Parenting has a beginning but has no end.• A parent has to be a pillar of
patience, encouragement and discipline for the first two decades.• A parent has to be a reservoir of
love and care forever.
Moon Parenting is crescendo presence
• Moon Parents follow the phases of Moon .• Their presence in the beginning years of their child’s life
resembles the full moon phase• As the child grows up, his freedom rises while the presence of
parents reduces, just the way the Moon enters its waning gibbous phase.
• By the advent of teenage , the child becomes more decisive and parents start to guide subtly, resembling a half moon.
• During college days, the child becomes more self reliant and parents become shock absorbers in this waning crescent phase.
• Presence of parents reach a new moon phase when the child settles down professionally.
Moon Parenting is crescendo presence
Parents enter the life of their child again when he needs them or become a parent himself, just the way the Moon enters its waxing crescent phase.Their presence should increase further as grand parents, enriching the lives of their grandchildren.They become a wonderful bridge between their children and grandchildren during the waxing gibbous phase.With the right set of values , children let their parents reach the full moon phase in their twilight years.
Home
Parenting is a responsibility, a gift
• For Moon Parents, Parenting is a big responsibility but a bigger gift.
• They are responsible for fulfilling their needs but not all their desires.
• They are responsible for making them self confident and self reliant but not to make them invincible and entitled.
• BEING A PARENT is a gift of nature to the parents. BECOMING A PARENT is a gift they give to themselves and their children.
Parenting is an emotion
• An emotion is an energy which makes the mind work.
• Moon Parents possess this emotion which gives them the strength to consistently love, encourage, observe, empathize with and guide the children , irrespective of the children’s response.
• Emotion of a moon parent towards his child is never similar to the emotion of a child towards his moon parent.
Joyful Copycat Phase
Children copy what they see.Children see what we make them see.
Blotting paper Phase
Children absorb whatever comes their way- Approval, Appreciation
or Criticism- from parents, teachers, friends or anyone and
perceive themselves accordingly.
See saw PhaseInput Output
Encouragement and Discipline
Expectation and Judgment
Criticism and Punishment
Excessive love and Protection
Confidence and Zeal
Anxiety and Obstinacy
Aggression Overconfidence and Arrogance
Tug Of War Phase
Passion v/s pragmatism
Friends v/s Family
Snake and Ladder Phase
Happiness
Money
This is the final but the most slippery phase out of childhood.
Disciplines
•Moral Discipline•Health Discipline•Psychological Discipline• Time Discipline• Learning Discipline
Five Foundations
•Value Life• Know Yourself•Accept and Assert, positively• Self Regulate Yourself•Have Humor
Five Rights
• Right to Dream• Right to Think and Try• Right to Fail and Try again• Right to Express• Right to be a Child first, a
performer later
Five Truths
• Your success and happiness are as personal as your toothbrush is.
• Nobody can hurt or insult you without your consent.
• Use technology but do not get used by it.• Value money but value relationships
even more.• Less is More! (not for grades)
Five Commitments
• Commitment towards the World.• Commitment towards the Country.• Commitment towards the Society.• Commitment towards the Parents.• Commitment towards the Self.