asking questions, reduction, closing week 4: love, dating and marriage

Asking Questions, Reduction, Closing

Week 4: Love, Dating and

Marriage

How’s it going?What’s up?What’re you up to?How have you been?Long time no see!Good to see you!

Warm-up

What is love?How do people know that you love them?

5 Love Languages• People like to receive love in different ways. This

includes not just boyfriends/girlfriends but also friends and family. –Words of Affirmation (compliments, saying nice

things to you)– Acts of Service (doing something for you, actions

speak louder than words)– Receiving Gifts (giving gifts to you)– Quality Time (spending time together, paying

attention to you)– Physical Touch (holding hands, sitting close, etc.)

Love Languages1. What is your love language? Is the expected or

unexpected?2. Do you give love in the same way you receive it?

How do you usually give love?3. Which love language do you speak the least? How can

you improve that?

Idioms: DatingI’ve got a crush. (have a crush- v)We broke up. (break up- v)He dumped me. (dump someone- v)I think I’m falling in love. (fall in love- v)He was hitting on me. (hit on- v)We went on a blind date. (blind date- n)Do you think girls should ask boys out? (ask someone out- v)

INFORMAL CLOSINGS

Pre-closing:

I’m sorry, I have to get going.• I have class.• I have to catch the bus.• I’m meeting up with a friend right

now.

It’s been good talking with you.

It was nice to see you.

It was nice to meet you.

Glad we got to hang out tonight.

It’s been fun.

That was fun. We should do it again sometime.

Closing:

Have a good day/afternoon/night.

Catch ya later.

See you later.

Goodbye. (Bye.)

Goodnight.

See you later alligator. After while crocodile.

A Date Without a Wallet

Esther: Hey John! How’s it going?John: Not bad. How’re you doing?Esther: Pretty good. How was your date?John: Uh…well…we went to a movie. When we got to the movie theater I realized I forgot my wallet.Esther: You’re kidding me! What did you do?John: Fortunately she had money to pay for the movie. Unfortunately she wants to go on another date.Esther: Why is that unfortunate?John: She wants me to take her to an expensive restaurant.Esther: (pre-closing)John: (pre-closing)Esther: (closing)John: (closing)

A: Hey! How was the movie?B: I didn’t like it. The story wasn’t interesting.A: I’m sorry you were disappointed.B: Me, too. I didn’t enjoy myself at all.A: Who did you go with?B: I went by myself …. How was the museum?A: It was fascinating. The paintings were very exciting!B: I’m glad you had a good time.A: Thanks, I am too. B: Who did you go with?A: My friend from art history class.

Use greeting, sharing opinion, pre-closing and closing to act out these situations.

•You see your teacher on the way to class. You ask what they think about the change in the weather.

Closing- Role Play

• You see your friend on the way to your dorm. You ask if they like the restaurant Da Dong Bei and if they would like to eat with you tomorrow night.

• You return to your dorm and see that your roommate is just finishing a movie. You ask your roommate to share his/her opinion about the movie. After you talk for a while, your roommate needs to go meet a friend.

Reduction: Can and Can't

Reduction is when sounds are changed or not pronounced in spoken English.

Reduction: Can and Can'tListen. What is the difference?

•She can ride a bike.•She can play the guitar.•She can sail a boat.•She can't drive a car.•She can't play the piano.•She can't swim.•Can she ride a bike? Yes, she can. •Can she drive a car? No, she can't.

Reduction: Can and Can't/kən/ / kænt/ /kæn/

•She can ride a bike.•She can play the guitar.•She can sail a boat.•She can't drive a car.•She can't play the piano.•She can't swim.•Can she ride a bike? Yes, she can. •Can she drive a car? No, she can't.

• Can is usually unstressed when it's found in the middle of a sentence. The vowel sound is reduced to /ə/.

• Can has a strong pronunciation at the end of a sentence. It has the clear vowel sound /æ/.

• Can't always has a strong pronunciation. It also has the sound /æ/.

Rules: Can and Can’t

Pair Work: Describe your current boyfriend/girlfriend or your ideal boyfriend/girlfriend using the word can or can’t. › She/He ___________ play basketball.› She/He ___________ tolerate a messy house.› She/he ___________ cook well.› She/he ___________ play the guitar.› She/he ___________ drive a car.› She/he ___________ admit when she/he is wrong.

Now create 3-5 sentences on your own to describe the man or woman you would like to marry. What can/can’t he do?

Be ready to share!› Example: 1.He can’t play basketball, but he can swim.

Answer, Add, AskWhen having a conversation it is important to speak and listen. An easy model you can follow is Answer, Add, AskA) Ask: Do most young people plan on getting married in your country?B)-Answer: Yes, almost all young people want to get married in China. Add: I think marriage has many advantages. Ask: Do you agree?A) Answer: Yes, I think it can be very helpful to have a partner by your side. Add: It can also bring you a lot of happiness when you start a family. But married couples are not always happy together. Ask: What do you think are some disadvantages of marriage? (and so on...)

Answer, Add, AskPractice:Do you think there are advantages to arranged marriage?

Answer: (Personally I think… As far as I’m concerned… I don’t think that…)

Add: (share more of your thoughts)

Ask: (What do you think? What’s your opinion?

Do you think there are disadvantages to arranged marriage?)

Answer, Add, AskDiscussion Circles

Use the model “Answer, Add, Ask” to have a conversation about the discussion topic.

-Greet-Share your opinion-Agree and disagree-Ask questions-Take turns-Use repair strategies-Close the conversation

Quote of the Day

“Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” – Lord Alfred Tennyson, English poet

Do you agree with this quote? Why or why not?

Have you ever “loved and lost” someone? How did you feel? When you look back are you glad you loved that person even though it hurt to lose them, or do you wish you had never loved them?

Love is patient.Love is kind.It does not envy.It does not boast.It is not proud.It is not selfish.It does not get angry easily.It keeps no record of wrongs.Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails.

• Read one of the “Culture Corners” in your Speaking Beautiful English book.

• Answer 2 of the discussion questions in your notebook.

1. Ascribed Status vs. Achieved status (p. 4)2. Traditionalism vs. Modernism (p. 18)3. Task-oriented vs. Relationship-oriented (read on p.

34, answer questions on p. 49)4. High-contact vs. low-contact (pp. 64-65)

Also, in the back of your notebook, list all the differences you can think of between eastern and western culture.

Homework- Cultural Differences

Reduction: Can and Can'tPractice in a group of 3-4 people. List the things you can

and can’t do. /kən/ / kænt/ Example: I can ride a bike.

I can’t ride a horse.Use the ideas below or your own ideas.Ride a bikeDrive a carPlay the pianoSwimDo a handstandBake a cake

Ride a horseDrive a truckPlay the guitarSail a boatDo kung fuSpeak three languages