CHAPTER 17MARRIAGE, PARENTHOOD, & FAMILIES

Section 1 Marriage

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THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF MARRIED PARTNERS

A healthy marriage requires that both partners work together to meet each other’s needs.

They include the following: Love: In a healthy marriage, spouses show their love for

each other through actions and do not depend solely on feelings of love. Feelings can change. Partners need to be patient and supportive of one another.

Commitment: In a healthy marriage, spouses make a commitment to work through their differences, remain faithful to one another, and to make their relationship work. Commitment in marriage requires that both partners be willing to change themselves for the good of the couple.

Compromise: Compromise in marriage means not always getting your way and sometimes giving up what you want. Although compromise requires sacrifice, both partners benefit from the stronger relationship that compromise brings.

Emotional Intimacy: Emotional intimacy is the state of being emotionally connected to the other person. Each partner is responsible for expressing feelings in a truthful, loving way if the relationship is to grow.

THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF MARRIED PARTNERS

ENGAGEMENT AND A HEALTHY MARRIAGE

o Helps develop emotional maturity that is the ability to assess a relationship or situation and react according to what is best for oneself and for the other person in the relationship.

o Gives couples the opportunity to discuss the commitment ahead and build strong relationships.

o Allows the couple time to go to premarital education classes, which help couples discuss their goals and expectations of marriage.

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STRESSES CAUSED BY TEENAGE MARRIAGE

o Independence from parents & familyo Financial worrieso Changes in relationships with close friendso Interaction with in-lawso Concern for a spouse’s emotional &

physical well-beingo Possible parenthood

COMMON REASONS FOR DIVORCE

o Communication problemso Unfulfilled expectations; changing spouseso Different financial habits & goalso Generally several factors contributeo Page 413

MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE STATISTICS

The average age of a woman getting married in the United States is 27. — Bride's Magazine 

The average age of a man getting married in the United States is 29. — Bride's Magazine 

88 percent of American men and women between the ages of 20 and 29 believe that they have a soul mate who is waiting for them. — University Wire, Louisiana State University 

59 percent of marriages for women under the age of 18 end in divorce within 15 years. The divorce rate drops to 36 percent for those married at age 20 or older. — "Cohabitation, Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage in the United States," M.D. Bramlett and W.D. Mosher  

65 percent of altar-bound men and women live together before getting married. — Bride's MagazineResearch indicates that people who live together prior to getting married are more likely to have marriages that end in divorce. — The Boston Herald

Note: Estimated median age at first marriageSource: U.S. Census BureauCredit: Alyson Hurt / NPR

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CHAPTER 17MARRIAGE, PARENTHOOD, & FAMILIES

Section 2 Parenthood

RESPONSIBILITIES OF PARENTHOOD

Responsibilities before birth: Parental habits before and during pregnancy directly affect the health of the baby. Smoking, drinking alcohol, & taking drugs can have serious effects on the developing baby; i.e., Fetal Alcohol Syndrome.

Emotional responsibilities: Assurance that children are loved. Children need time with parents.

Safety responsibilities: Parents must make sure children are safe.

RESPONSIBILITIES OF PARENTHOOD

Financial responsibilities: Supplying basic needs such as food, clothing, & medicine.

Disciplining responsibilities: the act of teaching the child through correction, direction, rules, & reinforcement. Page 416

Parents & teens: Financial and safety responsibilities Relationship between parents & children may change. Effective communication, trust, & understanding allow a

relationship to grow.

PARENTAL BEHAVIORS THAT BUILD HEALTHY SELF-ESTEEM IN

CHILDREN

Giving children time, attention, & physical intimacy

Establishing clear rules and limits

Taking the time to listen and communicate with children

Praising positive behaviors and good choices

CHAPTER 17MARRIAGE, PARENTHOOD, & FAMILIES

Section 3 Families

DIFFERENT TYPES OF FAMILIES

Nuclear family – consists of a mother, father, and one or more biological or adopted children living together

Blended family – made up of biological mother or father, a step-parent, and the children of one or both parents

Single-parent families – A single mother and her children or a single father and his children

Extended families – people who are outside the nuclear family but are related to the nuclear family, such as aunts, uncles, grandparents, and cousins

DIFFERENT TYPES OF FAMILIES

DIFFERENT TYPES OF FAMILIES Adoptive families – people who are established as

permanent legal guardians for children whose biological parents cannot provide for them. This creates a new nuclear family.

Foster families – A person or married couple that is not related to the children agrees to house and raise the children for a period of time.

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CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY FAMILIES

Effective communication – to prevent misunderstandings, build healthy relationships, and express oneself

Respect – refraining from verbally or physically hurting another person. Honoring each other’s privacy and treating each other’s possessions with care

CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY FAMILIES Commitment – being dedicated to

recognizing and achieving what is best for family members. Learning to accept one another in spite of each other’s differences

Love – Feeling we receive when others in the family express affection and unconditional support to us. The effort we expend to build better relationships with our siblings and parents

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