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Islamic Studies CoursesIslamic Studies CoursesInIn
Chabot, Ohlone, Mission, and De Anza CollegesChabot, Ohlone, Mission, and De Anza CollegesDesigned and TaughtDesigned and Taught
ByByHafiz M. K. Siddiqi, Ph.D.Hafiz M. K. Siddiqi, Ph.D.
Family Life: Selection of Spouse, MarriageFamily Life: Selection of Spouse, MarriageContract, Lessons from the Holy Qur’anContract, Lessons from the Holy Qur’anand the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammadand the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad
pbuh, rights and duties of husband & wifepbuh, rights and duties of husband & wifeand importance of other relationshipsand importance of other relationships
Islamic Studies CoursesIslamic Studies CoursesInIn
Chabot, Ohlone, Mission, and De Anza CollegesChabot, Ohlone, Mission, and De Anza CollegesDesigned and TaughtDesigned and Taught
ByByHafiz M. K. Siddiqi, Ph.D.Hafiz M. K. Siddiqi, Ph.D.
Family Life: Selection of Spouse, MarriageFamily Life: Selection of Spouse, MarriageContract, Lessons from the Holy Qur’anContract, Lessons from the Holy Qur’anand the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammadand the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad
pbuh, rights and duties of husband & wifepbuh, rights and duties of husband & wifeand importance of other relationshipsand importance of other relationships
How to Search for a Spouse?How to Search for a Spouse? Kafaa’ahKafaa’ah: Compatibility in: 1. Education: Compatibility in: 1. Education
2. Religious value system 3. Moral and Ethical2. Religious value system 3. Moral and EthicalValue System.Value System.
Desirable and recommended:Desirable and recommended:
In other areas such as: 1. Cultural backgroundIn other areas such as: 1. Cultural background
2. Hobbies and Interests, etc.2. Hobbies and Interests, etc.
Test of personality: 1. Anger 2. EgoTest of personality: 1. Anger 2. Ego
3. Selfishness 4. Conflict resolution3. Selfishness 4. Conflict resolution
Kafaa’ahKafaa’ah: Compatibility in: 1. Education: Compatibility in: 1. Education
2. Religious value system 3. Moral and Ethical2. Religious value system 3. Moral and EthicalValue System.Value System.
Desirable and recommended:Desirable and recommended:
In other areas such as: 1. Cultural backgroundIn other areas such as: 1. Cultural background
2. Hobbies and Interests, etc.2. Hobbies and Interests, etc.
Test of personality: 1. Anger 2. EgoTest of personality: 1. Anger 2. Ego
3. Selfishness 4. Conflict resolution3. Selfishness 4. Conflict resolution
Marriage ContractMarriage Contract
Mehr/Sadaq: Financial responsibilityMehr/Sadaq: Financial responsibility Consultation with scholars/Counseling in caseConsultation with scholars/Counseling in case
of difficulties or major differences of opinionsof difficulties or major differences of opinions Right to divorce and related issuesRight to divorce and related issues Custody of children and related issuesCustody of children and related issues Possibility of rePossibility of re--marriage in futuremarriage in future Condition to prohibit marrying another wifeCondition to prohibit marrying another wife Premarital CounselingPremarital Counseling
Mehr/Sadaq: Financial responsibilityMehr/Sadaq: Financial responsibility Consultation with scholars/Counseling in caseConsultation with scholars/Counseling in case
of difficulties or major differences of opinionsof difficulties or major differences of opinions Right to divorce and related issuesRight to divorce and related issues Custody of children and related issuesCustody of children and related issues Possibility of rePossibility of re--marriage in futuremarriage in future Condition to prohibit marrying another wifeCondition to prohibit marrying another wife Premarital CounselingPremarital Counseling
Qur’anic TeachingsQur’anic Teachings
4/14/1--23 Discussed the issues of: 1. Equality23 Discussed the issues of: 1. Equality
2. Permissible relationship 3. Continuation of2. Permissible relationship 3. Continuation of
Human race 4. Witnesses 5.Human race 4. Witnesses 5. ArhaamArhaam: Wombs: Wombs
of mothers 6. Question of orphans, polygamy andof mothers 6. Question of orphans, polygamy and
Justice 7. Question of Inheritance 8. Perfection &Justice 7. Question of Inheritance 8. Perfection &
Faults 9.Faults 9. Ma’roofMa’roof 10. Divorce and return of gifts10. Divorce and return of gifts
11. Those who are forbidden to marry11. Those who are forbidden to marry
12.12. MithaqanMithaqan GhaldhaGhaldha..
4/14/1--23 Discussed the issues of: 1. Equality23 Discussed the issues of: 1. Equality
2. Permissible relationship 3. Continuation of2. Permissible relationship 3. Continuation of
Human race 4. Witnesses 5.Human race 4. Witnesses 5. ArhaamArhaam: Wombs: Wombs
of mothers 6. Question of orphans, polygamy andof mothers 6. Question of orphans, polygamy and
Justice 7. Question of Inheritance 8. Perfection &Justice 7. Question of Inheritance 8. Perfection &
Faults 9.Faults 9. Ma’roofMa’roof 10. Divorce and return of gifts10. Divorce and return of gifts
11. Those who are forbidden to marry11. Those who are forbidden to marry
12.12. MithaqanMithaqan GhaldhaGhaldha..
2/187, (Garment) 2/221,(Pagans), 5/52/187, (Garment) 2/221,(Pagans), 5/5
((AhlulAhlul--KitabKitab) 2/231) 2/231--233 (233 (TaradinTaradin WaWa
TashawurTashawur),2/237, (Al),2/237, (Al--FadlFadl), 3/102), 3/102
((TaqwaTaqwa), 33/70), 33/70--71, Truthfulness…… 30/21,71, Truthfulness…… 30/21,((SukunSukun,, MawaddahMawaddah && RahmahRahmah), 65/6), 65/6
(Staying in husband’s home in ‘(Staying in husband’s home in ‘IddahIddah period).period).
66/166/1--2 (Story of honey), 43/70 (Families2 (Story of honey), 43/70 (Families
Enter the garden of Paradise), 13/38 ( theEnter the garden of Paradise), 13/38 ( the
Prophets had families and children).Prophets had families and children).
2/187, (Garment) 2/221,(Pagans), 5/52/187, (Garment) 2/221,(Pagans), 5/5
((AhlulAhlul--KitabKitab) 2/231) 2/231--233 (233 (TaradinTaradin WaWa
TashawurTashawur),2/237, (Al),2/237, (Al--FadlFadl), 3/102), 3/102
((TaqwaTaqwa), 33/70), 33/70--71, Truthfulness…… 30/21,71, Truthfulness…… 30/21,((SukunSukun,, MawaddahMawaddah && RahmahRahmah), 65/6), 65/6
(Staying in husband’s home in ‘(Staying in husband’s home in ‘IddahIddah period).period).
66/166/1--2 (Story of honey), 43/70 (Families2 (Story of honey), 43/70 (Families
Enter the garden of Paradise), 13/38 ( theEnter the garden of Paradise), 13/38 ( the
Prophets had families and children).Prophets had families and children).
From the Prophetic TraditionFrom the Prophetic Tradition
“whoever can afford the marriage…….”“whoever can afford the marriage…….”“A woman is married for 4 reasons….”“A woman is married for 4 reasons….”
“ The whole world is a bounty of Allah…..”“ The whole world is a bounty of Allah…..”“ The marriage is one half of Faith….”“ The marriage is one half of Faith….”“ The marriage is my way of life….”“ The marriage is my way of life….”
“Two important qualities: to follow the“Two important qualities: to follow thereligion and moral Values ….”religion and moral Values ….”
“whoever can afford the marriage…….”“whoever can afford the marriage…….”“A woman is married for 4 reasons….”“A woman is married for 4 reasons….”
“ The whole world is a bounty of Allah…..”“ The whole world is a bounty of Allah…..”“ The marriage is one half of Faith….”“ The marriage is one half of Faith….”“ The marriage is my way of life….”“ The marriage is my way of life….”
“Two important qualities: to follow the“Two important qualities: to follow thereligion and moral Values ….”religion and moral Values ….”
Conditions for the marriage:Conditions for the marriage: I.I. PermissionPermission
of guardian 2. Agreement of the brideof guardian 2. Agreement of the bride 3.3.
Two Witnesses 4. Proposal and acceptanceTwo Witnesses 4. Proposal and acceptance
5. Financial responsibility, performance of5. Financial responsibility, performance of
thethe marriage to teach the couple themarriage to teach the couple the
principles and foundations, the art ofprinciples and foundations, the art of
establishing the good relationship to attainestablishing the good relationship to attain
mutual peace and happinessmutual peace and happiness 6. W6. Whathat
destroys the marriage.destroys the marriage.
Conditions for the marriage:Conditions for the marriage: I.I. PermissionPermission
of guardian 2. Agreement of the brideof guardian 2. Agreement of the bride 3.3.
Two Witnesses 4. Proposal and acceptanceTwo Witnesses 4. Proposal and acceptance
5. Financial responsibility, performance of5. Financial responsibility, performance of
thethe marriage to teach the couple themarriage to teach the couple the
principles and foundations, the art ofprinciples and foundations, the art of
establishing the good relationship to attainestablishing the good relationship to attain
mutual peace and happinessmutual peace and happiness 6. W6. Whathat
destroys the marriage.destroys the marriage.
Rights and DutiesRights and Duties
They share this with each other: 1. Mutual rights:They share this with each other: 1. Mutual rights:
Intimacy has to be with mutual agreement and with dueIntimacy has to be with mutual agreement and with due
mutual consideration.2. Change of status: the wifemutual consideration.2. Change of status: the wife
becomes unlawful to marry father, grand father….,becomes unlawful to marry father, grand father….,sons, grand sons great grand sons…and other branchessons, grand sons great grand sons…and other branches
of her husband. The husband becomes unlawful toof her husband. The husband becomes unlawful to
Marry wife’s mother, grandmother……daughterMarry wife’s mother, grandmother……daughterGrand daughter…and branches.Grand daughter…and branches.
They share this with each other: 1. Mutual rights:They share this with each other: 1. Mutual rights:
Intimacy has to be with mutual agreement and with dueIntimacy has to be with mutual agreement and with due
mutual consideration.2. Change of status: the wifemutual consideration.2. Change of status: the wife
becomes unlawful to marry father, grand father….,becomes unlawful to marry father, grand father….,sons, grand sons great grand sons…and other branchessons, grand sons great grand sons…and other branches
of her husband. The husband becomes unlawful toof her husband. The husband becomes unlawful to
Marry wife’s mother, grandmother……daughterMarry wife’s mother, grandmother……daughterGrand daughter…and branches.Grand daughter…and branches.
3. Right to inheritance: as soon as marriage vows3. Right to inheritance: as soon as marriage vows
Are done, they will inherit each other if one of themAre done, they will inherit each other if one of them
Dies even if the marriage was not consummated.Dies even if the marriage was not consummated.
4. Legitimacy of child: any children born in this4. Legitimacy of child: any children born in this
Wedlock will be lawful.Wedlock will be lawful.
5. Mutual treatment on the basis of5. Mutual treatment on the basis of Ma’roofMa’roof(equitable terms):A. Mutual mercifulness B. Mutual(equitable terms):A. Mutual mercifulness B. Mutual
Tenderheartedness C. Mutual consultationTenderheartedness C. Mutual consultation
D. Mutual agreement E. Mutual use of beautifulD. Mutual agreement E. Mutual use of beautiful
Words in addressing each otherWords in addressing each other
3. Right to inheritance: as soon as marriage vows3. Right to inheritance: as soon as marriage vows
Are done, they will inherit each other if one of themAre done, they will inherit each other if one of them
Dies even if the marriage was not consummated.Dies even if the marriage was not consummated.
4. Legitimacy of child: any children born in this4. Legitimacy of child: any children born in this
Wedlock will be lawful.Wedlock will be lawful.
5. Mutual treatment on the basis of5. Mutual treatment on the basis of Ma’roofMa’roof(equitable terms):A. Mutual mercifulness B. Mutual(equitable terms):A. Mutual mercifulness B. Mutual
Tenderheartedness C. Mutual consultationTenderheartedness C. Mutual consultation
D. Mutual agreement E. Mutual use of beautifulD. Mutual agreement E. Mutual use of beautiful
Words in addressing each otherWords in addressing each other
Social: 1. Mutual consideration to avoidSocial: 1. Mutual consideration to avoidsocializing with individuals and groups whosocializing with individuals and groups who
are undesirable to one or the other spouseare undesirable to one or the other spouse
2. No friendship with opposite sex 3. Do not2. No friendship with opposite sex 3. Do notinvite in to your house the opposite sexinvite in to your house the opposite sex
guests or visitors when your spouse is notguests or visitors when your spouse is nothome. 4. Do not socialize with badhome. 4. Do not socialize with bad
individuals and groups 5. Do not socializeindividuals and groups 5. Do not socializewith nonwith non--practicing individuals or groupspracticing individuals or groups
unless you intend to help them practice theunless you intend to help them practice thereligious and moral values.religious and moral values.
Social: 1. Mutual consideration to avoidSocial: 1. Mutual consideration to avoidsocializing with individuals and groups whosocializing with individuals and groups who
are undesirable to one or the other spouseare undesirable to one or the other spouse
2. No friendship with opposite sex 3. Do not2. No friendship with opposite sex 3. Do notinvite in to your house the opposite sexinvite in to your house the opposite sex
guests or visitors when your spouse is notguests or visitors when your spouse is nothome. 4. Do not socialize with badhome. 4. Do not socialize with bad
individuals and groups 5. Do not socializeindividuals and groups 5. Do not socializewith nonwith non--practicing individuals or groupspracticing individuals or groups
unless you intend to help them practice theunless you intend to help them practice thereligious and moral values.religious and moral values.
The rights of wife are the duties of husband:The rights of wife are the duties of husband:1.Religious and Financial: A.1.Religious and Financial: A. SadaqSadaq//MehrMehr::
Compulsory marriage gift negotiated by the wifeCompulsory marriage gift negotiated by the wifeand given by the husband as a true financialand given by the husband as a true financial
Commitment. B. A promise to provide financialCommitment. B. A promise to provide financialsafety and security for the wife, in case of divorce.safety and security for the wife, in case of divorce.C. Total responsibility of household expenditure:C. Total responsibility of household expenditure:food, shelter, clothes, medical treatment and otherfood, shelter, clothes, medical treatment and other
Necessities of life, according to husband’s capacity.Necessities of life, according to husband’s capacity.D. Companionship and friendship here and in theD. Companionship and friendship here and in the
hereafter.hereafter.
The rights of wife are the duties of husband:The rights of wife are the duties of husband:1.Religious and Financial: A.1.Religious and Financial: A. SadaqSadaq//MehrMehr::
Compulsory marriage gift negotiated by the wifeCompulsory marriage gift negotiated by the wifeand given by the husband as a true financialand given by the husband as a true financial
Commitment. B. A promise to provide financialCommitment. B. A promise to provide financialsafety and security for the wife, in case of divorce.safety and security for the wife, in case of divorce.C. Total responsibility of household expenditure:C. Total responsibility of household expenditure:food, shelter, clothes, medical treatment and otherfood, shelter, clothes, medical treatment and other
Necessities of life, according to husband’s capacity.Necessities of life, according to husband’s capacity.D. Companionship and friendship here and in theD. Companionship and friendship here and in the
hereafter.hereafter.
2. Ethical: A. Dignity and respect B. Address with2. Ethical: A. Dignity and respect B. Address with
beautifully selected words C. Prohibition of anybeautifully selected words C. Prohibition of any
kind of harm: mental, physical, verbal, implicit orkind of harm: mental, physical, verbal, implicit or
Explicit D. Hiding the faults and short comingsExplicit D. Hiding the faults and short comings
E. Speaking about the brighter aspects of herE. Speaking about the brighter aspects of her
Character F. Adjust, accommodate and modifyCharacter F. Adjust, accommodate and modify
your behavior according to the changingyour behavior according to the changing
conditions G. Tolerance, forgiveness, andconditions G. Tolerance, forgiveness, and
Generosity in daily interactions. H. Absolutely noGenerosity in daily interactions. H. Absolutely no
Communication with anger, selfishness, and ego.Communication with anger, selfishness, and ego.
2. Ethical: A. Dignity and respect B. Address with2. Ethical: A. Dignity and respect B. Address with
beautifully selected words C. Prohibition of anybeautifully selected words C. Prohibition of any
kind of harm: mental, physical, verbal, implicit orkind of harm: mental, physical, verbal, implicit or
Explicit D. Hiding the faults and short comingsExplicit D. Hiding the faults and short comings
E. Speaking about the brighter aspects of herE. Speaking about the brighter aspects of her
Character F. Adjust, accommodate and modifyCharacter F. Adjust, accommodate and modify
your behavior according to the changingyour behavior according to the changing
conditions G. Tolerance, forgiveness, andconditions G. Tolerance, forgiveness, and
Generosity in daily interactions. H. Absolutely noGenerosity in daily interactions. H. Absolutely no
Communication with anger, selfishness, and ego.Communication with anger, selfishness, and ego.
3. Emotional: A. Spending quality time with her3. Emotional: A. Spending quality time with her
B. Fulfilling her needs of intimacy C. Allowing herB. Fulfilling her needs of intimacy C. Allowing her
to say no to your needs of intimacy if she is notto say no to your needs of intimacy if she is not
feeling well or not in mood. D. Allow her tofeeling well or not in mood. D. Allow her to
maintain a decent level of relationship with hermaintain a decent level of relationship with her
blood relatives and be generous with your inblood relatives and be generous with your in--laws.laws.
E. Do not spy on her F. Do not mistrust her G. TrustE. Do not spy on her F. Do not mistrust her G. Trust
Her H. Protect her I. Do not mistreat, insult,Her H. Protect her I. Do not mistreat, insult,
Disrespect, or cause any harm to her blood relativesDisrespect, or cause any harm to her blood relatives
J. Treat her as you want her to treat you.J. Treat her as you want her to treat you.
3. Emotional: A. Spending quality time with her3. Emotional: A. Spending quality time with her
B. Fulfilling her needs of intimacy C. Allowing herB. Fulfilling her needs of intimacy C. Allowing her
to say no to your needs of intimacy if she is notto say no to your needs of intimacy if she is not
feeling well or not in mood. D. Allow her tofeeling well or not in mood. D. Allow her to
maintain a decent level of relationship with hermaintain a decent level of relationship with her
blood relatives and be generous with your inblood relatives and be generous with your in--laws.laws.
E. Do not spy on her F. Do not mistrust her G. TrustE. Do not spy on her F. Do not mistrust her G. Trust
Her H. Protect her I. Do not mistreat, insult,Her H. Protect her I. Do not mistreat, insult,
Disrespect, or cause any harm to her blood relativesDisrespect, or cause any harm to her blood relatives
J. Treat her as you want her to treat you.J. Treat her as you want her to treat you.
The rights of Husband are the duties of wife: Religious andThe rights of Husband are the duties of wife: Religious and
financial: A. Protect his money from misuse, abuse, andfinancial: A. Protect his money from misuse, abuse, and
waste B. Save and help him save in food, shelter, clothes,waste B. Save and help him save in food, shelter, clothes,
necessities of life, whenever it is possible C. Don’tnecessities of life, whenever it is possible C. Don’tencourage him to have an extravagant life style D. Neverencourage him to have an extravagant life style D. Never
buy any thing if you can not afford it. Have the habit ofbuy any thing if you can not afford it. Have the habit of
purchasing the necessities of life if only you can affordpurchasing the necessities of life if only you can afford
them. E. Make a budget with your husband and save athem. E. Make a budget with your husband and save a
percentage of his income for a rainy day, education of yourpercentage of his income for a rainy day, education of your
children, their weddings, and for vacations F. Keep awaychildren, their weddings, and for vacations F. Keep away
From credit cards, loans etc.From credit cards, loans etc.
The rights of Husband are the duties of wife: Religious andThe rights of Husband are the duties of wife: Religious and
financial: A. Protect his money from misuse, abuse, andfinancial: A. Protect his money from misuse, abuse, and
waste B. Save and help him save in food, shelter, clothes,waste B. Save and help him save in food, shelter, clothes,
necessities of life, whenever it is possible C. Don’tnecessities of life, whenever it is possible C. Don’tencourage him to have an extravagant life style D. Neverencourage him to have an extravagant life style D. Never
buy any thing if you can not afford it. Have the habit ofbuy any thing if you can not afford it. Have the habit of
purchasing the necessities of life if only you can affordpurchasing the necessities of life if only you can afford
them. E. Make a budget with your husband and save athem. E. Make a budget with your husband and save a
percentage of his income for a rainy day, education of yourpercentage of his income for a rainy day, education of your
children, their weddings, and for vacations F. Keep awaychildren, their weddings, and for vacations F. Keep away
From credit cards, loans etc.From credit cards, loans etc.
G. Obey him as long as he does not ask you toG. Obey him as long as he does not ask you to
disobey Allahdisobey Allah swtswt H. Wear makeH. Wear make--up and beautifyup and beautify
yourself for meeting with your husband. The Holyyourself for meeting with your husband. The Holy
Qur’an has recommended that righteous womenQur’an has recommended that righteous womenReserve their beauty and ornaments to display inReserve their beauty and ornaments to display in
front of their husbands. I. Do not speak about yourfront of their husbands. I. Do not speak about your
Intimacy with your husband to any of your friends,Intimacy with your husband to any of your friends,
Nor inform your husband about the hidden beautiesNor inform your husband about the hidden beauties
of your female friends.of your female friends.
G. Obey him as long as he does not ask you toG. Obey him as long as he does not ask you to
disobey Allahdisobey Allah swtswt H. Wear makeH. Wear make--up and beautifyup and beautify
yourself for meeting with your husband. The Holyyourself for meeting with your husband. The Holy
Qur’an has recommended that righteous womenQur’an has recommended that righteous womenReserve their beauty and ornaments to display inReserve their beauty and ornaments to display in
front of their husbands. I. Do not speak about yourfront of their husbands. I. Do not speak about your
Intimacy with your husband to any of your friends,Intimacy with your husband to any of your friends,
Nor inform your husband about the hidden beautiesNor inform your husband about the hidden beauties
of your female friends.of your female friends.
J. Please him whenever he looks at you K. FulfillJ. Please him whenever he looks at you K. Fulfill
his demands if they are not disobedience to Allahhis demands if they are not disobedience to Allah
swtswt L. Protect his interest in yourself and his wealthL. Protect his interest in yourself and his wealth
and trusts M. Obey Allah in everything that you do.and trusts M. Obey Allah in everything that you do.
2. Ethical: A. Dignity and respect B. Address with2. Ethical: A. Dignity and respect B. Address with
beautifully selected words C. Prohibition of anybeautifully selected words C. Prohibition of anykind of harm: mental, physical, verbal, implicit orkind of harm: mental, physical, verbal, implicit or
Explicit. D. Hiding the faults and short comings.Explicit. D. Hiding the faults and short comings.
E. Speaking about the brighter aspects of hisE. Speaking about the brighter aspects of his
Character. F. Adjust, accommodate and modifyCharacter. F. Adjust, accommodate and modify
your behavior according to the changing conditionsyour behavior according to the changing conditions
J. Please him whenever he looks at you K. FulfillJ. Please him whenever he looks at you K. Fulfill
his demands if they are not disobedience to Allahhis demands if they are not disobedience to Allah
swtswt L. Protect his interest in yourself and his wealthL. Protect his interest in yourself and his wealth
and trusts M. Obey Allah in everything that you do.and trusts M. Obey Allah in everything that you do.
2. Ethical: A. Dignity and respect B. Address with2. Ethical: A. Dignity and respect B. Address with
beautifully selected words C. Prohibition of anybeautifully selected words C. Prohibition of anykind of harm: mental, physical, verbal, implicit orkind of harm: mental, physical, verbal, implicit or
Explicit. D. Hiding the faults and short comings.Explicit. D. Hiding the faults and short comings.
E. Speaking about the brighter aspects of hisE. Speaking about the brighter aspects of his
Character. F. Adjust, accommodate and modifyCharacter. F. Adjust, accommodate and modify
your behavior according to the changing conditionsyour behavior according to the changing conditions
3. Emotional: A. Spending quality time with him3. Emotional: A. Spending quality time with him
B. Fulfilling his needs of intimacy C. Allowing himB. Fulfilling his needs of intimacy C. Allowing him
to say no to your needs of intimacy if he is notto say no to your needs of intimacy if he is not
feeling well or not in mood. D. Encourage him tofeeling well or not in mood. D. Encourage him to
maintain a decent level of relationship with hismaintain a decent level of relationship with his
blood relatives and be generous with them.blood relatives and be generous with them.
E. Do not spy on him F. Do not mistrust him G.E. Do not spy on him F. Do not mistrust him G.
Trust him H. Protect him I. Do not mistreat, insult,Trust him H. Protect him I. Do not mistreat, insult,
Disrespect, or cause any harm to his blood relativesDisrespect, or cause any harm to his blood relatives
J. Treat him as you want him to treat you.J. Treat him as you want him to treat you.
3. Emotional: A. Spending quality time with him3. Emotional: A. Spending quality time with him
B. Fulfilling his needs of intimacy C. Allowing himB. Fulfilling his needs of intimacy C. Allowing him
to say no to your needs of intimacy if he is notto say no to your needs of intimacy if he is not
feeling well or not in mood. D. Encourage him tofeeling well or not in mood. D. Encourage him to
maintain a decent level of relationship with hismaintain a decent level of relationship with his
blood relatives and be generous with them.blood relatives and be generous with them.
E. Do not spy on him F. Do not mistrust him G.E. Do not spy on him F. Do not mistrust him G.
Trust him H. Protect him I. Do not mistreat, insult,Trust him H. Protect him I. Do not mistreat, insult,
Disrespect, or cause any harm to his blood relativesDisrespect, or cause any harm to his blood relatives
J. Treat him as you want him to treat you.J. Treat him as you want him to treat you.
1.Relationship with parents must be on the basis of1.Relationship with parents must be on the basis of
number one priority, generosity, and utmost care. Itnumber one priority, generosity, and utmost care. It
is beautifully described in 17/23is beautifully described in 17/23--24.24.
2. Relationship with the children has to be one of2. Relationship with the children has to be one of
providing guidance, practical role model, the bestproviding guidance, practical role model, the best
of physical, intellectual, and spiritual education andof physical, intellectual, and spiritual education and
Training. 3. Relationship with relatives has to beTraining. 3. Relationship with relatives has to be
one of maintaining decency by exchanging visitsone of maintaining decency by exchanging visits
and gifts and generously treating with financialand gifts and generously treating with financial
help the poor ones of them, in a respectful manner.help the poor ones of them, in a respectful manner.
1.Relationship with parents must be on the basis of1.Relationship with parents must be on the basis of
number one priority, generosity, and utmost care. Itnumber one priority, generosity, and utmost care. It
is beautifully described in 17/23is beautifully described in 17/23--24.24.
2. Relationship with the children has to be one of2. Relationship with the children has to be one of
providing guidance, practical role model, the bestproviding guidance, practical role model, the best
of physical, intellectual, and spiritual education andof physical, intellectual, and spiritual education and
Training. 3. Relationship with relatives has to beTraining. 3. Relationship with relatives has to be
one of maintaining decency by exchanging visitsone of maintaining decency by exchanging visits
and gifts and generously treating with financialand gifts and generously treating with financial
help the poor ones of them, in a respectful manner.help the poor ones of them, in a respectful manner.
The relationship with the people of scriptures (JewsThe relationship with the people of scriptures (Jews
and Christians has to be one of respect, dignity andand Christians has to be one of respect, dignity and
recognition the Holy Qur’an is full of connectionsrecognition the Holy Qur’an is full of connectionswith the people of scripture. A Muslim is requiredwith the people of scripture. A Muslim is required
to maintain decent relationship with them. The restto maintain decent relationship with them. The rest
of the humankind will also be treated with love andof the humankind will also be treated with love and
kindness and justice and fairness as mentioned inkindness and justice and fairness as mentioned in
60/8. So, the basic principle to be followed as60/8. So, the basic principle to be followed as
regard to all categories of relationship, withregard to all categories of relationship, with
Muslims and none Muslims is Birr andMuslims and none Muslims is Birr and QistQist..
The relationship with the people of scriptures (JewsThe relationship with the people of scriptures (Jews
and Christians has to be one of respect, dignity andand Christians has to be one of respect, dignity and
recognition the Holy Qur’an is full of connectionsrecognition the Holy Qur’an is full of connectionswith the people of scripture. A Muslim is requiredwith the people of scripture. A Muslim is required
to maintain decent relationship with them. The restto maintain decent relationship with them. The rest
of the humankind will also be treated with love andof the humankind will also be treated with love and
kindness and justice and fairness as mentioned inkindness and justice and fairness as mentioned in
60/8. So, the basic principle to be followed as60/8. So, the basic principle to be followed as
regard to all categories of relationship, withregard to all categories of relationship, with
Muslims and none Muslims is Birr andMuslims and none Muslims is Birr and QistQist..