how to lead effectively

June, 2014.asamsor@jscs.af

JS Consultancy Services

Review

Maturity Continuum

Understanding Reactive and Proactive People

Understanding the Circle of Influence and Circle of Concern

To change ourselves We should first understand ourselves.

SurfaceBehavior

Attitude

Visible to Others

Hidden from

Others

Perception Values

• Dependence: the paradigm under which we are born, relying upon others to take care of us.

• Independence: the paradigm under which we make our decisions and take care of ourselves.

• Interdependence: the paradigm under which we cooperate to achieve something that cannot be achieved independently

Analyze yourself : where do you place yourself on the continuum of maturity ?◦ Physically

◦ Mentally

◦ Emotionally

◦ Socially

◦ Economically

1 Be

proactive

Dependence

Independence

Interdependence

PRIVATEVICTORY

PUBLICVICTORY

1 Be

proactive

Stimulus Response

Freedom To

ChooseStimulus Response

Self-Awareness

Imagination Conscience

IndependentWill

Responsibility = “Response-ability”

Proactive people:◦ Behavior in the product of one’s decision based

on values◦ Personal leaders◦ Take the initiative and are solutions to

problems◦ Successfully handle direct, indirect and no

control problems

Reactive people: ◦ Behavior is the product of one’s condition based

on feelings

◦ Unhappy people who feel victimized and immobilized, who focus on the weaknesses of other people

◦ Blame other people and circumstances they feel are responsible for their own stagnant situation.

Reactive Language Proactive Language

There's noting I can do Let’s look at our alternations

That’s just the way I am I can choose a different approach

He makes me so mad I control my own feelings

They won’t allow that I can create an effective presentation

I have to do that I will choose an appropriate response

I can’t I choose

I must I prefer

If only I will

Proactive Model

You want to be a proactive person however there are too many problems, too many issues around you ? Where to start from

CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE

Draw your own circle of influence and circle of concern?

Include things, persons and issues or idea that are either in your circle of influence or are in your circle of concerns?

To spend your resources (time, money, thinking, ……) on your circle of influence and try to spend less amount of resources on your circle of concerns.

What will happen as result of this strategy ?

CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE

Questions ?