research methodology (id 6020) interpersonal skills 12 th april, 2012

Research Methodology(ID 6020)

Interpersonal Skills12th April, 2012

"If you want to go fast, go alone.

If you want to go far, go together.“ 

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The Case

for IPS

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Starts with Self-Awareness…

UNDERSTANDING INHERENT VALUES, ASSUMPTIONS, NEEDS, EXPECTATIONS,

PERCEPTION, PREJUDICES 4

Types of Research Scholars

TYPE1: “I have come here to do path-breaking research. I don’t worry about time. I understand that 4-5 years is the upper limit.”

TYPE2: “I have come here to get a degree. I want to finish in 3-4 years. I have family/other commitments.”

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Types of

Research

Scholars

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Goes onto Understanding

Others..Types of Guides

TYPE 1

TYPE 2

TYPE 3

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Symptoms of Unhealthy Interpersonal Skills

Family• Arguments

increase – for the silliest reasons!

• You start smoothening conflicts – not addressing them.

• You are misunderstood more often.

• More time @ work – not necessarily working!

Research• Starting to

avoid bumping into the guide!

• Infrequent visits to the department.

• Venting out with fellow scholars more often.

• Its my research and my world.

Workplace• Everyday is

Monday morning!

• Cribbing increases.

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Interpersonal Skills – NOT At Its Best!

Guide “When can you submit the

paper”

Scholar“When do you want it

Sir?” (gives an unrealistic estimate; Yes Boss!)

Father/Mother “When will you complete

your research?”

Son/Daughter“What is your problem? I just come home for a few

days and you start off!!!!!!”

Spouse“What do you think of

this?”

Spouse“Yes…OK” (watching

TV)

Cliché! IPS Is An Ocean

Emotional Intelligence – Self-Awareness, Self-

Management, Social Awareness, Relationship Management

Assertiveness, Conflict Management

People Skills – Social Intelligence

Communication-Listening, Non-Verbal – Body

Language

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Honing of Interpersonal

Skills

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A Myriad of Tools

Johari Window

Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Transactional Analysis

Self-Assessment tools

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What will help?Want the draft EOD Sure.

Oh God! How is it possible!

COMMUNICATING EXPECTATIONS , ISSUES CLEARLY AND HONESTLY

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What will help?Formulate a LP problem and

come tomorrow with the results

Hmmm…Ok Sir.

Works hard,

cannot crack it,

Ctrl C & V

CONSIDERATE AND UNDERSTAND DEEPER NEEDS, INTENTIONS

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Consider this…Oh Oh,

there she goes..crying once more...

BEING SENSITIVE OF DEEPER MOTIVES, FEARS

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EMPATHY

What will help?

King Lear: “Gloucester, you have no eyes in your head, yet you see

how this world goes.”

Gloucester replies, “I see it feelingly.”16

LISTENING...PROPERLY!

What will help?

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What will help?Publication – low quality

journal/Single author

paper

My name in a low quality

journal!!???/Where is my

name?!!!

TRANSPARENCY IN RELATIONSHIP18

What will help?Hey, there is a good

conference coming up. Why don’t we send a paper?

Is it the one at ()()() ?I’ve already sent it.

HELPING OTHERS, SHARING INFORMATION

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TRUST

What will help?

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A HEALTHY DOSE OF HUMOR!

What will help?

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Social IntelligenceThe most fundamental discovery of this new science: We are wired to connect. – Daniel

Goleman

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Social Intelligence

Skill Do you…• Empathy Understand what motivates other people, even those from

different backgrounds? Are you sensitive to their needs?• Attunement Listen attentively and think about how others feel? Are you

attuned to others’ moods?• Organizational Appreciate your group’s or organization’s culture and values?

Awareness Understand social networks and know their unspoken norms?

• Influence Persuade others by engaging them in discussion, appealing to their interests, and getting support from key people?

• Developing Coach and mentor others with compassion? Do you others personally invest time and energy in mentoring and

provide feedback that people find helpful for their professional development?

• Inspiration Articulate a compelling vision, build group pride, foster a positive emotional tone, and lead by bringing out the best in

people?• Teamwork Encourage the participation of everyone on your team, support

all members, and foster cooperation? 23

Build trustAccentuate the positive

When mistakes occur, redirect energy

The Whale Done!™ Approach

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Whale Done Commitment

• One thing I will start doing.

• One thing I will stop doing.

• One thing I will continue doing.

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The Ideal

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Signing Off…

Life is not a competition, it's a game. It's not

about winning or losing, it's about all the

fun you can have before it ends.

Simon Sinek

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