healthy relationships - conflict resolution pt.3

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Co nflic t Re -Co nflic t Re -So lutio nSo lutio n

(The Fig ht Within)(The Fig ht Within)

Summary Re-View• We Re-Solve c o nflic t by be ing honest with o urs e lve s .• We will ha ve m uch ins ta bility in o ur future s if we a lwa y s g e t wha t we

wa nt NOW.• So m e o ne ha s to win a nd s o m e o ne ha s to lo s e . Bo th p a rtie s c a nno t win

in a c o nflic t s itua tio n.• The ro o t o f c o nflic t is sELFISHNESS, “What I say goes cause I am in

control. ”

PURPOSEPURPOSE

Divorcing the past to advance into the future.

Conflict• The fight we have with the past is a self-

affliction. We ha ve be e n to rn be twe e n two lo ve rs (Our future and the past) be c a us e we ha ve a te nd e nc y to be INDECISIVE. What does this mean?

We s a y o ne thing a nd d o a no the r thing CON-TRARY to wha t we s p o ke .

The past will put us to SLEEP resulting in CONFLICT.

CSS Topic ~ Information Management• There are OPINIONS• There are FACTS

And there is the TRUTH!

TRUTH MINIMIZES CONFLICT.

We m a na g e info rm a tio n a c c o rd ing to OUR NEEDS, NOT OUR WANTS (or desires).

The s a fe s t wa y to m a na g e info rm a tio n is by THE TRUTH be c a us e the truth NEVER CHANGES.

The key that will unlock the door of

Success is PRIORITY.

MAKE THIS DECISION NOW!

YOU ARE NOT WELCOME HERE!We a re no t to a llo w unidentified p e o p le into o urho m e s (lives). If the y want a c c e s s the y NEED to c a llbe fo re the y c o m e . Then….1 . Ring the door bell or knock on the door : Alerts us someone wants to

come in.2. Look through the keyhole – ID the person; Let them in if we trust them.

They must wait in order for us to let them in (TRUST).3. Take off your shoes : You will not bring dirt into our house. REMAIN

IN THE FRONT ROOM!

Everyone and everything should knock or ring the doorbell before entering the

house (our lives).

Past vs Purpose

Summary The fight we have with the past is a self-affliction. TRUTH MINIMIZES CONFLICT. We m a na g e info rm a tio n a c c o rd ing to OUR NEEDS, NOT OUR WANTS (or

desires). The s a fe s t wa y to m a na g e info rm a tio n is by THE TRUTH be c a us e the truth

NEVER CHANGES.

Everyone and everything should knock or ring the doorbell before entering thehouse (our lives).