2013 the king's men

THE KING’S MENMALVERN RETREAT HOUSEMAY 19–20 , 2013

Changing Water Into WineBecoming the Person God Created You To Be

Lord Jesus Christ, We thank you for having called us together here.

We offer you what we are about to undertake,everything we think, do and experience

    during these coming days in your honor.

We also offer you the fatigue of the past week,and from the various events of this day,

    because this – too - is our “daily bread.”

Grant that we may begin this retreat with a spirit of hope and anticipation

That you will feed our hearts and souls in the time ahead...

    in the name of the Father and of the Son    and of the Holy Spirit.  Amen

Pathway – Sunday Evening

BIG PICTURE - Us, The Church & the New Evangelization: New paradigms ! Sacred vs. Secular

Office vs. Talent vs. CharismCall & Mission & The “Affirmative

Way”

Examining the Inventory

Pathway – Saturday

Charisms, Personalities and Discernment

Signs of Charisms

EvaluationAdditional ResourcesNext Steps

Why is this important ?

Through our charisms: God wants to love & care for others God wants to be revealed to others

Knowing Charisms helps avoid: Burn out Frustration Ineffectiveness

Knowing our charisms enables us to: Make good decisions Not judge ourselves Not judge others

CHALLENGES OF THE NEW EVANGELIZATION

New Evangelization Challenges Us..

To see the world in a new lightTo see the Church in a new lightTo see ourselves in a new light

VATICAN II

Changed view of the laity:

From being simply disciples … Merely receive the spiritual gifts of the Church “Pray, Pay and Obey” “Meet my friend Sherri. She’s not ordained.”

(…with no context i.t.o. her as disciple/apostle)

…To disciples AND apostles (people who are sent)

VATICAN II

If sent, you need to know:

Where you are sent.To whom you are sentWhat to do once you get there.

SACRED VS. SECULAR

Church was place we went to: Hide from the world Rest from the world

Problem is when “secular” (area of the laity) is seen in opposition to the world.

SACRED VS. SECULAR

John Paul II: “Secular” is theological term The place to where we are sent Locus where we achieve holiness Laity possess “secular character” (cf charism)

NEW EVANGELIZATION

Grace flows through us in exactly the way God has made you.

Sharing your “faith experiences” with others by: Simply being who you are, and…. Using your gifts in a natural way.

NEW EVANGELIZATION

Paradigms are shifting:

In terms of Church Paradigm: Not just the parish area… From model where campus, rectory, convent, etc…

support the church building and the school.. Moving into the home, workplace, university,

entertainment centers …

NEW EVANGELIZATION

In terms of Personal Paradigm:

From street corner, testimonial, Bible thumping To Pope John Paul II’s “New Humanism.” Exactly what you are, who you are, what you do

naturally , what you do well, where you are.

Bringing Christ to others in a redemptive way. Confer Gabe Lyons, “Next Christians.”

AM I REALLY ALLOWED TO DO THIS ?

OFFICE VS. CHARISM

OFFICE = 3 Components:

Authority

Power

Jurisdiction

AUTHORITY

Ability to act: In the place of Jesus or.. In the place of the Church

Priest by nature of Sacrament of Ordination

Laity by nature of Sacrament

of Baptism

POWER

Practical ability to do something and get something done.

To do the job for which you have been sent.

JURISDICTION

A setting, occasion, arena or an area of life…..in which power and authority are exercised.

Example: Parents (not the Archbishop) have jurisdiction over the

household. Pastor (not the parents) has jurisdiction over the parish. Principal (not the Pastor) has jurisdiction over the school.

LAY JURISDICTIONTemporary or Permanent?

Examples:

Parents’ jurisdiction over their children (permanent).

Counseling a friend about a relationship, job or vocation (temporary).

LAY JURISDICTION

Let’s say…someone seeks Christ in some way.

Your call to act is NOT VAGUE. It is specific!You have been chosen, called and sent:

To that particular person/group, In a particular situation/moment, With your particular charism(s), For a particular mission.

LAY JURISDICTION

If you do NOT act,

The person may be lost or, May have lost the opportunity to

encounter Jesus in that particular moment.

“OFFICIAL” LAY JURISDICTION

Vatican II and reform of Canon LawFirst half of new Code talks about laity:

Rights Responsibilities Duties Obligations Jurisdiction Mandate to Act

THUS LAITY HAVE OFFICIALLY BEEN GIVEN AN OFFICE BY THE

CHURCH!

“OFFICIAL” LAY JURISDICTION

CONSECRATION AND MISSION

From Yves Congar, O.P.With Baptism,

You have been consecrated (“set apart”) For something or for someone.

The “Affirmative Way”

ALL Catholics are consecrated for mission. Catholics find themselves in the world, Directed towards and for the world, And achieve holiness within the world.

Spiritual transformation.. In the midst of loving the world, ..and being in the midst of the world.

The “Affirmative Way”

The world is the “agent” of your holiness.

Bishops and priests provide the tradition Narrow focus

The laity take it, and apply it in the world Broad focus From Catherine of Siena to Palestrina.

The “Affirmative Way”

St. Francis of Xavier on the shores of Japan Had a mission, a mandate… Didn’t have a CLUE on what to do.

Takes vision, creativity and imagination.A LONG WAY from “pray, pay and obey.”

WE WILL NOT CHANGE THE STRUCTURES OF SOCIETY

ACCORDING TO SOME PRESCRIBED BLUEPRINT.

The “Affirmative Way”

HOWEVER….

The “Affirmative Way”

THIS IS NOT A USER FRIENDLY WORLD VIEW

The “Affirmative Way”

BUT IT IS A SCRIPTURAL WORLD VIEW

The “Affirmative Way”

Charisms in Scripture

Examples:

Romans 12

I Corinthians 12

Ephesians 4

Elsewhere ..

Signs of Charisms

Christians are to expect that charisms are to be present.

Scriptural basis of what it means to be “Catholic.”

This has not been the case/experience of most Catholics. Exceptions – Charismatic Renewal, Cursillo, Marriage

Encounter Beginning to manifest itself as fewer priests/sisters

available.

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INVENTORY & DISCERNMENT

Spiritual Gifts and Charisms

THE INVENTORY IS NOT DISCERNMENT

Real Important !

The Inventory IS NOT Discernment

Just the start of the process.

First - need to pray about this.Then, go out and:

◦ Actually “do” the charism,◦ Test to see whether it is true,◦ Note the results (“fruit”),◦ Have a conversation, ◦ …and another,◦ …and another,◦ .. …and another conversation with someone

else about it.

Discernment

Discernment = “to cut away”

In decisions you cut away aspects that are not useful or relevant.

Discernment – Initial Questions

What Does A Charism Look Like?What Does A Charism Feel Like?How Does a Charism Work?What Happens When I Start to

Exercise a Charism?

To Discern – examine …..

Your Experiences

Your Effectiveness

Outside affirmation.

To Discern – ask questions:

Do others think or say I have it?Does it “flow?” Does it energize me (or does it take

energy away?) Do I feel enthusiastic? Is it fun? Does it give us a sense of

accomplishment? Am I effective?

Discernment - Try it out!

Charisms are tested by doing

Admitting to negative experiences is fine, necessary and healthy.

Discernment …(Yup)

Important to know what your gifts, talents and charisms are …

Discernment …(Nope)

Just as important to know, acknowledge and own what your gifts are not!

Some have an ANTI-charism. ◦“I REALLY don’t do well in that

arena!” ◦(“OK. So don’t work or minister in

that arena”)

Discernment

This does the following:◦Allows us to focus on what we have and

are. Leading to focus on what we can do.

◦Helps us relax. Releases us from pressure to be something

that we are not …

“GIFT PROJECTION”

Related to difference between:“Office”“Talent”“Charism“

“Gift Projection” You might have charism:

◦ Find it easy to do◦ Often receive affirmation.

You might think you’re ordinary person:◦ Nothing / no one special.

Thus everybody should be able to do this “if they just had faith.”

“Gift Projection”

BUT - Not everyone is:

◦ Called to this.◦ Even capable of doing this.◦ Can be crushing to other person,◦ Especially someone with an “Office” but not the

“Charism.”

Charism vs. “Office”

Example: Healing

◦Priest has “Office” of Healing (Sacrament of Anointing)

◦Priest might not have “Charism of Healing”

“STRETCH TIME”

7th Inning….

SIGNS OF CHARISMS

How do we discern that we actually have a charism?

Gifts of the Holy Spirit are:

A Charism is a:

SupernaturalGiven by God TO you…Given by God FOR youFor your sanctification

Natural gift With supernatural

power Given by God TO you… …for OTHERS! For their consolation

Used by God For supernatural

purpose.

Signs of Charisms

Signs of Charisms

Through a charism:

People are called to conversation,

And a closer relationship with Jesus Christ

Signs of Charisms

Seen by others: Believers inside and outside of church Non believers

Discerned (Benedictine Spirituality): From “above”

From someone in authority From “below”

People around you Recipients of your charism

Signs of Charisms

God is inexhaustible !

Inventory only covers 24 most common

Example reconciliation/peace making not included

Signs of Charisms

Some charisms given in concert with others:

Example: Healing with Gift of Discernment and Intercessory

Prayer.

Signs of Charisms

Some charisms given to groups/communities:

Benedictines – Hospitality

Dominicans (“Office of Preachers”) - Preaching, Teaching, Spiritual Direction.

Habitual vs. One-Time Gifts

Some charisms given “habitually” (all of the time)

Long-term

Can be developed / deepened

Larger effects in the community

Habitual vs. One-Time Gifts

Some charisms given only once Example – A prophetic word Remember: God does not “change his mind.”

Particular time / particular situation in our lives that calls for it - then goes away.

Discernment in this case critical.

Charism vs. “Talent”

Just because you have a “talent” does not mean you have an anointed charism. You might have a talent.. But through it people are not called to a deeper

relationship with Christ.

vs. when something beyond your control is occurring, Something beyond what could be expected through

mere human activity

Attitude Towards the Charisms

You don’t “ask” (i.e. demand or expect) a particular charism. “I’m here to get the gift of prophesy!”

You might not have it, get it. Might not use it A.M.D.G.

You can “ask” for a charism in humility. Ask for “laying on of hands.”

WHY IS ALL OF THIS IMPORTANT ?

Summary Statements

How God Works

God does not act alone.

Charisms - Signs of God’s will and purpose in our lives.

Charisms - Signs that: God exists, God desires a relationship with his people, God is concretely reaching out to his people, God is concretely reaching out through his

people.

What is a Martyr/Witness?

Where does the power come from? Charisms bear fruit beyond our natural ability. Have a force/power beyond our “talents.”

To live in such a way that your life would not make sense if God did not exist.

Mission To Others

No MISSION without a CALL,No CALL without a GIFT.

If there’s a charism – there is a mission: God has purpose for you in your life for sake of the

kingdom. God intends to reach our neighbor incarnationally

through YOUR charism.

Help for You

Easier to make decisions about what we are called to be involved in.

Help for You

Also easier to make decisions about what we are NOT called to be involved in.

Helps us avoid frustration and ineffectiveness.

Being out of God’s will – to act in an arena: To which we have NOT been called, For which we have NOT been equipped. Set up for failure –SIGN that you do NOT have the call

here!

Help for You

Reduces conflict

Helps reduce need to judge ourselves,Helps reduce need to judge others:

They’re not malicious They’re simply channeling their particular

time/resources into their particular call

USING YOUR CHARISMS

You’re not trying to “fix them..”You’re not seeking something from them.Not trying to make yourself feel good, useful,

special..

You’re seeking something FOR them. Actually you’re seeking someONE for them You’re seeking their fulfillment

“CALLED AND GIFTED”

Next Steps

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Next Steps:

1. Daily Prayer

2. Read / Study D.C. workbook ----->

3. Two hours / week deliberately experimenting with one charism

4. Involving others in discernment process

Next Steps - Individuals

Next Steps - Groups

Introduction and Inventory

One-on-One Discernment and Trying Out One Gift

Small Group Discussion & Support

CATHERINE OF SIENA INSTITUTE

“CALLED AND GIFTED”

Additional Resources

Initial Discernment for Small Groups C&G I for first 5 weeks ($35) C&G II for remainder ($39)

Or complete version ($80) Includes:

Called & Gifted Workshop 4-CD set Catholic Spiritual Gifts InventorySmall Group Leader's GuideCalled & Gifted Small Group Participant's

Guides I & II

Workbook: “Discerning Charisms” Written version of “gifts interview.” Guidance on “designing” an effective gifts

experiment.

Making your experiment a prayer. Mining patterns buried in your experiences.

Comprehensive Key to the Charisms: Classic signs of each  charism. Interplay between charisms and seven “Gifts of

the Holy Spirit. Recommended books and websites for exploring

further.

$10.00

Spiritual Gifts “Resource Guide”

For each charism: Scripture & Catechism references List of patron saints Catholic men and women who

demonstrated charisms in their lives

Books relating to each charism Possible uses of each charism in

your own life.

$8.00

Spiritual Gifts Inventory

120 questions. Examine work, relationships, and spiritual

experiences in light of 24 most common gifts of the Holy Spirit.

Includes: Beginners guide to discernment Description of 24 common charisms Explanation of Church teaching on charisms Experience of saints / Catholics throughout history.

$10.00

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Spiritual Gifts Inventory

Directions and Suggestions

Taking the Inventory

About 45 minutes to complete

What it is NOT

•It’s an “inventory,”

▫This is NOT a test.

▫There are NO wrong answers.

▫You cannot FAIL.

What it is NOT

•The inventory is NOT discernment.

•Meant to tease out some information based on your life experiences.

•Where you might begin discerning what the Lord is doing in your life.

What it is NOT

• Nothing significant in the numbers themselves.• Scoring high in one area doesn’t mean you’re:

▫Better▫Holier▫Smarter▫More gifted ▫(Perhaps just have more experience in this

area)

• So don’t compare your score with others !▫ …(Although everybody does it anyway)

Instructions and Tips

• On page lO

• Everybody will put a “O” next to something.▫That’s not failure…▫That’s being honest; that’s being human.

• Don’t agonize over a question▫Go with initial “gut” reaction.

• If married and a question concerns being single,▫Just put a “O” there and move on.

Instructions and Tips

• Read and answer the questions LITERALLY!

• If question seems outlandish, fine. Put a “O” there and go on.

• Don’t answer:▫What you wish were true▫What you think should be true▫What you hope will be true (someday)▫Answer what IS true, in YOUR life, at THIS time.

Instructions and Tips

• When done, should be five numbers across the page.

• Add up five columns ACROSS answer sheet.

• Put total under column “total.”

• Highest you could get adding across is “15”

Instructions and Tips

• At the end, circle your TOP 6.

• If there are “tie scores” you might have top 7 or 8, that’s fine.

• Just because you score high in a category does NOT mean you have the charism..▫It only means that this is a place for further

discernment

Personalities, Charisms & Discernment

Personalities - Introverts vs. Extroverts

Life experiences, emphases and approaches can be different between introverts and extroverts.

Thus, introverts and extroverts generally exhibit different types of charisms.

Extroverts

Extroverts often score higher in more categories:

They are constantly engaging more people. Thus they receive more data (…sometimes). But more feedback does NOT = a charism.

Introverts

Introverts receive feedback but: Don’t care about it Not interested in it

Not aware of impact on others or, Minimize impact on others

Discernment: Might take longer Might require a second “stab at it.”

Introverts vs. Extroverts - Results

Can be encouraging to a community as you test, discern, support and learn about each other.

Differences can be exciting and great fun !

CHARISMS AND CATEGORIES

Categories of Charisms

PastoralCommunication Organizational HealingUnderstandingCreative Lifestyle Charisms (support/sustain other

charisms)

Categories of Charisms

Grouped by what they achieve.Can begin discernment process according to

category.

PASTORAL CHARISMSInvesting your life in the life of

someone else.

PASTORAL CHARISMS

Helps Mercy Encouragement Hospitality Pastoring

PASTORAL CHARISMS

Helps: Seeing the person.

(Vs. Service - looking at the tasks)

PASTORAL CHARISMS

Mercy: Respond with concrete, hands-on deeds of

compassion Mother Theresa

Encouragement: Respond to distress verbally Physical presence and conversation Counseling / Spiritual Direction

PASTORAL CHARISMS

Hospitality “Bridge gift” between community and

individuals. Food, shelter, clothing, warmth, friendship Charism of healing Often associated with a place.

PASTORAL CHARISMS

Pastoring: Fostering relationships and nurturing

spiritual gifts: Of a group Long-term

Distinction between “office” and “charism” of pastoring.

PASTORAL CHARISMS

Everyone called to (for example) “help the poor”

With “Pastoring” Effectiveness is well beyond human

powers and normal leadership skills. Results have supernatural power. Especially effective in smaller groups

(up to 200 people).

PASTORING

Exodus 18:13-27. Moses, his father-in-law and delegation of leadership

Therefore larger parishes need numerous people with this charism.

COMMUNICATION CHARISMS

Proclaiming of Christ to the World

Communication Charisms

Evangelism Teaching

Encouragement Prophesy

Evangelism

Desire to proclaim gospel to others. Key is results:

Lives are changed People come to or come back to Christ… ..on basis of person with the Charism

Often not in the central activities of the parish

Done outside of parish structures

Teaching

Channel of God’s truth and wisdom

Others discern what is God’s calling for them.

Different from “Office” of teaching.

Teaching

Signs: Personal connection with the person across

from you. Someone learns in a way that has

remarkable and profound effect in their life.

They get a personal urgency to learn even more.

Might not be about divine or religious subjects.

Encouragement

An effective channel of God’s love Nurturing others through his/her

presence.. ..and words of comfort,

encouragement and counsel.

St. Baptist de LaSalle (inventor of Grade School)

Prophesy

Communicating a present message of God,

..to a particular person or group, ..about a particular topic or situation Communicated through:

Word Song Image Poetry

Prophesy

Experienced as coming from beyond oneself

Received as coming from beyond the person speaking.

A particularly strong intuition or strong “burden” does not mean: You have charism or What you’re saying is prophetic Prophesy; Non-Prophesy; False Prophesy

Prophesy

Spoken - then let go.

Not the first-in-a-series-of steps,

Or what response to prophesy should be next.

Prophesy

Danger of self-importance.

Not infallible – needs to be discerned by others (Authority such as Scripture, Tradition, Magisterium, practical experience and fruit).

Prophesy is always directed at authority to check its validity.

ORGANIZING CHARISMS

Organizing Charisms

GivingServiceAdministrationLeadership

Charism of Giving

Giving materialsWith special sense of generosity and joy

To accomplish God’s purposes in the world

Charism of Service

Ability to recognize “organizational gaps” ..

..that are preventing something good from happening.

To do YOURSELF what it takes,To solve the problem and meet the

need.

Charism of Service

Often multi-talentedAble to put their hands on – and bring

together - numerous resources.

Have prophetic visionSee, want to, begin to address needs before

we’re even aware of them.Can make people angry (They are made to

feel ignorant or put down)

Challenges of ServiceMistaken for “Leadership”

Pushed into leadership role, position or “office”

Especially in “vacuum-based” organization.

Signs:Leadership skills then seen lacking; situation

is simply not coming together.Because they’re uncomfortable in planning

and setting overall vision and direction.They like to do it THEMSELVES. They do NOT

like to delegate. They’re hands-on (“Give me something to

do!”)

Able to efficiently conceive, organize and lead plans

so that individuals, teams or large organizations can achieve goals.

Charism of Administration

Charism of AdministrationBut - goals that reflects the purposes of God.Presence of God felt in midst of exerciseThey cut through chaos!

A channel In a stewardship model To offer provisionWhere God is needed

St. Vincent de Paul; Florence Nightingale

Charism of Administration

Charism of Administration is:Seeing an issue,Breaking it up into smaller pieces, Identifying the problems,Delegating the problems,Bringing the pieces and solutions

together to solve the problems.

Charism of Leadership

Leaders are God’s catalysts.Leadership is setting the VISION.Leaders see something better.See a better worldLeaders draw people into the better - more

hopeful - vision.

Charism of Leadership

People with the Charism of Leadership:Might not be in leadership positions …or have leadership training, background

or experience.

They simply see the world with new eyes.

See the connections; articulate the connections where people say “Yes! I see and understand that now.”

What It’s Not

Administration is NOT LeadershipLeaders might not have Charism of

Administration.Leaders don’t pay attention to the details

(That’s Charism of “Administration”)

Charism of Leadership and Charism of Administration go together.

Need each other for project to be successful.

MINISTRY AND CHRISMS OF HEALING

Distinction • “Ministry” of Healing;

• Related to an “Order” or vocation (like nurse or priest)

•vs. “Charism” of Healing

Intercessory PrayerGod seldom acts unilaterally.

God typically acts I an “incarnational way”....through gifts, talents and charisms of

believers. ..and the assent and collaboration of God’s

sons and daughters.

Intercessory PrayerPerson (and their prayers) are used as

instruments of God’s presence, healing and love in dramatic, concrete and often visible ways.

Their idea of a “good time!”Can pray for hours; they don’t get tired; they

don’t find it boring.

Intercessory PrayerThey don’t tell God what to do.They discern first then pray according to the

“word” that they receive.

Not unusual to be awakened in the middle of the night with a “prayer burden:”Sometimes very specific.Sometimes for someone they don’t even know.

CHARISMS OF UNDERSTANDING

CHARISMS OF UNDERSTANDING

Knowledge

Wisdom

Discernment of Spirits

Knowledge

Through study and intellectual activity - channel of knowledge of God, the creation and ourselves.

Knowledge

Not just information: It’s about the whole picture, broad

vistas, visions and the whole principle of an idea.

Not just religious things: Also concepts and ideas of the world.

Knowledge

Fruit – when these people explain something, others have “a-ha” moment.

They gain a more hopeful, enlivened, enthusiastic relationship with God.

Wisdom

Particular and profound insight into a specific situation or person.

Thus a sound decision can be made. Teachings of the church applied ..

..and another person’s decision or discernment is aided to a profound degree.

Charism of Wisdom might happen infrequently or only once.

Knowledge vs. Knowledge - Difference

Knowledge is focused on BIG ideas and concepts

Wisdom is focused on a very narrow, specific situation or person.

Discernment of Spirits

The “Charism of Discernment” is not the same as the “Process of Discernment.”

Discernment of Spirits

Immediate or intuitive grasp of a presence.

Person able to perceive spiritual link of a particular situation or behavior.

Also detect positive / demonic presence of a particular person, place or situation.

Highly unusual charism.

CHARISMS OF CREATIVITY

CHARISMS OF CREATIVITY Craftsmanship Writing Music

TALENT VS. CHARISM According to St. Benedict:

Success – towards pleasing man (Talent)Excellence- towards pleasing God (Charism)

A form or prayer or spiritual exercise. Has an impact which brings people

closer to God in a way beyond what a normal talent would seem to be able to do.

It “baptizes” the imagination.

CRAFTSMANSHIP

Orders the world around us in such a way that it manifests God’s provision.

Arts of “Living” (cooking, needlepoint, sowing, tailoring)

Arts of “Recreation” (fine art, sculpture, painting)

MUSIC The musical tradition of the Church has a

greater role than the other creative charisms (Catechism).

Augustine: “Who sings well, prays twice.”

EXAMPLE: WRITING J.R. Tolkein: “Hamlet is a play written by

a man who, if he had had more talent, would have written a fairy tale.”

Tolkein and “Lord of the Rings.” Deals with basic human truths like

conversion, and sin and suffering and redemption and the fight between good and evil.

LIFESTYLE CHARISMS

Enabling Other Charisms to be Powerful and Effective

LIFESTYLE CHARISMS

Gifts of “friendship.” Disinterested, selfless and seeks the good of the

other.

Examples: Faith Celibacy Obedience Missionary Poverty (Simple Lifestyle) Charity (Generosity)

CELIBACY:

To be cheerful, personally fulfilled and spiritually fruitful

FAITH

Radical dependence on God.

A trust in the ..PowerProvision Promise of God

FAITH

Offers remarkable freedom to act. Enables one to be effective agent of God’s

purpose.

Can drive the planning/control types crazy.

MISSIONARY

Ability to use one (or several charisms) in a “foreign culture.”

Might not even have language aptitude.

Delight in entering and thriving in a new environment and culture.

VOLUNTARY POVERTY

Ability to identify with Jesus in the poor.

Cheerful, voluntary simplicity

Especially enlivens, animates, energizes and empowers the other charisms.

VOLUNTARY POVERTY

Make distinction between: Involuntary (difficult financial situation) Voluntary (charism freely chosen).

An adventure to see what God is going to provide.