change yourself, change your world

CHANGE YOURSELF,

CHANGE YOUR WORLD

Better Relationships Made

Easy

http://eternalspiralbooks.com/change-yourself-change-your-world/

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INTRODUCTION We all long for a better life and easier

relationships. What if we could gain these with just a

few small changes in our lives? Instead of trying to re-direct the river,

you can learn how to go with the flow. Define your best self and travel

towards it. It will be a challenge, but easier than

trying to change the entire world.


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1: RELATIONSHIPS START WITH YOU If you find yourself often wishing that the

people around you could be different in some way, you will have a lot of work cut out for you to mold and manipulate them into exactly the person you are insisting they should be.

If you are thinking, “Why should I change? Why should I make the first move?” you might damage the relationship beyond repair.

Your relationships start with YOU.


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2: WINNING FRIENDS AND INFLUENCING PEOPLE There are a huge number of self-help guides on

relationships. You don’t need to spend ages studying all of these how-to manuals if you just take some time to evaluate where you are in your life at the present.

What do you really want? Examples might include:

I wish I had a better relationship with my kids. I wish I was more valued at work. I wish my partner and I were closer.

Once you identify the problem, then you can come up with the right strategies to achieve your goals.


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3: CHANGING CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS Most people try to change their loved one by nagging

and complaining. But if YOU make any change you are hoping for all

about them and the benefits they will gain, it will be much easier to bring about the result you wish. Make the change about THEM, not you.

For example, if you partner smokes cigarettes, complaining about the smell, etc won’t work.

Instead, leave brochures all over the house about the fabulous vacations you could enjoy if you just had a bit more money. Tally of how much they spend smoking every month. Then they have a choice-vacation, or unhealthy habit that means their cash is literally going up in smoke.


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4: BEING YOUR TRUE SELF In order to maintain happy relationships, you

need to be your true self, not who others wish you to be.

This can be difficult if you have been taught to be or have fallen into the role of ‘People Pleaser’ (PP).

Most PPs end up making everyone else happy but themselves.

PP have few boundaries and do not know how to say no.

They get imposed upon and exhausted. They run on an empty gas tank with few of

their needs ever being met. It’s time to break the cycle so you can drive

forward on your journey towards the life of your dreams.


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5: CHANGING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH YOUR FAMILY

Ever feel like a human doormat? Here’s an even more painful question: Are you inviting people to walk all over you?

Most people would say, Of course not! Don’t be ridiculous!” In fact, it might be exactly what you are doing without even realizing it.

Family relationships are most difficult because they are the longest-standing and almost inescapable.

But if the dynamic isn’t healthy, it’s time to change it for the better.


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6: POSITIVE CHANGES AT WORK Most of us like to feel appreciated in our jobs

and proud of our careers. But sometimes we hit a wall, or a glass ceiling. Then it seems as if nothing we do can change

the situation except suffer in silence, or go to another company.

The new job might seem like the best option, but it can also be a great deal more work. You will need to prove yourself all over again.

You will also need to navigate successfully through a whole new set of relationships.

Perhaps some simple changes on your part can transform the situation for the better?


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7: HOW TO DEAL WITH PEOPLE WHO SABOTAGE YOU It is great to want to improve yourself

in order to improve your relationships. But you might discover that you meet

with unexpected resistance from the important people in your life.

What should you do if you discover someone you care about is sabotaging you and putting obstacles in the way of you working towards a better self?


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8: HOW TO PUT THE SPARK BACK IN YOUR ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP Whenever we hear the word relationship,

we immediately think romance, such as boyfriend, girlfriend, partner or spouse. There are of course many different kinds of relationships, but for many of us, romantic ones are at the top of the list.

However, all relationship change over time, for a number of reasons. How you handle that change can make all the difference between sizzle and fizzle.


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9: IMPROVING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ONLINE AND OFFLINE

We ALL do it. We are so busy and pressured to get everything done that we dash off an email without reading it through, checking the spelling, and so on.

Or we make a comment or what we think is a joke in email or on one of the social networks, only to find at the end of our plane flight that our boss has fired us.

Fortunately, a little bit of foresight and common sense can help smooth over some of the major trouble spots in online and offline communication.

You will be amazed at how a few simple changes can lead to big results.


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10: CHANGE YOURSELF, CHANGE YOUR WORLD Sometimes small changes can lead to

big results. Change your mind, change your world Re-frame your ‘difficult’ mother or boss

into someone who deserves compassion because they are obviously so unhappy

Also know you have choices-you don’t need to be stuck in unhappy situations when a bit of effort can change things


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CONCLUSION Most of us try to get the world to

change according to what suits us best If we all try to do that at the same

time, there are bound to be winners and losers

If we try to change others, we will get pushy and be resented, and the relationship can end

On the other hand, if we change ourselves, we can change our life for the better!

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