JESUS IS LORD

THE CHALLENGE THE CHALLENGE ofof

CHILD CHILD UPBRINGING UPBRINGING

ininOUR SOCIETY OUR SOCIETY

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1Sam 3:11-141Sam 3:11-14 (GNB)(GNB)

► (11) The LORD said to him, "Some day I am (11) The LORD said to him, "Some day I am going to do something to the people of Israel going to do something to the people of Israel that is so terrible that everyone who hears that is so terrible that everyone who hears about it will be stunned.about it will be stunned.

► (12) On that day I will carry out all my threats (12) On that day I will carry out all my threats against Eli's family, from beginning to end.against Eli's family, from beginning to end.

► (13) I have already told him that I am going to (13) I have already told him that I am going to punish his family forever because his sons punish his family forever because his sons have spoken evil things against me. Eli knew have spoken evil things against me. Eli knew they were doing this, but he did not stop they were doing this, but he did not stop them.them.

► (14) So I solemnly declare to the family of Eli (14) So I solemnly declare to the family of Eli that no sacrifice or offering will ever be able to that no sacrifice or offering will ever be able to remove the consequences of this terrible sin."remove the consequences of this terrible sin."

Aspects of Child Aspects of Child DevelopmentDevelopment

Luk 2:40Luk 2:40►And the child And the child

grew and grew and waxed strong waxed strong in in spiritspirit , filled , filled with wisdom, with wisdom, and God's grace and God's grace was upon him.was upon him.

(Darby)(Darby)

Luk 2:52Luk 2:52►And Jesus And Jesus

advanced in advanced in wisdom and wisdom and stature, and in stature, and in favour with favour with God and men.God and men.

(Darby)(Darby)

Aspects of Child Aspects of Child DevelopmentDevelopment

► BodyBody, Knowledge, , Knowledge, Behaviour, Behaviour, Skill, Skill, Faith. Faith. Luke 2:40, Luke 2:40, 52.52.

(Fitness(Fitness, Acumen, , Acumen, Attitude, Attitude, Agility, Agility, Spirituality)Spirituality)

► Physical Growth & Health.Physical Growth & Health.► Psychological Development:Psychological Development:

Cognitive & IntellectualCognitive & Intellectual Socio-emotional & TemperamentSocio-emotional & Temperament (Language & Communication)(Language & Communication) Psychomotor Skills (Fine & Gross)Psychomotor Skills (Fine & Gross)

► Spiritual Regeneration & GrowthSpiritual Regeneration & Growth

Child Development 5-Child Development 5-11yrs11yrs

►Emotional/Social ChangesEmotional/Social Changes • • More independence from parents More independence from parents

and family. and family. • • Stronger sense of right and wrong. Stronger sense of right and wrong. • • Beginning awareness of the Beginning awareness of the

future. future. • • Growing understanding about Growing understanding about

one’s place in the world. one’s place in the world. • • More attention to friendships and More attention to friendships and

teamwork. teamwork. • • Growing desire to be liked and Growing desire to be liked and

accepted by friends. accepted by friends.

Child Development 5-Child Development 5-11yrs11yrs

►Mental/Cognitive ChangesMental/Cognitive Changes • • Rapid development of Rapid development of mental skills. mental skills.

• • Mentally ready for formal Mentally ready for formal school education. school education.

• • Greater ability to describe Greater ability to describe experiences and talk about experiences and talk about thoughts and feelings. thoughts and feelings.

• • Less focus on one’s self Less focus on one’s self and more concern for othersand more concern for others. .

Puberty Changes 11-14yrsPuberty Changes 11-14yrs

►Body SizeBody Size►HormonesHormones►Body Shape: Body Shape: MusclesMuscles//CurvesCurves►Body Hair (Armpit, Pubis, Face)Body Hair (Armpit, Pubis, Face)►Oily Skin and Breast ChangesOily Skin and Breast Changes►Baritone VoiceBaritone Voice and and Big BosomsBig Bosoms►EmissionsEmissions and and MenstruationMenstruation

Puberty Development 11-Puberty Development 11-14yrs14yrs

Emotional/Social ChangesEmotional/Social Changes►More concern about body image, looks, More concern about body image, looks,

and clothes. and clothes. ►Focus on self, going back and forth Focus on self, going back and forth

between high expectations and lack of between high expectations and lack of confidence. confidence.

►Moodiness. Moodiness. ►More interest in and influence by peer More interest in and influence by peer

group. group. ►Less affection shown toward parents.Less affection shown toward parents.►Anxiety from more challenging school Anxiety from more challenging school

work. work. ►Eating problems sometimes start at this Eating problems sometimes start at this

age. age.

Puberty Development 11-Puberty Development 11-14yrs14yrs

Mental/Cognitive Changes Mental/Cognitive Changes ►More ability for complex thought. More ability for complex thought. ►Better able to express feelings Better able to express feelings

through talking. through talking. ►A stronger sense of right and A stronger sense of right and

wrong. wrong. ►Many teens sometimes feel sad Many teens sometimes feel sad

or depressed. Depression can or depressed. Depression can lead to poor grades at school, lead to poor grades at school, alcohol or drug use, sexual alcohol or drug use, sexual indulgence, and other problems. indulgence, and other problems.

2Tim 3:1-52Tim 3:1-5►(1) You must realize, however, that in the (1) You must realize, however, that in the

last days difficult times will come.last days difficult times will come.►(2) People will be lovers of themselves, (2) People will be lovers of themselves,

lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, abusive, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy,unholy,

►(3) unfeeling, uncooperative, slanderous, (3) unfeeling, uncooperative, slanderous, degenerate, brutal, hateful of what is good,degenerate, brutal, hateful of what is good,

►(4) traitors, reckless, conceited, and lovers (4) traitors, reckless, conceited, and lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God.of pleasure rather than lovers of God.

►(5) They will hold to an outward form of (5) They will hold to an outward form of godliness but deny its power. Stay away godliness but deny its power. Stay away from such people.from such people.

Negative Societal Negative Societal Influence 1Influence 1

ViolenceViolence►AggressionAggression►RapeRape►RobberyRobbery►GangsterismGangsterism►RebellionRebellion

DiabolismDiabolism►OccultismOccultism►Demon Demon

ConsultationConsultation►SuperstitionsSuperstitions►CultismCultism

Negative Societal Negative Societal Influence 2Influence 2

HomeHome► Family BreakdownFamily Breakdown►Hostile HomesHostile Homes►NeglectNeglect► AbandonmentAbandonment►Over-pamperingOver-pampering► Bad ExampleBad Example►DemonisedDemonised► ChristlessChristless

Corrupting Corrupting PressuresPressures

► Social trendsSocial trends► Peer PressurePeer Pressure► Bad CompanyBad Company► Fashion/TrendsFashion/Trends► TV/Internet/Media/ITTV/Internet/Media/IT► Corrupt Demands Corrupt Demands

(School/Office)(School/Office)► Lying & DeceitLying & Deceit

Negative Societal Negative Societal Influence 3Influence 3

InsensitivityInsensitivity► ShamelessnessShamelessness►GodlessnessGodlessness► ConsciencelessConscienceless

StressStress► From Work/BusinessFrom Work/Business► From SchoolFrom School► From HomeFrom Home► From MultimediaFrom Multimedia

IndulgencesIndulgences►Sexual PromiscuitySexual Promiscuity►Drug abuse & Drug abuse &

addictionaddiction►Smoking & DrinkingSmoking & Drinking►GreedGreed►Pleasure & RevelryPleasure & Revelry►LazinessLaziness

Negative Societal Negative Societal Influence 4Influence 4

ChurchChurch►Unbiblical FaithUnbiblical Faith►WorldlinessWorldliness►ExploitationExploitation►InnovationsInnovations►Human AgendaHuman Agenda►RevisionismRevisionism

WorldviewWorldview►PostmodernisPostmodernis

mm►RelativismRelativism►IndividualisIndividualis

mm►AntiauthoritAntiauthorit

yy►Self-Self-

centeredcentered►HedonismHedonism

Godly Parenting 1Godly Parenting 1

Care – SpiritualCare – Spiritual►Lead in DevotionLead in Devotion►Lead to FaithLead to Faith► Initiate/DedicateInitiate/Dedicate►Verify Vows,Verify Vows,► IntercedeIntercede►BlessBless

Care – SocialCare – Social►LoveLove►ProvideProvide►NourishNourish►ProtectProtect►Not PerplexNot Perplex

Godly Parenting 2Godly Parenting 2

Coach – TrainingCoach – Training►CommandCommand► InstructInstruct►TeachTeach►DemonstrateDemonstrate►MotivateMotivate►DelegateDelegate►Evaluate Evaluate

Censor – Censor – DisciplineDiscipline

►CorrectCorrect►PunishPunish►RewardReward►RestrainRestrain►RebukeRebuke

Healthy Parenting – Healthy Parenting – Provide Provide

►Healthy Parenting Healthy Parenting –– Trust, Protection, Provision, Trust, Protection, Provision, Exemplary Moral/Spiritual Guidance,Exemplary Moral/Spiritual Guidance, Informal and Informal and Formal Education, Good Healthcare. Formal Education, Good Healthcare.

► Immunization Immunization –– Ensure regular immunization has Ensure regular immunization has been completed against Tuberculosis (BCG), Polio, been completed against Tuberculosis (BCG), Polio, Diphtheria, Pertussis (Whooping cough), Tetanus, Diphtheria, Pertussis (Whooping cough), Tetanus, Measles. Measles.

► Also vacciAlso vaccinatenate against Meningitis, Typhoid, Mumps, against Meningitis, Typhoid, Mumps, Rubella, Hepatitis, Yellow fever, Pneumonia & Use Rubella, Hepatitis, Yellow fever, Pneumonia & Use Mosquito Mosquito netsnets

►Healthcare Provision Healthcare Provision –– Provide safe and healthy Provide safe and healthy environment for your child to grow up in.environment for your child to grow up in.

► Ensure ready access to Primary, Secondary and Ensure ready access to Primary, Secondary and Tertiary Healthcare at Home and at School.Tertiary Healthcare at Home and at School.

Healthy Parenting – Healthy Parenting – GuideGuide

► Sex Education –Sex Education – Sexuality, Promiscuity, Sexuality, Promiscuity, Premarital Pregnancy, STDs, PIDs.Premarital Pregnancy, STDs, PIDs.

►Health Education –Health Education – Personal Hygiene, Personal Hygiene, Malaria, Contagious Diseases (Mumps, RTIs, Malaria, Contagious Diseases (Mumps, RTIs, Worms, G.E. CSM), HIV/AIDS, Substance Worms, G.E. CSM), HIV/AIDS, Substance Abuse, Diet, Safety.Abuse, Diet, Safety.

►Guard against Risky (Unhealthy) Guard against Risky (Unhealthy) Behaviour –Behaviour – Smoking & Drinking, Drug Smoking & Drinking, Drug Abuse, Overeating, Sexual Promiscuity, Poor Abuse, Overeating, Sexual Promiscuity, Poor Hygiene, Injurious Exposure (Danger, Hygiene, Injurious Exposure (Danger, Violence, Gangsterism, Fighting, Criminality)Violence, Gangsterism, Fighting, Criminality)

““All they that take the sword shall perish with the sword”All they that take the sword shall perish with the sword” Matt Matt 26:5226:52

Positive Parenting – Positive Parenting – ProtectProtect

► • • Protect your Protect your childchild properly in the car. properly in the car. All All children younger than 12 yearschildren younger than 12 years of age of age should ride in the back seat with a should ride in the back seat with a seatbelt properly fastened seatbelt properly fastened

► • • Teach your child to watch traffic and Teach your child to watch traffic and how to be safe when walking to school, how to be safe when walking to school, riding a bike, and playing outside. riding a bike, and playing outside.

► • • Make sure your child understands Make sure your child understands water safety, and always supervise her water safety, and always supervise her when she’s swimming or playing near when she’s swimming or playing near water. water.

Positive Parenting – Positive Parenting – ProtectProtect

►• • Supervise your Supervise your childchild when he’s when he’s engaged in risky activities, such as engaged in risky activities, such as climbing. climbing.

►• • Talk with your child about how to ask Talk with your child about how to ask for help when she needs it. for help when she needs it.

►• • Keep potentially harmful household Keep potentially harmful household products, tools, equipment, and firearms products, tools, equipment, and firearms out of your child’s reach out of your child’s reach

►Many children get home from school Many children get home from school before their parents get home from before their parents get home from work. It is important to have clear rules work. It is important to have clear rules and plans for your child when she is and plans for your child when she is home alonehome alone

Positive Parenting – Positive Parenting – CareCare

► • • Show affection for your Show affection for your childchild. Recognize her . Recognize her accomplishments. accomplishments.

► • • Help your child develop a sense of Help your child develop a sense of responsibility—ask him to help with household responsibility—ask him to help with household tasks, such as setting the table, clean-ups. tasks, such as setting the table, clean-ups.

► • • Talk with your child about school, friends, and Talk with your child about school, friends, and things she looks forward to in the future. things she looks forward to in the future.

► • • Talk with your child about respecting others. Talk with your child about respecting others. Encourage him to help people in need. Encourage him to help people in need.

► • • Help your child set her own achievable goals—Help your child set her own achievable goals—she’ll learn to take pride in herself and rely less she’ll learn to take pride in herself and rely less on approval or reward from others. on approval or reward from others.

► • • Make clear rules and stick to them, such as Make clear rules and stick to them, such as what or how long your child can watch TV or what or how long your child can watch TV or when he has to go to bed. Be clear about what when he has to go to bed. Be clear about what behavior is okay and what is not okay. behavior is okay and what is not okay.

Positive Parenting – Positive Parenting – CareCare► • • Help your Help your childchild learn patience by letting others go learn patience by letting others go

first or by finishing a task before going out to play. first or by finishing a task before going out to play. Encourage him to think about possible consequences Encourage him to think about possible consequences before acting. before acting.

► • • Do fun things together as a family, such as playing Do fun things together as a family, such as playing games, reading, and going to events in your games, reading, and going to events in your community. community.

► • • Get involved with your child’s school. Meet the Get involved with your child’s school. Meet the teachers and staff to understand the learning goals teachers and staff to understand the learning goals and how you and the school can work together to and how you and the school can work together to help your child do well. help your child do well.

► • • Continue reading to your child. As your child learns Continue reading to your child. As your child learns to read, take turns reading to each other. to read, take turns reading to each other.

► • • Use Use disciplinediscipline to guide and protect your child, to guide and protect your child, rather than rather than punishmentpunishment to make her feel badly about to make her feel badly about herself. herself.

► • • Support your child in taking on new challenges. Support your child in taking on new challenges. Encourage him to solve problems, such as a Encourage him to solve problems, such as a disagreement with another child, on his own. disagreement with another child, on his own.

Positive ParentingPositive Parenting - Safety - SafetyMotor vehicle crashes are the leading cause of death among Motor vehicle crashes are the leading cause of death among 12 to 12 to

1919 year olds. Injuries from sports and other activities are also year olds. Injuries from sports and other activities are also common.common.

► Make sure your teenager knows about the importance of Make sure your teenager knows about the importance of wearing seatbelts. wearing seatbelts.

► Encourage your teenager to wear a helmet when riding a bike, Encourage your teenager to wear a helmet when riding a bike, motorcycle, or all-terrain vehicle. motorcycle, or all-terrain vehicle.

► Talk with your teenager about the dangers of drugs, drinking, Talk with your teenager about the dangers of drugs, drinking, smoking, and risky sexual activity. Listen to and answer smoking, and risky sexual activity. Listen to and answer questions honestly and directly. questions honestly and directly.

► Talk about the importance of having good friends who are Talk about the importance of having good friends who are interested in positive activities. Encourage him to avoid peers interested in positive activities. Encourage him to avoid peers who pressure him to make unhealthy choices. who pressure him to make unhealthy choices.

► Know where your teenager is and whether an adult is present. Know where your teenager is and whether an adult is present. Make plans with her for when she will call you, where you can Make plans with her for when she will call you, where you can find her, and what time you expect her home. find her, and what time you expect her home.

► Set clear rules for your teenager when he is home alone. Talk Set clear rules for your teenager when he is home alone. Talk about such issues as having friends at the house; how to handle about such issues as having friends at the house; how to handle unsafe situations (emergencies, fire, drugs, sex, internet) and unsafe situations (emergencies, fire, drugs, sex, internet) and homework or household tasks to complete. homework or household tasks to complete.

Positive ParentingPositive Parenting - Trust - TrustTrust is important for Trust is important for teenagersteenagers. Even as she develops . Even as she develops

independence, she will need to know she has your support. At independence, she will need to know she has your support. At the same time, she will need you to respect her needs for the same time, she will need you to respect her needs for privacy. privacy.

► Honest and direct talk about sensitive subjects such as drugs, Honest and direct talk about sensitive subjects such as drugs, drinking, smoking, sex, marriage and religion. drinking, smoking, sex, marriage and religion.

► Encourage exercise and keep active: team or individual sport, Encourage exercise and keep active: team or individual sport, household tasks such as mowing the lawn, house cleaning, household tasks such as mowing the lawn, house cleaning, cooking or washing the car. cooking or washing the car.

► Eating meals together: promotes healthy choice of foods and Eating meals together: promotes healthy choice of foods and weight, and gives your family time to talk to each other. weight, and gives your family time to talk to each other.

► Meet and get to know your teenager’s friends. Meet and get to know your teenager’s friends. ► Show an interest in your teenager’s school life. Show an interest in your teenager’s school life. ► Help your teenager make healthy choices while encouraging him Help your teenager make healthy choices while encouraging him

to make his own decisions and develop solutions to problems or to make his own decisions and develop solutions to problems or conflicts. conflicts.

► Listen to and Respect your teenager’s opinions and take into Listen to and Respect your teenager’s opinions and take into account her thoughts and feelings.account her thoughts and feelings.

► Compliment your teenager and celebrate her efforts and Compliment your teenager and celebrate her efforts and accomplishments. accomplishments.

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