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BullyingHow To Recognize &
Prevent it From Happening To Your Child
Before It Is Too Late
Target audience: Parents of bullies
What is Bullying?
Definition:
Bullying is when a person or group repeatedly tries to harm someone who is weaker or who they think is weaker
Bullying is often thought of as a direct attack such as hitting, name calling, taunting, and teasing, but it also includes indirect attacks such as spreading rumors or trying to make others reject someone.
What is indirect bullying often called?
Bullying Facts Approximately one of three students report they
have experienced bullying either as a perpetrator or a victim
Being picked on about speech and appearance were the most common topics associated with bullying
70% – 80% of bullies and victims are in the same school classroom
Bullying reportedly decreases from fall of 6th grade to spring of 8th grade
Potential reasons?
Which gender is more likely to be a bully, male or female?
What about victims?
*http://stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/kids/what-is-bullying.aspx
Forms of Bullying
Physical/Verbal Bullying
Punching shoving, and other acts that physically cause harm
Spreading rumors about another person
Keeping certain people out of a group
Teasing in a hurtful way
Getting certain peers to gang up on other peers
Being belittled about looks or speech
Electronic/Cyber Bullying
Sending mean text messages, emails, or instant messages
Posting inappropriate pictures or messages about others in blogs or on websites
Using someone else’s user name to spread rumors or lies about someone
The effects of physical/verbal bullying
Victims
Increased loneliness
Difficulty developing friendships
Bullies and victims
Higher risk of experiencing depression
Suicidal ideation
Suicide attempts
More health problems
Lower academic achievement
What you can do as a parent of the bully?
Monitor your child’s behavior with friends at home and in the community
Keep in touch with school staff and ask about your child’s behavior at school
Model appropriate behaviors for your children
Talk to other parents at school about your children
Have a direct conversation about bullying and let your child know the harmful effects of bullying
What can you do as the parent of the Victim?
Spend time with your child and ask them about their school day and if they were bullied
Tell your child they can be open and honest with you
Pay attention to signs of loneliness or depression
Monitor your child’s school attendance and achievement
Seek help for your child if they are being bullied (ex. Counseling)
Ask your school about school based intervention programs
Ex. Dan Olweus
Dan Olweus’s Intervention Program
Goal of the program is to decrease bullying
Program focuses on children between 6 and 15 years of age
School staff are taught ways to make children feel safer and increase positive peer interaction
When done correctly, bullying decreases by 30%-70%
www.colardo.edu/espv/blueprints
How does cyber-bullying affect your child?
The Bully Cyber bullies have higher
rates of anxiety, depression, and school absences compared to children who are not involved with bullying
The Victim Students have indicated
that cyber-bullying makes them feel sad and unwilling to attend school
Cyber bully victims have the highest rates of anxiety, depression, and school absences compared to children that have not been involved in cyber bullying
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gE5yINOn4N4
How YOU can help stop cyberbullying
Explain to your child that bullying is harmful and an unacceptable behavior. Outline your expectations for them this includes appropriate behavior and responsible online use. Make it clear there will be consequences for inappropriate behavior.
Make an agreement with your children to keep all internet capable devices out of their bedrooms (age appropriate)
Talk regularly with your child about online activities that he or she is involved in
Install a parent control filtering software/monitoring programs on your computer but DO NOT rely solely on these programs
Talk about bullying with your child and encourage them to tell you immediately if they are the victim of any type of bullying
If it is cyber bullying explain to them that you will not take their technology if they confide in you about the problems they are having
*http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/adults/cyber-bullying.aspx
Summary
Bullying can be harmful to children. Bullying can decrease your child’s health and hurt their academic performance
Children are likely involved in some sort of bullying whether they are the victim or the perpetrator
Bullying can occur directly in forms such as physical or verbal aggression or it can be indirect through spreading rumors and excluding others
Stop bullying before it is too late
Talk to your children
Talk to your school and community
Additional resources
Santrock, J. W. (2011) Life-span development (13th ed.). New York, NY: Mc-Graw Hill
Companies, Inc.
http://attorneygeneral.delaware.gov/schools/bullquesti.shtml
http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/kids/what-is-bullying.aspx
http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/adults/cyber-bullying.aspx
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gE5yINOn4N4