building leadership skills convincing & influencing instructor: marie l. radford, ph.d....
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Building Leadership SkillsConvincing & Influencing
Instructor:
Marie L. Radford, Ph.D.
An Infopeople Workshop
Summer 2009
This Workshop Is Brought to Youby the Infopeople Project
Infopeople is a federally-funded grant project supported by the California State Library. It provides a wide variety of training to California libraries. Infopeople workshops are offered around the state and are open registration on a first-come, first-served basis.
For a complete list of workshops, and for other information about the project, go to the Infopeople website at infopeople.org.
Introductions
• Instructor
• Participants– Name– Library– Position– Your Interests, Telling A (Convincing) Lie
Overview
• Influencing, Convincing, Persuading
- definitions, tactics, & ethics
• Resistance to Change
• Generating Compliance
• Strategies for Making a Persuasive Case
Strongly Opposed
Mod.Opposed
Slightly Opposed
Neutral Slightly in Favor
Mod. in Favor
Strongly in Favor
Degrees of Persuasion
Persuasion involves any movement by the other from left to right.
Ethics of Influence & Persuasion• Define ethics?
• Right vs. wrong?
• What moral principles guide you?
• How do you usually strike a balance:– What you want?– What is ethical?– Desired outcome?
For Discussion
• What did you learn?
• How do leaders spread positive
influence? Negativity?
• What impact does gratitude have on your performance? Self-esteem?
• How can you tell gratitude is sincere?
• Opportunities for using influence to motivate others?
Types of Resistance to Change• General resistance
– I don’t want to– I’m too busy
• Specific resistance– It’s too expensive– It’ll take too much time
• Passive-aggressive resistance– Whatever
Countering Resistance• Accept as part of process
• Uncover reasons
• Address resistance – Logic– Humor– Challenge– 9 Laws of Persuasion
For Discussion
• What did you learn?
• More difficult to persuade, or
to resist? Why?
• How can you use win-win thinking to be persuasive?
Think & Act “Win-Win”
• Identify & satisfy underlying needs
• Look out for yourself & other
• Actively seek & create wins
Words that InfluenceBe positive
– Let me find out…– What I can do is…– Would you please…
Be curious– Please tell me more…
Beware influence destroyers– See Tip Sheet!
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Effective Listening
DO’S• Pay attention• Listen actively• Invite talk• Open mind• Supportive • Show acceptance
& understanding• Note NV cues
DON’TS
• Rush to fill silences
• Be defensive
• Forget to listen for feelings
• Hesitate to clarify
• Glaze over
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Active Listening Techniques
• Encouraging– “I see…”
• Restating– “If I understand, your idea is…”
• Reflecting– “You were pretty upset by…”
• Summarizing– “These seem to be key ideas you’ve expressed…”
Another Simple Compliance Technique
• Influence through expressions of gratitude & praise.
• Remember power of please & thank you
For Discussion• What did you learn?
• Was this easy or not, & why?
• What impact will notes have?
• How can writing thank-you notes inspire & motivate others?
• How can this become a habit?
Nonverbal Communication & Persuasion
• Types of NV communication (See Tip Sheet)
• Importance of congruence
• Messages of sincerity
• Remaining outwardly calm
Presenting Main Points to Convince Others
• Building credibility
• Using evidence
• Reasoning
• Appealing to emotions
Powerful Presentation Techniques
• Place strongest points…– First (primacy)– Last (recency)
• Deal with opposing arguments• 4 Elements - persuasive case• Strategic considerations
– See Tip Sheet on Persuasive Techniques & Leadership Principles
For Discussion
• What did you learn?
• Characteristics of most persuasive speeches?
• What would you have done with more time? With Web access?