lesson 6 the 7 habits of highly effective teens 2011 revised

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens Lay Chantrea

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Who Am I?

I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or Heaviest

burden. I will push you onward or drag you down

to failure. I am completely at your command. Half of

the things you do you might just as well turn to me and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly.

Who Am I?

I am easily managed – you must merely be firm with me. Show me exactly how you want something done

and after a few lessons I will do it automatically. I am the servant of all great individuals, and,

alas, of all failures as well. Those who are great, I have made great. Those who are failures, I have made failures. I am not a machine, though I work with all the

precision of a machine plus the intelligence of a human.

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You may run me for a profit or run me for a ruin – it makes no difference to me.

Take me, train me, be firm with me, And I will place the world at your feet. Be easy with me and I will destroy you.

Who Am I?

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Answer:

I Am …Your Habit

We first make our habit, then our habits make us. (English Poet)

Reference Sean Covey

The 7 Habits of Effective Teens

Control your Thoughts, they become your

WORDS Control your Words, they become your

ACTIONS Control your Actions, they become your

HABITS Control your Habits, they become your

CHARACTER Control your Character, it becomes your

DESTINY 7

YOUR HABITS

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

PRIVATE VICTORY

Independence

PUBLIC VICTORY

1 Be

Proactive

2 Begin with

the End in Mind

3 Put First

Things First

PRIVATE VICTORY

Think Win/Win

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Seek First to understand …Than to be Understand

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Synergize 6

Interdependence

Dependence

Independence

PUBLIC VICTORY

1 Be

Proactive

2 Begin with

the End in Mind

3 Put First

Things First

PRIVATE VICTORY

Think Win/Win

4

Seek First to understand …Then to be Understood

5

Synergize 6

Interdependence

Dependence

The 7 Habits of Highly Defective Teens

Exercising regularly Planning ahead Showing respect to others

Some good habits

Thinking negatively Feeling inferior Blaming others Walk out at night Smoking cigarettes or marijuana cheating

Some bad habits

Be Proactive with your study Be Proactive with physical health Be Proactive with mental health Be Proactive with your time Be Proactive with work Be Proactive with words Be Proactive with friends Be always ready for everything you

do!!!

Habit 1: Be Proactive I am the force

Develop a clear picture of where you want

to go in your life. Help to think beyond today and take

charge of your life. Set reachable goals. Believe in yourself and your faith, you can

accomplish anything you desire. Avoid the Law of Self-Fulfilling Prophecy.

Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind

Never loose sight of these goals. Strive each day to reach

interdependence. Have a confidence in yourself and

everyone else around you. Read your goals daily. You are the master of your own destiny.

Habit 2: Cont…

Say YES to your most important things. Say NO to less important things and to

peer pressure. Prioritize your works: IMPORTANT and URGENT IMPORTANT but NOT URGENT NOT IMPORTANT but URGENT NOT IMPORTANT and NOT URGENT

Habit 3: Put first things first

THE PROCRASTINATOR - EXAM TOMORROW - FRIEND GET INJURED - LATE FOR WORK - CAR BREAKS DOWN - REVIEW DUE PAPER

THE PRIORITIZER - PLANNING, GOAL SETTING - ESSAY DUE IN A WEEK - EXERCISE - RELATIONSHIPS - RELAXATION

THE YES-MAN - UNIMPORTANT PHONE

CALLS - INTERRUPTIONS - OTHER PEOPLE’S SMALL PROBLEM - PEER PRESSURE

THE SLACKER - TOO MUCH TV - ENDLESS PHONE CALLS EXCESSIVE COMPUTER GAMES MALL MARATHONS - TIME WASTERS

NOT URGENT URGENT

IMPO

RTA

NT

NO

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POR

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IMPO

RTA

NT

NO

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NOT URGENT URGENT

Principle: Have an everyone-can-win attitude.

Seeks for mutual benefit based on mutual respect. No win-lose or lose-win Think interdependently in terms of “we,” not “me.” It is sharing information, power, recognition, and rewards.

Habit 4: Think Win-Win

Thinking win-win encourages conflict

resolution. It is the foundation for getting along

well with other people. It is the long term survival strategy.

Habit 4: Cont...

Principle: Listen to people sincerely before

reacting. Listen with the intent to understand

others, rather than the intent to reply. Seeking to understand takes kindness,

seeking to be understood takes courage. He that speaks much, is much mistaken.

Benjamin Franklin

Habit 5: Seek First To Understand, Then To be Understood

Principle: Work together to achieve

more Not my way or your way but a third alternative that is better either one of us. Mutual respect and celebrating the differences seize opportunities.

Habit 6: Synergize

Principle: Renew ourselves regularly. Constantly renew ourselves in four

basic areas of life: physical, social/emotional, mental (intellectual), and spiritual.

Updating skills and knowledge through continued training increases opportunity.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Family Money

Work Spouse

Self

Church/Temple

Enemy Friends

Pleasure

Possessions Wealth

Attitudes and Behaviors Flow

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