Considerations of ParenthoodEffective Parenting Skills

Chapter 2, section 1

Parenting—caring for children and helping them grow and develop

Sometimes you have to let them try things on their own, even if that means they fail

Parenting skills needed will change as the children change

Parents need to decide when to encourage children to try new things

Effective Parenting Skills

To improve your parenting skills:ask advice of others who are good parentsread books and magazine articles about

parentingobserve others who are good parentsattend parenting classesgain experience with children

Changes Parenthood BringsNew responsibilitiesChanges in lifestyleEmotional Adjustments

Fear Jealousy Frustration Worry depression

Changes in relationshipsThe rewards of parenthood

Making Decisions about ParenthoodEmotional MaturityDesire for ParenthoodHealth considerationsFinancial ConsiderationsManagement Skills

Set goals Identify resources Make a plan Put the plan into action Re evaluate from time to time

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Chapter 3

Bellwork: List things your family does for you

Functions of the family

Meeting basic needs (give an example of each) Physical Social Intellectual Moral Use example, religious training, and

communication

Family structures (define each):

NuclearSingle parentBlendedExtendedfoster

Family Life Cycle (give one example of a typical concern for each stage):BeginningParental stage 1Parental stage 2Parental stage 3Middle ageRetirement

Trends affecting families

MobilityAging populationEconomic changesWorkplace changesTechnology

Building Strong Families

Forming traditions Celebration traditions Family traditions Patterned family interactions

Shared valuesHandling family conflict

Keep cool Be an active listener Use positive body language

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Parents should try to:Meet needs in all areasUnderstand childrenprovide enrichment and encouragement

deprivation--when children suffer from the lack of a healthy, nurturing envrionment

Provide love and supportoverparenting--being too overprotective

and overattentive

Parenting Styles

AuthoritarianAssertive-DemocraticPermissive

Understanding DisciplineDiscipline--helping children to learn to behave in

acceptable waysConscience--an inner sense of what is right and

wrong self-discipline--the ability to control one’s own

behaviorGuidance—using firmness and understanding to

help children learn how to behaveEffective guidance helps children to develop a

conscience and self-discipline

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Bellwork: Most of us have thought about what types

of parents we want to become. Describe what type of parent you would like to be in a minimum of six sentences.

Guiding behavior

Be a good role modelSet limitsUse positive reinforcement—p. 92 for tips

Communicating Positively

Get on the child’s levelBe simpleBe clearBe positive and politeGive praise and love

Encouraging Appropriate Behavior

Set a good exampleTell them what is expectedOffer ChoicesPraise appropriate behavior

Be specific Be sincere and positive Give the praise as soon as possible Tailor the praise to the needs of the child

Setting LimitsThe limit should allow the child to learn without

too much restrictionIt should be fair and appropriate for the child’s

ageIt should benefit the child and not be just for the

adult’s convenienceSet the limit and explain itacknowledge the child’s feelingsbe understanding of the child’s desiresGive alternatives

Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior

Negative reinforcement--a response that tends to discourage a particular behavior from being repeated

Natural consequencesLoss of privilegesIgnoringTime out--a short period of time during which the

child sits away from the presence of others or from the center of activity

Poor Disciplinary Measures

Bribingmaking children promise to behaveShouting or yellingShaming or belittlingThreatening to withhold love

CONSISTENCY IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING FOR ANY DISCIPLINE TO WORK!!