bullying & the role of the resident assistant
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A workshop I developed for Resident Assistants at Stonehill College to help them identify Bullying in the residence halls, and provide them with tools to help promote a safe living and learning environment.TRANSCRIPT
Bullying, Cyberbullying & CyberSecurity: THE ROLE OF THE RA
Information you NEED to know!Sponsored By:
Massachusetts Aggression Reduction
Center
@BridgeStateU
Learning Objectives:• Define Bullying & the difference between
fighting
• Identify Helping Skills you can use with your residents
• Provide you with resources and ways to be an effective helper
• Understand the “publicness” of the Internet and its’ consequences
• Understand that privacy does not exist on the
Internet
Power
Suppo
rtOver & Over Sad or
Afraid
DESTROY or DAMAGE friendships and status
RUMORS
Remember…They will say anything!!!
Everyone’s a target
Made up so you feel bad!!
Don’t buy it!!!
Someone reports being bullied....
What do you do?
The RA as HelperThe Helping Relationship
Foundational Skills
• ACTIVE Listening• Empathy• Positive Affirmation• Modeling• Appropriate Self-Disclosure
The Bullying Puzzle
• Don’t be one. Think about what you are doing.
Don’t laugh along
Don’t join in.
Don’t spread rumors.
Talk about it!!!
Stay out of it!
Help get the victim outWalk away
CALL THE BULLY OUT
Show the victim support
BYSTANDERS
The Audience That
Says Nothing
Could be anyone
It’s ALL called cyberbullying but…
Most online
problems are
CONFLICT, not
Cyberbullying
“Before you get mad…”
Talk to them
Write it down
What else could it mean?
24 hour rule
IS IT WORTH IT?
VENT
The Internet…
You can learn a lot...
Others can learn A LOT about you!!!
What do you want them to know???
Your Billboard...
Great GPAActivities
Stuff that makes you look GOOD!
#SpringBreak13
430 friends
Right click, copy, & paste
Your “friends” can join you into any group they want - without
your permission.
What about your “friends”???
GEOTAGGING
They can tag you in photos
Meet Josh…
He was tagged in a photo
What about your “friends”???
Passwords + “privacy”
PRIVACY SETTINGS
Check them at least once a week
What do your apps know about you?
But remember…NOTHING online is ever
really private!!!
A STRONG password:
At least 8 charactersUpper case, lower case, numbers, and
symbols
Which is more secure??J0g!@!@!@!@!@!Mh65GH8c10Sy1j
Biggest problems residents face...
SEXTINGAGGRESSION
DRINKING / DRUGS
Belonging to a racist, prejudiced, biased,
or “hate” group
POLICY VIOLATION
Helping Skills Solution Giving
Offering Alternatives
Information Giving Offering Advice ???
Feedback Support Constructive Criticism
Active Listening
Characteristics of Effective Helpers:
• Being Real
• Being Open
• Being Empathetic
• Having High Integrity
• Being an Experiencer of Life
• Having Good Emotional Health
• Being an Alliance Builder
• Being Competent
• Invasive? Maybe.• Fair? It’s public information. The person who posts it is making it public.
Is it fair for adults to judge
you on your profile?
Can you really get in
trouble??
Impressions...
Bullying & the Law in Mass• Criminal harassment
• Civil rights violations
• Taking photos
• Taking video
• The new law
•Don’t Respond!
•Ignore it!
• Print it.
•Tell the service provider.
•Talk about it.
•Think about what you post!
One final thought…
Treat your passwordlike your
toothbrus
Don’t share it!!!
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