how to lead effectively
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Review
Maturity Continuum
Understanding Reactive and Proactive People
Understanding the Circle of Influence and Circle of Concern
To change ourselves We should first understand ourselves.
SurfaceBehavior
Attitude
Visible to Others
Hidden from
Others
Perception Values
• Dependence: the paradigm under which we are born, relying upon others to take care of us.
• Independence: the paradigm under which we make our decisions and take care of ourselves.
• Interdependence: the paradigm under which we cooperate to achieve something that cannot be achieved independently
Analyze yourself : where do you place yourself on the continuum of maturity ?◦ Physically
◦ Mentally
◦ Emotionally
◦ Socially
◦ Economically
1 Be
proactive
Dependence
Independence
Interdependence
PRIVATEVICTORY
PUBLICVICTORY
1 Be
proactive
Stimulus Response
Freedom To
ChooseStimulus Response
Self-Awareness
Imagination Conscience
IndependentWill
Responsibility = “Response-ability”
Proactive people:◦ Behavior in the product of one’s decision based
on values◦ Personal leaders◦ Take the initiative and are solutions to
problems◦ Successfully handle direct, indirect and no
control problems
Reactive people: ◦ Behavior is the product of one’s condition based
on feelings
◦ Unhappy people who feel victimized and immobilized, who focus on the weaknesses of other people
◦ Blame other people and circumstances they feel are responsible for their own stagnant situation.
Reactive Language Proactive Language
There's noting I can do Let’s look at our alternations
That’s just the way I am I can choose a different approach
He makes me so mad I control my own feelings
They won’t allow that I can create an effective presentation
I have to do that I will choose an appropriate response
I can’t I choose
I must I prefer
If only I will
Proactive Model
You want to be a proactive person however there are too many problems, too many issues around you ? Where to start from
CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE
Draw your own circle of influence and circle of concern?
Include things, persons and issues or idea that are either in your circle of influence or are in your circle of concerns?
To spend your resources (time, money, thinking, ……) on your circle of influence and try to spend less amount of resources on your circle of concerns.
What will happen as result of this strategy ?
CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE
Questions ?