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Perfecting Our Parenting

Paradigm for Parenting Ages 13-19

Proverbs 1:8-9

Thesis:

• In training teenagers, more will be caught than will be taught.

Point 1.

• Taking the time to discipline children early in life saves you a lot of grief later on.

Point 2.

• A principle-ized paradigm for raising teenagers is based in the recognition that to perfect your parenting you must change your strategy over time.

A Paradigm for Bringing Up Adolescents

1. Teenagers need authority expressed as loving influence

• To provoke your child means to

challenge them in such a way that it

calls forth a hostile reaction.

Definition:

Point 3.Point 3.

• Teenagers should be taught to

develop good judgment by being

allowed to make some of their own

judgments.

Definitions:

• Nurture is communicating life skills by cultivating a child’s mind and morals to correct their mistakes and curb their passions.

• Admonition implies we love a child enough to warn them and exhort them rather than stand by and ignore them.

Tips on Transitioning

A. Moving from exercising authority through control to exercising it by influence depends on the personality and maturity of your child

Tips on Transitioning

A. Moving from exercising authority through control to exercising it by influence depends on the personality and maturity of your child

B. Know your kids

Tips on Transitioning

A. Moving from exercising authority through control to exercising it by influence depends on the personality and maturity of your child

B. Know your kidsC. Understand your Bible

Tips on Transitioning

A. Moving from exercising authority through control to exercising it by influence depends on the personality and maturity of your child

B. Know your kidsC. Understand your BibleD. Ask God for guidance

Point 4.

• Boundaries must be based on who you are dealing with in each issue, because the goal is to help a teenager develop good judgment while they are with you so they will make good decisions once they are on their own.

The Divine Trinity on Raising Teens

1. Search the scriptures2. Seek the assistance of the Spirit3. Respond based on the your

personal knowledge of how to appeal to your child’s conscience

A Paradigm for Bringing A Paradigm for Bringing Up AdolescentsUp Adolescents

2. Develop systems that are designed to minimize conflict

A Paradigm for Bringing Up Adolescents

2. Develop systems that are designed to minimize conflict

3. Let reality provide the discipline

A Paradigm for Bringing Up Adolescents

2. Develop systems that are designed to minimize conflict

3. Let reality provide the discipline

4. Talk about matters of the heart

Point 5.

• You don’t have to You don’t have to approve what is approve what is popular, but you popular, but you have to be have to be awareaware of of pop culture.pop culture.

Point 6.• What’s really involved in a paradigm for parenting older kids is a battle for their heart.

Waging the War for Your Teenager Wisely

A. Understand that what is at stake in raising our teens is who and what they worship

Waging the War for Your Teenager Wisely

B. Identify potential idols that seek to take the place of God

Waging the War for Your Teenager Wisely

B. Identify potential idols that seek to take the place of God

C. Expect to be shocked, but don’t be judgmental

Wa g in g t h e Wa r f o r Yo u r

Te e n a g e rW is e lyD. Deal with your

own guilt now

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Point 7.

• Your attitude is going to get you in more trouble

with your teenager than anything else.

Point 8.

• Humility and meekness will breed mutual respect so you have to be a partner in their struggle, because it is your transparency, honesty and candor that helps your kid come to grips with what they are going through.

Conclusion:

• You have to be the one who is every day and in every way pointing your teens to Christ.