Child Developmen

t & Discipline

Child Developmen

t & Discipline

Class Class ObjectiveObjective

Class Class ObjectiveObjective

To understand the To understand the developmental needs developmental needs of Children, & how to of Children, & how to

relate to them relate to them effectively,& to learn effectively,& to learn positive methods of positive methods of

discipline.discipline.

To understand the To understand the developmental needs developmental needs of Children, & how to of Children, & how to

relate to them relate to them effectively,& to learn effectively,& to learn positive methods of positive methods of

discipline.discipline.

Developmental Developmental CharacteristicsCharacteristicsDevelopmental Developmental CharacteristicsCharacteristics

1.1.Toddlers Ages 1-2Toddlers Ages 1-2

2.2. Preschoolers Ages 3-5Preschoolers Ages 3-5

3.3. Adventurers Grades 1-4Adventurers Grades 1-4

1.1.Toddlers Ages 1-2Toddlers Ages 1-2

2.2. Preschoolers Ages 3-5Preschoolers Ages 3-5

3.3. Adventurers Grades 1-4Adventurers Grades 1-4

Mental Characteristics Mental Characteristics

• Learn that Hidden Things Learn that Hidden Things ExistExist

• Realize Past, Present, Realize Past, Present, FutureFuture

• Language Development Language Development Influenced Influenced by Being Read & by Being Read & Talked toTalked to

• Know Meaning of Yes & No Know Meaning of Yes & No

Mental Characteristics Mental Characteristics

• Learn that Hidden Things Learn that Hidden Things ExistExist

• Realize Past, Present, Realize Past, Present, FutureFuture

• Language Development Language Development Influenced Influenced by Being Read & by Being Read & Talked toTalked to

• Know Meaning of Yes & No Know Meaning of Yes & No

ToddlersToddlersToddlersToddlers

Physical Characteristi

cs

Physical Characteristi

cs

• Rapid Growth in SizeRapid Growth in Size

• Rapid Weight GainRapid Weight Gain

• Sensory DevelopmentSensory Development

• Total Mobility Total Mobility DevelopmentDevelopment

• Rapid Growth in SizeRapid Growth in Size

• Rapid Weight GainRapid Weight Gain

• Sensory DevelopmentSensory Development

• Total Mobility Total Mobility DevelopmentDevelopment

Social Social CharacteristiCharacteristi

cscs

Social Social CharacteristiCharacteristi

cscs

• Separation AnxietySeparation Anxiety

• Easily FrustratedEasily Frustrated

• Able to Fake EmotionsAble to Fake Emotions

• Have Recognizable Have Recognizable PersonalityPersonality

• Separation AnxietySeparation Anxiety

• Easily FrustratedEasily Frustrated

• Able to Fake EmotionsAble to Fake Emotions

• Have Recognizable Have Recognizable PersonalityPersonality

Spiritual Spiritual CharacteristicsCharacteristics

Spiritual Spiritual CharacteristicsCharacteristics

• Seeds of Hope, Faith, Love Seeds of Hope, Faith, Love DevelopedDeveloped

• Reinforcement & Consistency Reinforcement & Consistency ImportantImportant

• Mind Being Prepared to Be Mind Being Prepared to Be Receptive Receptive

• Seeds of Hope, Faith, Love Seeds of Hope, Faith, Love DevelopedDeveloped

• Reinforcement & Consistency Reinforcement & Consistency ImportantImportant

• Mind Being Prepared to Be Mind Being Prepared to Be Receptive Receptive

PreschoolersPreschoolersPreschoolersPreschoolers

Mental CharacteristicsMental Characteristics

• Vocabulary Goes from 900 Vocabulary Goes from 900 to to 3000 Words3000 Words

• Learn Basic ConceptsLearn Basic Concepts

Mental CharacteristicsMental Characteristics

• Vocabulary Goes from 900 Vocabulary Goes from 900 to to 3000 Words3000 Words

• Learn Basic ConceptsLearn Basic Concepts

Physical Physical Characteristics Characteristics

• Ride TricycleRide Tricycle

• Throw BallThrow Ball

• Stand on One FootStand on One Foot

• Unbutton, Unzip, & UnfastenUnbutton, Unzip, & Unfasten

• Can Work Puzzles, etc.Can Work Puzzles, etc.

Physical Physical Characteristics Characteristics

• Ride TricycleRide Tricycle

• Throw BallThrow Ball

• Stand on One FootStand on One Foot

• Unbutton, Unzip, & UnfastenUnbutton, Unzip, & Unfasten

• Can Work Puzzles, etc.Can Work Puzzles, etc.

• Need Clear Consistent Need Clear Consistent RulesRules

• Need Opportunities for Need Opportunities for IndependenceIndependence

• Learn to ShareLearn to Share

• Need Balance – Quiet & Need Balance – Quiet & ActiveActive

• Imaginary FriendsImaginary Friends

• Acts Different Around Acts Different Around OthersOthers

• Learn EmpathyLearn Empathy

• Need Clear Consistent Need Clear Consistent RulesRules

• Need Opportunities for Need Opportunities for IndependenceIndependence

• Learn to ShareLearn to Share

• Need Balance – Quiet & Need Balance – Quiet & ActiveActive

• Imaginary FriendsImaginary Friends

• Acts Different Around Acts Different Around OthersOthers

• Learn EmpathyLearn Empathy

Social Social CharacteristicsCharacteristicsSocial Social CharacteristicsCharacteristics

Spiritual Spiritual CharacteristicsCharacteristics

Spiritual Spiritual CharacteristicsCharacteristics

• Develops Picture of GodDevelops Picture of God

• Begins to Learn Right & Begins to Learn Right & WrongWrong

• Becomes Self-AwareBecomes Self-Aware

• Influenced by EnvironmentInfluenced by Environment

• Develops Picture of GodDevelops Picture of God

• Begins to Learn Right & Begins to Learn Right & WrongWrong

• Becomes Self-AwareBecomes Self-Aware

• Influenced by EnvironmentInfluenced by Environment

AdventurersAdventurersAdventurersAdventurersMental CharacteristicsMental Characteristics

• Learns by DoingLearns by Doing

• Curious about EverythingCurious about Everything

• Understands What is Seen Understands What is Seen & & TouchedTouched

• ImaginativeImaginative

• Memorizes Easily & Likes Memorizes Easily & Likes VarietyVariety

Mental CharacteristicsMental Characteristics

• Learns by DoingLearns by Doing

• Curious about EverythingCurious about Everything

• Understands What is Seen Understands What is Seen & & TouchedTouched

• ImaginativeImaginative

• Memorizes Easily & Likes Memorizes Easily & Likes VarietyVariety

Physical Physical CharacteristicsCharacteristics

Physical Physical CharacteristicsCharacteristics

• Boundless EnergyBoundless Energy

• Developing Developing CoordinationCoordination

• Boundless EnergyBoundless Energy

• Developing Developing CoordinationCoordination

Social Social CharacteristicsCharacteristics

Social Social CharacteristicsCharacteristics• Learning Social SkillsLearning Social Skills

• Becoming More Becoming More IndependentIndependent

• Need Success & Adult Need Success & Adult ApprovalApproval

• Becomes Easily Over-Becomes Easily Over-excitedexcited

• Very SocialVery Social

• Begins to Need Peer Begins to Need Peer ApprovalApproval

• Wants to WinWants to Win

• Learning Social SkillsLearning Social Skills

• Becoming More Becoming More IndependentIndependent

• Need Success & Adult Need Success & Adult ApprovalApproval

• Becomes Easily Over-Becomes Easily Over-excitedexcited

• Very SocialVery Social

• Begins to Need Peer Begins to Need Peer ApprovalApproval

• Wants to WinWants to Win

Spiritual Spiritual CharacteristicsCharacteristics

Spiritual Spiritual CharacteristicsCharacteristics

• Concerned about Right & Concerned about Right & WrongWrong

• Still Motivated by Self-Still Motivated by Self-AdvantageAdvantage

• Looks to Parents for GuidanceLooks to Parents for Guidance

• Soaks-up Biblical KnowledgeSoaks-up Biblical Knowledge

• Concerned about Right & Concerned about Right & WrongWrong

• Still Motivated by Self-Still Motivated by Self-AdvantageAdvantage

• Looks to Parents for GuidanceLooks to Parents for Guidance

• Soaks-up Biblical KnowledgeSoaks-up Biblical Knowledge

Effective Effective Club Club

DisciplineDiscipline

Effective Effective Club Club

DisciplineDiscipline Discipline vs. PunishmentDiscipline vs. Punishment

• Discipline is a Process.Discipline is a Process.

• Punishment is an inflicted Punishment is an inflicted consequence.consequence.

Discipline vs. PunishmentDiscipline vs. Punishment

• Discipline is a Process.Discipline is a Process.

• Punishment is an inflicted Punishment is an inflicted consequence.consequence.

Reasons for Reasons for MisbehaviorMisbehaviorReasons for Reasons for MisbehaviorMisbehavior

• A Lack of A Lack of UnderstandingUnderstanding

• A Lack of Self-ControlA Lack of Self-Control

• Unfulfilled NeedsUnfulfilled Needs

• Rebellion & DefianceRebellion & Defiance

• A Lack of A Lack of UnderstandingUnderstanding

• A Lack of Self-ControlA Lack of Self-Control

• Unfulfilled NeedsUnfulfilled Needs

• Rebellion & DefianceRebellion & Defiance

Maintaining Maintaining DisciplineDiscipline

Maintaining Maintaining DisciplineDiscipline

• Provide a Peaceful Provide a Peaceful EnvironmentEnvironment

• Have a Well-Organized Have a Well-Organized Program Program & Be Prepared& Be Prepared

• Establish RapportEstablish Rapport

• Establish Yourself as Establish Yourself as Authority, but Don’t Abuse ItAuthority, but Don’t Abuse It

• Be ConsistentBe Consistent

• Provide a Peaceful Provide a Peaceful EnvironmentEnvironment

• Have a Well-Organized Have a Well-Organized Program Program & Be Prepared& Be Prepared

• Establish RapportEstablish Rapport

• Establish Yourself as Establish Yourself as Authority, but Don’t Abuse ItAuthority, but Don’t Abuse It

• Be ConsistentBe Consistent

Maintaining Maintaining Discipline, Cont.Discipline, Cont.

Maintaining Maintaining Discipline, Cont.Discipline, Cont.

• Be PositiveBe Positive

• Consider the Consider the MotivesMotives

• Change FocusChange Focus

• Be an ExampleBe an Example

• PrayPray

• Be PositiveBe Positive

• Consider the Consider the MotivesMotives

• Change FocusChange Focus

• Be an ExampleBe an Example

• PrayPray

Child AbuseChild AbuseChild AbuseChild Abuse

Physical Physical

SexualSexual

Physical Physical

SexualSexual

Physical AbusePhysical AbusePhysical AbusePhysical AbusePhysical SignsPhysical SignsPhysical SignsPhysical Signs

1.1. Cuts, welts, or swellingCuts, welts, or swelling2.2. BurnsBurns3.3. Cigarette burnsCigarette burns4.4. Burns with a patternBurns with a pattern5.5. FracturesFractures6.6. Scars with peculiar Scars with peculiar

patternpattern7.7. Bruises / bite marksBruises / bite marks

Physical AbusePhysical AbusePhysical AbusePhysical Abuse

Behavioral Behavioral CharacteristicsCharacteristics

Behavioral Behavioral CharacteristicsCharacteristics1.1. Sleep difficultiesSleep difficulties

2.2. Thumb suckingThumb sucking3.3. FearfulnessFearfulness4.4. Listlessness and apathyListlessness and apathy5.5. Aggression and violence Aggression and violence

or or withdrawalwithdrawal

Sexual AbuseSexual AbuseSexual AbuseSexual AbusePhysical SignsPhysical SignsPhysical SignsPhysical Signs

1.1. Torn or stained Torn or stained underclothingunderclothing

2.2. Difficulty with bowel or Difficulty with bowel or bladder controlbladder control

3.3. Soreness, bleeding, or Soreness, bleeding, or discharges from a non-discharges from a non-menstruating girlmenstruating girl

Sexual AbuseSexual AbuseSexual AbuseSexual Abuse

Physical Signs, cont.Physical Signs, cont.Physical Signs, cont.Physical Signs, cont.

4.Trauma to 4.Trauma to breasts,buttocks, breasts,buttocks, lower lower abdomen, thighs, abdomen, thighs, genitals, or rectal areagenitals, or rectal area

5. Evidences of self-5. Evidences of self-mutilationmutilation

Sexual AbuseSexual AbuseSexual AbuseSexual Abuse

Behavioral Behavioral CharacteristicsCharacteristics

Behavioral Behavioral CharacteristicsCharacteristics1.1. Regressive behaviorRegressive behavior

2.2. Refusal to undressRefusal to undress3.3. Poor personal hygienePoor personal hygiene4.4. Obsessively good behaviorObsessively good behavior5.5. Frequent unprovoked Frequent unprovoked

angeranger6.6. Panicking or flinching Panicking or flinching

when when touchedtouched

Sexual AbuseSexual AbuseSexual AbuseSexual Abuse

Behavioral Characteristics, Behavioral Characteristics, cont.cont.

Behavioral Characteristics, Behavioral Characteristics, cont.cont.7. Continually falling asleep 7. Continually falling asleep

during the dayduring the day8. Seductive behavior8. Seductive behavior9. Fire setting9. Fire setting10.Cruelty to smaller 10.Cruelty to smaller

children or children or animalsanimals11.Obsession with 11.Obsession with

punctualitypunctuality

Sexual AbuseSexual AbuseSexual AbuseSexual Abuse

Behavioral Characteristics, Behavioral Characteristics, cont.cont.

Behavioral Characteristics, Behavioral Characteristics, cont.cont.

12. Frequent sore throats, 12. Frequent sore throats, difficulty swallowing or difficulty swallowing or chokingchoking

13. Sudden weight gain or 13. Sudden weight gain or extreme weight lossextreme weight loss

Motivating ChildrenMotivating ChildrenMotivating ChildrenMotivating Children

What we can do:What we can do:

1. Build Relationships1. Build Relationships

2. Be a Role Model2. Be a Role Model

3. Be Careful of 3. Be Careful of StereotypesStereotypes

4. Remember that 4. Remember that Everyone is Everyone is MotivatedMotivated

What we can do:What we can do:

1. Build Relationships1. Build Relationships

2. Be a Role Model2. Be a Role Model

3. Be Careful of 3. Be Careful of StereotypesStereotypes

4. Remember that 4. Remember that Everyone is Everyone is MotivatedMotivated