coaching with presence
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Slides from a mini-workshop at Agile Camp Silicon Valley, 9/21/13. http://www.agilecamp.org/TRANSCRIPT
Coaching with Presence
Jeff McKennaRoger Brown
Agile Camp Silicon Valley 9/21/13© 2013 Roger Brown and Jeff McKenna
What is Coaching?
Coaching is a relationship in which one person is primarily dedicated to serving the long term development of effectiveness and self-generation in the other.
- Doug Silsbee
Service
Learn
Change
Grow
What Tools Does a Coach Have?
Mechanics Soft Skills LeadershipTools Questions AdviceModels Listening GuidanceFrameworks Facilitation Discovery
How are These Tools Applied?
Observation Choice Action
What Do We Observe?
Individuals
Situations
Systems
PlacesTeams
Ourself
How Do We Observe?
In the beginning…. by paying attention
As we grow….by cultivating the skill of Mindfulness
to access the state of Presence
What is Mindfulness?
Mindfulness is the rigorous attention to observing ourselves in action to become fluid, intuitive, aware and exquisitely responsive.
- Doug Silsbee3 Levels• Sensation (physical)• Emotion (feelings)• Mental (meaning, rationalization, use of language)
Active mind plus observing mind
What is Presence?
Presence is the underlying state we access through mindfulness that allows us to be the best person we can be.
- Doug Silsbee
Experienced as- In the moment- Present Tense- Timelessness- Witnessing- Beside yourself- Self-awareness
Presence is always accessible
Contact with Presence:For ourselves– To manage attachments and aversions– To learn, change and grow ourselves– To be a coach, not just do coaching– To be aware of choices
For our clients– To make appropriate choices– To influence their state of being– To nurture mindfulness in them
A Place to Start: PosturePosture sends a subconscious message of energy.
When standing, put your right foot forward and feel your toes.
When sitting, sit up straight and feel your toes. Try leaning a bit forward as well.
Exercise: Physical Awareness
• Choose a partner.• One partner is going to relate a challenging experience from
work for which coaching could have been useful.• The other partner is going to use their listening skills to learn
about the challenge.• When you hear a chime, we will ask you about a particular
physical aspect of the encounter – both coach and client. • Both of you will note things about that aspect that they
noticed, felt or wondered about.
Presence is Essential to Coaching
Tools
Choice
Observation
Mindfulness
Presence
Approaching Mindfulness
• Mindfulness is a practice that takes practice• Mindfulness is essential for successful coaching• Presence is here. Experience it.• Being mindful will enhance our lives and skills, improving
our– Agility– Accountability– Resourcefulness– Resilience– Authenticity– Vitality
Resources• The Mindful Coach and Presence-Based Coaching by Doug Silsbee• The Leadership Dojo by Richard Strozzi-Heckler• Coaching with NLP: How to be a Master Coach• by Joseph O'Connor• The Human Side of Agile by Gil Broza
Presenters
Jeff McKenna, CSC and [email protected]/pub/jeff-mckenna/0/29/71b
Roger Brown, CSC and [email protected]/in/rogerwbrown