AVOID CONVENIENCE BUT

BE COMMITTED TO YOUR

SPOUSE AND MARRIAGE

It is not about what you get in the marriage

but about what do you bring into this

marriage. A major problem in any marriage

is lack of commitment.

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What kind of committed person

are you?

1. There are basically two kinds

of persons in life.

2. There are the CONVENIENCE

PEOPLE and the COMMITTED

PEOPLE.

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CONVENIENCE PEOPLE These are emotional based. They are

ruled and controlled by emotions . They like doing the easiest things. Other aspects about them include:

When I feel good then I will do it. They are controlled by moods. Do I

want to do it? Have selfish mindset.

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Look for excuses.

Outwardly influenced

Quit during the tough times.

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COMMITTED PEOPLE

These are character based and make their

decisions out of character. They want to

do what is right? Other aspects about

them:

When I do it then I will feel good.

They are controlled by priority and

doing things

right, and have servanthood mindset

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Life & lips agree.

Look for solutions.

Inwardly influenced

Continue during the tough times.

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This is the difference between those

marriages that last and those that break-

up.

Please understand this: The break-ups

are not because their marriages have

more severe problems. Marriages break-

up because the couple is looking for a

way out instead of a way to keep it

together. There will always be some kind

of excuses.

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Always look at the kind of person you can

become.

You cannot go back and make a brand

new start. But both of you can start now

and make a brand new end.

Don’t focus on where you have been

but on where you intend to take your

marriage.

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Look at where you are right now.

Begin to focus on the right direction.

This will bring about a great marriage

and great relationships.

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Be a person of character.

Character is the ability to carry out a

good resolution long after the mood in

which it was made is past. Follow

through on your decisions. Don’t wait

until you feel like doing it but do it and

then you will start feeling better about

doing it.

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You don’t quit because you are committed.

Feelings follow commitment.

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If your marriage relationship is going

sour, then your commitment is weak.

It is very easy to see that you or your

spouse has changed. There are certain

issues you could not have undertaken

without involving your spouse. If you

have changed, then your spouse would

also change. The commitment has

eroded.

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Be honest enough to recognize and

acknowledge this fact. Be willing to do

something about it.

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HOW DO I RENEW OR CREATE COMMITMENT TO MY

SPOUSE?

You must make a Character Commitment.

Remember those things that you committed to your spouse. Do you do them?

Ask your spouse to keep on reminding you about those things as a way of refreshing your thoughts. By the way, women have a very high memory of what they were promised. A man can easily forget.

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You must focus on what is right in your

marriage.

If you are always focusing on what is

wrong then you will never be able to

build on the strong points.

Spouses who only focus on what is

wrong usually fall apart.

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You must begin now doing things together.

People who do things together will grow

close together. This is a good sign of a

healthy marriage.

People who do not will not grow close

together. The distance between them will

continue increasing and there will be a lot of

suspicion and tension will grip into the

marriage.

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You will only do things together as you

set apart time for each other. Be there

for each other. Set times to be together.

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You become other person focused.

Put all your efforts in your spouse. Focus on

how to build your marriage relationship. Make

the most of all the opportunities to enhance

your marriage.

You must constantly and consistently try to

please your spouse. Pleasing your mate must

be your main goal in life outside of serving

God.

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You must become patient and tolerant.

Most couples rush and tear each other. We

must learn to be tolerant and accommodative

to each other.

Let’s not forget what God has done in

forgiving us.

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You must continue to verbalize your

commitment to one another.

Let your spouse hear you say how

committed you are to them and vice

versa.

Talk to each other about what each one

is doing and if there are solutions that

the other spouse can give.

Say with love and meaning, not with a

mechanical format that has no meaning.

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You have to:

REMEMBER THE DAY YOU MADE A

COMMITMENT TO YOUR SPOUSE

YOU CAN RECALL YOUR MARITAL

JOURNEY AND

YOU CAN RENEW YOUR COMMITMENT

TO YOUR SPOUSE.

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REMEMBER THE DAY YOU MADE A

COMMITMENT TO YOUR SPOUSE. You

need to RECALL YOUR MARITAL

JOURNEY.

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It is not a marriage of convenience but

one of commitment. Apparently in life, it

appears that you stay with spouse longer

than any other person. Be fully

committed to her/him and enjoy the rest

of your lives together until death

separates you.

BE FULLY COMMITTED AND YOU WILL

ENJOY YOUR MARRIAGE.

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