chapter 11 experiencing parenthood: roles and relationships of parents and their children
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Chapter 11
Experiencing Parenthood: Roles and Relationships of Parents and their Children
Chapter Outline
Being Parents Who Actually Takes Care of the
Children? Theories of Child Socialization From the Theoretical to the
Practical: Expert Advice on Child Rearing
Chapter Outline
Styles and Strategies of Child Rearing Children’s Needs, Parents’ Needs Parents’ Needs Issues of Diverse Families Parenting and Caregiving in Later Life
Two Extremes Among Contemporary Fathers:
1. Many men aspire for active, meaningful involvement with their children
2. Others, especially divorced fathers, maintain little actual contact with their children.
Mental Child Care
Worrying: – Mothers worry about their babies
more than fathers do.– Baby worry refers to all the things
that women as primary caregivers must concern themselves with.
– Mother worry refers to whether one is being a good enough mother.
Mental Child Care
Processing information: – Mothers seek out additional
information or advice about children’s development and needs.
– Mothers spend more time and energy in seeking, finding, and disseminating than men do in receiving advice or information.
Mental Child Care
Managing the division of labor:– Women bear the brunt of having to
seek assistance with child care from their partners.
– They have to decide what type of help to ask for, when to seek it, and what to do if it is not forthcoming.
Non Parental Child Care
77% of the more than 8 million 3- to 5-year-olds are in some form of nonparental child care.
3 out of 4 children from families earning over $75,000, spend time in “center-based programs”.
Among children whose families earn less than $40,000, little more than half spend time in such programs.
Freud, Piaget, and Erikson Compared
Freud Piaget Erikson
Infancy OralSensori-motor
Trust vs. mistrust
AnalAutonomy vs. shame and doubt
Early childhood
PhallicPre-
operationalInitiative vs. guilt
Freud, Piaget, and Erikson Compared
Freud Piaget Erikson
Late-middle childhood
LatencyConcrete
operational
Industry vs.
inferiority
Adolescence GenitalFormal
operationalIdentity vs. confusion
Freud, Piaget, and Erikson Compared
Freud Piaget Erikson
Early adulthood
Intimacy vs. isolation
Middle adulthood
Generativity vs. stagnation
Late adulthood
Ego integrity vs. despair
Attachment Patterns in 12- to 18-Month-Olds in the “Strange Situation”
Attachmentpattern
Behavior Before Separation
SecureSeparates from mother to explore toys; is friendly toward stranger
when mother is there
Anxious/ ambivalent
Has difficulty separating to explore toys; stays close to
mother
Anxious/ avoidant
Separates to explore toys; shows little preference for parent over
stranger
Attachment Patterns in 12- to 18-Month-Olds in the “Strange Situation”
AttachmentPattern
Behavior During Separation
SecureMay cry; play is subdued for a while, usually recovers, plays
Anxious/ ambivalent
Is very distressed; cries hysterically, continues to cry;
Anxious/ avoidant
Shows no distress;continues to play; interacts with strangers
Attachment Patterns in 12- to 18-Month-Olds in the “Strange Situation”
AttachmentPattern
Reunion Behavior
Secure
If distressed during separation, contact with mother ends
distress; if not distressed; greets mother with affection
Anxious/ ambivalent
Seeks comfort but then rejects it; may be passive
Anxious/ avoidant
Ignores or moves away from mother.
Attachment Patterns in 12- to 18-Month-Olds in the “Strange Situation”
AttachmentPattern
Behavior with Stranger
SecureSomewhat friendly; may play with
stranger
Anxious/ ambivalent
Wary of stranger; rejects offers to play
Anxious/ avoidant
Does not avoid staranger
Needs for Optimal Child Development
Adequate prenatal nutrition and care.
Appropriate stimulation and care of newborns.
The formation of at least one close attachment during the first five years.
Needs for Optimal Child Development Support for the family including child
care when a parent or parents must work.
Protection from illness. Freedom from physical and sexual
abuse. Supportive friends, both adults and
children.
Needs for Optimal Child Development Respect for the child’s individuality and
appropriate challenges leading to competence.
Safe, nurturing, and challenging schooling.
An adolescence “free of pressure to grow up too fast, yet respectful of natural biological transformations”
Protection from premature parenthood.
% of Population, Over 30, Responsible for Grandchildren, 2000
Gay and Lesbian Parents
Children of gay and lesbian generally:– Maintain close relationships with their
parents.– Are well-adjusted.– Develop the same sexual orientations
and gender roles as children of heterosexuals.
Comtemporary Strategies for Child Rearing
Include elements of:– Mutual respect– Consistency and clarity– Logical consequences– Open communication – Behavior modification in place of
physical punishment.
Grandparenting
An important role for the middle-aged and aged.
Three Styles of Grandparenting:1. Companionate2. Remote 3. Involved