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Frank J. Kenny is an industry thought leader on small busi-
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He has more than 20 years o hands-on business experience
including successully boot strapping multiple start-ups to
leadership positions and guiding non-prots to spectacular
growth (as president/CEO o a 45 year old business asso-
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I am truly grateul or the blessing o having worked with,
and be mentored by, so many ne people over the years. I
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Mike Boyle. You embody the positive traits in this bookmore than anyone else I have ever met. You are an amazing
leader and I was very ortunate to have you as my Chairman
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Introduction 19
Chapter 1: urning Point 25
Chapter 2: Te Law o Acceptance and Respect 39
Chapter 3: Te Law o Reciprocity 53
Chapter 4: Te Law o Consistency 63
Chapter 5: Te Law o Social Proong 71
Chapter 6: Te Law o Liking 77
Chapter 7: Te Law o Authority 83
Chapter 8: Te Law o Scarcity 91
Book wo 95
Chapter 9: Your Social Media Story Must Break Trough 97
Chapter 10: Your arget Markets World-View and Your Niche 103
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Chapter 11: Your Unique Value Proposition 105
Chapter 12: Your Social Media Goals 109
Chapter 13: Metrics 113
Chapter 14: Your Brand 7
Chapter 15: Rules o the Road 125
Bonus Chapter: Strategies 133
Conclusion 167
Resources 169
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I just didnt get it. How could it be that he was so success-
ul and yet he was hardly ever in his oce working? It just
didnt make sense to me. I was more than a little conused
and even a bit upset about it.
In my world-view, lie wasnt supposed to work that way.Te man or woman that works hard makes the big bucks
and the socializers should be broke. I know lots o people,
perhaps even you, agree with that world-view; hard work
leads to success and socializing with your riends too much
leads to ailure.
I wrote this book to let you know that hard work is, thank-
ully, only a small part o the journey to achieving your
goals and dreams. It turns out that having a lot o un help-
ing others is another important part, especially in the ageo social media.
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Let me backtrack a bit and catch you up on where my angst
was coming rom. I owned a retail store. Four o them,
actually. I worked very hard at starting and running those
stores, day in day out, week ater week, month ater month,
year ater year or 12 years.
While I enjoyed what I did, my lie was pretty much all
about doing the hard work necessary to reach my goals
and dreams. I my world-view held true, I should have
been the rich one and proessional socializers should have
been struggling. Tat clearly wasnt always the case. Whatgives? I asked mysel more than once.
Worse yet, this guy, Mike Boyle, owner o North Bay
Mortgage, wasnt the only example o this seeming unair-
ness. Among the many examples I could share with you,
there was another guy, im Wing, who had an oce across
the street rom mine. I knew what he drove and where he
parked. He was hardly ever in his oce because he was an-
other proessional socializer! He was, you guessed, it verysuccessul in his career; rich, as a matter o act.
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I started to see a pattern. At rst, I simply let it go. I gured
these two examples were ukes. Some people get lucky.Tese were good guys; community-minded, involved, ea-
ger to lend a hand. I liked them. I just couldnt understand
how they did so much business even though they had these
un lives.
As I said earlier, I had worked very hard, crazy hard, or
years on my business and each and every year was a strug-
gle. I read everything on business I could get my hands on.
I had a degree in nance. I had my MBA. I got up early and
worked late. A day o or me was running to the wholesal-
ers to pick up merchandise.
Let me share a story with you. Years back, I got a call rom
a reporter saying that our main store was going to be in a
major newspaper. Tey wanted to do a eature story on us!Tat was a pretty big deal and I was very excited.
Te reporter showed up with a photographer and my
brother and I eagerly shared our story. When it came time
or photographs, I dashed inside to grab my yellow tablet.See, that tablet was my to-do list. It was, I remember, 3
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pages long on that specic day. It was always 2-3 pages long
o activities that kept me extremely busy, working hard.
Photo by Russ Carmack/Te News ribune
As you can see rom the photograph, there is that yellow
tablet. I should have been very successul i there was a
direct correlation between hard work, dedication, settinggoals, and perseverance. I had all o that in spades.
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A ew short years ater that photograph was taken, I was
bankrupt. Broke. Busted. Wiped out and starting over at36. I had recently been elected to be the next Chairman o
the Board o the local Chamber o Commerce, but when
the business collapsed, I was looking or work instead.
urns out there was an immediate opening or President/
CEO o that chamber. What I thought would be a tempo-rary gig as I got my lie started over turned out to be a very
valuable our years or me.
Te chamber is where I really got to know Mike and
im better. As I said, both were very active members o
the community (socializers). Working or and with them,
along with about 400 other small business people, gave me
a rare glimpse into what makes some small business owners
successul and others continue to struggle year ater year, as
I had. I had a real lie laboratory to study business success
with do-or-die participants.
I am going to share with you how it could be that just
working hard isnt a great strategy. As a matter o act, it is
a lousy strategy. I wonder i this story is speaking to any o
you. Are you a hard worker but success has escaped you soar? Read on.
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My business lie turned around when I adopted the strategy
I am about to share with you. By the way, I implemented
this strategy, and got amazing results, beore social media
had ully caught on. Social media puts this strategy on ste-
roids. I you have an open mind and are ready, here is the
strategy: Give Gits. Be Generous.
GIv GIFTS. B GNS.
Sound too good to be true? As I said beore, I had the op-
portunity to study hundreds o small business owners andsee what actually worked and what didnt. I was with the
rich ones and the broke ones all the time, on the inside, see-
ing the good, bad, and ugly. I knew their work ethics, their
intelligence, how they viewed themselves and the world,
how hard they worked, what they did and didnt do. Terichest, happiest ones? Tey consistently practiced (with-
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out calling it this) Give Gits. Be Generous. Te broker
ones worked really hard. Tey can take pride in that. Butyou cant take a to-do list to the bank.
Give Gits. Be Generous. It isnt exclusively a business
strategy; it is also a lie strategy. Employ this strategy and
the secret ideas behind it in your lie and watch what hap-
pens. It has so many benets that I almost dont know
where to begin. As a business owner or executive:
You will attract more customers.1.
You will have more un. Give Gits. Be Generous.2.
It is a nice way to spend your time.
You will have more riends.3.
Your standing in the community will rise and you4.
will have more inuence.
Opportunities will come to you out o the blue.5.
Your stress level will go down because your business6.is doing better and your lie eels more complete.
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Are you ready to dig into this simple but powerul strat-
egy and hear how to implement it to dramatically improveyour lie and business?
While this strategy was eective long beore the Internet
came about, the social media revolution that we are expe-
riencing has made this strategy ultra powerul in todays
24/7/365 rantic and renzied world. Let me share this
strategy with you rst through an illustration:
Te center oval represents your current customers. Te oval
on the let, (Friends, Family, and Acquaintances), overlapsthe center oval; potential customers or members. Congrats!
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Some o your amily, riends, and even acquaintances are
customers. Tat is a good thing.
Te oval in the lower right is the universe o the people that
are strangers to you now but could become your customer
(your target market). Hopeully you get some overlap there
too (your phone rings, an email order arrives in your in-
box, a stranger walks in the door).
What I discovered in my chamber laboratory, in my own
business lie, and rom working in the eld doing the re-
search or the scientic basis (I have spent the last 7 months
traveling the country in my RV) is that a business own-er/executive has two basic choices: Tey can concentrate
mostly on the center oval - what Michael Gerber, author o
the E-Myth, might term doing it, doing it, doing it - or the
business owner can concentrate on the other two ovals.
I your business model is built around the center oval, as
mine was, then you have a three page to-do list, do cold
calling, send out thousands o direct mail pieces, and, all in
all, ocus on interrupting potential customer to show them
your widget. Tat wasnt a great model beore and is a hor-rible model or the social-media world we live in today.
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Tere is a much better way. Instead, ocus on the other
two ovals by employing the strategy o Give Gits. BeGenerous. What specic actions am I talking about? As a
starting point, get involved in your community. Join your
local chamber and state and national trade associations.
Join the Rotary or another service club and attend the
unctions and meetings. Volunteer your time on the boardo the local Boys and Girls Club. Go to the charity auctions
and spaghetti und raisers. Help other people and groups
to be more successul by promoting their events or lending
your talent. You can even just share your contacts.
Are you saying, But I dont have the time or money? Well,
think about that statement. How is your current strategy
working or you? Are you working really hard yet strug-
gling? I was right there with you, dead tired and broke.
Ready to try something new?
Are you thinking it is too simple or that it cant work be-
cause success only ows rom hard work? Tat wasnt true
then and it is even less true now. Read on.
Tis rst step, being more involved, is a jumping o pointto the larger strategy. It is a great start though. Once you do
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these things, what do you think happens? Does the phone
quit ringing because you arent doing it, doing it, doingit as much? Just the opposite. Instead o having less busi-
ness you get more.
Te simple act is that when you give back to the commu-
nity and your industry, when you expand the let oval by
giving gits and being generous, customers come to you.
Te let oval expands dramatically.
When I got this, it came as an epiphany. I was dumbstruck.
And skeptical. I asked mysel, How could this be true?How could it be a better strategy to do things I totally en-
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joyed, like helping others and socializing? But there it was
right beore me time ater time. Te most successul peoplewere the ones that attended unctions, sponsored events,
started the Boys and Girls Club, and sat on the boards o
the various non-prots.
Why does that happen? Te simple explanation, but an in-
complete one, is that you become better known in the com-
munity. People like to do business with those they know,
like, and trust. Lots o people see that you are community-
minded and that other people they respect already know,
like and trust you. Word begins to spread and you get more
business rom being social and visible. You receive more
reerrals and more opportunities all into your lap. You
are top o mind when people need what you oer, whether
it is widgets, tax accounting, or memberships
Tis is all true and eective. But it is just a small raction
o the ull story. Read on or the rest o the story, as Paul
Harvey would say.
Lets talk about people who are strangers to your business,
those in your target market that you dont yet know. Teycould be living in your area or, especially nowadays with
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the Internet, they could just as easily be living across the
planet. How do you reach them and make that bottomright oval grow? Again, by employing the strategy o Give
Gits. Be Generous.
What gits could you provide strangers in your target mar-
ket? How about posting useul inormation about your
eld o expertise on social media sites? How about answer-
ing questions about your industry and niche online? How
about orming an online community where olks in your
target market can learn rom and get to know one another?
Tere are dozens o ree and easy ways to provide valuable
gits to potential customers through social media and social
networking.
For the sake o argument, lets assume your business is pro-
essional photography. You could easily and quickly post
tips on taking better digital photographs. Lots o people areinterested in that. It would be generous o you to share your
expertise. What about posting some o your best work with
details on how the readers could duplicate your success?
Again, that would be a generous git rom you to them.
Are you thinking, Whats in it or me to give away thisknowledge? Good question.
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I have an answer or you: business. You want more business,
right? You want to reach your goals and dreams, right? Teact is, you can create the conditions or complete strangers
in your target market to nd you through social media and
the internet. But, i you dont oer them value up ront
they will have a much harder time nding you and they
will have no reason to do business specically with you.
Legendary speaker and author Earl Nightingale tells the
story about the man that stood in ront o the wood-burn-
ing stove and demanded heat. Te man told the stove that
as soon as it produced heat, he would put in some wood.
Te act o the matter is that one must put the wood in rst
and then out comes the heat. In todays world, you must
provide value rst.
When you do that, provide value up ront, you are giving
a git. People like to pay back gits. Tat is one way that
relationships start. As Seth Godin said about social media
or business, Strangers become riends, riends become
customers, and customers become salespeople or you byspreading the word.
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Tose strangers will only know about you and your busi-
ness/association (and potentially become your riend, cus-
tomer, reerral source) i you put something into the rela-
tionship rst. You cant just take. You must give.
We are not ready to go into developing your social media
strategy yet but here are some ways to give gits and be gen-
erous to strangers through social media (many more ideas
and strategies are orthcoming in later chapters):
Generously share your industry expertise, insights, & opin-
ions.
Post helpul content & interact to build relationships with
individuals in your target market.
Post high quality content to your blog, write thoughtul
articles, write ebooks, or shoot how-to videos.
Link to industry ino and news, be a central source o accu-
rate ino, curate your niche, build a community o people
interested in your niche.
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Key point: Dont worry about mastering the technical
challenges o social media. Because o the rate o changeand complexity, it is wiser to outsource the technical.
Email me and I can recommend an expert or you.
Guess what happens?
Notice again that the oval in the center doesnt increase in
size. But the oval on the right explodes in size. Because o
word-o-mouth, and some orthcoming reasons, strangers
come to you or your product or services. Tat is the powero Give Gits. Be Generous.
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But that isnt the whole story. We are still only scratching
the surace o the lie changing points I am going to makein this book.
As soon as we implemented this strategy at the chamber,
things took o. We got out o the oce, stepping away
rom a to-do list mentality, and socialized with our tar-
get market. Our team joyully gave and gave and gave. We
helped and helped and helped. And we grew and grew and
grew.
Te organizations membership count doubled in only 18
months. It was astounding. We exploded the membershipbase o that 45 year old organization not bydoing it, doing
it, doing it, but by helping others, valuing others, prais-
ing and celebrating others, reaching out without regards to
geographic boundaries, and providing value. Tat amazing
growth wouldnt have happened i not or Give Gits. BeGenerous. and social media.
Key Point: My own lie and proessional standing also
grew through this strategy. Pretty soon, I was sitting as
the Chair o the Chamber Division o the Association o
Washington Business, the states Chamber o Commerce,
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and speaking at state, national, and international coner-
ences. I went rom small town obscurity to being picked(out o about 200 chamber presidents in Washington
State) to sit on the AWB executive committee. It wouldnt
have happened without social media and employing Give
Gits. Be Generous.
In the next section o this book I am going to share with
you the secrets o why this works so amazingly well. It is
signicantly deeper than simply being well-known and
helpul. Tis next section might blow your mind. I expect
many o you will demand to know why nobody previously
told you these secrets.
And please dont be worried because I am not yet giving
you specic social media strategies or your business. I will.
But rst, you must more ully understand the Give Gits.
Be Generous. strategy to ully employ it in your lie andbusiness. Stick with me. You will be glad you did.
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So, why does the strategy o Give Gits. Be Generous. re-
ally work? I have covered some basic, surace reasons, but
the astounding and secret reasons are next. o ully under-
stand the strategy, we are going to need to look at people in
the context o prehistoric man and the history o civilized
society.
Let me stop here or a minute and clariy that I am not an
anthropologist. I am not a psychologist. What I am is an
entrepreneur that loves to help other entrepreneurs and the
associations that serve them. As evidenced rom the explo-
sive growth o our association, and rom my own business
instincts, I elt at the core o my being that I had stumbled
onto something very important. Give Gits. Be Generous.
was a signicant discovery but I knew there must be moreto it.
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I elt strongly enough about this to quit a good job and
go into the eld. I did this during the great recession.I even walked away rom being on the executive com-
mittee o our states chamber. I let job, amily, home,
and riends. I was on a mission. I I could prove a way to
help other people be successul and avoid the results I got
rom just working hard, then I had to do it.
Even though I am not a scientist, I can do research. I can
talk to people smarter and wiser than I am. Tats what I
did, state by state, city by city, speaking to business audi-
ences about these concepts and social media.
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Here is what I ound. Tere are 7 secret laws o societythat,
when combined with social media and my Give Gits. BeGenerous. strategy, has the power to transorm your busi-
ness and your lie. Best o all, the strategy isnt built upon
just working hard.
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A BIF HIST F TH 7 SCT
LAWS F SCIT
People, as social creatures living in a world o clans, tribes,
and villages have adapted over millions o years. We ormed
deeply ingrained habits and ways (short cuts) o unction-
ing around each other that allowed us to continue livingtogether. I am, o course, not the rst to realize the busi-
ness and societal implications o this. Tese implications
are not truly secrets; it is just that they are not taught to
us directly, at least to the vast majority o us. We have to get
lucky to nd them. I stumbled upon them in my research
and am excited to share them with you. It explains why
Give Gits. Be Generous. works so well.
Te strategy is mentioned in the Bible:
Tere is one who scatters, and yet increases all the more, and
there is one who withholds what is justly due, and yet it re-
sults only in want. Te generous man will be prosperous, and
he who waters will himsel be watered.~ Proverbs 11:24-25
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And by modern gurus:
Practicing the Law o Giving is actually very simple. I you
want joy, give joy to others; i you want love, learn to give
love; i you want attention and appreciation, learn to give
attention and appreciation.
~ Deepak Chopra
Much o the scientic work I am going to reerence came
rom research in human psychology. I am standing on
the shoulders o giants here; Abraham Maslow, or one,
who wrote about some o this in his 1943 paper, the
Hierarchy o Needs.
Te psychologist, Dr. Robert Cialdini, out o the Arizona
State University, researched and wrote brilliantly in his
book, Inuence, on how we unction as social creatures and
how these actors relate to business. Others that wrote or
spoke on ideas that contributed to this work include Zig
Zigler, Bob Burg, John David Mann, Chris Brogan, Julien
Smith, Seth Godin, and many others.
As you go through the 7 secrets, take the time to write out
the implications o these scientic truths as they apply toyour business and lie.
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Te 7 Secret Laws of Society Guide Bookwalks you
through the steps o applying these concepts and helpsyou create your business social media plan.
FrankJKenny.com
Lets start our scientic part o this journey with Abraham
Maslow. Maslow wrote a paper in 1943 explaining his the-
ories behind human motivation. Where previous psycholo-
gists studied people in insane institutions, Maslow came at
it rom a dierent direction. He studied super-achievers,
people like Einstein and Eleanor Roosevelt. From his work,
he was able to produce Te Hierarchy o Needs. Most
everyone has seen the Hierarchy o Needspyramid.
According to Maslow, as soon as we satisy our physiologi-
cal needs, such as ood, water, and sleep we turn our atten-
tion to saety needs, such as employment, and our security.We dont care too much about achieving our lies goals or
dreams when we are concerned about where we will sleep
and what we will eat.
As soon as our physiological needs are satised, we turn ourattention to nding a sense o belonging. Maslow ound
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that, among healthy people (most people), they need, or
rather crave, acceptance and belonging. I they cant nd itthey are apt to become anxious or even depressed.
I oten tell my audiences that we, as social creatures, need
to know we are accepted, heard, and loved. Te question,
I you disappeared tomorrow, would anyone even care?
cuts to the core o it. I the answer to that question is no,
then guess what the main ocus o your lie is, assuming
your physiological needs have been met?
Is there an opportunity or you (meaning you as an indi-
vidual, you as an employee, and you as a business owner)to Give Gits. Be Generous. here? Zig Zigler said, You
can have everything in lie you want, i you will just help
enough other people get what they want. Maslow showed
that what we want, more than almost anything else, is ac-
ceptance and a sense o belonging. I you can give this as a
git, would you? You can through social media. I will show
you how.
Maslows thesis went urther. Once people have ound ac-
ceptance through their Lions Club, knitting group, church,or business associations (or all o these), healthy people will
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turn to the next level in the hierarchy, esteem, or put an-
other way, respect. We crave, as healthy human beings, therespect o others. Tere is nothing wrong with that. Only
somebody unhealthy would crave a lack o sel-esteem or
be happy not being respected.
Reerring back to the Zig Ziglar quote, can you see anotherway here or you to Give Gits. Be Generous? I it is the
right thing to do to help people eel accepted then it is also
right to help people eel respected or their accomplish-
ments and contributions. Tis is very easy to do online and
o. Just think, a quick word o praise, rom your business
or association, posted on Facebook instantly helps to satisy
a customers or prospects basic need or esteem - all done
publicly and or ree.
A core tenant o the Give Gits. Be Generous. philosophy
is going out o your way to help others get what they want
out o lie. By spreading acceptance and respect, you are
doing exactly that. You do this with the quiet calm assur-
ance that i you do this or enough people, with all sincer-ity, then you will likewise get what you want out o lie.
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Key point: Give Gits. and Be Generous. isnt built
around giving money. Tere are lots o ways to GiveGits and Be GenerousM. Making someone comort-
able in unamiliar surroundings is a git. Congratulating
someone or an accomplishment is a git. We are sur-
rounded by opportunities to be generous on a daily basis.
For my strategy, the rst Secret Law o Society is Acceptance
and Respect. When you are active and involved in your
community or eld, you cant help but employ them.
Pretty soon, people who were ormerly aloo or strangers
to you begin to know, like, and trust you. I you acceptpeople and respect them or their contributions, publicly
putting a spotlight on them, you are giving gits and being
generous.
Let me give you an example. Back when I was running the
chamber, we had a new member come to his rst monthly
luncheon. He was rom out o the area and didnt know a
soul. He looked a little like a sh out o water because he
wore a suit and brought his briecase. In our rural com-
munity, a sport coat was considered overly dressed and thisellow wore a 3 piece. I would have usually introduced him
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to a board member or someone very social to break the
ice or him but I was tied up running the event. ry as I
might, I couldnt get over to him. I could tell rom his body
language, as the luncheon went on, that he was uncomort-
able, even isolated.
He never attended another luncheon or event o any kind.
I only I, or one o the members, would have made him
eel accepted it would have been a git to him. Better yet,
several members could have approached him and drew him
into the group. Perhaps we even could have ound some-thing about him to praise. A little respect goes a long ways,
especially when somebody is new to your industry, area, or
association.
Te point I am trying to make is this: even in a group o
business networkers, people oten eel ignored and unap-
preciated. Acceptance is a core need o who we are as hu-
mans. Employ this rst secret both online and o. Give
people the git o your attention. Be generous with yourpraise and approbation.
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Key Point: Te Secret Laws o Society allow us to unc-
tion and thrive in a complicated world. I the world wascomplex enough back then that we needed these Laws,
just think o the implications or todays ast changing
and connected world.
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Lets acknowledge Proessor Cialdini again or putting a
name to these concepts and providing in-depth research on
them. He wasnt the rst and certainly wont be the last but
his book, Inuence, rst published in 1983, was a git to us.
Te proessor, and other scientists and researchers, showed
us that these Laws can be thought o as mental shortcuts
and unction, or the most part, to our benet.
By relating many scientic cases, personal stories and spe-
cic examples, I will try to help you think through the im-
plications o these secret laws, especially as they relate to
business and social media. I will touch on approaches as we
go but need to save the detailed social media strategies or alater section when we have all the pieces on the table.
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Ready? Here are the age old and little known Secret Laws
o Society. I chose to use the labels that Proessor Cialdinigave them and added the Laws:
Te Law o Reciprocity
Te Law o Consistency
Te Law o Social Proong
Te Law o Authority
Te Law o Scarcity
Te Law o Liking
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Did you know there is a Law o Reciprocity? It is universal
and an integral part o society. Te Law o Reciprocity is
oundational to the Give Gits. Be Generous strategy.
From my research, I discovered that scientists think that a
core oundation o society is constructed around the idea
that i I do something or you, you will attempt to recip-
rocate. Tis isnt some subtle eeling that some o us have
and others dont. It is universal. Our ability to live together
in society demands that gits and avors be reciprocated. I
it hadnt evolved into human nature to do so, i it hadnt
become ingrained in us, at some point people would have
quit giving. What would civilization look like i it was OK
to take and take and take and never give back? Tat trainwould have run o the rails pretty quick.
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o explain, lets say you and another person decide to go
grab a cup o coee at the local espresso bar. Since it wasyour idea you reach or your wallet to pay the tab. Your
riend is quick to say thanks and the two o you grab your
drinks and a table in the sun.
A couple o days later, you and the same riend are chatting
at the espresso bar again. Ater ordering your drinks the
cashier states the total, $6.52 please. You glance over to
see i your riend is reaching or cash. Ater all, you bought
last time. He isnt. No big deal, you say to yoursel, what is
6 bucks? You pay and you both grab your seats and have anice visit.
Te ollowing week, you nd yourselves there again. You
place your order, he places his, and the cashier rings up
the total, $6.52 please. You glance over to see i your
riend has got this one and he simply plain doesnt. No at-
tempt, on his part, to dig or cash or grab his AM card.
You pause. Te cashier is waiting and looking at you both.
You dont want to make a scene or embarrass your cheap-
skate riend so you pay with your card and o the two oyou go.
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I you were the guy who paid these three times, how would
you eel? Uncomortable, I bet. Why? Tere was no discus-sion on who would pay. So what i you paid the last two
times? Whats the big deal?
It is a big deal. Huge. All the research shows that recipro-
cation stems rom a powerul eeling o indebtedness. It
comes with an equally powerul need to repay. We even say,
Much obliged, maam and tip our hats (picture a cow-
boy).
Obliged. Obligated.
Let me share a story with you that was related to me by
im, our earlier rich guy. He and his son were driving
along and im saw a group o parents and kids doing a
undraiser car wash. im pulled his car into the line and
had his car washed. One o the parents walked up to col-lect the donation. Instead o an acceptable amount, say 10
bucks, im handed over $30. For 30 bucks he could have
had it cleaned 4 times at the automatic wash in town.
ims son was a little taken aback by the big donation. Hiswords were something to the eect o, Dad, you are crazy?
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$30 was way too much. ims reply is wise, even brilliant,
i you subscribe to the Law o Reciprocity. im said, in e-ect, Son, think about what happened there. I needed the
car washed. Tat is done. Tey needed money. I gave them
some. I could have given them the minimum, and they
would have been happy, and I could have spent the rest on
say, an ad or my business. Now, what would be my return
on that ad? Most likely zero. Absolutely nothing.
However, I did something nice. I knew the mother who
took the donation. While I am not expecting or demand-
ing that she send me a reerral, when she comes across apotential reerral or me, who do you think she will think
o? Te extra $20 is a smart investment. And, it made me
eel good to give it.
im is exactly right! While the lady is under no strict ob-
ligation to pay im back, what do you think went on in
her mind? 30 dollars! Tat im is a great guy. Te Jones
used him to buy their place. I should really try to do some-
thing nice or him. Tat could be what she is thinking at
the conscious level. What about subconsciously? Te needto repay, the need to relive the obligation, is so strong that
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it can create a sense o guilt, or even disloyalty, or ailure
to repay.
Sociologist and anthropologist Marcel Mauss said, Tere
is an obligation to give, an obligation to receive, and an
obligation to repay.
Back to our story. By giving a little more than expected, itmay very well be the case that the mom will go out o her
way to help im. She might then do it again. And again. I
know I oten did when working at the chamber. im was
constantly going out o his way to help me and I was glad
to return the avor by reerring people to him. Failure to doso would have made me very uncomortable.
When somebody does something nice or us, like buys us
a cup o coee or provides good advice, there is a societal
demand or repayment. It isnt that the person buying the
coee or giving the advice demands repayment. It is a sense
o indebtedness and a sel- imposed (societal, really) obli-
gation to repay. I owe you one.. OK, you can get this
one but the next one is on me.
We have words or those who allow other to give and ailto repay. Tey are called moochers and ingrates. Most peo-
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ple, i not everyone, would be mortied to be labeled a
moocher or ingrate. Our reputations would be destroyedi the common perception was that we are glad to take but
never give.
Te Secret Law o Reciprocity can be very subtle.
Another real estate agent in my town would give his cli-
ents, riends, prospects, everybody, what he called drop-
by gits. At the time I thought it was simply to keep him
top o mind. More likely though, he knew that the Law o
Reciprocity would be in eect. He gives me a un little gitand I give him a reerral (or return the avor somehow).
When you give you get. Generosity brings prosperity.
ake ims earlier example and think about i your lie was
built around Give Gits. Be Generous. You would have
dozens, or hundreds, o people that you have done nice
things or looking out or you, bringing you clients, op-
portunities, and telling your story. You dont have the time
or Give Gits. BE Generous. i you are locked in yourbusiness.
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Another subtle example. Sure is nice o ood stores to
give those ree samples. O course, it isnt really aboutletting you taste the ood at all. Tey know people will
return the avor o a ree sample by buying. We accident-
ly did this in our chamber at OysterFest. I thought the
customers simply loved those tasty samples because we
always had a line orm right ater the sample trays wentout. urns out, we obligated the customers without even
knowing the Law o Reciprocity.
Cialdini discusses a test rom the 60s where two study
participants are in a room. One o the participants (lets callhim the assistant) is in on the study while the other one is
actually the unknowing object o the study (lets call him
object). During a break, in controlled instances, the assis-
tant would step out and buy both o them a Coke. Upon
returning, he would hand the object the Coke and theywould both enjoy their drinks. Te object didnt ask or the
Coke. It was simply handed to him.
At the end o the day, the assistant would mention casually
to the object that he was helping to raise money or a char-ity and needed to sell some rafe tickets. He would ask the
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object to buy some. In every case where the object was o-
ered a soda, they bought more tickets, even spending morethan the cost o the soda. Tink about that. Te assistant
decided i he was or was not going to give the git, then also
decided the terms o repayment.
Here is a simple example o how it works in regards to
social media.
Have you noticed that when you ollow a person on witter,
they are likely to ollow you back? According to studies, this
happens about 80% o the time. You ollow them, which
is a git o your attention, and the receiver oten recipro-cates. You re-tweet their post, they look or an opportunity
to re-tweet yours. You share their event on Facebook, they
look or a way to repay the avor. When you give, you get.
Tey eel an obligation. Human psychology and the Laws
o Society demand it.
When you give gits, dont ever think about keeping score.
Te key is to give generously and widely, planting seeds.
A simple way to do that is helping people eel accepted
and respected online. Compliment their posts, recognizepeople or a job well done, even i all they did was make
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you smile. Share their posts. Go out o your way as oten as
you can to Give Gits. Be Generous.
Ten, out o the blue, you will nd people reerring others
to you. Great opportunities will come your way. You wont
always be able to pinpoint and explain why an opportunity
has come to you but it very well could be rom that auction
item you gave, that compliment you made, that quote you
posted, or any o dozens or hundreds o grand or simple
gits you gave. Somewhere down the road, your gits will be
returned, maybe through the best reerral or opportunity o
your lie. All the greatest opportunities come rom riends,
right? Tey dont post once in a lie time opportunities in
the classied ads. Your riend comes to you and says, I
have something or you!
I it were only or the existence o the Law o Reciprocity,
Give Gits. Be Generous would be a great strategy or busi-ness and lie, but there is so much more! Tese laws build
upon one another. Next, the Secret Law o Consistency.
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A study was done where researchers went to a nice neigh-
borhood and asked the residents i they would put up a
billboard in their ront yards advocating or sae driving.
Te vast majority o people quickly said no. Tey didnt
want to blight their neighborhood with a billboard in their
yard, no matter the good intent o the message.
However, in the next nice neighborhood, the research-
ers rst went to the homes and asked the resident i they
would display a 3 inch sign in their windows with the same
message o Drive Saely. It was a very minor ask. Te vastmajority said yes, they would be glad to do that.
Here is where it gets good.
A ew weeks later, in the second neighborhood where most
o the amilies agreed to post the small sign in a window, adierent researcher went to the homes and again asked to
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display the billboard. Signicantly more people said yes.
Why would this be?
It is the law o consistency. Te people that said yes had cre-
ated a pattern in their minds where they saw themselves as
the kind o person who cared about driving saely and had
actually posted a sticker on their window stating as much.
In order to be consistent with themselves, they said yes to
the billboard too.
What do you think o a person that continually changes
their mind? Or worse, their story. Saying one thing and do-
ing another is something that ruins reputations. Sometimesit is called two-aced, or double dealing, or hypocritical.
In politics they call it wishy-washy or ip opping. Clans,
tribes, villages, and communities couldnt unction over
generations and eons i people werent held accountable or
their word. One o the most solemn oaths we have is, You
have my word on it. You break that, you are done.
Because o this, we have developed an obsessive desire to
appear consistent - consistent in our words, consistent in
our actions, consistent in our dealings. We really couldntunction as a society, long-term, otherwise. As a conse-
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quence, nNobody wants to be thought o as inconsistent.
Your reputation is on the line everyday and one sure way toruin it is to be thought o as a liar or two-aced.
Tis need or consistency is not exclusively or outward ap-
pearances, with how other people perceive us, but also with
our own sel-perception. Psychologists have a term or it
when our thoughts/actions and sel-perception contradict.
Tey call it cognitive dissonance. It comes down to us not
being comortable holding two conicting thoughts at the
same time.
For example, I cant see mysel as good person and thenmurder someone in cold blood. Te ideas conict, both
outwardly and inwardly. I would look and eel awul.
Tis obsessive desire or consistency creates some interest-
ing eects that apply to business.
I we do something as small as write an online testimonial
or someone, or example, saying they are a good person
or their business/association is solid, we deeply internalize
that to remain consistent in the uture. Years later that will
remain our opinion unless very powerul orces, such as anadverse experience, contradict it.
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Remember me writing that these laws have been around
since the dawn o man, helping us unction in society?Consistency is a shortcut that helps us to live our lives with-
out having to struggle mentally, again and again, with ev-
ery little decision. I every decision required us to start our
thinking rom scratch, consider the consequences; doing
research, analyzing things through, getting opinions romriends and experts, and generally treating each decision as
a standalone issue. We would never get anything done.
Answering questions like, Do I want to have ast ood or
lunch? would be major decision i it werent or the law o
consistency. Tink o it this way; are you a ast ood eater?
You probably made the decision that you are or arent a ast
ood eater many years ago. Tings in the ast ood indus-
try have changed since then. McDonalds has salads now.
Other chains have healthy menus. Shouldnt you do some
research to validate your prior decision? Ask some experts?
Read a whitepaper or a study? O course not. You dont
have the time. It is a act o lie; you wont revisit most o
your prior decisions. You are committed to them.
Lie is getting aster and more hectic all the time so the Lawo Consistency is getting more and more important.
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It comes down to this: to unction in society and the world,
we need to make decisions and then stick with them. Wesimply dont have the time or energy to analyze all the acts
or each and every question that comes across our lives. I
we have made the decision that we dont do ast ood, or
that we love the chamber, then the decision is made. We
dont have to go through the trouble o researching it everagain.
Here is something to think about. A young child is asked,
What are you going to be when you grow up? She re-
sponds, A doctor. 20 years later she is in medical school.
Or, a small child is being ussy and reuses to eat his broc-
coli, stating he hates it. Tose small little commitments
stick with us and grow. Our words create our uture. We
remain consistent.
We are even warned, Be careul what you wish or. Once
it is in there, in the mind, it grows.
Tis has massive ramications or social media and your
business. Lets say someone goes to your website and nds
valuable ino. Tey decide to subscribe and share yourpage on Facebook. Guess what? Tat is a big step down
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the consistency path. Tey made a commitment. Tey sub-
consciously tell themselves, Tats valuable material I just
subscribed to and shared.
Small acts such as liking a page, subscribing to a eed, or
sharing a post can be the start o a very long-term relation-
ship because o consistency. Tat is why many businesses
run contests where the entry is simply a 100 word essay on
why you like their product. I came across a contest recently
where the post asked or a 2 minute video on how a cer-
tain speaker had helped to change your lie or the better.Writing out that 100 words or shooting that video is going
way down the consistency path. And it is nearly impossible
to get o once you have started down it.
Consistency is the reason politicians go door to door and
ask or a simple avor, Please vote or me. I they get a yes
(many people say yes to simply be polite, or to get back to
watching Oprah), then the voter, in order to be consistent,
will not only vote or them but is more likely to give a do-nation down the road.
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Ben Franklin said, He that has once done you a kindness
will be more ready to do you another, than he whom youyoursel have obliged.
Careul here. I am discussing the Law o Reciprocity versus
the Law o Consistency by using Bens quote. You would
think that i one gave a git or did a avor or someonethen the receiver would be likely to return the avor. Tat
is true. Tat is the Law o Reciprocity. Ben is talking about
consistency though.
Here is the twist, the Law o Consistency is so powerul
that even i someone who doesnt really like you does de-
cide to do you a avor, then they will, in order to be con-
sistent, go out o their way to do you another, and another,
and another. Ater all, they did something or you once
(and they make smart decisions). Tey must like you andwant to help you.
Has an acquaintance or riend ever done you a avor (or
become your champion) without being asked? Tey simply
took it upon themselves to help you. Ten they do it again.And again. Fascinating, dont you think? Its consistency.
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From the Give Gits. Be Generous standpoint, when you
go out o your way or someone, chances are they will re-pay you somewhere down the road. Society expects that.
Tat is great. But over time, because o consistency, it could
mean a lietimes worth o business rom that person (and
o course you reciprocate). Tat is how relationships are
born and nurtured.
Ready or the next Law? Social media and social proong
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When our chamber decided to take a leadership role in so-
cial media, one o my strategies was to reach out to commu-
nity-minded people beyond our tight geographic borders.
As I did that, I kept coming across a certain active com-
munity member, Mindy Byers. We had never crossed paths
beore, probably because she lived more than 40 minutes
north o my oce. With social media making geography
and borders much less important, both o our circles o
riends and associates had greatly expanded. I had so many
riends who were riends with Mindy that I decided I had
to see who this person was.
When I checked out her Facebook page, I discovered she
had practically all o the top business and political peo-
ple in the county as a riend. She wasnt only riends with
them; she was good riends with them. I could tell thatby the comments and riendly banter that went back and
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orth. My opinion o Mindy, that she was a solid, un, good
person with a antastic reputation, was set beore we everbecame Facebook riends. Once we nally met ace to ace,
it was as i we had known each other a long time. She was
socially prooed by our mutual riends.
Social proong is critically important, not just or personal
relationships and reputation but or business reputations.
As I said earlier, I have spent the past 7 months in the eld
doing research or this book and speaking to business audi-
ences. I travelled in my 5th wheel RV. Guess how I decide
on which RV Park to stay at next? Yellow pages? Not achance. Call 411? Hardly.
I had a two inch thick book o RV Parks but I didnt use
that either. You would be right in saying, He would sim-
ply do an online search or it. But I did more than that.
I read the online comments and check out the ratings. I
the majority o the comments were negative, or i even one
o them was negative and persuasive, I did not choose that
park.
Tat is social proong. It is another Law o Society and weare relying on it on more and more. We cant be an expert
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on everything. We thereore need to rely on others to help
us understand new situations and to make decisions. Socialproong is engrained in our thinking (or should I say lack
thereo).
Tink about the simple laugh tracks that V comedies use.
Are we such sheep that we will think something is unnysimply because other people laugh rst? Tat is clearly the
case. Laugh tracks are a xture o V, even though most o
us know about them and shouldnt be inuenced.
In social media, social proong is extremely important.
When I go to your site I look to see i you have lots o
riends and interactions that tell me about your character
and i you have been socially prooed. I need to glean in-
ormation so that I can make a good decision about you.
I probably dont have the time, or want to go through thetrouble o studying you. So I look or clues.
We determine what is correct or true or important by nd-
ing out what others think. Tis is a huge time saver in soci-
ety and the group is usually correct. I I am walking downthe street and notice one person glancing up, I would prob-
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ably ignore it. However, i everybody is looking up, I am
looking up.
Tey actually did an experiment like this and it brought a
New York street to a complete halt. Even the people driv-
ing cars elt the need to look up. I a large number o olks
were running down the street, away rom something, andI didnt have enough ino to make an inormed decision,
guess what? Id be running too.
We have a herd mentality. It goes along with living in a
world where we dont have the time or resources to make
great decisions or ourselves every time, so we rely on oth-
ers. When marketers say, Fastest Growing or Largest
Selling we naturally think, Oh, it must be good. Some
nightclubs are known or orming lines outside, even i
there is plenty o space inside. Our brains see that socialproo, long lines, and assume it is a great place. Ater all,
these people must know something we dont.
Key Point - Te ounder o the National Speakers
Association, Cavett Roberts said, Since 95% o people
are imitators and only 5% initiators, people are persuaded
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more by the actions o others than by any proo we can
oer.
All o this applies to your business and social media. Make
sure you are socially prooed on your sites. A lot o interac-
tion on your sites proves that you are popular. Badges can
show you are part o an exclusive group. Large eedburnercounts show that lots o people have subscribed to your
posts. People want to associate themselves with popular
people.
It would be a mistake to post the number o subscrib-
ers to your blog i that is a small number. Tat is social
proong in the wrong direction. A large ollowing on
witter, LinkedIn, Facebook, and other sites is positive so-
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When people have something in common, an anity, they
are more likely to like and be inuenced by each other.
Salespeople will make it a point to nd commonalities,
such as children, sports, activities, etc. People like to buy
rom those that are similar to them.
Some time ago, a leader in our community asked me to
come to a charity auction, even asking i I would sit at his
table. I was attered as he was a top business person in our
area and I was relatively new to the chamber.
Once dinner was over and the auction started, I began to
eel a need to bid on things that I really didnt need and
couldnt easily aord. I hadnt gone that night hoping to
get a trip to Sun Valley. But I liked my host and his wie
and the rest o the olks at the table. Tey were all biddingon packages, so I did too. Tat is the Law o Liking. Te
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Law o Reciprocity was also in play as my host paid or din-
ner. I won a trip I hadnt planned to make.
Consider the home party business. A woman will invite her
riends over or the party. I you decline you might hurt the
riendship so you say, Sure. I would love to attend when
really, truthully, you have enough stu to last a lie time.
On Saturday you and a group o other women (none o
whom really needs any more stu either) get together at
the womans home. You have laughs, you play games, the
sales person does some demonstrations, and then asks or
the sale. Are you really buying rom the sales person or
rom your riend? Ater all, everybody knows that the host
gets a cut o the action. Te sales person does the selling,
but you are really doing this or your riend. I you dont
buy anything (ailure to reciprocate) you risk harming yourriendship with someone you like, your riend. You buy.
Tat is what happened with me at the auction. I didnt buy
that trip because I needed it. I bought it because I liked my
host. Tey did something nice or me, inviting me to sitwith them, and, like I said earlier, I elt a need to recipro-
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cate in some way. More than that though, I liked them and
wanted them to like me.
Tis kind o thing happens all the time.
Why do you think good salespeople always make it a point
to ask or reerrals? Mrs. Jones, thank you or your busi-
ness. Say, why dont you provide me with the names o 3o your riends that should also have this level o security
and comort?
Te salesperson will call up your riends and say, Hello
Mrs. Davis. Mrs. Jones said I should come see you. Mrs.
Davis doesnt want to cause any rits in the riendship so she
agrees to the meeting. Ater all, she has no details on what
Mrs. Jones and the salesperson talked about but it seems
Mrs. Jones went out o her way or Mrs. Davis. Better not
risk it.
Tere is more to it.
Lets bring all o this back to growing your business through
social media. We all know that people buy rom those they
know, like, and trust. When someone comes to your siteor sees your prole on a social media platorm, do they
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instantly get the eeling that they like you? Tey are much
more likely to buy rom you i they do.
Key Points on the Law o Liking:
People buy rom those they know, like, and trust.1.
Make sure your website takes advantage o this act,
rather than suers rom it.
People give special consideration to those they nd2.
attractive. Tere is a reason that pharmaceutical
companies choose models as saleswomen. Your sites
and proles need to be attractive. More on this later
in the branding section.
We like people who are similar to us in various ways3.
opinions, liestyle, or background. Commonalities
are important.
Flattery, praise, and compliments engender liking. It4.
must be sincere. I you have some amount o praise
or somebody, dont hesitate to share it. Dont ever
criticize. People dont orget or orgive criticism.
People are drawn to high-status people. High sta-5.tus people are generally laid back, unny, and calm.
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When somebody is needy, nervous, anxious, wor-
ried, or negative, it lowers their status and peoplewont think o them in as a positive a light.
Tey shoot the messenger. Weathermen receive6.
death threats. Be very, very cautious about being the
one that carries bad news. Shakespeare said, Te
nature o bad news inects the teller.
Overall, the point is, people are drawn to do business and
associate with those they like. I your branding and story
engenders that eect, you are well on your way to getting
more business.
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Randy Gordons Oce, President & CEOo Long Beach, Caliornias Chamber o Commerce
Suppose you signed up to participate in an experiment
where the researchers where trying to determine i people
would remember things better i there was a small negative
consequence or a wrong answer. Tere was such an experi-
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ment. Te negative consequence was the administration o
an electric shock.
From Wikipedia: Te Milgram experiment on obedience
to authority gures was a series o social psychology experi-
ments conducted by Yale University psychologist Stanley
Milgram, which measured the willingness o study partici-
pants to obey an authority gure who instructed them to
perorm acts, electric shocks, that conicted with their per-
sonal conscience.
Lets pretend you are a participant in the experiment and
it was you that got to administer the shock. You sit in oneroom and the victim, err the other participant, sat in the
next room. You could see and hear them but you were sepa-
rated. Now, the researcher (authority gure in a white lab
coat and carrying a clipboard), provides you with a series o
questions to ask. I the victim (actually an actor who is in
on the study) gets the answer wrong, you administer a little
shock by pulling a lever.
urns out the victim doesnt have such a good memory (on
purpose) so you are told to administer a shock. Ten anoth-er. And another. For each ailed question they get a shock.
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Did I mention the voltage o each new shock is increasingly
more powerul? Te voltage was pretty low at the start andyou could tell it didnt really hurt too much. Ater several
wrong answers though you can tell it is getting painul or
them. Ater several more wrong answers it is plain to you
that the shock is going beyond painul to excruciating. You
want to stop but the researcher says it will be ne and that
you should go on administering the shocks. At some point
the victim is begging to quit. Tey complain that they have
a heart condition. Te researcher in the lab coat motions
or you to continue. Again and again, more and more juice.
You want to stop, the victim wants to stop, but the person
in charge tells you to keep going so you keep going. All the
way to end o the voltage gauge!
Tat is the power o authority.
Te Law o Authority is another one o the mental short
cuts that allow us to unction in society. I we didnt have
a nearly universal respect or authority, we couldnt have
a unctioning society. We would have chaos. Te lengths
to which we will go out o a sense o duty to authority areastounding.
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When we come across an authority gure, such as a medi-
cal doctor, we naturally deer to his or her expertise. Aterall, they know innitely more than we do about their area
o expertise. We do this as a matter o course or all ex-
perts and people in positions o authority over us. It means
we dont have to think. Somebody else will do that or us,
thereby relieving us o the burden. Society is structuredaround authority. As a child, Mom and Dad are the au-
thorities. Everything in lie a child wants, and doesnt want,
are at Moms and Dads will. Tey are in charge and we had
better listen.
As we grow older, the authority is the school teacher and
even more so, the principal. Beyond that are policemen,
judges, and people in military uniorm. People in posi-
tions o power, usually wearing a uniorm, or in the case
o the researcher, a white lab coat and carrying a clipboard,
are deerred to. Credentials and uniorms are symbols o
authority. We are taught rom the earliest age to deer to
them. As we get older we turn to the PhD, the MD, the
CEO.
Tis deerment to authority is so engrained in us, and ourcustomers, that we truly do turn our thinking o.
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A story rom Cialdinis book, Inuence: An MD wrote out
instructions or an RN to administer 2 drops in a personsright ear or an earache. Simple enough. She put the drops
in his butt!
Why in the world would a highly trained nurse, an RN,
administer ear drops in a patients rectum? Because she de-erred to authority. Te doctors instructions, as written,
were to administer 2 drops R EAR.
As this applies to your business/association and social me-
dia, establish yoursel as an expert in your eld, an author-
ity. Dont be araid to brand yoursel as such. It is a ne-
cessity that you do so i you expect people to value your
opinions.
Ever step into a persons oce and see all the plaques,
awards, and recognitions that they have received? Why do
so many people do that, put all that up on the wall? It
builds credibility, authority, and expert status. Tey know
more than we do about their topic, dont they? All those
plaques, awards, degrees, honors, and public symbols orecognition clearly coner authority status. Your brain sim-
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ply says, I had better do what this person tells me. Tey
are in charge. Tey are the expert.
What about when businesses advertise, Backed by the
leading.., or sponsored by the largest. or distrib-
uted by Microsot. It builds credibility and authority. It is
also social proong but more than that. Tey are an expert
and we always deer to the experts, even to the point o
putting ear drops in a rear end.
Furthermore, people are attracted to authority. Experts
speak in an authoritative tone o voice, carry themselves
condently, and use a tone o voice and body language thatsays that they are in charge. And 95% o people ollow.
On your website and social media sites, are you using tech-
niques to build your authority and credibility? Do you have
testimonials? Do you list the names o companies that you
do business with? Any awards conerred, such as Business
o the Year? By doing this you are demonstrating your ex-
pertise.
Tis is especially powerul i you are established as an expert
o proven sincerity. Notice I said proven sincerity? Tatsimportant because the research has ound that your author-
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ity will be in question i people think you have a conict o
interest. I you are only recommending something becauseyou will earn a commission, then your authority takes a
hit. On the other hand, i you come out against your own
best nancial interests by recommending a competitor or
releasing a condence (just between you and me, the com-
pany you should be dealing with is) then you build yourexpert status and authority.
You also must have a relevancy in the topic at hand. I you
are the top butcher in the meat market but my question is
on owers, you dont carry much authority on that issue.
Tat is one o the reasons why it is so important to stake
out your target market and niche. You cant be an expert
in all things but once you are clearly a top notch expert in
your niche, you get all the benets that go along with being
an authority.
We are making good progress on the Laws o Society. Soon
we will apply them directly to social media or your busi-
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Why is it that when something is in newly short supply
or i the sale is ending soon that we want it more? When I
was shopping or my RV, I came across last years model in
the brand I liked. Tey only had 2 let and it was a relative
bargain. Te sales guy made sure to point out that these
were the last two and this one in particular was a great deal
because it had the oor plan I was looking or. Even though
I knew about Te Law o Scarcity, I bought.
Years ago, when I owned a chain o retail git stores, I de-
cided to carry collectables. Figurines and other items in the
collectibles category are oten produced in smaller, limited,
quantities. Scarcity actually creates demand.
When I give presentations, especially in the business as-
sociation world, I spend quite a bit o time on the Law oScarcity. Ever go to a night club in Las Vegas, or example,
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that is just packed and un? Sure, we have all been to places
like that. Ever notice that there is oten times a section othe club that is blocked o or VIPs. Te club usually uses
a velvet rope to clearly say you cant come into this side
unless you are extra special. What is our psychological reac-
tion to that? Te audience is quick to agree that we always
want what we cant have. Or another clich, the grass is
always greener on the other side o the ence.
Have you seen the annual one-day wedding dress sale in
New York? Once a year, women wait in line or hours or
the chance to buy very expensive wedding dresses at hugemarkdowns. When the doors open the ladies rush in and
ght, literally ght, or the dresses. I think it must go back
to the days o living in caves where i you didnt get a piece
o the kill, your kids might go hungry. We put our think-
ing on hold and ght or our share (whether we really want
or need it or not). Whatever the original cause, we go nuts
rom scarcity.
As it concerns your business and social media, keep in mind
that i you price your item or services too cheaply, peoplewill assume it isnt very good or is not worth very much.
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You may think you will generate higher demand by being
cheap but the reality is you might cause even less demand.
Recently, I saw a public speaker and business owner post on
his Facebook page that he was cutting back on his speaking
availability because he was getting too busy. Now, I dont
know i he was purposely employing the Law o Scarcity
to drive demand and increase his ees, he might have truly
become too busy to speak so oten anymore.
Pulling The Secret Laws of Society
Together and Applying Them
to Social Media for Small Business
and Associations
Here is an example o how it works:
Give Gits. Be Generous. starts the ball rolling. An
author gives away a ree signed copy o her book to
an acquaintance.
Ten the Law o Reciprocity kicks in. Te receiver
o the book posts to the authors Facebook wall a
ew days later to say how much he enjoyed readingit. Obligation satised.
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Ten the Law o Consistency. When the receiver
posted publicly that he liked the book he took a stepdown the path o consistency. Next he might recom-
mend the books website to a ew riends, especially
i he wrote glowing comments.
I the author has branded hersel right, the Laws
o Liking and Authority will be in play when those
visitors come to her site.
Because the author has many Facebook riends and
witter ollowers, the Law o Social Proong is
there.
By employing the Law o Scarcity (say, a limited
supply o rst editions with the embossed work-
book) she is well on her way to reaching her mon-
etary goals and dreams.
But rst, she has to make sure the social media essentials
are covered.
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W.A.C.E. Social Media Webinar
Like more and more olks today, I dont watch V except
or the occasional movie. V bores the living tar out o me.
I have way too much to do and cant abide losing all that
time. I generally cant nd any decent movies to watch,
either, unless one matches my, as Seth Godin has termedit, world-view.
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Hundreds o movies are released each year and I only hear
about a ew, perhaps the Oscar contenders. Unless it ismade or me. Unless it perectly ts my world-view. Ten
what happens? I somehow hear about it. When a Lord o
the Rings type movie is released, I know about it.
What do we do when someone is telling a good story? We
sit orward in our chairs, on the edge o our seats, and pay
attention. We all love to hear a good story. We will actually
take time out o our hectic lives or a good story. We love
the way stories can make us eel. We learn rom stories.
Stories reach us.
Robert McAee Brown, proessor and author o 29 books,
said o storytelling, Storytelling is the most powerul way
to put ideas into the world today. om Peters, the business
author and management guru, is quoted as saying, Te
story is more powerul than the brand.
Does your business story make your target market sit or-
ward in their seats? Does it grab their attention? Can it
break through the clutter o todays hectic lie?
Your business cant be all things to all people. 99% o peo-ple on the Internet dont care about you, your business,
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or what you are selling. But that 1%, i you speak to their
world-view, i your story makes them say Tats or me!then you have a chance.
Have you heard ooms o Maine? Tey make toothpaste,
mouthwash, and other natural personal care products.
Tey are known or their responsible manuacturing and
environmental practices. Tat is a huge part o their story.
I you are a person that cares about that (ts your world-
view), their story breaks through. Tats or me! springs
out o your lips. It makes you eel good to do things, like
use oms o Maine, when it meshes with your world-view.
It reinorces and validates you.
Who is going to buy an electric vehicle? Only somebody
that has a world-view o themselves as an electric car owner.
Tey will sit up high in the drivers seat too, proudly ex-
pressing themselves through their purchase. Yet there are
other olks who wouldnt be caught dead driving an electric
car. It would be a waste o time and money to market to
them.
In the cacophony that is todays world, a story can breakthrough the clutter. Funny thing is though; you cant tell
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your story to everybody and have them all get excited. Te
majority o people will just yawn. Yeah, yeah, yeahan-other story. Tey might not put it into those words but the
reality o the situation is that people are busy, rantic really,
and they dont have time or your story. Unless..it really
strikes a chord with them, tting their world-view.
Do you have a story or just a store? I you are an entrepre-
neur, I am betting you have one heck o a story. I bet that
when you have an earnest listener you can really open up
about where the idea or your business came rom, how you
are helping others, the steps you took to bring it into real-
ity, the perseverance needed and the challenges along the
way. Tat is all part o your story; as is your logo, building
and website. Whats special about your product or service is
also part o the story. Everything about your business either
appeals to the world-view o your target market, or bores
them. I it bores them then you dont exist.
As another example, lets say you are a conservative that is
continually upset about what you perceive as liberal bias
in the media. Ten one day, you are ipping through your
500 channel