parenting in digital world

Parenting in a digital world

Images source: Nathalie Noret, YHGfL/ABA Cyberbullying Conference

What worries you?

Quick QuizWhat is:• KIK• POS• POSW• ASL• LMIRL• PIR• Notch• IM• GTAIV• Habbo Hotel• Binweevils• BBM

It was discovered that Hannah actually posted 90% of the abuse herself.

Daniel Perry

Blackmailed over Skype.

Tricked into sending images.

Trend for this type of crime is increasing.

Sites

Which devices?

The social network

What they like to do….

How they access the web

Why do you need to be here?

Children need new strategies for:

Source: Munch, Poke and Ping report

Recent trends online in EU

• Cyberbullying, sexting• Hate sites• Pro-anorexic sites• Self harm sites• Drug forums• Suicide sites• Identity theft• Grooming• Lack of Parental engagement

Source: EU Kids Online Report, 2013

What are we seeing in UK

• SNS is becoming number 1 platform for bullying (80% in some cases) and taking a huge amount of man power to resolve.

• Mobile usage and data• IM use via SN • Chatrooms and message boards• Email• Webcams• Video hosting sites• Games (and online content)• Consoles and games devices• Virtual worlds

Barriers against children reporting abuse:

May not be listened to

May not be believed

Embarrassment

Unable to communicate the

abuse

Adults not sympathetic

Adults might tell someone else

Fear of consequences

Lack of control

Not knowing who to tell

Previous/current experience of racism

Understanding or recognising abuse

Believe it is their own fault

Social Networking

Examples of cyberbullying and SN

Source: Bebo.com

Social Networking Risks

Sharing personal information

Unwanted contact

Unhealthy networking

Inappropriate content

Overuse

Tips

Security settings need to be set to “Friends only”, that includes - comments, posts and photos

These “Friends” need to be people they know and trust in the real world

Content - Only post content and photos they wouldn't mind showing you!

Try your very best to be “Friends” with your child on Facebook

Learn how to report an issue directly to Facebook

Trend: Children moving from facebook to sites like bebo which are not as well known…or old.

Gaming

Risks

Inappropriate content and language (de-sensitised to swearing, sex, violence, gambling, drugs)

Unwanted contact

Overuse

Leaky services such as Dropbox

Take control….

Leave all gaming devices in a family space where possible – the loss of control starts when TV and other media given to children, put in rooms with no rules, limits or acceptable use.

Open up communication - talk about the games

Remember that people lie online and they are not always who they say they are

Remember that people can be mean online and don’t always have their best interests at heart

Ask them to never give out personal information

Set parental controls, ESPECIALLY AT CHRISTMAS with new hardware

Set time limits on how long they can game for. Allow time for non-technology based activities and allow an hour ‘screen free’ time before bed

PEGI (The Pan-European Game Information age rating system) was established in 2003 to help European parents make informed choices

Bad Language - Game contains bad language

Discrimination - Game contains depictions of, or material which may encourage, discrimination

Drugs - Game refers to or depicts the use of drugs

Fear - Game may be frightening or scary for young children

Sex - Game depicts nudity and/or sexual behaviour or sexual references

Violence - Game contains depictions of violence

PEGI

Instant Messaging and Private Chat

Risks

Unwanted contact

Webcam capability – is this safe?

Private moments

Usage

Remember never to accept people they don’t know and trust in the real world

Giving out personal information can be dangerous. They need to treat personal information such as the school they go to or their location like their tooth brush and not share it with anyone!

Ask them not to webcam with people they do not know from the real world and turn the webcam off after use!

Know how to report a problem and delete people that make them feel uncomfortable

Take control…

Mobile Technology

The most popular mobile for children in schools is overwhelmingly…..?

Chat Text

Online Images

Location

Functions

Risks

Images taken and uploaded – sexting – sex offenders register

Location

Personal messaging

Usage / addiction

Take control

Is my child old enough to have a mobile phone? Set boundaries - peer pressure for kids and adults

Before buying your child a mobile, find out what functions it has – Internet, private messaging, built in applications

Set parental controls where required

Set mobile rules - no mobile phone in the bedroom at night, mobile free time before bed, no use after lights out

Support and Report

Peer to peer support network for young people who are being bullied

www.cybermentors.org.uk

Report suspected online grooming – this could sexual chat, a child being asked to do something that makes them feel uncomfortable or someone insisting on meeting up

www.ceop.police.uk

Simple steps to protection

I have asked my child to show me sites they use

I have asked my child to set the security settings on all the technologies they use

I have asked my child to only accept people they know and trust in the real world as online “Friends”

I have set safe settings on our computer/laptop and set adult content filters on my child’s smart phone

My child has agreed to tell me if they are worried about something online

• Play on the Internet with your kids.• Communicate with your children before they start accessing the

Internet, education is more powerful than locking down everything• Choose with whom your kids can interact with online.• Locate the family computer in an open area in your home.• Approve all files your child wants to upload to the Internet—and keep

files secure.• Keep current on the latest technologies.• Gradually let your kids try new programs and Web sites that you have

approved.• Keep passwords and all personal information private.• Stay involved• Get them to show you!

Finally….

ISP filtering (Call your service provider, they can help)Browser filtering (Internet Explorer, Firefox, Safari, Chrome…all have features to help)Search engine filtering Operating system filtering – windows live family safety

Links to help• https://chrome.google.com/extensions• http://onlinehelp.microsoft.com/en-au/bing/ff808441.aspx• www.google.com/familysafety/tools.html• http://help.yahoo.com/l/us/yahoo/search/basics/indexing-07.html• https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/search/?q=parental+control&cat=all• http://explore.live.com/windows-live-family-safety?os=other• www.apple.com/macosx/security/• www.linux.com

More resources….

www.thinkuknow.co.uk/parents

Contact

dan.bowen@babcockinternational.com

@dan_bowen

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